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solomon · 2011-12-13, 23:51

Random question I had while debating with my friend on AIM

Is first date too early for kiss or not?

HasuMasu · 2011-12-14, 00:08

Personally I'm fine with it.

solomon · 2011-12-14, 00:38

NO kidding?

Cause he's trolling forums trying to get the idea of when exactly is the right time so as not to be "awkward".

HasuMasu · 2011-12-14, 00:40

Yeah, I'd have to take into consideration weather or not the other person is comfortable with it, but if I was on the receiving end I'd be alright.

solomon · 2011-12-14, 00:47

just for context's sake (provided you are comfortable revealing) are we from venus or mars?

HasuMasu · 2011-12-14, 00:50

Red soil, sir.

Ascaloth · 2011-12-14, 04:31

If you've found yourself in a physically intimate position with a girl, that is, sitting close together and/or hugging and/or sitting on your lap etc., that's the right time to try a kiss. Otherwise, don't bother.

Mystique · 2011-12-14, 09:08

And it depends on what we're on about here.

A sweet, simple semi chast 'good night' kiss?
Or a full blown out snog on the sofa with tongues and all

Paranoid Android · 2011-12-14, 09:25

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Originally Posted by Mystique

And it depends on what we're on about here.

A sweet, simple semi chast 'good night' kiss?
Or a full blown out snog on the sofa with tongues and all

It's the non lip-to-lip kind

And it's not on the cheek. OOooh

Neck Nibbling of course.

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A kiss shouldn't be the goal of a first date. Only if it's plain out obviously both of you really want to kiss each other. Kissing easily becomes the norm after a few dates.

First date is typically not the same as being a relationship. It's only the dates after that when your friend and his date can be considered in a relationship. Because there wouldn't be a second date if there's a problem. And once in that position, kissing isn't too big of a thing to think about, it'll come naturally.
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Unless this is a speed-race game of who can take each others pants off first.

Then I suggest getting advice from Simple Pickup. A trio devoted to making a fool out of themselves in front of girls. They have more balls than tub full of plastic balls in a children's playground.

Spoiler for Irrelephant:

Kafriel · 2011-12-14, 09:54

Quote:

Originally Posted by solomon

Random question I had while debating with my friend on AIM

Is first date too early for kiss or not?

I'd say it depends on personality, how well the date actually went (duh) and body language. You're gonna need a dictionary for that last one

DonQuigleone · 2011-12-14, 12:07

I don't think there's any really good rule about when to kiss.

I guess it's better to err on the side of politeness though. But you really need to judge the mood. Also she may make it obvious she wants to be kissed.

If her head seems to be in the right position, and if you (slowly) have your head approach yours, you should be able to judge it, I think. If she looks like she's pulling away, well that means it's a no go.

~~Tsuyoshi~~ · 2011-12-14, 16:42

Quote:

Originally Posted by solomon

Random question I had while debating with my friend on AIM

Is first date too early for kiss or not?

It would depend on a good number of things imho. For instance, how long have you known the person? Something like that would give an idea of how intimate you are with the other. Normally, I wouldn't think of kissing a girl on the first date assuming I haven't known her very long. It would be rather soon for such a thing.

solomon · 2011-12-14, 17:21

I agree but in this case asking about it so soon, I think he's worried about looking like a loser.

It's the "OMG, If I don't make a move she'll think I'm some limp dicked wuss who's afraid to touch a woman" fear, at least from what I infer.

~~Tsuyoshi~~ · 2011-12-14, 18:02

Quote:

Originally Posted by solomon

I agree but in this case asking about it so soon, I think he's worried about looking like a loser.

It's the "OMG, If I don't make a move she'll think I'm some limp dicked wuss who's afraid to touch a woman" fear, at least from what I infer.

