Have you ever been in LOVE?

[Reaver4k]

I realy dont know what love is. So I cant laugh at some 15 year old kid for trying...

[ff7799]

Originally Posted by Reaver4k

I realy dont know what love is. So I cant laugh at some 15 year old kid for trying...

yes you can, your older than him yet he thinks that he's already got the whole thing figured out.

[Reaver4k]

Originally Posted by ff7799

yes you can, your older than him yet he thinks that he's already got the whole thing figured out.

OKey....

[Zap]

Originally Posted by Kempis Curious

I wanna hear some more successful love stories.

I'm marrying her in May. Is that enough of a successful love story for ya?

Originally Posted by Roots

You're not alone. I turn 22 tomorrow and I've never had a girlfriend. How old are you? When I was younger, say between 15-19, I used to constantly be about not having a girlfriend. But I've gotten used to being alone now and I don't think about it that much anymore. Rather than spending my time aggressively trying to find love, I'm just going to be patient and let it happen naturally. Just find something in your life that you enjoy doing and focus on it and the pain will gradually go away

Guys, don't sweat it. There's nothing wrong with you that getting laid won't fix. Er, ahem, wrong forum... uh, where were we... Don't matter if you think you are old and have never had a girlfriend. There is no rule that says "no GF by age 20 = loser." Do a bit of what Roots said, let it happen naturally, don't focus on it and do stuff you find enjoyable. However, I do suggest all you "never had GF" guys be a bit more proactive. This doesn't mean hanging out at singles bars and reading singles ads. Get out of the house. Unless you find someone online, you can't meet anyone if you don't leave your house. Find things to do which you like and that involve other people. Join in church activities if you are religious (church people are always trying to hook up single members). Take some fun classes at local community colleges. Take dance classes (I made tons of friends in ballroom and C/W dance classes). Do some volunteer work. Whatever it is just make sure it gets you out of the house, is something you enjoy doing and is something done with a group of people.

DO:
- have good hygene. This doesn't mean slather yourself with colone. Just make sure you bathe regularly and brush your teeth. Make sure your laundry gets done. Simple
- not lie. If conversation borders on stuff you don't want to disclose immediately, try changing the subject. If all else fails, truthfully say you aren't comfortable talking about it at this time. Be yourself.
- have a positive outlook. Nobody looks for gloomy people to be friends with. Don't lie about how you feel, just talk about other stuff.
- not ask someone out cold. This means don't walk up to someone and ask them out for a date. This may work on TV and it may work to get a one night stand, but it basically sets you up for failure.
- believe in the maxim "if you don't at first succeed, try, try again."
- not get hung up on trying to date one specific person. Worst thing you can do.
- not be desparate. Women can sense desparation in guys like stink on shit. If you feel desparate, you act desparate. If you act desparate, you've just taken yourself out of the dating pool.
- make friends. Make as many friends as possible, of either gender, of any age. Sometimes events or activities are easier to go to with a friend, meaning you'll go out more often. Friends have other friends. Some of those friends may be women. Some of those women may be single.

Originally Posted by Arwyn

3) You are NOT going to change people. If your going into a relationship thinking "if I could just change these few things, they would be perfect" then your doomed to failure. If you cant accept the good and bad points in a person, get over it an move on, otherwise your just going to make both of you miserable.

5) Dont sweat the small stuff. People aint mind readers, so getting bent over small trivial stuff isnt worth ruining a relationship over.

I like these two. Very good truisms. Some thoughts...

3) Something my mom told me, a story of someone she knew who was complaining about her husband going fishing all the time. That woman was asked if her husband used to go fishing before he met her. She said yes. She was then asked why she expected him to stop fishing even though she knew he enjoyed it prior to them meeting. She didn't have an answer for that.

5) Not getting bent out of shape over small stuff is good, but even better is to not have the small stuff happening. People play games. Oh, they won't say they're playing games but they do, and that can create problems. Example: My former GF (now fiancee) used to not tell me what she wanted. For instance, I'd suggest eating out at whatever place and she would not tell me that she really wanted to go to a different place. Then she would get upset at me for "not noticing." She hardly does that nowadays. Hmmm, guess people can be changed after all.

