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Old 2010-09-19, 18:06   Link #4261
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One of my cosplayer friends used it before. She said it works.

Question : My parents are driving me nuts. They want me to go out and work, which unfortunately, even after 3 weeks of job-hunting, I was unable to even find a part-time job.

I am currently schooling full-time at a cert-mill, in which every module requires a minimum IQ of 80 to sit in. I was bored out of my skull for every semester, yet I am still able to pass everything without having to study. Tutorials are no different from primary school work - only projects are a problem for me.

I can handle work and school at the same time, but the problem is the school is so asinine not to let me swap sessions from afternoon to morning so I can find a decent job. My mother is screaming over the 10k she gave to me for school and yet she hasn't seen a cert (due next year June).

I am throughly annoyed by the bad parenting they have shown for the past 9 years and treating me as a verbal punching bag. They never gave me encouragement, be it for whatever activities I do in school, and constantly set unrealistic expectations for me (I have yet to sue Mensa for misappropriating that fucking 146 to my IQ - it totally turned my life upside down and everyone who knows about it expects way too much from me). No matter what kind of astounding results I make, I always get that "you are just doing the bare minimum" or "why can't you do better?". With a complete lack of self-esteem, I just do the bare minimum knowing that I would pass, any more than that won't make a difference because not even my closet kin cares.

Should I just lodge a dispute to the family court on both of them? I am really tired of having my self-esteem buried six feet under a pile of insults and verbal discouragement.

P.S My father is an irresponsible womaniser who grubs family funds and refuses to contribute to me or my sister's school fees, which the local law refuses to let me disown. I have a good mind to bomb the subordinate courts with a bag of nitrate fertiliser soaked in diesel and petrol, but that won't change anything. Hopefully he gets cancer and die quickly.
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Old 2010-09-20, 00:36   Link #4262
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You are in Singapore, right? I imagine "family counseling" isn't quite the panacea it is in the US. Public embarrassment via the family court system might be interesting... but you should check with a counselor/lawyer who could help you frame it in an effective way.

Sounds like your parents are on the far dysfunctional end of the scale of "Asians never get a break from their parents". My wife never got a good word from her mother despite a lifetime of going way beyond the pale in her career or in taking care of her. It was never good enough.

Fortunately, her dad was far different - but sadly he died pretty young.
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Old 2010-09-20, 04:59   Link #4263
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@SaintessHeart,

so if I understand correctly you just have to bear with this situation for another 10 month or so. What is most important now, is that you find a hobby or sport where you can unleash all the hatered/bad mood that builds up over the day/week. It is extremely important for your mental health. I strongly recommend it - I really mean it! As far as I understand you cannot change much about the current situation, you are somewhat trapped in these circumstances.
Your connection to your father seems pretty much in shambles (beyond fixing), but your mother... I know next to nothing about her, but I want to ask you something:

Try to think about this as unbiased as possible.

She seems to project a part of her hatred and uneasyness onto you. She might not do it willingly, but this situation could be too much for her. It could be, that you are like an emotional pressure-relief valve for her. Provided I am not too far off here... that will make an interaction between both of you increasingly unpersonal. Both of you will increase the distance of social bonding until only material matters and rudimentary interest is a defining factor of your social interaction.
If (and only if) what I was saying is the actual reality. Then, as a result, you both lack to see the potentialy better personality in each other. You think as much that you cannot trust her and that she is useless as she thinks you are useless and just like your father (essentially "betraying" her).
In that case both of you will distance each other more and more if the vicious circle isn't broken. This would require a lot of devotion from either your or her side to break through. But that begs the question, are you even able to feel anything positive for your mother anymore (just playing nice won't help). Now, if you could imagine there is another side in her that you can reach, try to go for it. That won't work without communication though. And most important both sides need to understand what hurts them, what makes you and her feel uneasy about each other. Then there is a need to find understanding of each others fears and an understanding of mutual emotional and everyday life's support.
But be warned such a debate can be incredibly emotion-laden and might not bring the expected results.

