2009-06-03, 00:12 | Link #161 |
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Hey hey, I was just clarifying Langknow. I'm not calling you a jerk or anything. I'm just saying that you don't seem to have authority over the kid. You're like friends with him. Have you ever expressed your concern over your brother's problem? If so, what were their reactions?
btw, I don't see playing CS constantly as being that big of a deal; I do see his lashing out (i.e. assaulting you with airguns, spending less time on his hw and (I guess?) getting considerably lower marks in school) as where the real concern should be. |
2009-06-03, 01:10 | Link #162 | |
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That said, I was in the same situation the brother was in at the end of 8th grade, throughout 9th grade, and the beginning of 10 grade (now I'm approaching the end of 11th grade). I would often burst in anger, especially when my parents told me to stop playing. The lectures they gave didn't help me, either, because I they kept pointing out my faults (and it was the same thing over and over again). My dad got so mad that sometime he nearly destroyed the computer. After all that, I just graduallly eased out of it, so I have no solution to offer. I think I got out of it because of more pressing school works, desire to improve myself and to do other things I had wanted to do, new addiction to animesuki forum; plus, my playmates quit playing. I can't see him improving without a gradual period of calming down or spending an extended period in a calm environment. You can't reflect fully about what you do/did if you are agitated all the time.
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2009-06-03, 06:59 | Link #164 |
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I am not sure about that though. Most of us did, but we still have remissions when a new game comes out.
Right now I am hooked onto Drummania and Guitarfreaks in the arcade. It seems that I can play real life guitar and drums, but I CAN'T EVEN PLAY DRUMMANIA WITHOUT AUTOBASS!!!! Besides, Counterstrike is boring. Play DOTA instead.
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2009-06-04, 15:01 | Link #166 | |
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2009-06-04, 23:57 | Link #167 | |
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He's in a phase where he doesn't see anything outside of his current video game life. No future, no possibilities - for him, life is all about playing video games. But until he's able to see what more life has to offer, or until he's forced to shoulder the responsibilities of his upcoming adult life... |
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2009-06-09, 04:16 | Link #172 | |
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really the kid is way too spoiled, I wasn't even that spoiled at 17 let alone at 15. Your parents should just stop doing that, he'll bitch and whine or even throw things for a couple days then be cranky for a week or month but after he realizes he isn't getting his way and he has to actually go outside and do things himself he will and this might actually help him realize there is more than just his game and room and would actually force him to go outside |
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2009-06-09, 20:11 | Link #173 |
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I mean this addiction won't pass over time, he has been on CS for at least 2 years by now, and it certainly does not help if a parent keeps buying him accesories to continue his gaming.
If I don't pay the bill, my parents will only yell at me, or kick me out of there house; implying that all of this is my responsibly when in actuality they are way too stubborn to realize they have been literally "feeding" his gaming even further. ~Update Status: Now he has started on StarCraft, and literally he has been sitting around; swapping from CS to StarCraft whenever anyone invites him. All of his online friends are just prolonging this detoriating behavior, and by motivating him to play further - he becomes easily susceptible to playing even longer. My parents are the really typical, most often, stereotyped Korean Parents. Strict, ignorant at many times (believing in ridiculuous superstitions, and implying that they are always right). I find it funny that sometimes the younger generation is actually smarter than the older generation, but the older generation refuses to admit any form of compliance towards us.
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2009-06-09, 20:47 | Link #175 | |
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Not sure if you want to classify your parents as stereotypical Korean parents. :P But seriously, at this point, you should probably leave your brother to see what he's doing to himself. I know you're just looking out for your bro, but he's 17; he needs to learn how to take care of himself and get business done. Let him see for himself what he's doing, since telling him and trying to warn him obviously aren't working. He needs some "hands-on" experience. |
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2009-06-09, 23:57 | Link #176 |
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It seems that your parents like your younger brother than they like you. They would rather kick you out for doing good things rather than kick your brother out for doing wrong things. You may want to plan to start moving out of the house.
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2009-06-10, 01:13 | Link #177 | |
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2009-06-10, 18:21 | Link #179 | |
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2009-06-10, 19:17 | Link #180 |
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Well there's really a few ways to handle this imo...(from personal experience and what not)
1) He gets so frigging good it gets boring -> Yeah...i don't play much, so i can't really relate, but my friend and I got so good at halo 3 and cod 4 + cod5 we just stopped playing...even though we had like 4 hours total playing time on all the games. 2) Limit his playing time -> Don't remove it all at once...that'll turn out really bad. I used to do a 1 hour limit. It's really not that bad. Now i only play like 1 hour every 2 weeks...but then again, maybe it's cuz i like other things as well. (Like a life -> tell him to get a frigging life, go out with a girl or something, stop hanging around guys) 3)...if none of that works really just pull him over and just sit him down and go "why the hell do you keep playing this?" or do a "If you don't get straight A's, we're not letting you play as much", so that he has an incentive to at least work hard in school to get rewarded. The way i see it, make sure he understands that playing games IS NOT A MUST, but rather A REWARD. |
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