2009-10-19, 04:48 | Link #1961 | |
Love Conquers All!
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: The Suzumiya Haruhi Section of AnimeSuki, (I placed my main Otaku HQ box there)
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So not that much difference. But it would be nice to hear some girls questions about guys for a change (not that I'm saying the guys questions are bad, I just mean it would be a bit of a change for once)
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2009-10-19, 05:17 | Link #1962 |
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Northern VA
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I hate to be blunt, but I will...
In my experience, the reason females don't as for dating advice as much as males do is simple: We don't have to. We can go to a man in a club, bar, room, whatever, bat our eyelashes and take him home if we want. Not always, and that's a very broad generalization. I would never walk up to a stranger in a bar or whatever, but I know that I CAN if I ever choose to. But if a male were to try to do the same thing, he's a pig, or whatever and will probably get slapped in the face. I'm not saying it's right, but that's just how it is. Females get to pick and choose, males are busy trying to compete with one another to catch the eye of the females; it's animal nature, and humans are after all, animals.
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2009-10-19, 05:35 | Link #1963 | |||
I'll end it before April.
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"Cherie, tu es aussi belle qu'un big mac, aussi savoureuse qu'un steak haché et aussi pur qu'un Mac Fleury, tu es le big mac de ma vie. Epouse moi ! " A true lover sentence
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2009-10-19, 05:43 | Link #1964 | |
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Location: Northern VA
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In this day and age, people who have sex with total strangers (random guy/girl from a bar etc) are taking their own life into their hands, and I point blank would not be intimate with someone who practices that lifestyle without a LOT of testing beforehand, and an assurance that, once with me, those days are over. I have had sexual relationships with people I didn't plan on being with, but we're talking casual dating for a few weeks, keeping one another company etc, not going to a bar or club and playing eeny meeny miney mo for whose STDs I want to catch that night. blech LOL BUT while I may disapprove on the basis of health reasons (frankly I could care less if people want 50 friends with benefits relationships, it doesn't affect me), people are free to be with who they please. *I* just won't touch them, and that's because I treasure my health. My girlfriend and her husband have known me for... oh gods, 15+ years, when I met him, we lived together for a year and split. Her? I've known over 6 years, and know where they've both been. Safe sex is still practiced, because we're not spending the rest of our lives together. My husband and I obviously do not have such issues, as we will be together till one of us kicks the bucket.
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2009-10-19, 05:47 | Link #1965 | |
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My interest is piqued by the body, but it's held by the mind. I make it a policy to always date women who are smarter than I am--it helps keep me out of trouble, you see, and plus smart people are far more interesting. Now I'll freely admit that if a girl is really hideous, I'm probably not going to want to tumble between the sheets with her. I'm definitely self-aware enough to know that there's a limit to what I can tolerate physically. When it comes to looks, I'm pretty forgiving if there's a sharp mind behind those eyes. But everyone has their limits. If you think that's shallow, that's your issue, not mine. Personal preferences are personal preferences, and everyone has them. Would you think it's shallow that I dislike ketchup? ^^;
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2009-10-19, 05:56 | Link #1966 | |
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My husband and I didn't meet and go "Well, I suspect that is a right intelligent witty person!" and then decide to start dating LOL We looked at one another and went "rawr" (more or less) and decided to get to know one another better, which led to "dating" such as it was, moving in together and exchanging vows (I honestly didn't date him much, we met in Oct, moved in together in Nov and exchanged vows in dec of 96, but that worked for us) I have to agree with synaesthetic, while I won't STAY with someone who's just not up to par/at my level, I also wouldn't likely take the time to really get to know them unless there was something that initially piqued my interest, whether it's someone's eyes, their body, whatever. I have "dated" people whose looks caught my eye only to find out they're complete numbskulls, or whatever, and broke that off as gently as possible.
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2009-10-19, 06:04 | Link #1967 | ||
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Join Date: May 2008
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They're also awesome to flirt with and exchange in witty banter, lol. So for a few girls, they probably already have sources outside of this website and here is heavily moderated too. We like to chat, so mediums such as Skype or IMs work better ^^ That and the ratio here gender wise heavilly falls onto men, especially in the GC forum, so no, never gonna really get a balance.
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2009-10-19, 06:10 | Link #1968 | |
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Not even close to the Caribbean anymore
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In my case, I mostly ask advice from close friends and if I feel that someone here might provide me with good advice due to the insights of his/her posts, I PM the person about my issue.
