2012-02-04, 14:12 | Link #10082 |
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Dude it's not just teenage girls, it's college girls and 20 somehtings........frankly that the only reason I still give a hoot about Halloween at 24, that and watching the Great Pumpkin.
It probably is the wierdest ass holiday in the known universe. But yea about Pink roses by Hallmark Day? It's only a big deal if you want to dwell on it, I didn't even know it was coming up until someone mentioned it! |
2012-02-04, 14:20 | Link #10083 | |
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While December is nicknamed "Forever-alone Month" Or so I hear.
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2012-02-04, 14:43 | Link #10084 |
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Personally I dont like it, when people go so self pity on themselves and whenever Valentines come up and they start whining about being lonely. There is something really lame about that.
I am in a relationship right now, but that wasnt always so. Last year valentines was the first one I actually celebrated properly, because before that I was either single (most of the time) or in an abusive relationship where the guy couldnt care less about Valentines or me for that matter. And I never whined about not being able to celebrate Valentines with anybody or about not having a relationship. Trust me, it is actually a lot bitterer, when your partner ignores you and your emotional needs, then to be single!!! I speak out of experience. Besides, whats the big deal anyways? If you are single, then you can always continue your daily routine as normal. There is no obligation for you to organize a date for this day, unless of course thats what you want and you make a good use of the opportunity to ask a girl out. There is no reaso to be upset about Valentines and call it the day of the lonely. |
2012-02-04, 14:47 | Link #10085 |
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I, for one, plan on whoring myself out on Valentine's Day and attending every dance/speed dating event going on in campus. Haven't tried it before and sounds like fun. Best that can happen? I find a girl I connect with. Worst that can happen? I have a lot of fun.
In other stories, I hate when guys are way too overprotective of their girlfriends. I tease my roommate's girlfriend about her hiccups and he starts bitching and moaning at me about being an insensitive jerk. Last edited by Who; 2012-02-04 at 15:09. |
2012-02-04, 15:04 | Link #10086 |
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Nothing bad about being over-protective. In fact, if you show a kind of jealousy the more liable a relationship will work out. Don't beleive me? Look at it this way: It tells her you sicnerely care and want to be with her. Being too intense about it though, will of course make her seem like an object to you. All in moderation.
Though hey, maybe we should move this over to the Valentine's thread? I'm just saying it probably needs the attention. No need to derail the dating thread too much. Not like those times in the "post pictures of yourself" thread. Ah, good times... good times. God I'm so sentimental, just shoot me. |
2012-02-04, 15:09 | Link #10087 | |
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On the other hand, it's also possible that the girl would really be fine with it, but the guy is the one who is sensitive and feels that his girlfriend would be sensitive over it, as well.
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2012-02-04, 16:58 | Link #10089 | ||
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Drowning in selfpity has never helped anybody as far as I know. If you are unhappy with a certain situation, then take steps to rectify it = find yourself a gf. And if that is not possible.... and believe me, I have spent long time in the single land to know how difficult it is to find the right person, then find other sense in life. Life doesnt revolve around a relationship. One can lead a fruitful and happy life without one. Quote:
I have been single long enough and felt lonely as well. Yet the world has never heard me whine about the valentines day. It is something for people who have a partner and instead of wasting energy on whining, I rather invest it into something more beneficial. |
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2012-02-04, 17:16 | Link #10090 |
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I only ever feel lonely twice a year, and Valentine's is not one of those times. Never heard of any nicknames for it though...not much goes on either, just a few extra decorations at the mall and stuff. Everything else is pretty much the same, there's no reason to be more emotional than any other day of the year~
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2012-02-04, 17:50 | Link #10091 | |
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When a boyfriend or girlfriend acts protectively it implies that their partner isn't capable of looking after themselves, and implies an inequality in the relationship. That's not right. If I had a partner, I'd only aggresively intercede on her behalf if she wanted me to, and certainly not in a familial situation that she has handled herself for her whole life. @Valentines day: Once I've got a GF, I'm going to make a point of having a romantic dinner on February the 10th or something, and do nothing in particular on the 14th. |
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Of course singles can be happy in spite of Valentine's Day, and of course you can be happy even if you're not in a relationship. I don't think there's anything wrong with feeling a bit down on Valentine's Day if you're single and are interested in dating, though.
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2012-02-04, 18:45 | Link #10093 |
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Eh, where I am, other then a few card shops, there isn't usually much hubbub over Valentines day. Hallmark Holiday and all that.
Also, telling someone "you shouldn't feel bad about what you feel bad about because it's nothing compared to what others go through" doesn't really help much, if anything, it only makes them feel worse. Now, not only can they hate themselves for the original thing, but they on top of that they can hate themselves for being an undeserving depressed drama queen. Not pretty. |
2012-02-04, 20:21 | Link #10094 | |
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And my point was, that even though I have gone through worse, I still didnt complain and others shouldnt either. It is perfectly normal to desire to be in fullfilling relationship and to have somebody to love to.... sure. But it is not normal to whine and drown in self pity. If you are distasisfied, go and do something about it, but for god sake dont make other people enjoying valentines feel like its their fault that you are single and unhappy. Last edited by warita; 2012-02-04 at 20:38. |
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2012-02-04, 21:07 | Link #10095 | |
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2012-02-05, 06:35 | Link #10097 |
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No those are good points. And I am sure a lot of people are taking a light hearted approach to their "ronery" sthtick. It's for people who go above that who DONT have some deablilitating disease to help them find someone that I have a problem with....
I dunno maybe it's cause I am friends with one who is going through some stuff right now... |
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