Dating

[BOOKGLUTTON]

You wait. And if that doesn't work, I suggest travel.

[Amirali]

Originally Posted by NightShade99

well what happens if ur not attracted to any1 around you,
but you desperately wana be attracted to someone =O

You try to get to know people well (as friends). Sometimes the right person doesn't spark fireworks until you know and spend time with each other.

[raikage]

Originally Posted by NightShade99

well what happens if ur not attracted to any1 around you,
but you desperately wana be attracted to someone =O

You make friends.

And those friends might have hot friends.

[Waking_Dreamer]

Originally Posted by raikage

You make friends.

And those friends might have hot friends.

All the cute girls I know are already taken and its pretty much the same with all their friends - off limits there.

Though as a guy the actually concept of not being attracted to anyone is unusual and foreign . I can kind of pretty much go for a walk outside and end up finding myself attracted to someone. The way a guy's mind works is so simple and straightforward its kind of beautiful.

Anyways, as for your dilemma...just go clubbing. Thats a sure bet to meet people dressed to impress...though your age maybe a factor...cant remember the minimum age.

[King Lycan]

It really depends on the location Imo
Where i live almost every girl is single -_-

[Narona]

Originally Posted by Waking_Dreamer

All the cute girls I know are already taken and its pretty much the same with all their friends - off limits there.

It depends where you live actually.

Where I live, there are some pretty girls who are single. And a few have even never had a boyfriend.

However, the boys seem to think that all the pretty girls have already a boyfriend. They are not so well informed XD.

[BOOKGLUTTON]

Originally Posted by Waking_Dreamer

Anyways, as for your dilemma...just go clubbing.

Ugghhh...I don't particularly suggest this unless you want to meet a girl who chews gum loudly and wears absurd amount of gloss. I mean, most of my dates or numbers are from the staff at local stores or restaurant's. I usually only try to date the one's that seem kind...it doesn't really all have to be about if they're good looking.

[NightShade99]

I do go clubbing and i do have know alot of
attractive guys but i'm never attracted to them.......
i think somethings wrong with me T_T.............but
every time i get asked out i dnt wana go out with
the guy who asked.

[BOOKGLUTTON]

Then don't? I mean, it's not like you don't have a choice. I haven't dated in a while and have turned down numerous people because I didn't think they were...right for me.

[Xvoki]

Originally Posted by Narona

It depends where you live actually.

Where I live, there are some pretty girls who are single. And a few have even never had a boyfriend.

However, the boys seem to think that all the pretty girls have already a boyfriend. They are not so well informed XD.

I need to visit that place. XD.

There are no pretty girls where I live.

[Narona]

Originally Posted by Xvoki

I need to visit that place. XD.

There are no pretty girls where I live.

If I can give you an advice then (but I guess you are already aware of that though), the persons who are single (pretty or not) are not inevitably single because all of them are shy or because they are all believers (For instance, when I explain my way of living, many people tend to think that I am a believer, which is not the case. [P.S.: I don't say that being a believer could not be a good thing though]), some of them are different. You will have to wonder why a person is still single. Most of the time, they seek for something. So if you try to pick up someone without taking that in account, you might fail.

And be honest, if a person wants a serious relationship for example, then don't lie to her if you can't give her what she seeks.

[Xvoki]

Originally Posted by Narona

If I can give you an advice then (but I guess you are already aware of that though), the persons who are single (pretty or not) are not inevitably single because all of them are shy or because they are all believers (For instance, when I explain my way of living, many people tend to think that I am a believer, which is not the case. [P.S.: I don't say that being a believer could not be a good thing though]), some of them are different. You will have to wonder why a person is still single. Most of the time, they seek for something. So if you try to pick up someone without taking that in account, you might fail.

And be honest, if a person wants a serious relationship for example, then don't lie to her if you can't give her what she seeks.

Thanks for the reply, I can tell a lot of thought went into it, and I wasn’t really expecting an answer.