Ok, why is he afraid of that? Is it just him or is the girl apparently the type who likes to move fast? If the latter, one needs to remember that not always is that the girl's true face. She may act pretty willing but in the end, she could actually be quite shy about the whole matter. But that's all I'm gonna say about the girl. If it's just his own fear, he should simply go with what happens on the date, relax and be himself, be his own man. I'm quite sure that'll impress her more than anything, regardless of whether or not they kiss. Also, kissing doesn't always mean there's romance. I believe you can have perfectly wonderful romance without kissing every so often. Both he and his date could have a beautiful time together.

Paranoid Android · 2011-12-15, 08:11

Yeah personally, kissing was never something I thought about while dating or in a relationship. It happened or it didn't happen.

I was more focused on things to do together, and sexual intimacy and keeping a careful distance in that regard.

HasuMasu · 2011-12-15, 08:31

Though I said I was fine with it, you probably wouldn't see anything from me, I'm all talk when it comes to this, once the real thing pops up I become shy.

I have this weird thing for unresolved sexual tension.

Paranoid Android · 2011-12-15, 09:22

Anything find it more romantic the more awkward a relationship is? I always have an urge to make things really really awkward on purpose. Maybe because I get to see the other person with their guard down.

Gamer_2k4 · 2011-12-15, 11:16

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Originally Posted by Paranoid Android

Anything find it more romantic the more awkward a relationship is? I always have an urge to make things really really awkward on purpose. Maybe because I get to see the other person with their guard down.

Or up. If I was in an "awkward" relationship, I'd be way more careful and reserved. It's only when you're comfortable with things that you can let your guard down.

Paranoid Android · 2011-12-15, 11:31

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Originally Posted by Gamer_2k4

Or up. If I was in an "awkward" relationship, I'd be way more careful and reserved. It's only when you're comfortable with things that you can let your guard down.

But by being comfortable, it's much easier to keep the guard up because they find things more predictable and can deal with things in a calm and controlled manner.

Who · 2011-12-16, 01:17

Quote:

Originally Posted by Paranoid Android

Anything find it more romantic the more awkward a relationship is? I always have an urge to make things really really awkward on purpose. Maybe because I get to see the other person with their guard down.

I'll get back to you once I get past the awkward walking to up to girl I like, then forgetting what I was going to say. And going "bye".

I'm such a failure. orzorzorzorz

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solomon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Suburban DC	Random question I had while debating with my friend on AIM Is first date too early for kiss or not?

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solomon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Suburban DC	NO kidding? Cause he's trolling forums trying to get the idea of when exactly is the right time so as not to be "awkward".

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solomon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Suburban DC	just for context's sake (provided you are comfortable revealing) are we from venus or mars?

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Ascaloth I don't give a damn, dude Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: In Despair Age: 37	If you've found yourself in a physically intimate position with a girl, that is, sitting close together and/or hugging and/or sitting on your lap etc., that's the right time to try a kiss. Otherwise, don't bother.

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DonQuigleone Knight Errant Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Dublin, Ireland Age: 35	I don't think there's any really good rule about when to kiss. I guess it's better to err on the side of politeness though. But you really need to judge the mood. Also she may make it obvious she wants to be kissed. If her head seems to be in the right position, and if you (slowly) have your head approach yours, you should be able to judge it, I think. If she looks like she's pulling away, well that means it's a no go.

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solomon Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Suburban DC	I agree but in this case asking about it so soon, I think he's worried about looking like a loser. It's the "OMG, If I don't make a move she'll think I'm some limp dicked wuss who's afraid to touch a woman" fear, at least from what I infer.

2011-12-15, 08:11	Link #9855
Paranoid Android Underweight Food Hoarder Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Kitch-Water and T.O., Canada Age: 32	Yeah personally, kissing was never something I thought about while dating or in a relationship. It happened or it didn't happen. I was more focused on things to do together, and sexual intimacy and keeping a careful distance in that regard.

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Paranoid Android Underweight Food Hoarder Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Kitch-Water and T.O., Canada Age: 32	Anything find it more romantic the more awkward a relationship is? I always have an urge to make things really really awkward on purpose. Maybe because I get to see the other person with their guard down.