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Originally Posted by DonQuigleone
If you put in terms of just asking her out for something casual, it doesn't seem nearly so bad. If you met a guy, and really hit off, you wouldn't hesitate to get his number and arrange to meet up again, likewise, if you meet a great girl you should do the same. That's not to say that you're asking her to have sex with you. It's just casual, nothing big. Maybe you(and she) will want to take things forward, maybe not. No big deal.
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That's true, but you also need to make your intentions clear. In our society it is very unusual for a man to ask for time alone with a woman (as in sharing a meal or activity, not privacy) if there's no romantic intent behind it. Even if you're thinking to yourself that it's just about being friends, or if you're trying to fool yourself into thinking that in order to make asking easier, you'd surely be aware that it occurs to the girl that you might be asking her out.
On the flip side, a source of great frustration for many people (perhaps women as well as men) is having romantic advances interpreted as being purely platonic.
So as I say, it's better to be direct. A lot of this has to do with body language and tone, but you want to make it clear that you're expressing interest in the person either with romantic or possibly romantic intent.