Dating

[Crusader]

I see what you're saying, sort of feels like i'm living a part of a soap opera, surreal even. I just hope i don't get to emotionally on the hinge.

[DragoZERO]

First off, I'd like to say, and am ashamed to, that I was with a girl (2nd base only) last summer who already had a boyfriend going on two years or so. The guy was a jerk and I was the nice guy at work (boss' son too, talk about touchy situation) who she happened to fall for. She made all the first moves but in the end she chose him. I was just the crutch for the time when he was being a jerk and neglecting her. I moved on and hhe dumped her this past spring and now she's alone, so yeah.

Originally Posted by Crusader

I'm 22 and she's 23. I have no idea of how long they have been together.

See if your mutual friend can find out in a casual manner. If they have been going out for a whlie and things are good, go elsewhere. But if they just started and things are on the fence, hang out a bit. BUT, if she does break up, you give her plenty of time to get over him, even if it takes months. The last thing you want to listen to her talk about him, trust me on that one.

Originally Posted by Alchemist007

You try to talk more to her now. If/when she breaks up you can be there.

I'm going to disagree a little. *ahem*

1. If you get too involved now you may cross the point of no return and become too much of a friend.
2. You don't want to be there for her too much if and when they break up otherwise you'll become the rebound, and like the sport counterpart, they don't last long.
3. It'll tear your heart out to hear about the good times she is having with her current boyfriend.
4. You may miss out on other opportunities, you know the saying "there's plenty of fish in the sea."

Originally Posted by Crusader

I see what you're saying, sort of feels like i'm living a part of a soap opera, surreal even. I just hope i don't get to emotionally on the hinge.

I say keep the relationship you have with her the same, just talk at work and look else where. You'll get over her in time. I say that because unlike soap operas and romance stories, you are not the protagonist who wins the girl in the end.

[Bad Romance]

Originally Posted by Fome

Ever feel like the girl/guy you like is way out of your league?

That's what i thought.

I can't believe she said yes, and without hesitation.

I'm the happiest guy alive.

Yes, i'm being a stupid romantic.

Congratulations, yes I know I'm a few years late.


I'm currently single, and fabolous. I was in a relationship which lasted about 3 years, but we broke up. Oh well, plenty of more fish in the sea.

[Alchemist007]

I don't believe in the 'too much of a friend' thing tbh. Or completely despise those who do use that excuse.

[rabbitking]

This is the most depressing topic I've seen. So much that I'm unable to get myself to read the first post.

[Crusader]

The too much of a friend thing is possible, but we never have those convesations, aside from her having my back in one of my job related duplicious activities, the deepest conversation we ever had was which is better CSI:Miami or NCIS classic. I'm an CSI supporter, but i digress.

[Alchemist007]

I'll rephrase that to include "if she knows your intentions."

[Crusader]

Originally Posted by Alchemist007

I'll rephrase that to include "if she knows your intentions."

Well apparantly, she has known for some time thanks to a Friend, I won't know how things will be until wednesday. Not to mention i didn't have time to make my big reveal until i was leaving, thanks to unmitigatted(no sure of spelling) circustances.

[whitepearl]

Originally Posted by Narona

It's better to be alone than in bad company.

Sound advice that I have been following unknowingly for a long time...

[Tsuyoshi]

Maybe I'm overthinking here but play with me. So I'm into my second week in my new job (which hopefully isn't gonna last considering how much I hate the place), and there's something I couldn't help noticing. This girl in our team was given the role of training the new people on the team, which was just two of us. Me and the other guy have been going with her to some of her lessons, for lack of better terminology, so she could show us the ropes about some things related to work and what terms some of the brokers we get in contact with will use. A lot of times, while she's explaining things, 80% of the time she's looking at me and the rest of the time at the other guy.

Like I said, I'm likely overthinking this but can it be she might have some interest in me? I know it sounds insane since it could be the other way and hates the other guy but that's definitely not true. The girl herself is a really nice person to talk to although we haven't really gotten much of a chance to talk to each other informally except for once, hardly a chance to get to know each other better on a more personal level. And the fact we only know each other for work and that it's been such a short time makes it even harder. Anyways, I'm thinking, since I have to see her again one last time (without the other guy there in fact), maybe I should take a chance to get to know her better and see how that goes.

Thoughts anyone?

And yes, this is the first time I post here to talk about my own situation

[RadiantBeam]

I say take the chance and talk to her about it. You seem to be getting some signals that indicate she likes you, so ask her about it. Even if you turn out to be wrong, at least you've cleared it up.

[Kusa-San]

Originally Posted by Yoko Takeo

. Anyways, I'm thinking, since I have to see her again one last time (without the other guy there in fact), maybe I should take a chance to get to know her better and see how that goes.

Thoughts anyone?

And yes, this is the first time I post here to talk about my own situation

Yep, I think you should do that and take your ime to know her well. Maybe she will be the one but maybe not. Anyway, good luck

[DragoZERO]

Don't judge it based on the fact that you think she looks at you more than the other guy. There could be a lot of different reasons, not even remotely related to romance, for that. So just talk to her and flirt a little and gauge her interest level a little. If its the last time you'll see her I guess your goal should be to get some digits or something.