Disclaimer, I know nothing about your mother. My second part of the advice is based on pure speculation. I try to help with my best intention, but that won't work when my understanding of your situation is wrong.
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Old 2010-09-20, 22:22   Link #4264
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Do avatars expire on this site? I notice that all members I see who haven't logged on for some years have no avatar.

And what kind of shoes are these, I'd love to have a pair for me:

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Old 2010-09-21, 07:05   Link #4265
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Do avatars expire on this site? I notice that all members I see who haven't logged on for some years have no avatar.
It could be that they deleted the avatar, or that it got deleted by the image host itself (e.g. due to inactivity of the user). As far as I know, avatars remain visible unless someone removes them.

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And what kind of shoes are these, I'd love to have a pair for me:
Looks like Mary Janes with platform soles to me.
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Old 2010-09-21, 09:36   Link #4266
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WHAT
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FUCK


"When's it gonna stop Ash?

"..... when I've caught them all."

Question: Why isn't this in production yet? And would you watch it if it were?

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Old 2010-09-21, 10:09   Link #4267
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WHAT
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"When's it gonna stop Ash?

"..... when I've caught them all."
Epic.

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Old 2010-09-21, 21:28   Link #4268
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does anyone know what degree of experience can create movable parts?
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Old 2010-09-21, 21:37   Link #4269
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does anyone know what degree of experience can create movable parts?
I don't understand you question... Explain a bit more please...
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Old 2010-09-22, 09:13   Link #4270
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I think he just wants to know what you need to know to creat that do-thingy. Unless the proportions are really small, you should be able to do it after a few failed attempts and some small planing. Practice makes perfect.
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Old 2010-09-22, 22:35   Link #4271
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Old 2010-09-23, 04:51   Link #4272
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I have a silly question!

Can you make a paintball sniper rifle? I'm only asking because my friends want to go paintballing within the next month or so, so I wanna know if I can buy that or not...
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Old 2010-09-23, 15:18   Link #4273
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I have a silly question!

Can you make a paintball sniper rifle? I'm only asking because my friends want to go paintballing within the next month or so, so I wanna know if I can buy that or not...
Well, technically yes... but to make it a good sniper rifle it needs a lot more muzzle speed and a rifled bore... that however also makes it more deadly. simple physics
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Old 2010-09-24, 01:46   Link #4274
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Alright.. this is a really strange question, but bear with me

I want help trying to identify a problem I've had since.. well forever.

Its kind of a fear.. but not really. When I look at certain things, particularly certain patterns, I start feeling a heavy nausea, but I never actually puke. Instead, it seems like I get fixated on the pattern, like my mind is trying to force itself to get used to it, but it never does, I just stare at it for a while, feel nauseous, look away and shudder, trying to not look back again.

The best example I can think of is looking at the inside of a beehive full of bees. I'm not exactly grossed out by it; its inexplicable, just a really unpleasant feeling that I get fixated on. Another good example, (though a little specific) is if any of you played RA2, the animation of the chronosphere structure when it was charged did the same thing.

Its not stills mind you, normally moving things. Usually its complicated patterns, but that doesn't exactly explain it either.

Well, I'm not sure if that matters. Any ideas on what I'm experiencing (i.e. this type of reaction to seeing certain images or patterns)?
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Old 2010-09-24, 02:51   Link #4275
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Well, I'm not sure if that matters. Any ideas on what I'm experiencing (i.e. this type of reaction to seeing certain images or patterns)?
Don't mean to alarm you, but your symptoms sound like those of photosensitive epilepsy.
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Old 2010-09-24, 09:27   Link #4276
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Don't mean to alarm you, but your symptoms sound like those of photosensitive epilepsy.


Thats pretty interesting, though it may be one of the other conditions listed on the site. The wikipedia article has been updated since like 6 years ago when I last checked; I don't think the related syndromes were listed, or I just missed them.

At any rate, I'm not going to get it checked out because it occurs so rarely, and even when it does, never does anything. Just wanted to know if anyone knew what might be going on; I had been redirected to photosensitive epilepsy a long time ago when I first tried to research this, but I was under the impression that that had more to do with flashing lights (i.e. there are a lot of youtube videos with 'SEIZURE WARNING' on it etc.).

