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View Poll Results: Do you think physical attractiveness greatly impact a person's life? | |||
Yes. | 82 | 68.91% | |
No. | 5 | 4.20% | |
Maybe. | 23 | 19.33% | |
We choose our on destiny, we can do whatever we want no matter what! | 9 | 7.56% | |
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2009-06-08, 02:06 | Link #121 | |
Obey the Darkly Cute ...
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Here are US Dept. of Agriculture figures for raising a child to age 17 depending on income status (summary: between $124K and $250K) I couldn't determine whether that covered additional costs for sports, music, or other extra-curricular activities. Health insurance for children can run $5000 a year all by itself easily. Most people view sending the child to college as part of raising them (or getting them to a point where they can live independently). That can run as much as $100K-$200K more if you only pay for a BA/BS - highly dependent on undependable things like scholarships, grants, loan availability. Of course, that is in the US. Other countries often handle education a bit differently.
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2009-06-08, 02:53 | Link #122 | |
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Yeah, around 150000 or so seems right now that I think of it. It seems that parents often spend too much on their children though, with negative outcomes. |
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2009-06-08, 04:55 | Link #123 | ||||
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I knew the females are going to send a couple of AT4s in my way. Now I feel real stupid for pointing such out.....
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I can more or less understand what you are pointing at, and we can debate this until the cows / Vexx comes home, but I think you will understand that better when you have a husband, because we men do things you women won't know (unless you plan to marry one of us but not a fellow woman). Otherwise, everything I explain would result in be getting slammed by a bahn hammer due to most of them being NSFW. Now I have became a prominent target practice for a female poster with long hair and bad temper. Quote:
It is how old you support your child UNTIL he is financially independent. There is no age limit. For example, a late developing child needs to be supported until mid 20s or even 30s, thus the long term financial strain that drains and adds to the cost. A child is not just a financial investment, it is also an emotional one. And due to the fact that how he looks can affect his and your future, it is advisable (I don't want to say this, but it is a hard fact in life) that if you look ugly, or have a history of recessive or dysfunctional genes, don't give birth. Everyone suffers and it simply isn't worth it IMO. It is a pity that there isn't enough guns or heartless killers in this world to get rid of those who judge extensively by physical looks.
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2009-06-08, 06:33 | Link #124 |
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^If you're ugly but your partner is beautiful it comes down to lady luck, and no matter how a child looks, their behavior can change what people think of them. I can't say I'm the best-looking guy around, but because I've known the right people nobody dares say anything about me, and through my power of persuasion I've even made people change their minds about what they think of me (from fear to respect to admiration, takes a few months). In turn, these people know other people and by extending the number of chats revolving around me, people I've never met have a good disposition against me and judge the way I ultimately want them to,which is, of course, the most objective and righteous way.[/bragging]
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2009-06-08, 07:12 | Link #125 | |||||||||||||||||
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I don't say I am buying ton of them (Most of the time I just go to the stores and try the clothes or do windows shopping), but the asthonishing quality is there. I don't say that all the pieces of clothes are beautiful. There are a lot of awful clothes and collections (visually), but even so, the quality of the dressmaking is astonishing. And there are a lot of beautiful clothes that you'll never find in normal stores. Quote:
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For example, the creams i buy are very good for me, given how is my skin. Many girls *just* buy things without wondering if it's compatible or not with their skin. You don't buy a foundation cream for normal skin if you have a dry skin. That's utterly stupid and it can actually harm your skin. I don't talk about not having the money for good products, but about those who don't choose properly. Quote:
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About the money, I know a couple of couples who live well even if the girl doesn't have a job because she takes care of their kids. I don't know how it works in the usa, but here it's possible to do good studies even if you're quite poor and to end up with a well-paid job. Not all achieve it, but it's mainly because it requires to work harder than ever at school. Quote:
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You seem to bear hard-feelings and resentment, but you also seem to be aware of many important things (even if you don't inevitably put them in practice). A real crazy and stupid person would not think like that. I might be wrong but you give me the feeling of a prisoner in despair who can't do anything, gets mad at it, says many stupidities without really believing in them, and so do mistakes and bad things, but is [still] not crazy. Quote:
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About the cases of recessive or dysfunctional genes, you may be right ; but I think we can understand how they could also wish for children (having children). Sometimes, it worths it to take the risk. In the documentary that I was talking about, there was that case of two Little persons (dwarfism) who had a good looking normal boy. That boy also bears the recessive or dysfunctional genes even if he looks normal; but he didn't blame his parents. And thanks to the science, maybe one day, we will able to help those people to get rid of those genes. Life is also all about thinking, and taking some risks Last edited by Narona; 2009-06-08 at 07:25. |
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2009-06-08, 07:51 | Link #126 | ||
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a. To boost their own confidence b. To look good for their lovers c. To attract other people and get to meet someone else. d. For any other reason I missed because nobody knows what women want In the case of c, women CAN be at fault for being pretty, but it's just a case. Quote:
Aaaaanyway, to get back on topic, I think most people try to look good for themselves, and if they don't, they should, since it's bad to think bad about yourself,dropping your self-esteem reduces your aptness for taking the initiative and enhances day-dreaming and melancholy. When someone feels they're attractive, then they certainly are, at least to some people (themselves included), and that's as far as one needs to take it. |
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But for the girls here, they usually buy anything that goes on the TV or mags. Pretty much consumer victims. Quote:
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I do understand that these girls want to look good, but over/underdressing is another issue. A really short miniskirt with low cut tube top is just an invitation to a gangbang party, at least wear something over the shoulders. Quote:
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Insulting or not, it is up to them to decide. Sometimes, insults are actually compliments in disguise, not every of them are designed to diss you off. Quote:
I just live by, "Anyone who stands in my way, dies. Screw the moral compass, damn the tact, and see you in hell." Quote:
Break them down, smash their ego to bits then remind them the reason why they get married in the first place. It worked once though. Quote:
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The agony lasts a lifetime. Parents who feel the pain inside, after blaming themselves enough, are most likely to blame the child. The child either : 1. Develops inferiority complex (sociophobic) 2. Develops superiority complex (force of personality) No. 1 will result in reclusive behaviour, extensive paranoia, then a compulsion in order to address his / her flaws. These ones will live longer than their No .2 counterparts, but they will be forever trapped in that loop of compulsion, draining their mental strength that eventually kills off whatever is left of them. No. 2 is better off IMO. The person will stand and fight, but often in extreme ways that would emotionally or physically hurt others. If it drags for too long, it results in delusion, extended superiority complex (god like, messianic judgement). It all eventually implodes in a homicide.
