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2008-07-10, 16:27 | Link #82 | |
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2008-07-10, 16:31 | Link #83 | |
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2008-07-10, 16:38 | Link #84 | |
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2008-07-10, 16:49 | Link #87 | |
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but then again...if i was so stubborn...why would i be here asking for advice? if i knew so much...but then i dont. and i have my doubts...and i have my beliefs. i just really want to know what a couple of ppl with different personalitys would do int a situation like this. im getting alot of different awnsers that also make sence. =). but i love him. and i tell him (almost everything) and anything he wants to know. even if its a little hard to say. |
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2008-07-10, 16:54 | Link #88 |
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lol okay! actually i just forgot most of it but anyway, i really wouldn't know how a person could fall in love with a person online (i had a few encounter's with someone saying they like me or think of me as cool lol) because like you have already said its not reality. even if someone says all the sap like you make me smile everyday or i feel good when i'm talking to you everyone is different growing up whether you have been raised by the internet or TV (and your parent's if that counts). also i'm not comfortable to calling a person i don't even know that well from another state or place because of the bill and its a creepy when you say to your friends "hey guys i finished talking to my girlfriend, she lives all the way in california" also none of us (not sure) will stop you or can for that matter to meeting him or whatever because it's your life and for me i don't care if you ever do your still young (not hitting on you) you'll still find plenty of people that you will like even if you have someone already
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2008-07-10, 17:00 | Link #89 | ||
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It's a huge risk, because if the other person is too different or has different ideas then you may feel like you've giving too much of yourself and they're not giving enough. If either person distrusts the other then it limits how far the relationship can go. I don't advocate putting everything out there - proceed slowly and ensure that you're both focused on the same goals and have good communication. The trust should not be blind. But one of the only ways to build that trust and to bond deeper is by risking more and more. Not all relationships are like that, of course. It's just something to keep in mind. Quote:
Nobody likes to hear that they're wrong, or that what they're doing is wrong.
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2008-07-10, 17:02 | Link #90 | |
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Well...my frnds do think its weird. alot of ppl think im weird. hehe."but in a kuewl way" as they say. But i do have a question.. have you ever been in an internet relationship before?...well its really hard...this is actually my first online realtionship. and nothings gone worng between him and i yet....but my mom usually gets in the way. and thats it. I usually find myself depressed most times. its not a good feeling. but i cant get over him. even if i tryed, i know its nver gona be easy. but thats if something does bad happen..(sry im kinda talking to him now so i prolly dont make sense) lalala <3 |
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2008-07-10, 17:06 | Link #91 | |
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2008-07-10, 17:12 | Link #92 | |
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Thats true. everything you just said is true. Eh this two sides to everything is killing me though. but not everyone can have their way. I gues its on the way you think. If your positve or neggitave. there are pros and cons. and not everyone is going to agree on my desision. I will meet him one day. =) and what i see is what im going to get. either a welcome wagon...or being dragged in the dirt on the back of it. =/ (plz be the welcome wagon) |
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2008-07-10, 17:17 | Link #93 | |
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2008-07-10, 17:19 | Link #94 |
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I'm extremely skeptical of online relationships because of my own experienced with them. (Long story short: I didn't care, said yes to be nice, and was amazed at how people treated them so seriously. I was around 12-14 years old when those occurred.)
General advice: go ahead with your current relationship, but realize that when you meet him offline you're almost going to be starting from scratch. You'll both know each other and will have things to talk about, but that will be it. You'll both need to learn more about each other and find out what you're really like. You'll both need to get used to each other, and get comfortable being with each other. Just keep that in mind for when the time comes. It isn't a good or a bad thing, so keep an optimistic outlook.
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2008-07-10, 17:24 | Link #95 | |
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i know what you mean, its not like we would be sleeping in the same bed (lol) or all over eachother the first time we meet...i think that would be like being with a stranger. id have to adapt to a few things first. like idk. getting to know him in reall life. or his sent. or you know stuff like that. it would all be new to me. but id say at least we would have someting to fall back on. like talking on the phone. or I.M.-ing eachother. (I GOT IN SERIOUS TROUBLE WITH THE PHONE BILL FOR THAT) hehe. |
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2008-07-10, 17:25 | Link #96 | |
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Sometimes it happens that way, as unbelievable as it sounds. Best advice I can give is: Bring a few friends to go along, or you could always have him meet you in your hometown instead (you could share ticket costs or something). It's not that I'm a paranoid old lady or anything. One of my closest friends I met online, and we're still close after six years. We meet up for coffee and hang out when I vacation in Michigan with my boyfriend. He told me, guys are total wolves with girls they like, lol, so he was glad I brought another guy friend along when we first met. I wouldn't take any risks in meeting another person alone. Meeting them with my friends along is about as big a risk I would take. |
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2008-07-10, 17:27 | Link #97 | |
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2008-07-10, 17:29 | Link #98 | |
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2008-07-10, 17:34 | Link #99 | |
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LOL! trust me. i checked to see if he was even in the system yet...unfortunatley hes a minor. and they didnt have any information on him like records. but it had his family. and hes mentioned some names b4 and i was sure cuz i know ware he lives (we write eachother) but there wasnt anything. >.> i think he would rather me stay put and come to me. (he hates his town....not to mention its made up of 698 ppl) i did research on his town too. |
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2008-07-10, 17:36 | Link #100 | |
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