Dating

[Narona]

Originally Posted by Yoko Takeo

Brosnan was only good on Goldeneye (Xenia ). After that, he was a douche. Sean is a given though, I won't comment on him. Dalton's the best one imho tho.

No NO, Sean was the best

We should start a thread/poll about that

I wouldn't really see it as a failure. To me, it's more like a chance to grow and learn more about how to handle a relationship. Any good relationship is hard to break out of but you always gain something from it just as much as you lose something. I was speaking about this to an old friend last night actually. With my ex, for instance, it was really hard to break out of but I also realized through her some of my own previous mistakes and learned more about what makes for a healthier relationship, that being one of trust but also one where both sides can think things through on their own. I'm not saying this specifically should happen every time, but it's just an example of how one can learn from past heartbreaks and know how to deal with future relationships better.

Sorry, I didn't express myself well. I just point that some people sound bitter about it, and claim things as if people who don't experience that do not exist. I met many people who sound like that, and it's quite clear to me that they consider that as a failure and are bitter about it, and so generalize.

As I said ealier in this thread, people should cheer up for the people, and only comfort them when necessary.

Ascaloth's relationship is still on the right track, I would dislike to see people saying to him "but just wait till it fails". Sorry I dislike that mentality whether it's serious or not. It's ok to say to them to be careful though. That they have to work hard to make it lasts (what Ledgem usually does in this thread)

[Tsuyoshi]

Originally Posted by Narona

No NO, Sean was the best

We should start a thread/poll about that

[voice=Michael Jackson]DO IT, just DO IT[/voice]

Originally Posted by Narona

Sorry, I didn't express myself well. I just point that some people sound bitter about it, and claim things as if people who don't experience that do not exist. I met many people who sound like that, and it's quite clear to me that they consider that as a failure and are bitter about it, and so generalize while saying some stupidities.

As I said ealier in this thread, people should cheer up for the people, and only comfort them when necessary.

Ascaloth's relationship is still on the right track, I would dislike to see people saying to him "but just wait till it fails". Sorry I dislike that mentality whether it's serious or not. It's ok to say to them to be careful though. That they have to work hard to make it lasts (what Ledgem usually does in this thread)

I like how some people often interpret the meaning of the sentence "everything that has a beginning has an end" neccessarily means that the person has to experience the end.[/sarcasm] In the case of some relationships, an end to said relationship can be death, which would be a good thing if it does happen.

I'm the optimistic person who strongly believes I'll run into the right person eventually. Truth be told, I thought my ex was the one, but cultural differences were too much for both of us to handle, what with her being an Indian muslim.

And you're right, Ascaloth's looking good so far. Ascaloth, he the man

[Ascaloth]

Originally Posted by Narona

[serious mode]

Mmmmh, I believe in something. Either I reach success or failure, either people are mean with me or not, even if somebody ever successes to stab me in the back ; I'll not change my principles and morals.

To fall to the jerks' level for one of the reasons exposed above seems showing how much a person is "weak" to me (sorry if some people feel insulted by what i say). Life is not a fairy tale, being a good person doesn't mean that you'll have a great life. If your values can change so easily when things don't go the way you want, then wonder if you ever had any trust in them.

[/seriousmode]

Je suis châtié, madame.

Beside that you're a kiss-stealer who's obsessed in pointing logical fallacies to people, you seem to be a nice guy. That would be a shame if you change that nice part of you

....to be honest, I'm never too inclined to give other people the impression that I'm a nice guy. I find that I tend to get away with a lot of stuff if I don't give people reason to have too high an expectation of me. I guess I've yet to completely master the technique of tempering other people's expectations, though.

Besides, I think you'd be shocked if you learned just how much of a saint I'm not. The girl knows that well enough from first hand experience.

Originally Posted by Yoko Takeo

Iibh, there are some movies were Bond doesn't really try to be a womanizer, like "Living Daylights" with Timothy Dalton. I think the one who gave the worst Bond impression was Roger Moore. I never liked him.....at all.....for the reasons you stated.

Originally Posted by Narona

Well, I only "like" the ones with Sean Connery, or Pierce Brosnan (but I prefer Sean)

Hmmm, I'm under the impression that Daniel Craig's Bond is a pretty respectable interpretation too, particularly because of the not-a-womanizer factor? I have yet to see Quantum of Solace though.

Originally Posted by Narona

Ascaloth's relationship is still on the right track, I would dislike to see people saying to him "but just wait till it fails". Sorry I dislike that mentality whether it's serious or not. It's ok to say to them to be careful though. That they have to work hard to make it lasts (what Ledgem usually does in this thread)

Originally Posted by Yoko Takeo

And you're right, Ascaloth's looking good so far. Ascaloth, he the man

....haha, thanks.

That said, update on my situation:

Tonight, we met up for a bit and talked about nothing in particular, but when I suggested staying with her "just a bit longer", she told me "I need to study, you need to go home and work on your project too." This has happened a couple of times already over the past two weeks.

