2009-10-31, 22:11 | Link #2084 |
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I think maybe she's sort of beating herself up over something she did, or maybe something you did but didn't realize.
I think it's all her problems in her head, from what you've said you didn't do anything wrong, and I really don't think you did. I'd leave her to figure it out herself :P, but be there for her obviously. In news with me, just got home from a date with the girl, went great. The Vampire's Assistant has reaffirmed my enjoyment of Darren Shan as an author, and it gave me a bit of confidence with the girl, who I get to see a lot this week. Sorry to post a positive thing in this thread, I feel kinda bad not having to come here for advice, but I feel like bragging :P |
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2009-11-01, 00:29 | Link #2086 |
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How do I get more physical with girls? I have encountered 0 problems talking to them, but I know I need to start escalating things once I meet them or I'll be put in the dreaded friend zone. I just feel so uncomfortable touching other people (besides a hug) and I know it would be very uncomfortable (creepish) for the girl if I feel uncomfortable myself.
Also, anyone have anyway to get my mind off of girls constantly? I really have no idea how to stop obsessing over them, I try to stay busy with school and such but it still is there in the back of my head. |
2009-11-01, 15:59 | Link #2087 |
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For getting more physical with girls, it's very important that you take the time to build a bond with them and become a friend they feel comfortable around; that way, when you do touch them in a way that isn't a hug, they might find it a little odd but they wouldn't mind it overwise because they know you and they trust you. Trying to do something like that to a person you barely know doesn't work.
Tips for keeping your mind off girls... I just say continue to focus on school, or pick up a hobby for something else you like so you're keeping your mind busy and don't think about them so much. Hope this helps. ^__^
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2009-11-01, 16:15 | Link #2088 |
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I would suggest what Radiantbeam about girls in terms of touching. When you have that bond going on, places it's socially acceptable to touch can be seen through body language. When a girl talks to you, she'll often point her legs towards you if she's interested, will touch you (remember grade school? when girls hit/touch you it's a good thing), or will get fidgetty -- keep brushing her hair, play with her keys, etc. This all sounds pretty obvious but it's pretty basic/easy signs to see if they are into you.
If you see some of these signs, their arm, slightly above the elbow is ok when you have to lean in to talk to them, if you're in a crowded and loud place for instance. Creates a small but important physical bond with the person. Plus no girl is going to yell at you for slightly touching her arm. As things progress, the small of their back is ok, (as if you were doing the waltz with them), and if you've made it this far, you'll probably be able to figure out on your own what's ok and what's not. best of luck! ;3
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2009-11-01, 16:41 | Link #2089 | |||
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You know, it's not as if all women understand all men either =D
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2009-11-01, 23:22 | Link #2090 |
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I have seen this thread and i am in need of some advice!
I am a loner type person, and it's hard for me to make the connection im looking for. I usually get pushed to the close friends position, some one to come to for advice(which is usually good advice). I have yet to make the clencher, or when i do, it's girls that just ain't my type or maybe i expect too much. By clencher i don't mean sex, because thats not what i'm about. I mean the "yes i will go out with you" clencher. it scares me a bit that i'm actually ok being single, perhaps its my working enviroment, where everyone is married, and im the only single person. maybe these "spouse stories " are wearing me down as i do not have one to give, just "my ex" stories, which are amusedly far and in between lol. I'm a very content person, i don't require much of anything, so I guess what i'm asking is how do i break that reclusive loner mode that has become me? I could ask my close friends but their advice doesn't quite suit what i'm going for. any serious advice would suffice or pm i you want im open to almost anything. I'm attempting a slight make over of myself. Thanks in advace.
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2009-11-01, 23:58 | Link #2091 | |
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2009-11-02, 08:43 | Link #2092 | |
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You may be scared to lose a friend by doing that (correct me if I'm wrong), but wonder if it worths taking the risk. If you're interested in one of your friends, and if you know that she is single, what about trying? I know it' easy to say XD But there's little chance that something will happen if you just sit down and wait, and if the girls around you are not the kind to confess/ask men out ^^ |
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2009-11-02, 19:48 | Link #2094 | ||
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You should not worry though ;-) Last edited by Narona; 2009-11-02 at 20:15. |
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2009-11-02, 20:34 | Link #2095 | ||
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As for the asking out men... hmm i hadn't thought about that. *looks behind me and there's a closet door* lol im kidding of course. But i appreciate the advice.
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2009-11-02, 20:38 | Link #2096 | ||
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I meant that if the girls around you are the type of girls "who never confess first and wait to be asked out by men", then you should try to do the first step, because there's less chance that a girl will ask you out. Sorry if my previous reply was not clear enough Last edited by Narona; 2009-11-02 at 21:05. |
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2009-11-03, 00:42 | Link #2097 | |
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And seriously, I wouldn't advise this course of action unless you're absolutely sure that the girl has the kind of personality who can take it well, whatever the result. |
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2009-11-03, 08:06 | Link #2098 | |
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False accusations! I didn't mean it like that, I swear!
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- 95% of success - 4% that she could slap me. - 1% that she could use a dangerous object that could kill me I see... i see |
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2009-11-03, 08:59 | Link #2099 | |
I don't give a damn, dude
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Anyway, talking about the girl, update on my situation: She's getting stressed over her schoolwork the last few days. What are the things I can do to help her get over this tough period? :3 |
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2009-11-03, 13:04 | Link #2100 |
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I would say give her time and space to finish whatever she needs to finish but be present if she needs to talk, let out steam or just go out to unwind and wants your company. I find that when people are stressed one should let them cool off and if you try to be too pro-active you might just stress the person even more.
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