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Old 2011-06-03, 05:51   Link #8921
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Dinner conversation would be murderous in such a family....
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Old 2011-06-03, 07:28   Link #8922
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So to try to get this topic on some notion of relevance:

How long after a break up (assuming you're the one who initiated it), is it okay to enter a new relationship?
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Old 2011-06-03, 07:30   Link #8923
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Totally up to you man. If you feel ready for another relationship now, then by all means, go for it. Just be sure that you're not seeking a relationship to cushion a depression you may or may not have following a break-up and that you want one with a girl that caught your eye because that girl is genuinely worth going out with. If you feel you need time to take a break and be on your own for a while, be it a week, a year, whatever suits you, that's fine as well. In my case, I'd want some time alone to deal with whatever repercussion (some people might remember ) but I digress.
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Old 2011-06-03, 07:31   Link #8924
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I meant so it's not awkward for you and the other person who you broke up with, but sure. lol.

(also, just curious, not looking to get into another one atm ^^; )
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Old 2011-06-03, 07:33   Link #8925
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I meant so it's not awkward for you and the other person who you broke up with, but sure. lol.

(also, just curious, not looking to get into another one atm ^^; )
Wait, do you mean you and the same girl? If not, then it really shouldn't be her problem if you're going out with someone else. If yes, you should talk it out with her cuz that can be a little complicated.

(figured as much )
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Old 2011-06-03, 09:40   Link #8926
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This first cousin once removed sounds so strange to foreign ears What do you remove? XD
Discussions like that are always fun ... "You're my what again?"
I needed years to figure out what the children of my cousins where to me ... putting aside I feel a bit like their big sister. .... even so they are already taller than me DD:

@khu, there is no formula. If you're still close to your ex like being in the same school, friend circle or workplace some thought is called for. However, I believe that every individual has to set the time themelves.
If it feels right again, it might be right again!
The gut feeling is something one should listen to. Specially, if you aren't a douche.
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Old 2011-06-03, 09:43   Link #8927
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Please find me a guy who would disagree.
Here is another one, since I always found senpai sexier... Sakura@F/SN et al
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Old 2011-06-03, 09:45   Link #8928
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How long after a break up (assuming you're the one who initiated it), is it okay to enter a new relationship?
Depends on you. I've known people who were already in a new relationship before breaking up with their current.
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Old 2011-06-03, 10:23   Link #8929
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Here is another one, since I always found senpai sexier... Sakura@F/SN et al
I will let it slide, only because of Kirimiya Mizuki from Yume Miru Kusuri (Sakura from F/SN was poorly written, and had large breasts to make up for it).

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Depends on you. I've known people who were already in a new relationship before breaking up with their current.
Well, that's just uncouth.
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Old 2011-06-03, 10:26   Link #8930
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Depends on you. I've known people who were already in a new relationship before breaking up with their current.
That's cheating D=
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Old 2011-06-03, 11:07   Link #8931
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So to try to get this topic on some notion of relevance:

How long after a break up (assuming you're the one who initiated it), is it okay to enter a new relationship?
I don't think it matters... depends purely on what you feel comfortable with. If there is someone you really like and they respond the same way, why delay?

Besides since you are the one who initiated the break up, and the reason is because you found someone better, you could start new relation almost instantly. The only problem here would be how your ex felt about the break up. You wouldn't want her to start raging at your new second half and screaming that it was her/his fault that you two broke up. There might be a trouble because of that so a small break could be a good option before starting anything new.

Though if you delay too much, your other half might find someone else
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Old 2011-06-03, 12:35   Link #8932
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This first cousin once removed sounds so strange to foreign ears What do you remove? XD
One generation removed from me, two generations removed fro me...

Removed also means distance, kinda. You might also say "I'm looking for a house somewhat removed from downtown", similiar concept.
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Old 2011-06-03, 14:13   Link #8933
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This first cousin once removed sounds so strange to foreign ears What do you remove? XD
As I said before, cousin comes from the first level of ancestor you share. Grandparents for first cousin, great-grandparents for second cousin, so on and so forth.

For "removed", you then go the other way. For each generation after your current generation, it's considered to be one level "removed". For example, your first cousin once removed is your cousin's child. You're still technically cousins with the kid, since your first ancestor are your grandparents. The "once removed" just goes the other direction.
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Old 2011-06-03, 17:30   Link #8934
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As I said before, cousin comes from the first level of ancestor you share. Grandparents for first cousin, great-grandparents for second cousin, so on and so forth.

For "removed", you then go the other way. For each generation after your current generation, it's considered to be one level "removed". For example, your first cousin once removed is your cousin's child. You're still technically cousins with the kid, since your first ancestor are your grandparents. The "once removed" just goes the other direction.
One removed applies in both directions. My mother's first cousin is my second cousin once removed. My cousin's son is my first cousin once removed.

The rule is: Xth cousin-> last common ancestor. Grandparent is first, great grand parent is second etc.

X removed-> generational difference. For ever generational difference, add another degree. Parent's/children's generation is once removed, Grandparents/grandchildren's generation -> twice removed.

Note that you can be about the same age as your cousin once removed, if two prior siblings had children at very different ages. If my grandmother only had children at 40, and my mother again at 40, but my grandmother's sister had children at 20, her daughter at 20 and her daughter again at 20, then I would have a 2nd cousin once removed, who is about the same age as myself, but we would be seperate generations.
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Old 2011-06-03, 20:43   Link #8935
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That's cheating D=
Some people have different definitions of 'cheating'. Sad but true.
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Old 2011-06-03, 23:57   Link #8936
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Cute coworker split up with her boyfriend

About a month ago. So, what should the plan be? Her ex and her had been together for about 5 years which is an incredibly long time. Shall I give her some time and let her enjoy single life since she has not experienced it in a long time? Or should I try and make my move.

If I were to try to make a move, it may lead to awkwardness, but she is just a part time worker and only works a few hours every few days while I am a full time worker.
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Old 2011-06-03, 23:59   Link #8937
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I'd post this in the Dating thread.

As for your question, give her some time; she's probably not in the mood to think about that kind of stuff right now. It's not good to take advantage in this situation.
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Old 2011-06-04, 00:11   Link #8938
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Old 2011-06-04, 00:15   Link #8939
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Speaking from experience, never date someone you work with.
I believe the saying is "don't mix business with pleasure". It's never a good idea.
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Old 2011-06-04, 02:03   Link #8940
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So to try to get this topic on some notion of relevance:

How long after a break up (assuming you're the one who initiated it), is it okay to enter a new relationship?
When you see someone that you want to pash and flock her gently.
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