Dating

[DonQuigleone]

Originally Posted by DevilHighDxD

Has anyone like really like some girl before and began to approach them with the goal making them your gf. But when you're coming very darn close to the goal, you suddenly lost all your interest/feeling for them?

It happened so many times on me that it isn't funny anymore, at first there a girl I really like and I'm seeing and talking with her almost every days until one I completely lost interest in her. From then on I'm actively avoiding seeing her and like there one time she has a same class as me, I used some random excuse to transfer out of that class. She not a yandere btw, we just happened to put in a same class together. She is a nice girl too, just that when I lost interest I feel extreme awkward and weird even by just being near her. Is this like even normal?

This is inevitable, as you get to know girls, they'll lose their mystique, and you'll realise they weren't what you were looking for.

Just be nice about it and move on.

[DonQuigleone]

So I've been out with a few girls now, and the pattern I've been noticing is that I might have 2 or 3 dates, but then the chemistry fizzles out. Now I think I have two problems:

1. The only activities I've been doing is dinners and coffees. There's only so much you can talk before you start to run out of stuff.

2. I haven't really "built up" any intimacy, no kissing or even hand holding. So things basically drift into that "Friend zone" people talk about.

Now I think both problems can be solved with one solution, namely planning a greater variety of activities that also "break" the touch barrier. So far I've only come up with one: Social Dancing (Ballroom, Salsa, Swing etc.). I'm alright at it (though not amazing), it's unique and fun, and it requires physical contact (and so makes future intimacy easier).

However, I'd like to have more possibilities that I can use depending on the interests of the girl in question.

Any date ideas that you have found to give a fun time? I have a first date coming up on Monday that might be a good opportunity to try something out.

[RRW]

Just having interesting convo

1) do you ever in romantic relationship?
2) how do you differentiate like and love?
3) how does it feel to feel in love?

For note I don't have love problem atm. It just I never feel in love

[DonQuigleone]

When you're in love you're a bit obsessed with the person in question. You can't stop thinking about them, and you can't stop looking at them.

That's my figuring of it.

[Nightbat®]

Don't know if anyone is experiencing rains of fire, floods, disease, famine and locusts
But prepare for Armageddon peeps, ...I got a date tomorrow

Odd situation I must say
2 weeks ago I've gotten in contact with a lady

If someone would've said I'd be going out with a financial sector employed, career oriented vegetarian who also likes soccer 10 years ago
Well,.. I'd still be cracking a smile over the idea now if I survived the outburst of laughter then

...but there are a few things in which we connect, and it's not like I would want to meet a lady who's the female variant of me
(I probably also matured a little over those 10 years - emphasis on 'a little' )

after only a week of contact (no mail-bombing back and forth, a few mails a day) she asked to meet 'live' which I consider a good thing:
Spending too much/long time communicating as your 'internet persona' can not work out well in a real life setting

Gotta prevent 2 things now:
-putting my foot in my mouth
-give a damn

The first is always a good thing, I envy a buddy of mine who always had the habit of going silent when he got nervous around a lady he fancied

The second is gonna be hard to pull off
I think it's a testament to my life when I say that I'm less worried about things going wrong, but would be screwed if things go right
From experience I've learned that the more I want/put effort into something, the bigger the chance is for mistakes and disappointment
BUT, in good conscience, I can't downplay the situation into "something trivial"
or treat it with apathy
just because I'm used to things going wrong doesn't mean I want them to, hell, I'm not a masochist

Ah well, I'll find out soon enough

[Nightbat®]

Well, judgment day has been averted for awhile



The lady in question did not feel a 'spark' and therefore decided not to continue further
Consider it a shame, not only did I have a conversation with a girl on equal terms since,...ever
but there was also more common ground than I expected

Can't force what isn't there

Back to the old "Shut off all emotions to continue functioning as expected"

[Kafriel]

Originally Posted by Nightbat®

Well, judgment day has been averted for awhile

The lady in question did not feel a 'spark' and therefore decided not to continue further
Consider it a shame, not only did I have a conversation with a girl on equal terms since,...ever
but there was also more common ground than I expected

Can't force what isn't there

Back to the old "Shut off all emotions to continue functioning as expected"

Sounds just like me right now...back to the old routine of work, food, sleep with the occasional buddy sortie.

[Nightbat®]

I'm able to stay away form the buddy sortie 'till weekend
I've heard the BS cheerups before, and have no illusions that they'll be as shallow as usual

"Yeah, my goal was having a nice chat on a beachterrace, mission accomplished, I can rest peacefully now"
"Ok, since when is failure a boost of selfconfidence? Don't worry, I'll add it to the rest of my 0% succesrate"
"Enjoying the moment? Like that bubblegum I just spat out you mean?"


