Dating

[kitten320]

Originally Posted by Miko Miko

He gets mardy though if I don't talk to him, I told him we could try it but he said it feels like I don't wanna be with him.

I mean, I can try it [we can't speak until wednesday anyway]

Yeh, that's what I was saying. He might get it wrongly so better don't use this path in order to avoid missunderstanding.

Better try to follow AtomicoX advice and think of good things that are to come once he is back.
How often is he allowed to have a day off and stuff? You could try to make some plans for those days, think of something special you could do together, see together or talk about. I don't know, you could try to think of a small gift for him that he would be allowed to take with himself to the military.

Actually a hand made thing would be good because:
a) You will be distracted from your loneliness
b) You still will be thinking about him, carrying about him
c) It will take time to think of something and to produce it later, some kind of distraction
d) He should be happy, it shows that you actually care

If you are not really good at anything then it is an opportunity to learn something and try new things out. I think it should work as nice distractions since you are doing something different which is still connected to him.

Hanging out with friends is good but it doesn't really involve him in that process what makes it lonely. Try to do things that involve him at some point, not physically but mentally.

It is good to try variation of things, especially to try something totally new since it will be a totally new experience which can get your brain busy.

Just don't go too overboard with it like jumping with lastic and stuff
Extreme is good but not always

I believe that new experience and hobby could be a good try.

[Malkuth]

Originally Posted by Miko Miko

Question; how can I stop missing him so much?

My boyfriend is in the army, I've not seen him since July. I miss him sooo much! We talk often on facebook, we've had a couple of phonecalls. But I just miss him being here. I go out with my friends alot to 'keep my mind off him' but it doesn't work.

I just wanna be able to miss him but like not be upset about it.. if you understand.

The easiest and most effective way is to find another

[Miko Miko]

Originally Posted by AtomicoX

Glad it helped.

And yes, quite hard. But I know that, within a year, I will be able to see her much more and hopefully be together for a long time. It is what keeps me going and is what gives me strength.

I have to agree, he believes we'll last a long time, because we have a really good connection.. I guess that's what matters ~

Originally Posted by kitten320

Yeh, that's what I was saying. He might get it wrongly so better don't use this path in order to avoid missunderstanding.

Better try to follow AtomicoX advice and think of good things that are to come once he is back.
How often is he allowed to have a day off and stuff? You could try to make some plans for those days, think of something special you could do together, see together or talk about. I don't know, you could try to think of a small gift for him that he would be allowed to take with himself to the military.

Actually a hand made thing would be good because:
a) You will be distracted from your loneliness
b) You still will be thinking about him, carrying about him
c) It will take time to think of something and to produce it later, some kind of distraction
d) He should be happy, it shows that you actually care

If you are not really good at anything then it is an opportunity to learn something and try new things out. I think it should work as nice distractions since you are doing something different which is still connected to him.

Hanging out with friends is good but it doesn't really involve him in that process what makes it lonely. Try to do things that involve him at some point, not physically but mentally.

I believe that new experience and hobby could be a good try.

I love the bolded part. Amazing idea; i think if i put my heart into doing something, maybe arranging something it'll make me feel good! I am going shopping for his bday present next weekend, so that should make me feel good too!

& he has weekends off usually.. but he can't afford to top up his phone at the moment ~ but at least I know we can talk on Wednesday!

But he is in Germany, and I am in England, so on days off.. unless he flies here to do something [which he can't really afford at the moment] means we can't actually spend proper time with each other.. which really makes it worse. Thanks so much for your advice ~ Meant a lot to me and I think it'll really help.

+Cookie!

Originally Posted by Malkuth

The easiest and most effective way is to find another

[kitten320]

Your welcome, was glad to help and hope that it will work

[Knightrunner]

Miko Miko I'm kind of wondering if your sports person or a good cook?

I'm sure your bf would be athletically fit once he is done with training and he might need a runner partner to stay in shape. It's an activity that you can train for months, you don't need special skills, and you can speed lots of time with him with when he comes home. Plus, learning how to cook gourmet style foods always a plus since I'm sure he will be tired of canned foods ;D

[Khu]

Originally Posted by Samari

Is this person even your friend?

Yeah, she's been a female bro for years now XD

[HasuMasu]

^ Female bros are awesome, you almost never
have a chance with them though.

[Samari]

A lot of hot looking girls in their Halloween costumes on the streets of San Francisco. Good times.

[Miko Miko]

Originally Posted by Knightrunner

Miko Miko I'm kind of wondering if your sports person or a good cook?

I'm sure your bf would be athletically fit once he is done with training and he might need a runner partner to stay in shape. It's an activity that you can train for months, you don't need special skills, and you can speed lots of time with him with when he comes home. Plus, learning how to cook gourmet style foods always a plus since I'm sure he will be tired of canned foods ;D

He is already athletically fit.. and he can cook too!

But seriously, I am not a very sporty person, but I could probably stretch to doing something once or twice a week. & I am the worst cook EVER.. but I can learn.

It's a good job I have a nice personality. I have no skills.