.....I love this girl. She's good for an easily-distracted twerp like me.

[Shinoto]

Sir James Bond is completely respectable. Is the king of kings.

First off, Moore is the worse. Craig has the best body, Brosnan had the best natural charm but got stuck with terrible scripts, and Connery is Bond. Dalton was pretty damn good also, but got royally screwed over with the lawsuit for licensing. Laznerby was just an ugly fool!

I'm completely partial to Brosnan who I thought was the most attractive bond also. DAD made me cry though with that beer belly. He was either out of shape, who was just unlucky to age quicky. Dalton and Connery were pretty attractive too. Moore and Craig...Not so much. But Craig has the best body by far. But he had that right amount of charm too him that felt right. Too bad he also got stuck with terrible scripts.
Connery had all the best movies too, Dr No, From Russia with Love, Goldfinger, Thunderball, and You only live twice.

And nothing wrong with him being a womanizer. If you're that damn good, it's best to spread out the love anyways. I'd wouldn't mind being on the receiving end

Respect for bond is normally tied to how good the movies are also. Not the quality of the player. For instance, Brosnan has been pretty impressive outside of non bond rolls: Sepharm Fall, Matador(One of the best movies of 2005), Thomas Crown Affair and Tailor of Panama. With the last one being that he played a character similar to bond and it was quite good. Far better than his last 3 bond films. I still think Sean Bean stole Goldeneye since...well....It's ****ing Bean!

Dalton and Moore never had too much of a career outside of Bond. Both seem to love it though. Moore still attaches himself onto Bond while Dalton loves the fact he didn't become like Brosnan,Moore, and Connery where is image is now forever Bond.

And finally we get to Craig who seems to have the opposite problem. Since he took up Bond, He's been in some of the worst movies as of late. Prior to Bond: Munich, Road to Perdition, and Layer Cake. After....Invasion, Golden Compass, and some other crap.

[Kusa-San]

You know I think you should open another thread to discuss about this important question "Who is the best Bond" (even if we know that's Sean )

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by Kusa-San

You know I think you should open another thread to discuss about this important question "Who is the best Bond" (even if we know that's Sean )

It would be interesting to see what kind of responses you'd get if you made that thread.

[Kusa-San]

Originally Posted by RadiantBeam

It would be interesting to see what kind of responses you'd get if you made that thread.

It's done :

http://forums.animesuki.com/showthread.php?t=87670

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by Kusa-San

It's done :

http://forums.animesuki.com/showthread.php?t=87670

I wonder if James Bond ever needed dating advice...

[Splitpersonality]

*two thumbs up*

So I got that girl that I like, and who likes me.

All seems to be going well right now for me again :P

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by Splitpersonality

*two thumbs up*

So I got that girl that I like, and who likes me.

All seems to be going well right now for me again :P

Good for you. Hope everything works out well. ^^

[Maki Casanova]

Hmm.. You guys are a pretty interesting bunch, although I'm not that interested about James Bond. Now that you guys mention it, the "Womanizer" song kinda suits him... If he cat walks around and 'round holding a rose between his teeth and acting all... flamboyant. Haha. xD

Anyways, I myself have a... love problem. I'm a girl, you see, and I've started to massively crush on these two girls in my classes (all in all, I actually have four, but I don't feel as strongly as with the other two, and yes, I am lesbian). I find of them really attractive (yes, I shamefully admit I am shallow), but I'm tongue-tied in my efforts to strike up a conversation. I'm a shy type when it comes to things like these, V_V and my conversational skills are pathetic, sadly.

I'd like to know if you guys have any advice for me; that is, if you don't mind my orientation.
I don't expect really, really good advice, but maybe an encouraging word or two may help.

~Maki, The Child of Darkness

[RadiantBeam]

Hmmm...

Well, before you even think of asking either of these girls out I suggest you take some time to talk to them and develop a friendship with them. Looks are a good start, but they don't build a lasting relationship, and you want to make sure you like their personalities before you ask one of them out on a date. If you don't want to do it yourself, have a friend introduce you, or just go up to them and say hi; I'm sure they won't mind it.

Is there any way for you to know if they're lesbians too, or at least bisexual?

[Maki Casanova]

@ Radiant

Yay! A person who doesn't bash me because of my orientation. xD

And no, I'm not that too far ahead in my thinking. As I've said, I'm only crushing on them at the moment. The very reason I haven't fallen is because I barely know them, if from a distance.

And no, there isn't. T_T Makes me wish I had a gaydar implanted in me right now... Currently, as I see it, they don't seem to hold any interest in girls. Although there was one time when one of my crushes was suddenly asked out of the blue by strangers, "Are you lesbian?" And she replied, saying that she was straight. I don't know, though, if that statement was true, or was just an outright lie. People can be cruel in words if you openly say that you're "not straight".

~Maki, The Child of Darkness

[synaesthetic]

It's pretty rare to get gay-bashed on asuki. The regulars are pretty progressive folk. I'm a trans female and I identify as a lesbian, so I'm even more open to ridicule, and nobody here's given me shit for it at all.