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2009-06-08, 12:33 | Link #128 | ||||||
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First of all, try making your posts less provocative.
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2009-06-08, 13:06 | Link #129 | |
Obey the Darkly Cute ...
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What you're saying is equivalent to "YOU have to wear a hijab, woman, so *I* won't think evil thoughts" bullshit.
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2009-06-08, 13:15 | Link #131 | |
Le fou, c'est moi
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Yeesh, calm down, Saintessheart. Nihilism is only fun to a point you know. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but act like a Beholder and you should rightfully expect scorn.
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For that matter, why are we talking about this? Attractiveness is, well, attractive, while topics involving rape is definitely not, and topics involving blaming the rape victim is, ah... |
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2009-06-08, 13:28 | Link #134 | |
Obey the Darkly Cute ...
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And yes, this is moving way off-topic to whether physical attractiveness makes a difference in life. edit: offline correspondence with Kafriel leads me to expand my statement to "One doesn't have a right to assault another" (self-defense exclusions).
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2009-06-08, 23:01 | Link #136 | |
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@SaintessHeart One can know so much but achieve very little or even nothing at all. It's nice to know that you do help your friends and even other people to leave or diminish their suicidal ways, but it won't really do any harm if you were to be a bit more sensitive to others too especially girls You're somehow limiting yourself and your own capabilities. I know you can do so much more given that you know alot. You can use what you know to help those other "losers" or "non-losers" Anyways, back to the topic, I kinda get irritated at my friends when they go "ewwww, he's ugly" when a guy they don't know sits next to them or whatever, especially when it's a new school year. I just tell my friends "you guys are so mean." And I really do feel sorry for the guy, if it happens that he does hear the comments of my friends. I may have that kind of impression like that too but I don't voice it out. Usually I just forget it since I know that chances are that that person can still win friends even if he/she doesn't have "the looks."
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Thanksfully, it doesn't work like what you say. It would mean that every person who rapes a girl who went in a Club (like the ones there are in Paris), and met new people, could say "she wanted to meet new people so that gives me the right to abuse her". That's BS. Clarify your opinion if i'm wrong. Quote:
Anyways, there are also an unemployment problem among the young people, like in a lot of countries. But still, I still defend our current system because here in France, even poor people can study and try to end up in the best schools, like everyone else. [QUOTE] Quote:
I wanted to make a comparison with jewelry, but let's talk about VG instead. It's kinda the same as if I was saying, "why are you playing current videogames that are so expensive when you can have a Tetris for $1?" I can understand that you could not care about clothes, but don't talk as if the pieces of clothes from a Couturier were the same as the ones that can be found in a supermarket. Quote:
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At the end of the day you might see the difference over the years, between a girl who tries to take care of her body, and one who didn't care. For example, when they say that eating too much can cause you health problems, it's not BS. Beauty and/or youth don't last long, but it doesn't mean that it is BS to try to stay healthly as long as we can. Quote:
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There are also the case of the ones who have a crappy job or not any job at all at 25 and who rely on their parents. Should the parents refuse to help them? Should the children not ask for help? Some times it can be because the person knows that his parents will refuse to help, but some time it's just as if they would lose their dignity if they ask. And that's how some people ended up on the street prostituting themselves. Something that is even more "degrading". What is the best choice? Helping your kid even if he's 25 or letting him fall on the ground and living on the street if he can't pay for a place where he can sleep? What is the best choice? Asking for help to your parents even if you're 25 or to end up on the street if you can't pay for a place where you can sleep? Quote:
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On my side, after having listened to some people ; and when I listen to some sociologists that think it's "good" like it is nowadays; I hate how they talk as if a love relationship was an "open-ended contract". It's as if people were already planning to ditch/divorce from their BF/GF/Husband/Wife after a few/some/many years once the fun will have toned down a bit. I am not against divorce at all, but if I was about to marry somebody, I would not even think of it during one second as a kind of open-ended contract. Quote:
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2009-06-10, 00:00 | Link #139 | ||
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2009-06-10, 06:52 | Link #140 | ||
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That said, even if I disagree, as a girl I personally dislike to play with fire. Since I know that some people can assume things wrongly, and that among them there could be some crazy people, I prefer to be careful. Like never wearing a miniskirt at school. Quote:
I remember one of my friends who told me how his father blamed his wife and son badly. (keep in mind it's just an example, I don't try to imply that only the men do that) And as he said to me, it hurts to be blamed like that while I didn't choose to exist or not. |
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