Thanks anyways.
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Old 2010-09-24, 09:41   Link #4277
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I would have to disagree with TRL. While your symptoms are some of the accompanying signs of a mild epileptic episode I wouldn't call it photosensitivity just yet. Likewise the triggers for epilepsy are usually consistent because they point to the neural connections in question, specifically because the great amount of synapses causes the neurons in the system to overfire excessively. If it isn't giving you problems on a consistent basis, epilepsy seems unlikely. Depending on your age you'd have likely have had full on tonic-clonic seizures at some point in your life if it were epilepsy (epilepsy starts early) and diagnosed a long time ago.

If you say it's more particular for moving objects, it might be vertigo. Have you had hearing issues along with it?
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Old 2010-09-24, 09:50   Link #4278
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I would have to disagree with TRL. While your symptoms are some of the accompanying signs of a mild epileptic episode I wouldn't call it photosensitivity just yet. Likewise the triggers for epilepsy are usually consistent because they point to the neural connections in question, specifically because the great amount of synapses causes the neurons in the system to overfire excessively. If it isn't giving you problems on a consistent basis, epilepsy seems unlikely. Depending on your age you'd have likely have had full on tonic-clonic seizures at some point in your life if it were epilepsy (epilepsy starts early) and diagnosed a long time ago.

If you say it's more particular for moving objects, it might be vertigo. Have you had hearing issues along with it?
Hearing problems?.. I've never thought of that. All the memories I have of these incidents I'm usually alone. Can't say.

Hmmm how should I describe it.. it has to do with complicated patterns, but the elements in it should be moving close to randomly, or at least seemingly so. Thats why a beehive causes it, or if you've ever seen an accelerated video of cell reproduction, beyond a point (when the screen is covered by cells) the feeling begins to kick in.

Well.. it was definitely worse when I was younger. I would get pretty strongly fixated on it, and would always feel more nauseous. I remember that there were a couple of times when I told my parents (over the space of 2-3 years probably), but it looked like they got really worried so I always managed to shrug it off as nothing, and get out of going to a doctor. As it turns out, it never actually caused a problem ( I had totally forgotten that I even had it, till just the other day it kicked in watching some documentary on bees). Now when it happens ( it happens pretty rarely) its fairly easy to shrug off, as I know what happens, and just think about something else.
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Old 2010-09-24, 09:57   Link #4279
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Hearing problems?.. I've never thought of that. All the memories I have of these incidents I'm usually alone. Can't say.

Hmmm how should I describe it.. it has to do with complicated patterns, but the elements in it should be moving close to randomly, or at least seemingly so. Thats why a beehive causes it, or if you've ever seen an accelerated video of cell reproduction, beyond a point (when the screen is covered by cells) the feeling begins to kick in.

Well.. it was definitely worse when I was younger. I remember that there were a couple of times when I told my parents, but it looked like they got really worried so I always managed to shrug it off as nothing, and get out of going to a doctor. As it turns out, it never actually caused a problem ( I had totally forgotten that I even had it, till just the other day it kicked in watching some documentary on bees). Now when it happens ( it happens pretty rarely) its fairly easy to shrug off, as I know what happens, and just think about something else.
Okay let's see:

1. Does it happen more if you focus on a particular moving element that would require your eyes to move along with it?

2. Is it alleviated by shifting your head or closing your eyes?

3. Do you suddenly get some vision problems with it, like sudden flashing lights or sudden loss of sight?

From the looks of it, if it isn't with hearing problems it's not likely an inner ear labyrinth problem. It looks primarily a problem with the optic tract, and without primary vision impairment it seems like a brain stem or cerebellum problem.

Internet medical diagnosis is hard.
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Old 2010-09-24, 10:05   Link #4280
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Try shining a light indirectly at your eye. Move it around for like 15 minutes with your eyes following the light. If you feel like vomiting, see a doctor.
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