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Old 2009-11-09, 00:33   Link #2181
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To late for explanations, you're already labeled as Mister Kamikaze of Love in my book!


So those who are supposed to be your closest friends would not defend you? That's not I call real friends then...

Sorry to be blunt again, but true friends would not care if some morons think it's funny to make fun of you for something like that. Actually, if they are not completely stupid, they would not follow the morons in that kind of situation.

It should be time for them to grow up a bit. They are not in middle school anymore.


Well said. Nothing to add.

Timdog, listen to the Kamikaze.

People said things would be better socially in hs, then college, and now they say in the real world. Highschool really never does end in the US from what I've seen, it's all the same stupid cliques you have to conform to if you really want to have any friends. Right now I am in with one of those cliques and unless I want to spend my friday/saturday nights alone in my dorm room, I need to be careful about what I reveal about myself.

And I have met people who have the same interests as me but dear god, their personalities were SCREWED UP. Could not stand them.
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Old 2009-11-09, 00:35   Link #2182
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but if she already has another guy she's interested in, wouldn't this be a bad time to talk to her about it?
I would say it depends. If you never showed anything that could make think her that you like her, then you can continue like that, I guess.

But from what I saw around me, men are not good in hiding their feelings. So if you think she has doubts, maybe you should say it and make things clear.
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Old 2009-11-09, 00:41   Link #2183
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People said things would be better socially in hs, then college, and now they say in the real world. Highschool really never does end in the US from what I've seen, it's all the same stupid cliques you have to conform to if you really want to have any friends.

And I have met people who have the same interests as me but dear god, their personalities were SCREWED UP. Could not stand them.
I believe you don't have to follow the sheeps to make friends. Real friends.

Of course you would not have a lot, and it could take quite some time to make even a few, but that would be people you can count on.

Most people think they have friends, but most are mere acquaintances that will leave them at the first signs of trouble. Aka, the term "Friend" itself is messed up.

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Right now I am in with one of those cliques and unless I want to spend my friday/saturday nights alone in my dorm room, I need to be careful about what I reveal about myself.
I respect your choice even if i fully disagree. As we say in France

"Il vaut mieux être seul que mal accompagné."
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Old 2009-11-09, 00:44   Link #2184
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"Il vaut mieux être seul que mal accompagné."
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What does that mean?
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Old 2009-11-09, 00:46   Link #2185
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What does that mean?
It's better to be alone than in bad company.
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Old 2009-11-09, 00:48   Link #2186
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It's better to be alone than in bad company.
Wise advice. *nods* Very wise.
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Old 2009-11-09, 01:48   Link #2187
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I guess I could always try revealing my feelings to her tomorrow then be back her to either thank you guys or ask how I fix the mess I just created. :ugh:

would it be better to just outright confess or to just ask her out on a date? I'm thinking the former might be better since suggesting a typical date might not work since we kind of do that stuff as friends anyway .
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Old 2009-11-09, 02:23   Link #2188
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[QUOTE=Timdog;2757541would it be better to just outright confess or to just ask her out on a date? I'm thinking the former might be better since suggesting a typical date might not work since we kind of do that stuff as friends anyway .[/QUOTE]

I suggest outright confessing at this point, myself. Best to get your feelings out in the open right away.
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Old 2009-11-09, 04:53   Link #2189
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It's better to be alone than in bad company.
Gotta love this. It's one of those seemingly obvious truths that many people don't seem to get. Constantly needing to be with someone is a bad thing.

Learning how to enjoy being single is great, because then you will know when someone is really worth your time. You wont be blinded by ZOMGINEEDASPECIALPERSONINMYLIFE Goggles.
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Old 2009-11-09, 09:01   Link #2190
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It's better to be alone than in bad company.
QFMFT. So true.
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Old 2009-11-09, 09:03   Link #2191
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Don't end up like my friend Andrew, he was really close to a girl but was slow at confessing to her, despite my pushing him to do it before its too late. A year went by and he still didn't move forward and she ended up another guy.
That is painful. I bet he learned his lesson.
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Old 2009-11-09, 10:31   Link #2192
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It's better to be alone than in bad company.
Disagreed. A man ( or woman ) determines her/himself not his/her company. For example, a person living in a dangerous place does not mean a dangerous person. Although there are "tendencies", nonetheless, in the end, it is the individual that decides.

