Yeah, you're right, I couldn't see the forest from the trees. I do remember Rei scaring Shinji to death with her resurrections and consequent personality changes, and Shinji really wasn't the type to break through Asuka's tsun- crust, instead just thinking she hates him after all (especially when there are parts of him which I'm sure she does hate).
You're not too fond of the instrumentality idea are you? IMO, it wasn't handled that well here - the whole point should have been to disperse the memories/thoughts that make up and define a person and create one giant mind, whereas in this case, they just jumbled them all up in one head but they seem to have retained some or most of their personas - well, duh, of course that isn't gonna work.
P.S. I'm having nightmares from the Usagi Drop thread (in relation to the manga comments) - on some level I wish I'd never picked up the anime in the first place lol
P.P.S. I counted 5 'heh' emoticons in that comment, you should recognize when you have an addiction