[Reaver4k]

Whats weird is that i'm rather attractive from what I am told by people(MOstly girls I have shown my pic to online, well only 3 or 4, I should not forget those Gay guys at SFM) the only person who has called me "cute" in real life was some gay guy who was hitting on me. I came close to having a girl friend, But I would not realy count her as one, because she could not make it to the movies and a week later she was going out with some fatass. Probably what scares girls away is that i'm a Nerd(Dont look or dress like one) and i'm an insane evil perverted nutcase

And 100 bucks says I still will be single when i'm 20. But I realy dont care, nor do I get depressed about it(Because I dont think about it, I did get depressed when I did think about it) So dont feel bad about never having a girl friend when your 22, because there are alot of people who are in the same situation, and who needs a girl friend when you have a Computer and Broadband internet?

I will post my picture apon request.

[gunner]

... have you ever been in love ? ...
i dont think soo ..
and i would call a 3 yea relationship love either
..mm .. what is love .. maybe you have to be there to feel it .. but .. you may confuse the word love with other words,
if you want a shoot for love .. you have to think about it ... i dont think that a solution for not having a gf/bf is to not care about it .. maybe that's what's driving the gf/bf away . if you dont care about it .. and u get used to be lonley you will get lonley for sure.. but you'r missing a great part of life ..
maybe you have to serch .. maybe you'r expecting too much out of balance , meet difrent people .. even if they laugh at you .. you have to accept that people will always have diferent opinions .. but you might find some one you like ..
just give it a try .. and if it fails .. dont give up you will have more experience for the next one

[kj1980]

"The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."

[Reaver4k]

Yeah, and my Dreams are very very messed up

[Kal-Rhael]

Nope, loves not for everyone, i can imagine if i ever did i would miss being alone again, it's a no win situation. When your alone you long for somebody, but when your with them, you long to be alone again.

But that's just for me, i know some people can't stand being away from those they love, but w/e, it's just not for meh!

[ChainLegacy]

No, I think I'm too young to be in love, really, but I have had those miserably depressing and awkward obsessions over girls I was interested in having a 'relationship' with... Relationship.. Feh... All kids my age do are go on a few dates and break up. The good looking and/or confident ones get sex. That's about it. I have seriously never met another male of my age with the same outlook on relationships as myself. Just another reason why I find the majority of kids I've met a waste of time, they're either robotically nerdy in that all they talk about are video games or are shallow sex driven immature freaks.. The latter seems to be the more populated group.

Hell, I would seriously enjoy being in a more adult relationship with a girl I actually could have some fun with. Someone I could talk to; someone that understands my feelings. People like that seem to be few and far between. Really, I've come to the conclusion that being 15 basically sucks. I don't like anything about it, this is no exception. Of course this entire post seems negative and I guess I'm just venting, but this is a topic I seriously have been pondering over the last couple of days, maybe it was sparked by my meeting of a girl I have a lot in common with; a girl I WOULD enjoy maybe falling in love with, but what am I supposed to do?

I've heard the egomaniacs' explanation as to why I can't love; "ure 2 stoopid cuz ure yung!1," and as much as I resent it, it is actually kind of true for kids my age. Then again, eventually these confident guys will mature and they'll have more experience, yatta yatta, they'll have a leg up on me, but, as I stated numerous times before, the typical 15 year old dating relationship is, to me, stupid. Most girls my age are "MADLY BURNING IN LOVE WITH THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE" and the guys are stoners who think between their legs.

What is up with that, anyways? Why in the name of god would any girl fall in love with SKATERDVSBOI23898 just because he is 'cool'; he wears 'cool' clothes and does 'cool' things (that include smoking weed, hey, this sounds pretty 'cool' to me, maybe I should try it and some girls will "LOVE ME WITH ALL THEIR HEART <33333").

[DwArD]

Love....that's a sensitive topic. Ok, you're talking about the love for your family or friends or.....? Love is a very big word. Everyone had been in love at least once in their lifetime. Actually, for teenagers like us, its more like infatuation. Or at least that's what I think. Personally, I've been trying to reject that sort of feeling. Can't blame me though, I've been very very pessimistic ever since I was a kid. I don't have much confidence in myself. Besides, this is a sensitive issue to most traditional chinese families. For example, my grandmother personally believed that teenagers shouldn't be involved in this sort of relationship. They should concentrate on their studies instead. I actually supported that to a certain extent, so you can say I'm a pretty traditional guy as well. Love....I guess I'll just leave that to fate then. So far, I still haven't met someone who makes me go crazy......