Dating

[King Lycan]

Originally Posted by Ascaloth

Not enough info, dude. What do you mean by 'total ass'?

I try to start a conversation all she says is "bye"

[Ascaloth]

Originally Posted by King Lycan

I try to start a conversation all she says is "bye"

She could be busy with her own stuff at home? She just doesn't like conversing online? Maybe she's avoiding you because the impression that she likes you is all in your own head, and she's polite to you in public only because she doesn't have a choice otherwise?

There could be so many reasons for this sort of behaviour, you know. Best thing you can do is to call her out on it, and get the full story.

[Ledgem]

Originally Posted by King Lycan

I try to start a conversation all she says is "bye"

That's weird... you'd think that she'd just ignore you if she didn't want to have a conversation. Saying "bye" seems like she's either snubbing you, or something else. Maybe she thinks it's a joke? Have you tried asking her about it?

[King Lycan]

Originally Posted by Ascaloth

She could be busy with her own stuff at home? She just doesn't like conversing online? Maybe she's avoiding you because the impression that she likes you is all in your own head, and she's polite to you in public only because she doesn't have a choice otherwise?

There could be so many reasons for this sort of behaviour, you know. Best thing you can do is to call her out on it, and get the full story.

Oh no its not in my head lol I'm pretty sure ( a lot of drunk calls )

Originally Posted by Ledgem

That's weird... you'd think that she'd just ignore you if she didn't want to have a conversation. Saying "bye" seems like she's either snubbing you, or something else. Maybe she thinks it's a joke? Have you tried asking her about it?

I will ask her but I think she's jealous of the attention I've been giving one of our mutual friends (another girl I like). I thank Twitter for that it seems like every girl knows every other girl around here

[warita]

Originally Posted by King Lycan

Oh no its not in my head lol I'm pretty sure ( a lot of drunk calls )



I will ask her but I think she's jealous of the attention I've been giving one of our mutual friends (another girl I like). I thank Twitter for that it seems like every girl knows every other girl around here

God I hate social networks and how people "burb and fart" everything on them.

For that reason I dont share any personal info on FB and I never really understood the purpose of twitter.

King Lycan, how old is that girl? That behaviour reminds me of teenie antics. In case she is a teenager, than it is a normal behaviour She will grow out of it eventually.

Btw, is the other girl you like equally complicated? If not, maybe you want to concentrate your attention on the second, it will be less of a rollercoaster ride.

[germanturkey]

I need someone to know this. Need to get it off my chest.

If I could ask her one thing, it would be, "Did I ever have a chance to begin with?"

[MUAHAHAHAHAHA]

Originally Posted by germanturkey

I need someone to know this. Need to get it off my chest.

If I could ask her one thing, it would be, "Did I ever have a chance to begin with?"

I understand that feeling. I couldn't help but think what could have been if things work out

[Endless Soul]

Originally Posted by MUAHAHAHAHAHA

I understand that feeling. I couldn't help but think what could have been if things work out

We all think about what-ifs and what-might-have-beens. More so as we get older. I think it's only natural to think about the different directions your life might have taken.

What if I took the computer job instead of the retail job?

What if I kissed Marjorie that night on the beach instead of chickening out?

In the end, where you are today is usually because of the decisions you made earlier in life whether they were good or bad decisions. Either way, they are in the past and cannot be changed.

Also, while it might be entertaining for a while to think about what-ifs, it's best not to dwell too much on them. Even with the bad decisions I made in my life, if I didn't make them, I would never have met my wife, and there certainly would not be the daughter that I love and cherish now.

Endless "No regrets" Soul

[Gamer_2k4]

Originally Posted by germanturkey

I need someone to know this. Need to get it off my chest.

If I could ask her one thing, it would be, "Did I ever have a chance to begin with?"

In my opinion, you learn a lot more from failed relationships than from successful ones. I had a six month relationship with a girl, that, had I known then what I do now, was clearly doomed from the start. There was a lot of fighting and frustration, despite the few good times, and I don't think I was ever really happy. Would I take it back, though? Absolutely not.

[GDB]

But you only need one successful relationship. The only way those end is death or if it turns into a failed relationship, thus no longer being the "one" successful one you need. And if it ends via death, then you have a 50% shot of no longer having to deal with that problem anyway.

[Gamer_2k4]

Originally Posted by GDB

But you only need one successful relationship. The only way those end is death or if it turns into a failed relationship, thus no longer being the "one" successful one you need. And if it ends via death, then you have a 50% shot of no longer having to deal with that problem anyway.

That's not really how statistics work...it's like saying I can either win or not win the lottery, so I have a 50% chance of winning. Not quite.

And relationships, like anything else, get better with practice. Sure, you only need one successful relationship, but the lessons you have to learn to make a relationship successful often come from failed ones. Are there lucky people who found the love of their life on the first try? I'm sure there are. I'm also sure they're in the minority.

[warita]

Originally Posted by Gamer_2k4

And relationships, like anything else, get better with practice. Sure, you only need one successful relationship, but the lessons you have to learn to make a relationship successful often come from failed ones.

That is very true. I dont regard any of my failed relationships as lost time, no matter how horrible and destructive they were. If nothing else, I learned about what people are capable of and I also learned from my own mistakes.

