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Old 2011-12-14, 09:54   Link #9861
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Random question I had while debating with my friend on AIM

Is first date too early for kiss or not?
I'd say it depends on personality, how well the date actually went (duh) and body language. You're gonna need a dictionary for that last one
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Old 2011-12-14, 12:07   Link #9862
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I don't think there's any really good rule about when to kiss.

I guess it's better to err on the side of politeness though. But you really need to judge the mood. Also she may make it obvious she wants to be kissed.

If her head seems to be in the right position, and if you (slowly) have your head approach yours, you should be able to judge it, I think. If she looks like she's pulling away, well that means it's a no go.
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Old 2011-12-14, 16:42   Link #9863
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Random question I had while debating with my friend on AIM

Is first date too early for kiss or not?
It would depend on a good number of things imho. For instance, how long have you known the person? Something like that would give an idea of how intimate you are with the other. Normally, I wouldn't think of kissing a girl on the first date assuming I haven't known her very long. It would be rather soon for such a thing.
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Old 2011-12-14, 17:21   Link #9864
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I agree but in this case asking about it so soon, I think he's worried about looking like a loser.

It's the "OMG, If I don't make a move she'll think I'm some limp dicked wuss who's afraid to touch a woman" fear, at least from what I infer.
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Old 2011-12-14, 18:02   Link #9865
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I agree but in this case asking about it so soon, I think he's worried about looking like a loser.

It's the "OMG, If I don't make a move she'll think I'm some limp dicked wuss who's afraid to touch a woman" fear, at least from what I infer.
Ok, why is he afraid of that? Is it just him or is the girl apparently the type who likes to move fast? If the latter, one needs to remember that not always is that the girl's true face. She may act pretty willing but in the end, she could actually be quite shy about the whole matter. But that's all I'm gonna say about the girl. If it's just his own fear, he should simply go with what happens on the date, relax and be himself, be his own man. I'm quite sure that'll impress her more than anything, regardless of whether or not they kiss. Also, kissing doesn't always mean there's romance. I believe you can have perfectly wonderful romance without kissing every so often. Both he and his date could have a beautiful time together.
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Old 2011-12-15, 08:11   Link #9866
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Yeah personally, kissing was never something I thought about while dating or in a relationship. It happened or it didn't happen.

I was more focused on things to do together, and sexual intimacy and keeping a careful distance in that regard.
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Old 2011-12-15, 08:31   Link #9867
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Though I said I was fine with it, you probably wouldn't see anything from me, I'm all talk when it comes to this, once the real thing pops up I become shy.

I have this weird thing for unresolved sexual tension.
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Old 2011-12-15, 09:22   Link #9868
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Anything find it more romantic the more awkward a relationship is? I always have an urge to make things really really awkward on purpose. Maybe because I get to see the other person with their guard down.
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Old 2011-12-15, 11:16   Link #9869
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Anything find it more romantic the more awkward a relationship is? I always have an urge to make things really really awkward on purpose. Maybe because I get to see the other person with their guard down.
Or up. If I was in an "awkward" relationship, I'd be way more careful and reserved. It's only when you're comfortable with things that you can let your guard down.
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Old 2011-12-15, 11:31   Link #9870
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Or up. If I was in an "awkward" relationship, I'd be way more careful and reserved. It's only when you're comfortable with things that you can let your guard down.
But by being comfortable, it's much easier to keep the guard up because they find things more predictable and can deal with things in a calm and controlled manner.
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Old 2011-12-16, 01:17   Link #9871
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Anything find it more romantic the more awkward a relationship is? I always have an urge to make things really really awkward on purpose. Maybe because I get to see the other person with their guard down.
I'll get back to you once I get past the awkward walking to up to girl I like, then forgetting what I was going to say. And going "bye".

I'm such a failure. orzorzorzorz
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Old 2011-12-16, 02:39   Link #9872
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As long you don't reveal you're a communist, drop your bank number or let it slip out that youve been eyeing her cleveage for 20 minutes, just TALK. Any random old thing, don't over think.
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Old 2011-12-16, 06:53   Link #9873
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As long you don't reveal you're a communist, drop your bank number or let it slip out that youve been eyeing her cleveage for 20 minutes, just TALK. Any random old thing, don't over think.
I disagree, I've had the most success just coming out with my communism. I even referred to one girl as 'comrade,' instant ticket to the bedroom.
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Old 2011-12-16, 06:58   Link #9874
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I disagree, I've had the most success just coming out with my communism. I even referred to one girl as 'comrade,' instant ticket to the bedroom.
Smooth.
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Old 2011-12-16, 07:33   Link #9875
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As long you don't reveal you're a communist, drop your bank number or let it slip out that youve been eyeing her cleveage for 20 minutes, just TALK. Any random old thing, don't over think.
What if I'm Made in China!?!

(Still not a communist however)

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I disagree, I've had the most success just coming out with my communism. I even referred to one girl as 'comrade,' instant ticket to the bedroom.
You deserve a 80ft gold statue carved in your name.
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Old 2011-12-16, 11:51   Link #9876
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As long you don't reveal you're a communist, drop your bank number or let it slip out that youve been eyeing her cleveage for 20 minutes, just TALK. Any random old thing, don't over think.
This. People overthink and overcomplicate dating and relationships. Girls (and guys, for the ladies reading) are just people. Talk to them like you'd talk to your friends and you'll do fine.
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Old 2011-12-16, 12:28   Link #9877
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I have to agree about simply talking to people. I used to be pretty shy and quiet around people, especially girls. It was really getting me nowhere. Fortunately I broke out of my shell in senior year of high school and I learned to talk to people. It seems hard, but it's really quite easy. Just talk about anything (within reason - no need to talk about underwear fetishes with random strangers) to anyone, even when you're standing in line at the check-out.

How can one learn anything about someone without talking to them?
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Old 2011-12-16, 13:07   Link #9878
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How can one learn anything about someone without talking to them?
Scared of talking? Try stalking!
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Old 2011-12-16, 13:35   Link #9879
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Scared of talking? Try stalking!
We've probably all tried that some point in our lives
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Old 2011-12-16, 13:40   Link #9880
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Scared of talking? Try stalking!
You can't say Stalking without talking.
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