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2009-10-19, 06:26 | Link #1970 | ||
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And that's also one of my main issues against people who are unfaithful. Reports about men/women who were unfaithful, got an STD without knowing it, then infect their wife/husband just digust me. It's just horrible from my point of view. Besides the betrayal, to jeopardize the life of a person you claim to love is just horrible. That leads me to talk about girls who say "I don't consider that I am unfaithful, because i stay faithful to myself". And I reply "but what about your lover ("main" BF)? He trusts you and all. It's ok for you to say "i stay faithful to "myself", but you still betray somebody who trust you and love you. So you only think about yourself. I see no problem in seeing men/women who date another man/woman IF their BF/GF/husband/Wife is aware of it because they told him/her, and is ok with it. But not when people try to hide the fact that they only think about themselves and betray people as if it was not wrong. I Just added what you didn't. Because not everyone from here talks to you on MSN, and some people might think that beside the disagreement, you show no respect towards the choices of those people. Which would be false. Quote:
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2009-10-19, 07:16 | Link #1971 | |
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Location: Northern VA
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There was a... female.. to be kind, at my old job, who decided she didn't want to be with her husband anymore. Later, she told her/my boss and I that he had given her herpes. Well, Long story short, her hubby tested negative for it, as did the guy she cheated on her hubby with. So, it must've been the guy she cheated on the guy she cheated on her hubby with (yes, you read that right, her hubby and her weren't legally separated and she was sleeping w/ someone then decided she didn't want to be w/ them and started sleeping with someone ELSE before breaking it off fully). I still call that poetic justice and snicker to this day. I think her nickname of Herpesaurus Rex still gets said, even a year after the fact. Why anyone would be that disgusting and careless, I don't know... But there you have it...
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2009-10-19, 08:27 | Link #1972 | |||
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2009-10-19, 09:34 | Link #1973 | |
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I don't really understand why so many people see French as the Love language XD. Love can be expressed in any language ^o^
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2009-10-19, 09:55 | Link #1974 | |
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Il problema sta nel fatto che è la mia lingua quella dell'amore (the problem lies in the fact that my language is the one of love) and I should also mention this is an english speaking forum Having said that Quote:
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2009-10-19, 12:16 | Link #1975 | |
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: The land of tempura
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About the whole girls vs boys thing in this thread: I think males are more likely to trust what amounts to strangers in a forum thread than women are. I believe that most women are able to have stronger bounds with friends and hence use those friends for advice than most males will but that's just my completely unscientific opinion there.
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2009-10-19, 12:47 | Link #1976 | |||
I'll end it before April.
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I don't like people who date other people just for fun or just go out on a date for sex. In my family, as I said many time, we're not like that at all. My parent are together since high-school and my sister have had only two boyfriend in their life. And for me it's something normal. I mean when you're going out with someone, it means that you love her and that you try to build a serious relationship. And nowaday, I think that's less and less the case >_> Quote:
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2009-10-19, 13:19 | Link #1979 | |
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I have, in the past been called promiscuous, when in fact, I can name every person I have ever been with, when, and so on, and if you think about it, in over 20 years, that's not THAT many (seriously it's less than a dozen, and I've been w/ my hubby for nearly 13 years now, with only 2 partners outside of my marriage, one of which was my ex so he didn't count twice, so that's 3 people in 13 years). Sex has transitioned from an all but marital act (there were many cultures who felt if you had sex you were married), to an almost purely physical one. That makes finding "the one" a lot harder, IMO. That may differ from culture to culture, I can't speak for anywhere but where I have grown up for 30+ years, and here, dating's just a kind of trial thing; MOST relationships that begin as dating do NOT continue much past the dating part (which generally does involve sex). Then again sadly most marriages, engagements, etc don't last that long either. Sad state of affairs. I suspect, though, that the future generations will actually reclaim the "old ways"; as awareness about STDs, divorce rates, etc rise, I believe the young will go "wow, don't want that" and begin to look at dating as a more long term thing, not something to jump into, and so on. I can hope, at least, as I've no desire to be a grandmother yet A decade from now, fine, but not YET.
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2009-10-19, 17:07 | Link #1980 |
Counting days
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Not even close to the Caribbean anymore
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Since at least one guy has mentioned that he doesn't see many dating questions from females, I am bringing one, even though I have to admit I feel a bit silly asking it. And I'm not even sure if it's a proper dating question, but here goes.
My best friend is teaching me how to knit and she insists that guys love hand knitted stuff, like a scarf for example? Of course she watches a lot of anime (probably more than I do ) So... err... Is this true? Is a hand knit... scarf... a nice gift when in a relationship? Of course, in the case of living somewhere where winter exists.
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