Dating

[synaesthetic]

yes, yes it does.

Edit: you brought back the animated Minna icon.

[Kaijo]

Somewhat off topic, but I recall someone who wanted me to stop talking about myself once. I find the contrast just a tad hypocritical, but I'm more amused than anything else.

[Jinto]

Let them have their fun and joyful moments (even here) Kaijo, they are young and happy now. ^^

[Kaijo]

Oh, to be perfectly honest, I don't care one way or the other. As I said, I'm just more amused by the contradiction, heh. 'Course, I have no problems playing the big bad when needed, too. ;p

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by synaesthetic

yes, yes it does.

Oi, oi, I haven't had my harem all together in over a year now, I doubt I still count as a Harem Mistress.

... That sounded so much more innocent in my head.

[GN0010 Nosferatu]

Well today I'm meeting my dad's girlfriend. He's been head over heels for this one like you wouldn't believe.

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by GN0010 Nosferatu

Well today I'm meeting my dad's girlfriend. He's been head over heels for this one like you wouldn't believe.

Oh, hey, you mentioned her to me once or twice over AIM. Hope it goes well for you. ^^

[mindovermatter]

hope you guys get along well. If he likes her, it would be great to have everyone be happy

[GN0010 Nosferatu]

Well the meeting went pretty good. Her name is Wanda btw. She was really nervous to meet me from what I heard, and saw. She's a really nice lady, very joyous and up beat, and quite the looker. My pops has good taste, I'll give him that.

We saw Hereafter together (her idea), movie sucked ass, but I was happy to finally meet her. She kept apologizing about the movie though, I kept telling her it was ok.

[cheyannew]

Originally Posted by GN0010 Nosferatu

Well the meeting went pretty good. Her name is Wanda btw. She was really nervous to meet me from what I heard, and saw. She's a really nice lady, very joyous and up beat, and quite the looker. My pops has good taste, I'll give him that.

We saw Hereafter together (her idea), movie sucked ass, but I was happy to finally meet her. She kept apologizing about the movie though, I kept telling her it was ok.

Aww, I'm so glad you guys seemed to hit it off! What a relief for you AND your dad!

Here's hoping for many years of joy for him

I was wondering how it went earlier tonight hehehe was going to bug you for an update

[zebra]

Originally Posted by GN0010 Nosferatu

Well the meeting went pretty good. Her name is Wanda btw. She was really nervous to meet me from what I heard, and saw. She's a really nice lady, very joyous and up beat, and quite the looker. My pops has good taste, I'll give him that.

We saw Hereafter together (her idea), movie sucked ass, but I was happy to finally meet her. She kept apologizing about the movie though, I kept telling her it was ok.

That's good to hear! Glad she's nice and you get along :3

[Ascaloth]

Update on my situation:

Everything's been going peachy relationship-wise, but not so much in general when it comes to her life. Ever since graduating, she's been looking for a job for 5 months to no avail, while having had to see me pick up a (albeit temporary) job. This is not helped by the fact that her problem is not that employers don't want her; rather, as a non-local, she has to apply for an employment pass from the Ministry of Manpower, which rejected her first application due to a minor technical detail. That first application was filed by an employer who was already keen to hire her, in fact, but it's been 2 months and still no word.

Now, these days she's getting deeper and deeper into funk as she keeps waiting for word on her status, and I'm kind of running low on platitudes here. What else could I say or do to cheer her up, and if you're from my cramped corner of the world, what options can I explore to actually be of some help to her?

[zebra]

Originally Posted by Ascaloth

Now, these days she's getting deeper and deeper into funk as she keeps waiting for word on her status, and I'm kind of running low on platitudes here. What else could I say or do to cheer her up, and if you're from my cramped corner of the world, what options can I explore to actually be of some help to her?

You're already doing things right from my point of view. Support her, try to cheer her up, be understanding - she seems to just have it rocky atm, but things will turn out for the better eventually. There's not much you can do other than that.
Call her out on it if she behaves too out of line, but assure her that you'll support her and stay by her side. The most important thing is patience, you being there is very valuable when she's down, I bet

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by Ascaloth

Update on my situation:

Everything's been going peachy relationship-wise, but not so much in general when it comes to her life. Ever since graduating, she's been looking for a job for 5 months to no avail, while having had to see me pick up a (albeit temporary) job. This is not helped by the fact that her problem is not that employers don't want her; rather, as a non-local, she has to apply for an employment pass from the Ministry of Manpower, which rejected her first application due to a minor technical detail. That first application was filed by an employer who was already keen to hire her, in fact, but it's been 2 months and still no word.

Now, these days she's getting deeper and deeper into funk as she keeps waiting for word on her status, and I'm kind of running low on platitudes here. What else could I say or do to cheer her up, and if you're from my cramped corner of the world, what options can I explore to actually be of some help to her?

