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In the case of the first group, I don't think this should be a surprising development. Take, for an example, Tsugumi's route in the visual novel Ever 17: by the end of her route, the player character has not only developed a relationship with her, but knows a lot of very private details about her history and has seen how she pulls herself together under extreme circumstances. And quite frankly, I got pretty emotionally involved with her story. On the flip side, my relationship with the average girl in real life doesn't go much beyond the occassional discussion of schoolwork or a movie or something like that. There is nothing there to form a deep attachment too. So why would it surprise anyone that I'd have a deeper attachment to Tsugumi? Now naturally, if I actually had a relatively deep relationship with a real girl, that would be an entirely different can of worms. But I wager many of us on here have never actually had a deep relationship with the opposite sex, so that's hardly applicable. Now as to those who have no interest in 3D woman whatsoever, I'd be interested in hearing if they have anything to say about the psychology behind their position. Where you into 3D girls before getting into anime, or not? I'm kind of curious about that because in the time since I've become an anime fan, I wouldn't say my interest in real women has decreased, in fact, the opposite is probably true. MidnightViper: Ah, sorry. I was just considering your first and second post put together... guess I needed to see the third to grasp your position. |
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simple example: every single individual in a certain generation suddenly decides not to have children => the species will simply die out right there. if only some limited percentage of individuals decide it (as is the case with humans), the remaining mainstream is normally sufficient for the species to survive. Quote:
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it's a bit more complex. i do not respect any kind of statement along the lines of "most <X> think <Y> so it must be correct" if it is not exact sciences (and even there I would normally ask for a link to a proof). even apart from the fact that it is simply unprovable that most psychiatrists consider "liking 2D characters over 3D people" an abnormality - just because it is was surely never widely polled among psychiatrists - the mere fact that most humanitarian people think X at any given point of time does not necessarily mean it is correct. I could cite many examples. this is not even true for natural sciences, where standards are much more severe. e.g. most physicists did not believe reality was actually quantized and not continuous until Planck and Bohr. light speed being limited and no ether existing was nearly a heresy before the late 19th- early 20th century. and so on. Quote:
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2008-12-17, 20:16 | Link #44 |
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Hmmm... no, NoSanninWa. My whole point is the substitution of the real for the not-real - hence, the preference of anime (fictional) persons over live (real) ones. If you really see no problem with it, we'll simply have to agree to disagree. No matter how embattled in philosophical terms we may get, it's down to a problem of simple personal perception - and I have no interest in discussing such. My grasp of reality is shaky enough as it is without someone questioning it.
I was just substantiating my claims with the clinically perceived assessment of persons who do transfer their desires from the real world to the fictional one(s). If you don't want to take that into account, either, that's fine with me. As for your point of "someone should accept a mate that they are not in love with in order to procreate?", no, they shouldn't, as that's simply a last resort measure. Doesn't make the situation any better if that same someone would rather be with some fictional anime character, tho. Like that guy who tried to get a motion passed so he could get married to exactly one such character, over in Japan. Edit ADD: Mumitroll, I only saw your post after I had already replied, and now I'm really tired, so I'll try to reply tomorrow, okay?
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Finally, there are other kinds of dissociative disorders not completely specified, since they don't neatly fall into any of the four categorized earlier (ie.: the person don't suffer from amnesia, or they don't show signs of multiple personalities, whatever the case may be). Transference of desires from the real world to the fictional one is but a speck in the sea of disturbances that can be fit into this set of studies and treatment. Again, you're more than welcome to search the web or your local libraries for these researches, as I did try to gather some for your perusal but, since I'm pressed for time (and most of those are paid-to-read case studies), I couldn't find any that were really interesting. And there is also the distinctive possibility that such a situation actually isn't confined to a single pre-established set of conditions, as a person may exhibit traces of other kinds of disturbances that defy easy classification (I can easily see someone like this developing schizophrenia tendencies, as well). That's why consultation is the best way to go, as if it were only a matter of applying concepts that you happened to read in a book or heard from a teacher, medicine would be mastered by any and everyone. But, truth be told, that's not really what's in discussion here, is it? As for the discussion about 2D and 3D worlds, I'd rather read a book written by Neal Stephenson or Stanislaw Lem than actually live in something like the 2.0 we see in an anime like Mnemosyne. But you're welcome to your own opinion, of course. I do maintain my own, that people who actually prefer fictional characters over real life people are, clearly, disturbed. Again, you may disagree and I'm fine with it. But be advised that your reasoning and your exemplification of historical figures who had clear tell-tale signs of psychological disturbances (note that I don't categorize homosexuality as such; but I do the act of taking one's life because of prejudicial behavior and perceived ostracization) doesn't really help your case any. Juxtaposing one disturbance with another and complimenting the actual good contributions of such people, is not really the way to go. If you're gonna ignore the problems and concentrate only on the good, there's not much room for discussion, then. And I take (a bit of) offense at your comment stating that "interest in real life women diminishes with age". I thought generalizations like that were exactly what you disliked in these discussions. If anything, not being interested would be the more uncommon situation, from my experience. A person who has cultivated no profound relationships throughout his or her life may lose interest in sexual companionship (if there ever was such an interest), but someone who did have those kinds of relationships is less likely to stop feeling the need for more - again, from my experience and social observations. Your mileage may vary.