[Kakashi]

^ I agree, the staring could mean a number of things. I would ask her out for a coffee next time you see her and then maybe take it from there.

[Mi-Roo]

Bah! Dating. I've had such horrible experiances.
This guy once acted like he was all interested in me
and asked me on a date. Turned out that it was a dare,
he dumped me a week later and got £50 out of it.

..Nice. >>;

To top it off, he said he got "physical" with me
so I was now carrying his child and that he even
payed me for the sex. A few weeks after rumours
and looks of disgust off other students in my school,
he then turns back to me and asks to go on another date.
Srsly, wth? I told him where to shove it.

Then the stalking and constint stream of gifts followed.
Of course, I just denied to give him even a mere glance.
The swine. >____<;

[Crusader]

Originally Posted by Kakashi

^ I agree, the staring could mean a number of things. I would ask her out for a coffee next time you see her and then maybe take it from there.

I once miss read a stare, namely because i had a leaf in my hair, which i didn't know about.

Yoko Takeo Looks literally can be deceiving... If you're staring at her and she's staring at you...sounds a bit akward not romantic lol. Is she stealing looks or is she blantantly looking at you without trying to hide it? Lastly is there something unsightly about you? kidding lol

Elda
You think thats bad, i dated a girl for a week and the second day she wrote me a letter saying she wanted to have sex, but the text was pretty nasty lol. I told her no and she carved our name in a tree at school, said we had sex there,even left used condoms there (i didn't use them, thats for sure), then told people that i could barely get it up and i was gay. nearly ruined me. The only reason i agreed to date her, is because she was bigger and physicaly stronger than me, She could have beat me pretty good, needless to say i was/is a coward lol.

[Tsuyoshi]

Originally Posted by Crusader

I once miss read a stare, namely because i had a leaf in my hair, which i didn't know about.

Yoko Takeo Looks literally can be deceiving... If you're staring at her and she's staring at you...sounds a bit akward not romantic lol. Is she stealing looks or is she blantantly looking at you without trying to hide it? Lastly is there something unsightly about you? kidding lol

She's not really staring. I may have worded it wrong. Sometimes, she looks toward me, other times she may look at the other guy, sometimes she's referring to her notes or what not. I would say she's holding a conversation, not actually staring. Anyways, I'm prolly gonna behave friendly with her and go with the flow. It's really too soon to say anything about anything right now. It's just something I noticed.

[Cipher]

Originally Posted by Yoko Takeo

She's not really staring. I may have worded it wrong. Sometimes, she looks toward me, other times she may look at the other guy, sometimes she's referring to her notes or what not. I would say she's holding a conversation, not actually staring. Anyways, I'm prolly gonna behave friendly with her and go with the flow. It's really too soon to say anything about anything right now. It's just something I noticed.

Sorry, its probably nothing worth concern. But it doesn't matter, If you like her, take immediate action. It's not with the looks, its with the persona you show during the date.

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by Yoko Takeo

She's not really staring. I may have worded it wrong. Sometimes, she looks toward me, other times she may look at the other guy, sometimes she's referring to her notes or what not. I would say she's holding a conversation, not actually staring. Anyways, I'm prolly gonna behave friendly with her and go with the flow. It's really too soon to say anything about anything right now. It's just something I noticed.

Go with the flow and see what happens. I wish you luck.

[stubby42]

Slight update time.

Most of you probably wont remember (it was a good while ago, about a month around page 94 and 95) but I took a random trip to durham to go see a friend, we ended up hanging out with all of his mates and the long and short of it was that I met a girl who ranked ultra high on the what stubby finds attractive list.

Well I after I got home I asked her out (p.s thanks guys for the help with that), she said no but said we could be friends, which wasnt want I was going for but I'm happy because I actually did something for once.


update time

So I traveled back to durham this weekend for a weekend of awesomeness, not really expecting anything. I hadnt talked to the girl since the asking out, so I was fair certain she'd either disapear for the weekend or it would be akward.

But true to her word she hung out all weekend, hell the only person I saw more of than her was the friend I was staying with (she even hung out when it was just me and my mate) and it wasnt akward (well ok there were a few akward moments, but that was when we were alone together but theres only so much you can talk about when your bored out of your mind watching friends compete in a pool tournemant).

she made it very clear that all we are is friends (she wasnt touchy, if we were in a large group she didnt sit next to me) and I'd should be happy with that but the truth is I'm not.

Maybe I've had time to build her up as a dream girl but if thats true but arent you supposed to be disapointed when you see reality? because she keeps getting even better, how many girls do you know who want/are training to be a marine arechologist? (if she achieves her goal she will explore ship wrecks for a living).

I dont really know why I'm writing this (probably because I have the flu), I know I cant make her feel the same way about me as I do about her but I guess what I'm saying is I'm having trouble getting past that and just be friends.

truth is, I shouldnt really be thinking about this because of the distance, after this year the odds of seeing her again are low. I live about 4 hours away during term time then when school is finished its even further. Its her final year of university so everyones course load is getting heavier and heavier so my trips up will have to get less frequent (till the point that they end) but I dont want to loose her as a friend seeing as we've really only just reached that point.



yeah so um I'm probably going to sleep cause I called in sick from work.