2007-11-02, 04:50 | Link #161 |
World's Greatest
Join Date: Oct 2007
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Yes, all the time. Like I'm up against the world. I remember during my high school prom when I asked out a gorgeous girl and she said "yes". I honestly thought she was going to say "no", because she was like "Well, I've thought about it and..." I was preparing for the decline, but things worked out.
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2007-11-02, 09:32 | Link #162 | |
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Anyway, I guess the whole avoidance thing is part of how girls are much less direct with communication than guys; we'll go out of our way to avoid causing trouble or embarrasment for anyone (at least, trouble as we percieve it), and often won't fully explain ourselves. I guess in the end that can lead to even more hurt feelings, though. |
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2007-11-02, 13:34 | Link #163 |
~La-la Land~
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Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Seattle
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Huh, well, I'm a girl and I've never had any problem with turning a guy down. If I know I don't feel the same way, then by saying 'no', you're saving him a lot of heartache. He wouldn't want to date someone who doesn't really care about him the same way he feels about her, and by letting him know that this particular girl is off-limits, then he can stop limiting himself to one and open himself up to more possibilities that are assuredly better for him. And the avoidance thing? I find that cowardly and a guy who usually has the balls to tell me he likes me usually is someone that I'm friends with and would never want to ruin a friendship with. So, kindly turn them away, brutally if they're too persistent, but don't insult him by ignoring or avoiding, because he worked hard to let you know how much he likes you.
The only kind of guys that I will avoid at all costs are the ones I let too close as a friend or other and they turn around and backstab you and then expect you to welcome them with open arms later. Same thing goes for ex-boyfriends, I generally stay friends with them after, but the unlucky one who does the unforgivable forever gets written off my radar. Happily though now, I'm with someone I've been dating for 2 years now, so I haven't had any recent love trouble
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2007-11-02, 13:54 | Link #164 |
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Well, I never said that the way I handle things is at all good, just that that's how it is for me. :P And I know a couple of girls who have similar reactions...though in one case at least, running away from all males is certainly justifiable... (Not going to get into that here, though.) Maybe it comes from a lack of experience, or the fact that my guy friends aren't usually the sort who'd even think of asking me out--I'm more like an extra little sister. The inner workings of the male brain are still a mystery to me...
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2007-11-02, 19:53 | Link #165 |
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Lost in texas
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Dudes..... that never happened to me before besides dont think like that.
Id be happy which also proves that your in the same league as him/her Do positive thoughts and carry on with your life. If they like you then definately why not? Besides pople come and go in yur life any way Married or not.And it really doesnt matter about your look when if it was your personality that atracted Him/Her...... |
2007-11-03, 16:42 | Link #166 |
Yurippe is mai waifu
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I'm in a bit of a dilemma. I still like someone that I don't see very often, but I can't keep in touch with her, either. I recently found her MySpace by accident(yeah, lots of stuff happened there...), but I don't know if I should talk to her via MySpace.(remember, she doesn't know I found her MySpace) Any suggestions?
My love life is a wreck right now, I know.
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2007-11-03, 19:49 | Link #167 |
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Just talk. Online communication is lot easier than real life and it's totally up to the recipient to interpret the tone of the message.
I wonder what having an ex feels like. I've been dating for over 3.5 years with my first love and we're still together, despite living on opposite sides of the coast and in different countries (US + Canada). The biggest difficulty so far has been the time zone difference (3 hours). I hear other people saying that one should get out and date around to experience various people from all walks of life, but I don't know if that's a good idea for me...
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2007-11-04, 05:12 | Link #168 | |
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2007-11-04, 05:32 | Link #169 |
Gillian-class Chibi
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Utah
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So, here's a question for you peoples with more understanding of guys than me. (I have three brothers, and yet I fail...)
