2011-02-23, 12:24 | Link #8281 | |
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: The Neverlands
Age: 46
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2011-02-23, 13:37 | Link #8282 | |
Yuri ĩ'serator
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: FL, USA
Age: 36
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And it's better she tells you the truth at the beginning, then for you to slowly find out about it while being with her for months/weeks isn't it?
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2011-02-23, 13:49 | Link #8283 | |
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+1 this message is too short to post, so says the system. so. tehmuffinmon you'll meet plenty of ppl, if you TRY. i don't try at all and i still get to meet interesting ppl. i spend 80 % of my free time staring at the computer screen. i even met a VERY smart girl. thats like a goldmine.
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2011-02-23, 16:12 | Link #8285 | |
Seleįão
Join Date: Jan 2011
Age: 32
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I don't even know exactly what I meant in retrospect, I was somewhat drowsy when I wrote that. I didn't mean to come across as a prick or anything, I just haven't been in a relationship in quite some time and have been leaning towards giving her a shot, but I'm conflicted because of the aforementioned problems. EDIT - Bah, "giving her a shot" sounds a bit objectifying. Essentially I liked where things were going and honestly believed there was some level of chemistry, and figured that a relationship could easily come out of it. But now I'm leaning more towards that not being a good idea, for both myself and for her. I'd feel terrible for hurting her, and that's the last thing I want. And I wouldn't 'keep a girl for my own convenience', because that would be simply immoral and unfair towards her. I know that. Argh, too much stuff has happened lately, haha, my mind's in disarray. My bad, guys. @_@ And while I can see the point of her telling me about the clinical depression right away, I think a lot of it also had to do with the timing. It was right after coming back from the culture exchange thing, and I was feeling great. It was a very satisfying night overall, and I came home in high spirits. That's when she IMed me and sort of unloaded a lot of the stress she had apparently been going through, etc. I still don't know exactly how to word things without seeming insensitive, and I can't think of what to add at the moment, so I'll just leave it at that for now. |
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2011-02-23, 17:06 | Link #8286 |
Deadpan Snarker
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: The Neverlands
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the only thing I can tell you now is that being 'chivalrous' is just a way of protecting your conscience
You're gonna end up the bad guy if you break it up, no if's but's or maybe's What you're questioning is if there's a need to be the bad guy Say you'll be away a weekend, lock yourself in your room in that time Grab your mind with all the "what if's" currently running around in it and do some serious thinking
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2011-02-23, 20:00 | Link #8287 | ||||
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I don't know where you live but believe me, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Plenty. Just get yourself out there and meet new people.
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2011-02-23, 22:58 | Link #8288 |
Seleįão
Join Date: Jan 2011
Age: 32
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Thanks, guys, I appreciate all the advice. It really does help.
I don't think she throws herself like that every guy, and she hasn't said anything about any recent relationship or breakup. Also, I do plan on being more proactive in meeting girls from now on. I've been getting better about it lately, I can tell; I'm just feeling a little anxious is all. I do plan on doing some thinking, definitely. Thanks again. ^_^ |
2011-02-24, 12:19 | Link #8290 | ||
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Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Germany
Age: 33
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2011-02-24, 16:00 | Link #8291 |
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I like wearing short skirts and low-necked tops, and not because I'm desperate or want attention--I already have a girlfriend.
I do it because I like it. I think it's cute, and I enjoy looking cute. It makes me feel good. Unfortunately, where I live, it's too goddamned cold to dress like that. So most of the time I wear jeans, a sweater and two jackets.
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2011-02-24, 18:21 | Link #8293 | |
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Age: 35
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^^ well yes, but you can't always not do things out of fear of getting hurt. that'll lead to a very boring life
my friend and i were talking about interracial dating and why there seemed to be more asian girls dating white guys than vice versa. i found this great little segment from a longer post, and i found it very true, especially when i relate it to how i tend to approach relationships. Quote:
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2011-02-24, 19:39 | Link #8295 | ||
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In many cases, that's just how it works. While I did believe in the Asian way, I was always getting friendzoned. Now, I'm trying to adapt the more western process. We'll see how that goes.
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2011-02-24, 20:00 | Link #8296 |
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There is no such thing as a 'way'. People all have their different methods, it's just what your looking for is different. People from Southern United States act like that, (mostly because they heavily believe in marriage and shit). The only thing that can hold someone back from getting what they want, is them. No advice, no nothing. People get rejected all the time. I got rejected, and then I sulked and moved on. Does it suck, hell yeah it does. But there is always someone else.
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2011-02-24, 21:04 | Link #8297 | |
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2011-02-24, 21:20 | Link #8298 | |
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: The land of tempura
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2011-02-24, 21:23 | Link #8299 | |
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