[AmandaFields]

Well, to put my two cents in, I've been rejected by every guy I've ever asked out or told that I've liked him; rejection usually including insults. Although not always related, I've also had guys beat me up before. The last guy to reject me rejected me yesterday and I'm just about at the point now to where I'd rather just stop trying. Period. Considering that there are girls at my school that are DECENT HUMAN BEINGS that communicate with me WITHOUT INSULTING ME OR BULLYING ME and some of them happen to be lesbian or bi; and I'm somewhat bicurious, I may try and date a girl. Not sure. Then again, since I'll start taking college courses this summer, I may just wait until then to consider my next course of action; or just say screw it and forget it all.

[GDB]

Originally Posted by Gamer_2k4

That's not really how statistics work...it's like saying I can either win or not win the lottery, so I have a 50% chance of winning. Not quite.

Except when you win the lottery, there's no reason not to keep playing. If you have a successful relationship, and you try to get another, then clearly the first one either isn't successful or they died and you finally got over it.

[synaesthetic]

Originally Posted by AmandaFields

Well, to put my two cents in, I've been rejected by every guy I've ever asked out or told that I've liked him; rejection usually including insults. Although not always related, I've also had guys beat me up before. The last guy to reject me rejected me yesterday and I'm just about at the point now to where I'd rather just stop trying. Period. Considering that there are girls at my school that are DECENT HUMAN BEINGS that communicate with me WITHOUT INSULTING ME OR BULLYING ME and some of them happen to be lesbian or bi; and I'm somewhat bicurious, I may try and date a girl. Not sure. Then again, since I'll start taking college courses this summer, I may just wait until then to consider my next course of action; or just say screw it and forget it all.

You can't switch your sexuality purely because boys are mean to you. If you are turned on by penis, even if all the available penises in the area are attached to assholes, this will not mean you will find a relationship to another girl very fulfilling.

I am a lesbian, and I can tell you with absolute certainty that even if all the women in my area were total douchenozzles who didn't want to date me, verbally abused me when I asked and/or attempted to physically assault me, it would still not make me like cock. Even if all the girls vanished and all that remained was a bunch of guys and me, I would remain sexually attracted to women.

So think about this for a minute. Are you actually attracted to girls? Do you find yourself checking other girls out on the street? Would you get off on a good yuri manga (the kind with actual yuri in it, not that overdramatic stuff)? And another question--one that was fairly pertinent to figuring out my own sexuality--does your own body turn you on a bit?

If you answer no to these questions, you are probably not sexually attracted to girls.

If there's no attraction, dating a bisexual girl or a lesbian will probably end in tragedy, or at least it just won't last very long. And you'll probably get really weirded out if you try to have sex.

[warita]

I notice that sometimes you have more luck, when you stop trying. Love usually comes suddenly out of the blue.

[MUAHAHAHAHAHA]

Originally Posted by warita

I notice that sometimes you have more luck, when you stop trying. Love usually comes suddenly out of the blue.

I agree. My number one rule for dating is to appear less desperate, and to go with the flow. More importantly, be yourself. I tried to appear different to impress before, but looking back, I shouldn't have done that.

[AmandaFields]

Originally Posted by synaesthetic

You can't switch your sexuality purely because boys are mean to you. If you are turned on by penis, even if all the available penises in the area are attached to assholes, this will not mean you will find a relationship to another girl very fulfilling.

I am a lesbian, and I can tell you with absolute certainty that even if all the women in my area were total douchenozzles who didn't want to date me, verbally abused me when I asked and/or attempted to physically assault me, it would still not make me like cock. Even if all the girls vanished and all that remained was a bunch of guys and me, I would remain sexually attracted to women.

So think about this for a minute. Are you actually attracted to girls? Do you find yourself checking other girls out on the street? Would you get off on a good yuri manga (the kind with actual yuri in it, not that overdramatic stuff)? And another question--one that was fairly pertinent to figuring out my own sexuality--does your own body turn you on a bit?

If you answer no to these questions, you are probably not sexually attracted to girls.

If there's no attraction, dating a bisexual girl or a lesbian will probably end in tragedy, or at least it just won't last very long. And you'll probably get really weirded out if you try to have sex.

I do check out girls at school, and I do like yuri manga, and my own body does actually turn me on a bit, so maybe I would be okay with a girl. I mean I'm not saying that I am definitely bisexual, and I know for a fact I'm not lesbian because I'm still attracted to men; I am definitely more attracted to men, but I am also attracted to woman, to a lesser extent. Really I think I'm just going to give up on all this crap and just stick to anime guys/girls. Less abuse and rejection from "people" that don't exist. I really do get your point though.

[synaesthetic]

Originally Posted by warita

I notice that sometimes you have more luck, when you stop trying. Love usually comes suddenly out of the blue.

There is more truth to this statement than many others.

Originally Posted by AmandaFields

I do check out girls at school, and I do like yuri manga, and my own body does actually turn me on a bit, so maybe I would be okay with a girl. I mean I'm not saying that I am definitely bisexual, and I know for a fact I'm not lesbian because I'm still attracted to men; I am definitely more attracted to men, but I am also attracted to woman, to a lesser extent. Really I think I'm just going to give up on all this crap and just stick to anime guys/girls. Less abuse and rejection from "people" that don't exist. I really do get your point though.

If you think you'd like to try it, go ahead and give it a shot. I'm not going to try and convince someone they aren't bi if they are.

[SaintessHeart]

I just met a cute girl at work today.

She's worldly, small sized, social and adorable by current standards. She talks to me! And she knows anime and manga!

Until she said that her favourite characters are from Kuroshitshuji and Prince of Tennis; and her favourite pairings are between male characters.

She's a dirty little fujoshi.

FML.