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Old 2007-12-06, 06:20   Link #261
deathreape98
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I'm not complaining about anything. When the time comes, if she revals her feelings, I'll just say something along the lines of "Sorry, but my hearts already taken." Or "Sorry, but no. Theres somebody else for me."

I just wish that my ex didn't have to let everybody come along -.- Oh well, I'll live :P
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Old 2007-12-08, 00:54   Link #262
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Old 2007-12-08, 10:48   Link #263
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I cant wait till im 20+ (currently 16 yrs old) ucz at that age, dating younger woman wouldnt be so akward (examples: a 27 yr old an 22 yr old. or a 22 yr old. and an 19 yr old. etc, etc.)
As a teenager its akward dating someone even a couple of years younger. Its like, they think theyr petofiles- hahaha
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Old 2007-12-08, 11:00   Link #264
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My bad, it was 8 in the morning after my all-nighter.
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Old 2007-12-08, 14:14   Link #265
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I cant wait till im 20+ (currently 16 yrs old) ucz at that age, dating younger woman wouldnt be so akward (examples: a 27 yr old an 22 yr old. or a 22 yr old. and an 19 yr old. etc, etc.)
As a teenager its akward dating someone even a couple of years younger. Its like, they think theyr petofiles- hahaha
I think SooHip is male, judging on that.
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Old 2007-12-08, 18:21   Link #266
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I used to know a girl that had 20 year old boyfriend when she was fourteen. We pointed and laughed, oh yes we did! At around age of sixteen it got really weird- When somebody would get eighteen out of my friends they pretty much always had younger girlfriends (somehow boys were always older).

If the girl is sixteen and guy is eighteen it's okay. If the guy is sixteen and the girl is thirteen it's weird. If the guy is twenty and the girl fourteen I feel like going to police.
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Old 2007-12-08, 19:19   Link #267
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Age differences are greater when people are younger. We're all changing, but our changes are much more drastic when we are younger. The difference between a 14 year old and a 16 year old is immense; by comparison, there doesn't seem to be a huge difference between people who are 42 and 44. Being able to relate to each other is quite important in a relationship. In my mind, many of the relationships between, say, an 18 year old and a person of 16 (or lower) either feel forced or seem to reflect that the older person is stuck in a younger mentality and is not looking forward. It isn't always true, of course, but from my observations it's true more often than not.
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Old 2007-12-08, 21:17   Link #268
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Pretend Dating?

Okay, I have been thinking about this "stuation" over and over, and I need some serious help with this b/c when it comes to this I am an idiot.

The Situation:
Okay, there's a girl I met through a friend about 2-4 months ago and we have been hanging out time to time. I know she's WAY out of my league considering that she's a model.

Well, recently she pulled this whole "pretend dating" thing. And it's not like a little joke or anything. She takes it to whole level and goes into girlfriend mode when she hangs out with me.

Now, everyone I know (except for my best friend) thinks me and her are dating. I'm not complaining or anything, because I admit that I like it. My life right now is like an anime.

However, it's driving me crazy because I don't know if she's just teasing me since I'm a major nerd, or trying to get me to ask her out by playing the "game".

What do you guys think?
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Old 2007-12-08, 21:21   Link #269
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Personally, I would definitely try to cast away any possible misunderstanding for not only other people, but for both you and this girl.

This kind of situation is quite peculiar, but certainly "not healthy", in a sense that it might drive the situation into an uncontrollable chaos, leading to the usual "snowball effect".
It is actually better to ask bluntly and directly what she is actually doing. If you feel something is wrong, then trust your intuition and break the truth as fast as possible. Considering my personal experience, even if you actually enjoy this situation (well, the "good side" of it), I believe that the lakc of genuinity/reality of that is just making this situation more like a dream or a "game" than anything else, just like you said.

