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Originally Posted by felix
Excessive kindness usually means that someone wants something from you. You are all too naive.
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If I were to take this personally, I'd be pretty upset now. I guess it's meant as a half-joke, isn't it? Some people use this to make tools of people, but some != everyone. And it's not about excessive kindness, rather a stable one...one that is offered no matter who you talk to (unless that certain person is a real prick), as pointed out below.
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Originally Posted by MeoTwister5
I guess I should have explained a bit better. By being too nice they mean that I almost always give people the benefit of the doubt even in serious situations, that I'm willing to be more accommodating than the usual person, that I always try to treat people with civility even in the more hostile of situations and that I tend to have neutral stance on arguments to try and get both sides to calm down.
Not to the extent of course of letting people walk all over me as I learned that the hard way a long time ago. I'm guessing their point is that I lack a bit of... assertion and aggression, so to speak.
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Our similarity is almost scary...including the whole second paragraph, sadly enough. But it's nice to know someone else aspires to similar "ways of life" or however I could call it, so that it doesn't sound corny.
Anyway, the big question is; do you like being yourself that you are now, or would you rather change your personality (or imitate this change) to look better in front of your friends? I know I couldn't and I made my friends realize that, even though it took quite a few years.
Simply don't think of it as a problem, since it isn't one. It's just a different human nature that's harder to understand nowadays.