[DonQuigleone]

Protip: Learn to cook! It's not just good for dating, it's improves your life all round!

There's a real feeling of accomplishment when you finish making something delicious and eat it.

With a little effort you can be eating restauraunt quality meals for 1/4 of the price (or more for snazzier places). Certainly beats microwave food.

It does take a bit of effort, but with practice certain dishes can be finished in under 1/2 an hour.

Stir Fry is particularly quick, and is a good one to start with. It's pretty easy to make dishes to rival any Chinese place. You can start by using store bought sauces, but with time you can learn to make your own.

Also a great way to get out of household chores...

Pretty much anyone can cook. It does take a little time and effort to get good at it and build up a "repertoire".

[GDB]

Originally Posted by DonQuigleone

There's a real feeling of accomplishment when you finish making something delicious and eat it.

And then a real feeling of dread when you finish eating it and have to clean it up.

[DonQuigleone]

Originally Posted by GDB

And then a real feeling of dread when you finish eating it and have to clean it up.

Yes, but that's why Dishwashers are such amazing things...

[HasuMasu]

There's a machine that can wash dishes?

[zebra]

Originally Posted by Miko Miko

He is already athletically fit.. and he can cook too!

But seriously, I am not a very sporty person, but I could probably stretch to doing something once or twice a week. & I am the worst cook EVER.. but I can learn.

It's a good job I have a nice personality. I have no skills.

XD

How about baking? It might be a good start for kitchen skills. There are many very easy receipts you could start with. Cookies and pies always have a homely feeling to them. Plus, it's the season for it anyway with chistmas coming close slowly.
You can also do it with friends or even your sweety if he happens to be there.

[Jinto]

Originally Posted by DonQuigleone

Yes, but that's why Dishwashers are such amazing things...

Actually its more complicated... because of the battlefield like condition of the kitchen, your dish washer is not cleaning it up for you.

[Miko Miko]

Originally Posted by zebra

XD

How about baking? It might be a good start for kitchen skills. There are many very easy receipts you could start with. Cookies and pies always have a homely feeling to them. Plus, it's the season for it anyway with chistmas coming close slowly.
You can also do it with friends or even your sweety if he happens to be there.

I like baking cakes and biscuits and stuff, so I can do that ~ I just have to practise more!

Originally Posted by DonQuigleone

Protip: Learn to cook! It's not just good for dating, it's improves your life all round!

There's a real feeling of accomplishment when you finish making something delicious and eat it.

With a little effort you can be eating restauraunt quality meals for 1/4 of the price (or more for snazzier places). Certainly beats microwave food.

It does take a bit of effort, but with practice certain dishes can be finished in under 1/2 an hour.

Stir Fry is particularly quick, and is a good one to start with. It's pretty easy to make dishes to rival any Chinese place. You can start by using store bought sauces, but with time you can learn to make your own.

Also a great way to get out of household chores...

Pretty much anyone can cook. It does take a little time and effort to get good at it and build up a "repertoire".

Wow thanks ~ I will learn, I am sure my dad will help me learn to cook, maybe by helping him out with preparing and cooking food [something I didn't think of 'til just now] && will try my best to learn to cook ~

I could make it my new years resolution

[Mystique]

Originally Posted by Miko Miko

I like baking cakes and biscuits and stuff, so I can do that ~ I just have to practise more!



Wow thanks ~ I will learn, I am sure my dad will help me learn to cook, maybe by helping him out with preparing and cooking food [something I didn't think of 'til just now] && will try my best to learn to cook ~

I could make it my new years resolution

Or you could just begin this week...

[DonQuigleone]

Originally Posted by Miko Miko

Wow thanks ~ I will learn, I am sure my dad will help me learn to cook, maybe by helping him out with preparing and cooking food [something I didn't think of 'til just now] && will try my best to learn to cook ~

I could make it my new years resolution

Never too late, I only really started to learn when I was 21 (started with rice... served with rice, and a side of rice, pretty much ate that for a year...). There's some basic skills to learn, but they come with time.

I'll agree with zebra about baking. People will automatically like you more after eating one of your homebaked cupcakes.

[Ledgem]

Originally Posted by DonQuigleone

I'll agree with zebra about baking. People will automatically like you more after eating one of your homebaked cupcakes.

Not always a given...

... but when did this turn into a cooking thread? If you don't know how to cook, invest in a slow cooker. It requires some advance planning (your food won't be ready for 4-10 hours after you start preparing it), but you can dump all of your ingredients into it (including frozen vegetables and meat that isn't cut up) and just let it go. Mix it around when it's done - the meat will be soft enough that it rips apart easily - and there you go, a full meal, all made effortlessly. You can make a variety of foods with the slow cooker, and you can spice it up by combining it with food prepared via other means, too.

After a bit of a hiatus, I'm temporarily back on AnimeSuki for tonight because someone called me out for technical support. This thread always seems to be active, and I always check it... ah well, back to idling.

[Last Sinner]

Apples are one of the easier fillings to bake with.

Whatever you choose to do, keep them light. If your guy is sporty, don't load stuff up on sugar. Keep him in shape!