Ouchies, unemployment, fun. I feel your pain; while not quite the same, my father has been unemployed for roughly two years, and I've been the one person he really talks to about it for some reason or another. I think for now you're doing fine as you are, like Zebra said; you're comforting her and giving her support when she needs it, and don't be afraid to rein her in if she starts to become a little too much to handle. There's really nothing else you can do at this point but give her a shoulder to lean on until she manages to find a job.

[Kafriel]

If she's desperate for work in order to fulfill her working needs, there can never be enough waitresses/cashiers/saleswomen in the world. If she's after something specific, I think there should be an office for the unemployed to get a job, no idea on their lists and crowd though.

[synaesthetic]

@Kafriel: Sometimes it's not even possible to get a shit job. I should know this, as I've been trying for nearly eighteen months to just get any job, and the best I was able to do was a temporary four-month stint as a street-sweeper.

[SaintessHeart]

Originally Posted by Ascaloth

Update on my situation:

Everything's been going peachy relationship-wise, but not so much in general when it comes to her life. Ever since graduating, she's been looking for a job for 5 months to no avail, while having had to see me pick up a (albeit temporary) job. This is not helped by the fact that her problem is not that employers don't want her; rather, as a non-local, she has to apply for an employment pass from the Ministry of Manpower, which rejected her first application due to a minor technical detail. That first application was filed by an employer who was already keen to hire her, in fact, but it's been 2 months and still no word.

Now, these days she's getting deeper and deeper into funk as she keeps waiting for word on her status, and I'm kind of running low on platitudes here. What else could I say or do to cheer her up, and if you're from my cramped corner of the world, what options can I explore to actually be of some help to her?

What kind of employment pass is she holding? If she is holding a pass that allows her to take up temp jobs, she must as well take up a temp.

I sent you a PM on a hire opportunity, with some info that has been provided by you about her in this thread. If the employment pass is not ready, it is time to hammer them - employment pass registrations don't take that long.

Originally Posted by synaesthetic

@Kafriel: Sometimes it's not even possible to get a shit job. I should know this, as I've been trying for nearly eighteen months to just get any job, and the best I was able to do was a temporary four-month stint as a street-sweeper.

I got a PT job at a music bookshop and seriously, I don't really like it. I am just there for the money.

On the other hand, I have people pulling my strings to get them all sorts of weird stuff from overseas, or asking me to help them with computer repairs. Maybe I should start charging, or go back to jumping from temp-to-temp.

[Samari]

Originally Posted by Ascaloth

Update on my situation:

Everything's been going peachy relationship-wise, but not so much in general when it comes to her life. Ever since graduating, she's been looking for a job for 5 months to no avail, while having had to see me pick up a (albeit temporary) job. This is not helped by the fact that her problem is not that employers don't want her; rather, as a non-local, she has to apply for an employment pass from the Ministry of Manpower, which rejected her first application due to a minor technical detail. That first application was filed by an employer who was already keen to hire her, in fact, but it's been 2 months and still no word.

Now, these days she's getting deeper and deeper into funk as she keeps waiting for word on her status, and I'm kind of running low on platitudes here. What else could I say or do to cheer her up, and if you're from my cramped corner of the world, what options can I explore to actually be of some help to her?

Just stay on the grind and tell her not to give up. I suppose. What else can you do? Unless you can assist her in her job search for whatever it is she does.

[Last Sinner]

On top of what's been said already, the other thing I would think of doing is contacting the watchdogs for this employment pass system and other similar employment issues. There should be authorities or people employed to oversee the process and scrutinise it (in Australia they're called the Ombudsman, no idea if that would be the term in your area). Two months to process an employment pass?! I don't buy that at all. Your girlfriend has rights and there should be people she can contact to assist her.

I would also advise to find ways to keep her active and mentally stimulated. Exercise, planning chores - whatever gets her going.

[Ascaloth]

Originally Posted by Last Sinner

On top of what's been said already, the other thing I would think of doing is contacting the watchdogs for this employment pass system and other similar employment issues. There should be authorities or people employed to oversee the process and scrutinise it (in Australia they're called the Ombudsman, no idea if that would be the term in your area). Two months to process an employment pass?! I don't buy that at all. Your girlfriend has rights and there should be people she can contact to assist her.

I would also advise to find ways to keep her active and mentally stimulated. Exercise, planning chores - whatever gets her going.

Well.....

1) The employment pass in question is from the Ministry of Manpower here. I don't think it's an issue of watchdogs.

2) It's not really 2 months for processing an employment pass; it's that amount of time for an appeal. Her initial one got rejected for a minor technical detail, like I said earlier. And I did hear that appeals take quite a bit of time over here.

But anyway, thanks for the suggestions. Since I'm working myself, I can't spend that much time with her....but that's hardly an issue, at least for this girl, since she's very motivated in keeping herself occupied.

And thanks to everyone else as well. I'll keep doing my best in lifting her mood. Just hope good news will come soon for her.