2009-03-25, 20:08 | Link #221 |
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It generally depends on the personality of the person, or the situation between the two.
Are they one to take things seriously often? In that case, joking and flirting around can turn it from a friendship to something different, which may not bode well. But if they are one with a sense of humor and you communicate and understand each other, then it takes the complicated out of it a lot of times. As long as you keep things plain and clear. If you do not make a big deal out of things then generally it won't be, but if you do and it is a big deal, then joking and flirting then do become so. You just have to make sure that those you do it with are clear on how things really are. Communication is also key here. I myself am a girl with only ONE chick friend and the rest are all guys. If you open your mouth and say, 'hey, I am not looking for a relationship,' it's pretty clear. And if you're going to flirt after saying that, you have to add, 'my flirting is not serious and it is only to joke.' Then again, if you are going to say that you are not looking for a relationship, it's best to skip flirting entirely, seeing how that is rather self-contradictory. It's best to stick with that sort of thing with those that you are comfortable enough with that you know that they will only take it with a grain of salt, from either party, chick or dude. It can work. |
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2009-03-28, 02:30 | Link #223 |
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Mmmmmm, having a Carlos Mencia moment here reading the posts about stereotypes and such .....
(for me, he's like a descendant of Don Rickles back when Don didn't apologize for his act)
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He was idling around my mind while i wrote my post to be honest. When i first discovered him back in 2006, he was like a breath of fresh air to me. "someone's who's just as frank, doesn't sugar coat and just tosses the truth completely raw and out in the open, I think I'm in love" xD He's not everyone's cup of tea, that much I understand so I wouldn't recommend him to Spectacular_Insanity, for example, maybe it appeals to my British dry sense of humour Quote:
We all judge strangers that we cross on the streets, in town, in public places based on our appearance, it's the only form of information we have to make a quick assumption about a person (first impressions) before approaching them to find out more. Stereotypes are generally used to make those decisions, whether its a conscious thought or not, otherwise I doubt that interview ettiquette would be so crucial. (As one example) As for the chicken example, it wasn't to link directly to relationships, but to give a reason of how stereotypes are used without malice, in this case, an example of race. People can still take offence for having heard something like that if they feel the same as you 'saying it to their face isn't nice' or may have had experienced racism, so yes it is risky to use, I'll admit that much. Offline has the luxury of vocal tone and facial expression, so it can convey if it's meant to be taken in jest, thus others like me may react differently and take most with a pinch of salt. To say that 'thinking an idea' and 'saying it out loud' are completely different, would give me ammo for my arguement of referring to stereotypes while knowing that there are exceptions to the rule, thus there's no need to get worked up. On the other hand, those who are constantly vocal *coughsoccermomscough* tend to wholly believe what they preach without researching much, just remain wholly bound within the limits of stereotypes. Depends on the situation, but anyways pardon my tangentness, feel me to bug me on my profile if you wanna continue. Quote:
(assuming that you're male ofc....)
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2009-03-30, 20:49 | Link #225 |
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Men and women can be friends, but it depends on the man. It may be harder for a man to be friends with a physically beautiful woman, but if that man has other women friends in his life, he'll know how to take his time with a woman that he's really attracted to. If a man lacks in friends period (male or female), or just sees women as sex objects, then he'll probably try to hit on any thing wearing a skirt.
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2009-03-30, 21:34 | Link #226 |
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Yes, they can. If you think otherwise you're probably overthinking things.
edit: this coming from a guy who would chase all sorts of tail when he was younger, i woulda done anything passable and receptive =) Last edited by Cut-Tongue; 2009-03-30 at 21:46. |
2009-09-13, 19:51 | Link #228 |
Photographers are sexy.
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Ah, such an interesting and controversial topic. The difference between the views of opposite sex is a toughie! :P
Well, I'm a guy, (Hope you inferred by the 'Mr' in my name...) and I have plenty of friends that are female. I've never had a relationship before (so ronery ._.) but many of the girls I am friends with I am attracted to. Even though some of them may have boyfriends, or may not be attracted to me, I am still friends. And I do also have female friends I am not attracted to. So overall, I think it is entirely possible for there to be a friendship between a man and a woman with nothing more. Just friendly behavior toward each other. |
2009-09-13, 21:05 | Link #230 |
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Sometimes I think it's just popular media that perpetuates the notion that male-female relations cannot be anything less than romantic.
Considering that all my man-woman relations are near purely platonic... yes they can just be friends.
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2009-09-21, 01:53 | Link #233 |
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Of course they could. I've seen a lot of similar cases such as that. Almost everyone of my guy friends have girl-friends. But not everybody can do it. Especially me. Since, I will always take my friendships with girls over the edge and then relationship. So I have no girl-friends. Just some acquaintances. If i'll have a girl-friend she'll eventually would become my girlfriend. lol
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2009-10-05, 13:17 | Link #234 |
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What do YOU do when a girl wants to be friends :P?
Well, I met this girl who I've known for a few years and became really close. After high school ended I guess I wanted more. I got the dreaded response, I was in the "Friend zone" for her and knew I would ALWAYS be there, so I did what I had to do an ended the friendship because I can't take it . Also, she didn't care the friendship was ended.
So, what would you guys or girls do if you were in my position? Just wondering :P. Is it best to leave or stay friends? |
2009-10-05, 13:19 | Link #235 |
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Your question can easily fit in this thread: Can a Man and a Women be just friends?
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2009-10-05, 14:29 | Link #237 |
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That would be your call in the end.
A couple of years ago I went through the same scenario but I did not end our friendship, and I can honestly say that I am quite happy I didn't. One must always come to accept that not all relationships (of all kind, btw) will go as we want, and we will often be forced to adapt to a new "scenario" when things change around those we care or love. It works the other way around too. Sorry to say but..... I wouldn't have cared either. After all, you walked away the moment things didn't go the way you wanted.
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2009-10-05, 14:37 | Link #238 | |
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I would have done the same things as this girl. It's not the girl's problem. |
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I can't really explain the whole story, it'd take long but my friends agreed that what I did was the right thing :S. |
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