Edit:
Man!
It's been over a week and that gnawing feeling is beginning to bite...

[Ascaloth]

Alright, so.

For any of the former usual suspects who's still reading and/or still gives a damn, an update on my situation. As of last Friday, 15/8/14, I am officially married.

Granted, my girl and I were simply registering at the local Registry of Marriages, which makes it more like an engagement than anything, and the wedding ceremony or whatever it might be would be held some time next year (in her hometown, for what it's worth). But either way, we're now husband and wife, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

So, end of the dating game for me. You guys and girls keep up the good quest.

[SaintessHeart]

Originally Posted by Ascaloth

Alright, so.

For any of the former usual suspects who's still reading and/or still gives a damn, an update on my situation. As of last Friday, 15/8/14, I am officially married.

Granted, my girl and I were simply registering at the local Registry of Marriages, which makes it more like an engagement than anything, and the wedding ceremony or whatever it might be would be held some time next year (in her hometown, for what it's worth). But either way, we're now husband and wife, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

So, end of the dating game for me. You guys and girls keep up the good quest.

CONGRATULATIONS!

Did you have to apply for a special marriage license?

[Ascaloth]

Originally Posted by SaintessHeart

CONGRATULATIONS!

Did you have to apply for a special marriage license?

Nope, she has an S-pass, so all's good.

And thanks.

[SaintessHeart]

Originally Posted by Ascaloth

Nope, she has an S-pass, so all's good.

And thanks.

What I meant is this. *runs*

Btw when you are having the ceremony drop me a call on what wine you want. I might be able to pull some contacts.

[Ascaloth]

Originally Posted by SaintessHeart

What I meant is this. *runs*

Btw when you are having the ceremony drop me a call on what wine you want. I might be able to pull some contacts.

Heh. I'll shoot you if not for the fact I can see where you're coming from.

And I'll keep that in mind.

[SaintessHeart]

Originally Posted by Ascaloth

Heh. I'll shoot you if not for the fact I can see where you're coming from.

And I'll keep that in mind.

No worries. I got a bunch of contacts I can't wait to utilise. Applying for flat yet?

Can I be the godfather of your daughter-*is shot*.

[Ascaloth]

Originally Posted by SaintessHeart

No worries. I got a bunch of contacts I can't wait to utilise. Applying for flat yet?

Can I be the godfather of your daughter-*is shot*.

Need her to apply and get PR first.

And no.

[SaintessHeart]

Why didn't she apply PR initially? As long as she has a fiance and a stable job, ICA would greenlight it.

And why can't I be the godfather? You can trust me!

[Ascaloth]

She did, wasn't approved. And applying for PR was part of the reason for registering our marriage anyway. Not so easy to get approved these days.

And, still no.

[Kafriel]

GG Ascaloth, congratulations I'm still working on the whole dating thing but it really looks like I'm damn unlucky at times...

- I go camping to meet up with another 30 people.
- 13 of them leave less than 12h after I get there.
- Out of the rest, most girls are 19 year-old locals who come by at six pm and leave at midnight...and the rest (of the general "rest") are already in a relationship >_<

Not that I went camping to meet girls, but...it would have been nice to take one home as a souvenir :P

[Dextro]

Originally Posted by Ascaloth

Alright, so.

For any of the former usual suspects who's still reading and/or still gives a damn, an update on my situation. As of last Friday, 15/8/14, I am officially married.

Granted, my girl and I were simply registering at the local Registry of Marriages, which makes it more like an engagement than anything, and the wedding ceremony or whatever it might be would be held some time next year (in her hometown, for what it's worth). But either way, we're now husband and wife, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

So, end of the dating game for me. You guys and girls keep up the good quest.

WOUH! Congratulations Ascaloth! May you guys have a long and happy marriage together

[Xefi]

Originally Posted by Ascaloth

Alright, so.

For any of the former usual suspects who's still reading and/or still gives a damn, an update on my situation. As of last Friday, 15/8/14, I am officially married.

Granted, my girl and I were simply registering at the local Registry of Marriages, which makes it more like an engagement than anything, and the wedding ceremony or whatever it might be would be held some time next year (in her hometown, for what it's worth). But either way, we're now husband and wife, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

So, end of the dating game for me. You guys and girls keep up the good quest.

wow, grats, yo. i'm still on my dating game for now. i'll report
back as well once i'm officially married with my girl. we both just starting out right now, but i've known her for more than 2 years.

wish me best of luck as i'll also hope for the best for you and your newly waffle, man.