I wish I could ask about my dating problems here but I'm really not ready to share the reason for the problems with everyone here. It took me a while to even tell some of my real-life friends, but I hope I can do something about it... otherwise I'm doomed to keep breaking relationships.

[Ascaloth]

Originally Posted by synaesthetic

It's pretty rare to get gay-bashed on asuki. The regulars are pretty progressive folk. I'm a trans female and I identify as a lesbian, so I'm even more open to ridicule, and nobody here's given me shit for it at all.

I wish I could ask about my dating problems here but I'm really not ready to share the reason for the problems with everyone here. It took me a while to even tell some of my real-life friends, but I hope I can do something about it... otherwise I'm doomed to keep breaking relationships.

On the flip side of that coin, those who do gay-bash others here tend to get nutjob-bashed by everyone else almost instantaneously.

Hey pal, I've been meaning to ask you; how's your situation currently? You were in a bad way the last time you talked to us, so how are you holding up now?

And besides, I dunno what reasons you may have for not being ready to talk to us about your dating problems, but I'm sure if you can work it out, we'll be ready to listen anytime.

[synaesthetic]

Originally Posted by Ascaloth

On the flip side of that coin, those who do gay-bash others here tend to get nutjob-bashed by everyone else almost instantaneously.

This is true. :3

Originally Posted by Ascaloth

Hey pal, I've been meaning to ask you; how's your situation currently? You were in a bad way the last time you talked to us, so how are you holding up now?

Things are more stable now but I'm still not in a good position yet. I need to get a stable income otherwise I've got no clue what I'll do.

Originally Posted by Ascaloth

And besides, I dunno what reasons you may have for not being ready to talk to us about your dating problems, but I'm sure if you can work it out, we'll be ready to listen anytime.

I'm still trying to figure out if I should be in therapy for these things. Not really ready to start shouting it from the rooftops so to speak. ^^;

[cheyannew]

Originally Posted by Maki Casanova

Hmm.. You guys are a pretty interesting bunch, although I'm not that interested about James Bond. Now that you guys mention it, the "Womanizer" song kinda suits him... If he cat walks around and 'round holding a rose between his teeth and acting all... flamboyant. Haha. xD

Anyways, I myself have a... love problem. I'm a girl, you see, and I've started to massively crush on these two girls in my classes (all in all, I actually have four, but I don't feel as strongly as with the other two, and yes, I am lesbian). I find of them really attractive (yes, I shamefully admit I am shallow), but I'm tongue-tied in my efforts to strike up a conversation. I'm a shy type when it comes to things like these, V_V and my conversational skills are pathetic, sadly.

I'd like to know if you guys have any advice for me; that is, if you don't mind my orientation.
I don't expect really, really good advice, but maybe an encouraging word or two may help.

~Maki, The Child of Darkness

TBH I'd be more surprised if you weren't attracted to them... in general the first thing you notice are someone's looks.. then you get to know the person beneath.. (at least, IMO)...

And yeah, no one's going to bash you here, you've got people like synaesthetic (who is incredibly brave to be so open about her gender status and mad kudos to her) and me here (who's a biexual poly woman), so yeah if they handle us, a lesbian won't make em bat an eye

Anyhow, if you don't know if they're gay, IMO, get to know them better and ask them; and they should also know that you are gay, but are interested in being their friend, not just pursuing them. Honesty is the best policy IMO. Besides, as you get to know them better, you may decide that staying friends is the best option. There may be some quirks you didn't notice before that would drive you batty were you to start a relationship with them.

And if they're the kind to go "eww, lezbo!!" then frankly they're not worth your time even getting to know, IMO.

[Ascaloth]

Originally Posted by synaesthetic

Things are more stable now but I'm still not in a good position yet. I need to get a stable income otherwise I've got no clue what I'll do.

ICIC. Good luck with your life from here on.

I'm still trying to figure out if I should be in therapy for these things. Not really ready to start shouting it from the rooftops so to speak. ^^;

I guess that's understandable. We'll still be here should you need us.

[0utf0xZer0]

Originally Posted by cheyannew

TBH I'd be more surprised if you weren't attracted to them... in general the first thing you notice are someone's looks.. then you get to know the person beneath.. (at least, IMO)...

Hmmm... for me personally, I would say that looks are the first part of a two stage filter. The second filter is whether I feel comfortable revealing just how much of a nerd I am to that person - I don't know, maybe the possibility just doesn't seem "real" to me until someone passes the second filter.

[synaesthetic]

Originally Posted by 0utf0xZer0

Hmmm... for me personally, I would say that looks are the first part of a two stage filter. The second filter is whether I feel comfortable revealing just how much of a nerd I am to that person - I don't know, maybe the possibility just doesn't seem "real" to me until someone passes the second filter.

AGREED COMPLETELY.

I get so worried that even if someone likes the way I look and I like the way they look, I just wonder if they can tolerate me.