Furthermore, to be alone is to not have the opportunity of mental discipline and experience. Thus, IMO, its better to be in any company than alone----we are, yes, social-needing beings. And just like food, we need company---doesn't matter about the taste, as long as its edible.


("'Bad' company" can be translated into different types though I see what you mean.)
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Old 2009-11-09, 11:15   Link #2193
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That is painful. I bet he learned his lesson.
It is incredibly painful. I experienced it myself with one of my guy friends, although the situation itself was rather complicated.

Moral of the story: If you like someone, confess. At the very least, you can get some closure for your feelings even if you're rejected and just remain friends.
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Old 2009-11-09, 14:45   Link #2194
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Well that didn't work out how I planned. I was going to have lunch with the girl like we usually do every monday. As I was waiting in line at the dining hall, I saw one of our good mutual friends that we both hadn't seen in awhile and asked him if he wanted to sit with us. Moments later, I realized what I had just done and did the biggest facepalm I ever have.

Needless to say, no confessing today. And I'm starting to think it might be better to just ask her for help with finding a girl since I do like her but I think I'm only obsessing because I'm obsessed with the issue in general.
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Old 2009-11-09, 14:49   Link #2195
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Well that didn't work out how I planned. I was going to have lunch with the girl like we usually do every monday. As I was waiting in line at the dining hall, I saw one of our good mutual friends that we both hadn't seen in awhile and asked him if he wanted to sit with us. Moments later, I realized what I had just done and did the biggest facepalm I ever have.
You just used the friend as an excuse.

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Needless to say, no confessing today. And I'm starting to think it might be better to just ask her for help with finding a girl since I do like her but I think I'm only obsessing because I'm obsessed with the issue in general.
I've been there. You have to figure out if your feelings are true. But don't ask her for help with that, that'd be a bad move. Try and keep the relationship on the fence to keep your options open, you know? lol.
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Old 2009-11-09, 15:07   Link #2196
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I already know the answer to these questions: I feel like I'm below everyone since not a SINGLE person has EVER saw me as more than just a friend (lots of people see me as a friend but never anything more).
The only reason you get that impression is because girls aren't easy to read. Even the best looking guy I know went for years not getting any noticeable attention from girls until he started to take the initiative. It's all about how you approach it, if you're relaxed about it and don't make this about your worth as a person, things will start to fall in place.

I mean you must have some desirable characteristics since you seem to have plenty of friends, and you shouldn't take them for granted either, some people have trouble with it.

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Needless to say, no confessing today. And I'm starting to think it might be better to just ask her for help with finding a girl since I do like her but I think I'm only obsessing because I'm obsessed with the issue in general.
Now you're thinking right.
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Old 2009-11-09, 18:26   Link #2197
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Okay I took the advice i was given and told this girl how i felt about her. we are work buddies, and we hardly talk about personal stuff usually making fun of our current work mishap of the day or some of the silly predicaments that unfold. I pretended not to like her for weeks, but at the same time i felt there was some chemistry. At the same time i try to be mr professional and all but i had grown to really like her. I'm aware there is a man in the picture but i told her how i felt.

My best friend told her that i liked her, from what im guessing seeing how i only told him. Anyway i told her how it was akward for me to act like i didn't car about her, and that i felt likea creepy pervert for not saying something sooner. She told me she knew but i just found out my Friend told her. She went on to tell me that she was seeing someone. (which i knew) She said it shouldn't be akward (which it is), and we are friends and some other stuff, but i got distracted and didn't hear the rest.

There is some chemistry im sure of it, but my question is "what now?" Should i wait or should i forget about her(impossible). I have some strong feelings here and im not ready to let it go. Further more, i didn't feel sad when she told me that she was seeing someone, i mean i have known this, but now i feel so sad or maybe pathetic. How do i not feel so sad?
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Old 2009-11-09, 18:29   Link #2198
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There is some chemistry im sure of it, but my question is "what now?" Should i wait or should i forget about her(impossible). I have some strong feelings here and im not ready to let it go. Further more, i didn't feel sad when she told me that she was seeing someone, i mean i have known this, but now i feel so sad or maybe pathetic. How do i not feel so sad?
It depends. What is her relationship with the guy? Been seeing him for a while? Just started dating? This can be a very tricky situation. Also, how old are you guys?
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Old 2009-11-09, 18:39   Link #2199
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I'm 22 and she's 23. I have no idea of how long they have been together.
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Old 2009-11-09, 18:53   Link #2200
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You try to talk more to her now. If/when she breaks up you can be there.
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