The more you are lingering the matter, the higher the chances you will really fall for her are getting bigger. And if she is actually having fun, I believe your downfall will be quite painful when the "dream" will cease.
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Old 2007-12-08, 21:34   Link #270
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I agree with Klashikari, he nailed it right on.
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Old 2007-12-08, 21:49   Link #271
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I agree with Klashikari, I have a friend that was in kind of the same situation, and in the end it hurt him alot because he thought she was being serious while she was just playing along the whole time. Its best to just be blunt and ask her outright.
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Old 2007-12-08, 22:16   Link #272
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Agreed with Klashikari. Not only will you probably fall for her eventually and get hurt, your chances of getting a real gf now are zero for as long as this continues and then some (no one wants to be the rebound). Just confront her with it and listen to her motive.

Do it over IM if you feel too nervous.
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Old 2007-12-08, 22:22   Link #273
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For lack of a better answer, since the above posters have basically covered it all... you should ask for pretend sex. Get it while it lasts!
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Old 2007-12-08, 22:28   Link #274
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Actually, that sounds really awesome. It's like all the cuddliness without the responsibility. I disagree with these suggestions. I think it'll be fine, as long as you play the role of the "indifferent loner." She pretend dates you, so you pretend to be oblivious to the romantic inferences. Lol, now THAT would make your life like an anime.

The key is not to get lulled into REALLY wanting to pursue a relationship. If you like her, don't ruin it by trying to get more than you have now. IMO, it's very possible that, as soon as you confront her about it, she will feel uncomfortable and stop this fun stuff. I think the people here are being too serious about it. While you're young, just have a good time.
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Old 2007-12-08, 22:58   Link #275
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Damn stuff like this is why I date men (that and they are REALLY cute)..................yea all the love Fome but i gotta say go with Klashikari nailed it right on the head with that one
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Old 2007-12-08, 22:59   Link #276
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its a one night stand wid out teh secks!
I'd feel a bit short changed my self, tho sounds like it can lead to a bit of rough ending
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Old 2007-12-08, 23:16   Link #277
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I disagree with klash. Like really disagree. I think you could lose something really awesome. Only if you are really dumb will it snowball out of control.
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Old 2007-12-08, 23:34   Link #278
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The way I see it, you can go with either Klashi's way, or Fome's way. However, whichever way you decide to play it, make sure you play it with the same approach either way; keep yourself detached. Don't EVER get too optimistic; you're only setting yourself up for a fall that way.

If you want to play it safe and conservative, do it Klashi's way. Get the situation between yourself and her clean and clear-cut ASAP, so at least you know what the [beep] is going on. If you have to, brush her off, be firm, and tell her that her actions are just not healthy for either of you. Whatever you do, don't get your hopes up.

However, if you think you have what it takes to pull it off, do it Fome's way. Play along with her, and have fun by trying to "one-up" her by acting indifferent and even Aizawa Yuuichi-class sarcastic, if you can pull it off. Again, whatever you do, don't get your hopes up. Just treat this as a game, since it's more than likely that's all it is to her.

Whatever you do, guard your heart; keep reminding yourself that it means nothing to you, and more importantly, that she means nothing to you. That way, you're less likely to fall into the trap of actually falling for her, and even more importantly, that you're less likely to fall into the trap of jealously if/when you see her on another guy's arm.

I know this sounds awfully pessimistic, but hey.
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Old 2007-12-08, 23:35   Link #279
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Age differences are greater when people are younger. We're all changing, but our changes are much more drastic when we are younger. The difference between a 14 year old and a 16 year old is immense; by comparison, there doesn't seem to be a huge difference between people who are 42 and 44. Being able to relate to each other is quite important in a relationship. In my mind, many of the relationships between, say, an 18 year old and a person of 16 (or lower) either feel forced or seem to reflect that the older person is stuck in a younger mentality and is not looking forward. It isn't always true, of course, but from my observations it's true more often than not.
Damn Ledgem you always have some deep stuff to say...............

HIGH-5!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Old 2007-12-09, 00:07   Link #280
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The way I see it, you can go with either Klashi's way, or Fome's way. However, whichever way you decide to play it, make sure you play it with the same approach either way; keep yourself detached. Don't EVER get too optimistic; you're only setting yourself up for a fall that way.
Yeah, I went out on pretend dates with a girl I really liked talking with and showed genuine interest in her. After that she thought I was sort of stupid, or that I had believed the pretend dates were real. It's really annoying!
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