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"like *some* fictional characters better than *most* real life people"? that would be a large chunk of mankind - most people (especially children/teenagers) probably have some fictional ideals that they like very much and aspire to be like, be it, dont know, Sherlock Holmes, Cpt. Picard, or Harry Potter. this is not exactly considered a disturbance. even, say, hardcore actor (or seiyuu) fans can be classified here, because many of them actually like not the actor him/herself, but rather his/her characters. "like *some* fictional characters better than *all* real life people" would be a bit more radical, but still not overly unusual. as i've said, thats basically a complete misanthrope who happens to be a fan of some books or anime - most famous misanthropes were like that, in fact. "like *all* fictional characters better than *all* real life people" is obviously somewhat strange. but I dont think anybody would go that far - there's obviously a very large spectrum of fictional characters, and it's hard to imagine someone who'd like all of them... Quote:
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joking aside, i think it's fairly easy to see that interest in most people in general typically decreases as one learns and becomes ever more experienced. this is true pretty much for any field of human occupation. for example, it is extremely unusual for top-level professional pianists to like pop music and its perfomers. it is simply uninteresting for them - too simple, too predictable. it holds no challenge and no surprises. or, the more lectures a professor holds, the less interested he normally is in his students - this is something I know all too well. for a top-level mathematician, 99% (probably more) of people are intellectually uninteresting. it "doesnt do" to say it in public, of course. but thats life. put a 60-year old physics professor with an average highschool graduate (or even your average bachelor). how interested do you think he will be in what they have to say? there are always exceptions. but what i've described is the overwhelmingly valid rule. Quote:
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Like I said, it's a possibility. Nothing more, nothing less. Right. Tell me that the next time someone's life is dependent upon one wrong decision you may make. Then, we'll talk. Quote:
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Joking aside, I don't think purely platonic relationships have much of a future. This is coming from experience. Sex is always a big factor - even when it's one-sided. Or one-handed. @ganbaru: I guess I was in a sort of weakened state. Edit Add: Vexx, I totally missed the point about pre-existing relationships growing stronger as one ages. Good save. Completely agree with you.
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If anything, relationships become *more* important as one ages. What you describe for a mathematician would actually harm his work as it excludes interacting with people from other fields or interests who provide the framework for new points of view or epiphanies. Quote:
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http://www.straightdope.com/columns/...rease-with-age while it still looks like the reasons for it arent fully understood, its a rather well-known fact that the libido peak for males is under 20, and then it typically gradually goes down with age. if that werent the case Viagra wouldnt sell as well as it does Quote:
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also, the word "relationship" is too ambiguous. I didnt mean a partner relationship, or sexual attraction. I meant mere *interest* - intellectual, professional, personal - in other people. if you tell me that at the age written in your profile you are still interested in what most highschool boys have to say - then i'd be rather surprised unless you are in an educational profession (and even then it would be rather the exception than the rule). Quote:
my own thesis was a bit more useful since I also wrote a large software package along with it - which subsequently got used in SIGGRAPH and Eurographics papers - but tbh its real value for CS research was still pretty much zero (granted it was just a MSc and not a PhD where i'd have 3-5 more years to do research). and I was also an honors student, best of my highschool, honors at university, etc. this is daily routine in hard sciences. so, put bluntly, for 90% of people its simply impossible to contribute anything here as the level of mathematical understanding required is beyond their ability. its similar in mathematics and theoretical CS. often even when you meet someone of the same level as you at a conference - or even much higher - they are rather clueless about your field and it is a potluck chance - 1 in 1000 - that you will get any helpful information from them which actually helps your work. the main impulses from a conference are actually mostly seeing what other serious people in your own field or close to it currently do, and how (well ignoring much more mundane questions of looking for postdoc positions and establishing connections for a potential career). but such people can be counted in hundreds in the whole world, for most hard science fields. Quote:
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Okay, I'm going to try rephrasing some of the thoughts from my previous post since I'm not sure I got my point across.