There's this guy--he's in my DnD group, we like the same anime, we're both nuts about Firefly/Serenity, he's smart and hilariously funny... needless to say, we get along quite well. He's been really nice, too, offering me rides to and from Quark events (the scifi-fantasy-gaming-anime club at our school), and inviting me to go trick or treating with him... heh, that was fun, and we took along his niece so we wouldn't get quite so funny looks from the people handing out candy. XD I've thought a couple of times about asking him him out (because I prefer to do that rather than wait around for the guy to ask, it's more fair anyway). Just to a movie or something. But here's my problem: I'm not sure what he thinks about me--whether he only sees me as a friend. Sometimes I'm sure he doesn't, but then he'll do something like try and get me hooked on Guitar Hero (it worked, btw)...which seems like more of a just wants to be friends thing to me. Anyway, I definitely don't want to scare him off or anything... <.< So, any advice on what to look for while I'm trying to figure this out? |
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Yurippe is mai waifu
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But then again, I don't know much about dating, so you might want a second opinion on the matter.
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2007-11-04, 18:14 | Link #171 | |
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2007-11-04, 21:04 | Link #172 | |
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But on Halloween after we finished trick or treating we rented a movie and went back to my grandma's house (where I am staying for school) to watch it. My cousin Chris was there, and while I was getting the popcorn and stuff ready, they were talking...Chris was saying something about how he somehow only attracts the really crazy girls, then Jon said that he didn't seem to attract anyone at all...a little bit later he added that he didn't really care because he wasn't looking for anything like that right now. Which makes me think "just friends" again. Then again, when we grabbed dinner at Panda Express for dinner last night, he asked if it was okay for him to pay...he knows how independant I am, lol. I told him it was fine, on the condition that I got to pay next time. He seemed happy about that....but if he just cared about the money, he could easily have said nothing and I would have bought my own dinner to begin with. Maybe he's just as confused as I am. I'm gonna try asking him out... I think I'll check and see if there are any good movies showing around here. That's always the least-scary option for me... "hey, have you seen this movie, I heard it was really good"...heh. |
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2007-11-18, 20:56 | Link #173 |
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Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Texas
Age: 30
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I hope everything works out for you ChibiMenos.
I like this boy that's in my class. I don't know if he likes me or not. He sits near me in class. Sometimes before the bell rings he stand up and waits facing in my direction. And in the corner of my eye I see him looking at me. I'm too quiet and shy to talk to him. How do I start talking to him? |
2007-11-18, 21:05 | Link #174 | |
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Not that there is any certainty of him picking up the thing the first place. |
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2007-11-18, 22:35 | Link #176 |
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Do I sense a hint of sarcasm in your reply? There are actually three folds to this trick, one being obvious, creating an excuse but it is also to measure the other party if he is sincere and/or if he is actually taking notice of you. The last is depending on the other person's intellectuality but if he is, your actually giving him a hinted invitation to him thus if he is interested he is opt to respond. |
2007-11-19, 02:55 | Link #177 |
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Join Date: Sep 2007
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Heh, I'd forgotten about this thread and it hasn't even been that long since I posted.
Things are going very well so far... I did end up actually asking him directly whether he just liked me as a friend or what... luckily it turned out he feels the same way I do. So we've been spending a lot of time together lately...he's such a fun guy. Of course, he's also managed to get me into playing World of Warcraft... <.< Oh well, I guess that was a risk I decided to take.... |
2007-11-19, 16:14 | Link #178 |
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^ That was kind of ovbious, as a guy I can say, about that he wanted to be more than friends with you .
As a compliment I want to say that it can't get much awesomer than playing video games with your girlfriend. It is like combining the pleasant with... pleasant. I, on the other hand am failing terribly i this field . I am terribly picky. REALLY REALLY picky. I might like one girl out of... a hundred? And I don't even mean spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with-you like. And if I do find one she is pretty much ages out of my league, or I just get really anti-social around her. |
2007-11-19, 16:19 | Link #179 |
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Join Date: Mar 2007
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There is a guy I REALLY like, have done for about 5 or 6 weeks now. But He is ALL i think about. He keeps looking at me and smiling. Were not in many classes together but when we are I try to talk to him. I feel so shy though >_<
Am I Normal? Any advice?
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2007-11-19, 17:52 | Link #180 | |
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You have to know why you react that way into remedy the situation. What will you do/How would you feel, if he responds negatively? What will you do/How would you feel, if the other peers responds negatively? Nine of ten nothing will change. Do you feel better? Absolutely nothing will change if you do not stir up some courage but there is a 10 percent possibility that something will change if you do, which path you take is totally up to you. |
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