I think most of us seek something in a relationship: compassion, honesty, devotion, wisdom. In my quest for a soul mate I would travel to the ends of the earth and brave whatever hardships. And should I ever find a girl who loves me back, I would consider myself truly a lucky man. XD

By the way, a believer of what? Virginity? Religion?

[Narona]

Originally Posted by Xvoki

I think most of us seek something in a relationship: compassion, honesty, devotion, wisdom. In my quest for a soul mate I would travel to the ends of the earth and brave whatever hardships. And should I ever find a girl who loves me back, I would consider myself truly a lucky man. XD

By the way, a believer of what? Virginity? Religion?

It depends on what the person wants. For what I can say around me (i'm not talking only about the people who are single), some people just want/wanted to be with someone to hang out together, to have some fun together etc. but nothing more. Some others want/wanted more than that. One can seeks for someone who shares the same ideals in life for instance. It really depends on many things like the point of view of a person on the love relationships.

I was talking about Religion. But if a girl says that she sees her virginity as something really important, some people (and those people are wrong most of time) will obviously think this is a religion based choice. So, all in all, it's pretty much the same XD

[BOOKGLUTTON]

Ugghh, I try to act all calm in real life, but I'm an emotional sap when it comes to relationships. It's hard trying to find someone who isn't shallow in california, hahaha.

[Sniper Wolf]

I'm usually shy.....but I'm not really the dating type of person...when i go to clubs i do get approached...some scare me some are ok...but but I'm use to walking away,besides I'm picky very!i have an obsession with men who look like woman >,>
but whenever you see the opportunity and you like him or her take it,but be careful.......some people can keep lots of secrets from you....

[Solafighter]

Since i live in the middle of nowhere, a small "village", here are no girls in my age, neither that strong enough(With strong i mean psychical and physical). Allmost all girls of my ex. high school were far to shy, dont speak much and are not that clever(they were under average) ... Not lucky here and i dont have anything against them. They are all not my type.

I have to move.

[Xvoki]

Originally Posted by Narona

I was talking about Religion. But if a girl says that she sees her virginity as something really important, some people (and those people are wrong most of time) will obviously think this is a religion based choice. So, all in all, it's pretty much the same XD

Yeah, I thought you meant religion. But I fully respect those girls/ boys who choose to hold onto to their virginity until they find a more meaningful relationship, even if it's something of a rarity in this day and age. XD

[Narona]

Originally Posted by Xvoki

Yeah, I thought you meant religion. But I fully respect those girls/ boys who choose to hold onto to their virginity until they find a more meaningful relationship, even if it's something of a rarity in this day and age. XD

I am one of them. I always refused to start a relationship because I knew they were not the right person.

If I never meet that person, I prefer to stay single.

It's rare but it exists. And they are not neceessarily all believers (religions). I am not.

[Mystique]

Originally Posted by Narona

I am one of them. I always refused to start a relationship because I knew they were not the right person.

If I never meet that person, I prefer to stay single.

It's rare but it exists. And they are not neceessarily all believers (religions). I am not.

Refused to start? O.o
Short of them doing something or having habits that are on your 'no no' list, that's a bit judgemental, no?
You are one of the people who keeps their virginity until you get into something meaningful, that's fine.
But going on dates or getting to know someone doesn't mean jumping into bed with them.
Besides, there may be some guys who you find you get on very well with and become good friends, not all relationships at the start end with the intention of becoming more than friends.
Also as you get older you tend to find things aren't so black and white. Sometimes someone who you think is no good at the start could really be the one for you.
Life can be interesting that way

[Anh_Minh]

Originally Posted by Narona

It depends where you live actually.

Where I live, there are some pretty girls who are single. And a few have even never had a boyfriend.

However, the boys seem to think that all the pretty girls have already a boyfriend. They are not so well informed XD.

I think life would be simpler if people wore nametags, color coded for marital status.

Though I guess there'd be problems with wearing the color for "married, but looking for an affair."