First, I think saying that people who prefer fictional characters to real people have a dissociative disorder is jumping to conclusions. I'd say 99%+ of us here are guilty of caring more about fictional characters than real people. Unless it happens to be someone I know, I would prefer not to hear about their troubles. The issue, then, is whether these people are substituting the 2D for the real. We really need to hear from these people to make a definitive judgment, but I'm guessing that this is less the case than some people in this thread are assuming. I'm not much into real girls right now, but I wasn't before I got into anime either. So why, then, am I attracted to fictional girls? I would say this attraction is due to two things: first, I'm deeply familiar with my favourite fictional characters. Second, let's face it: 2D girls are generally really, really attractive looking. I did lay hands on myself before getting into anime, but I started doing it a lot more frequently afterwards. Now admittedly, laying hand on oneself is probably considered a substitute for a real sexual relationship in itself. And I'd be the first to admit that I've never really been good with girls: I wonder how much I need to have talked to a girl before trying to ask her out, and even what I'd actually ask her out to do. But none of this changes the fact that I found anime girls instantly attractive, while my interest in real girls remained stable and maybe even increased a bit. Nothing in that data suggest to me that I'm substituting for something. My own conclusion for all this? I remember thinking back in high school that the deciding factor on whether or not I'd ever get romantically involved with anyone would depend if I found a girl I was seriously attracted to. Clearly, some fictional characters have been damn attractive to me. In real life, I've seen some girls who are potentially attractive in both looks and personality, but nothing that sets the world on fire. Clearly, I'm only one guy of many who finds 2D girls attractive. But I wouldn't be surprised if my story sounds familiar to a large percentage of the single male anime geek population. |
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moe moe Anime girls FTW! Real girls are FAILBOAT!! You want to be Sinking now? You are Sinking Now!!! This isn't rocket science, shouldn't need some massive debate. I suppose people just cant accept something that isn't the same as everyone else so they have to debate it. Reality though is that what people do and like isn't really any concern to you. An Individual lives life for the Individual. you want to be being a mindless atomaton? |
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Well, to be honest, this little debate has gone on long enough - and it's straying through dangerously flammable territory.
Mumitroll, sorry, but I don't subscribe to your elitist views about the (in)ability of the ordinary people to contribute actual progressive and innovative ideas, and it would be better if we left it at that. And nice way of comparing driving with passengers and being an actual doctor. They are exactly the same thing, and involve exactly the same responsibilities toward your wards. This is sarcasm, by the way. Oh, and what's wrong with my finding some kinda behavior unhealthy? It's my opinion, thank you. And it happens to be based upon observation and (some) study. I'm not interested in your degrees of liking a fictional character, I have stated exactly what I have a problem with ever since my first post, so why do you keep trying to distort my point? To reinstate: my problem is with people actually forsaking real life partners to concentrate their "affections" on fictional characters, in whatever form they come. As for your little research link... honestly, a month without having sex, in the life of a married couple is next to nothing. There are dryer spells, even outside Japan. Oh, and Viagra sells even to young people, you should look into that. And, yes, being a misanthrope philosopher isn't exactly a healthy way to approach life, in my book. I'd rather that person be a more productive member of society than a theoretical recluse. But maybe, that's just me. As for your comparing my quips about the unhealthiness of the behavior I specifically stated as such with the reactions homosexual people might have towards some of yours... please, let's not be childish to this extreme, shall we? Homosexuality is not a disease or a medical condition. There's no gay gene. Whatever researches toward discovering such a thing are utter rubbish. As opposed to what most may claim to be a psychiatric condition, in the case which I have stated. So, please. Let's drop this one. 'Kay? 0utf0xZer0, I, for one, have no problem with finding fictional characters attractive - hey, I do. My point was with people who claim superiority of those over the real ones, to the point of forsaking these - like the ones who claim to have no interest in 3D or some such. If you people find that normal, fine. I don't.
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