2009-06-17, 23:21 | Link #1181 |
Obey the Darkly Cute ...
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Join Date: Dec 2005
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.... I can only speak for myself but some of my favorite friends over my life are lesbians. It put quite an interesting spin on girl-watching at sidewalk cafes.
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2009-06-18, 00:25 | Link #1182 | |
Love Yourself
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Northeast USA
Age: 38
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For the first girl I ever asked out, it was like that. I could see her any time I wanted, but it took me about a week to muster up the courage to ask her out. By the end of the week, I was incredibly anxious. It seemed like I was randomly running into her more often than usual, and every time I did my heart would race as I tried to think about how I could turn that chance meeting into an opportunity to ask her out. But invariably the question would not be asked, and I'd feel disappointed. And very anxious, because I knew that I'd see her again and that I wanted to ask. Finally, I couldn't stand it anymore - my nerves were frazzled, and on one particular day I thought to myself that today would be the day, I'd put an end to it, and I went up to her and asked. The rejection was pleasant, you could say. I think that my delivery went well, but I was too nice and didn't follow some of the methodology available to pressuring her into it. But it was for the better - she skillfully deflected me, I took the hint, and I must say that as I walked away from her I smiled and felt as if a huge weight had been taken off of me. I'd finally asked a girl out, I could do it again; I'd been rejected, and it actually wasn't that bad; I couldn't be with her, but there would be others. Arguably the only casualty was that she avoided me for a year after that, but I suppose it was understandable. The other two girls I asked out (which resulted in acceptances) were really a matter of psyching myself out. Both were practically pushing me to ask them out and were near bursting to answer with a "yes" but for much of the time I was deliberating about fancy details like how, when, and where I should ask the question, completely oblivious to their attraction to me. For some girls I think those details in how you ask are incredibly important, but in hindsight it was a lot of wasted effort and stress on my part. It seems a bit silly. Anyway, that was largely just a walk down memory lane for me. Rejection really isn't that bad, and don't worry - cute girls weren't created on a single day only. Even if this one gets away, there'll be others. Heck, rejections make life colorful! A few years from a rejection you can come back to an internet message forum and reminisce over it, all while under the guise of giving helpful advice and cheer That's a fair bit of fun right there, let me tell you! Good luck.
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2009-06-18, 00:30 | Link #1183 | |
Honyaku no Hime
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Join Date: May 2008
Location: In the eastern capital of the islands of the rising suns...
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Will and Grace What falls under that is: - He'll never view you sexually - He'll lust over guys with you - Has all the benefits and simplicity of being a man but again no 'risk' of him falling for you - They're a wee bit more in tune with their emotions - They know how to bitch xD - They're the 'nice guy' who have no issues with being a 'nice guy' cause hey you're not their type of eye candy. Typically self conscious with their appearance, can offer good tips alike a female but be straight out honest and frank with you. And a few more I have personally to me, though tbh the friend I have didn't become my friend cause of his sexuality (I found that out after) - but just cause we got on so damn well. That he was gay was kinda a "bonus", I finally had someone I could be shallow with and lust over male models xD Again being general, but it’s typically a fantasy thing with men more than women have with men (yaoi girls do not count) "Two hot lesbians, two hot women kissing, etc etc" </jaded> Hetero men love women so to have two is like ‘more of a good thing’, so I’ve been told. Also I wonder, but I don’t think guys typically view lesbians as the "nice girl that I’ve always wanted but will never have sex with" – he may be drawn to some kind of physical attraction towards her at some point during their friendship but then again I’m being general for general’s sake in response to your question. For each friendship, there are exceptions
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2009-06-18, 04:48 | Link #1184 |
Protecting the Throne
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Asia Tour
Age: 32
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Not to mention alot of gay people have an amazing sense of humor They're super fun to hang out with. Somehow they know how to bring the punch line in everything and they are mostly very caring. I agree with Mystique and Narona that gay guys are mostly "nice guys" but they can put up a fight. Not necessarily with fists or anything, but I know gay guys who can really talk trash. The scene is quite different compared to a straight guy who trashtalks especially when the gay guy has an accent
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(the cooking poll and this one as well , looks like i found a friend on animesuki) Quote:
Lesbians aren't as common back then as now but they are fun to hang out with as well. I know one who i could talk geeky and dirty as well as any other guy buddy i have. Quote:
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2009-06-18, 19:11 | Link #1186 | |
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Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: Massachusetts
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2009-06-19, 02:20 | Link #1187 | |
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2009-06-19, 02:58 | Link #1188 | ||||
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2009-06-19, 07:33 | Link #1189 | |||||||
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Join Date: Feb 2008
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And they have no ego problem in comparison to some heterosexual guys who try to never do anything that could make her look "homosexual" in the eyes of the other people. (example: rejecting to play on my pink Nintendo DS just because it could make them look gay) Quote:
Well, Mystique well explained it And as Vexx pointed it out with his own example, there are men who have lesbians among their dear friends. Quote:
Anyway, it's fun to hang out with some of them. I particulary enjoy to talk/hang out with one I know, because he shares the same crazy passion for the clothes as me He enjoys clothes, dressmaking, doesn't flee in front of pink color etc. Quote:
(For the cooking poll? Cooking for your beloved person is sexist? XD Looks like you found a weird friend ) Quote:
This discussion made me think that we haven't talked about another topic yet , but there are also the bisexual people out there. There was a TV Program recently on the french TV, and they said there are more and more bisexual people here in France. Quote:
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On the family topic, I can't imagine my father to be sexually excited when his daughters are hugging him (which happens often)... XD Last edited by Narona; 2009-06-19 at 07:43. |
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2009-06-19, 09:09 | Link #1190 |
廉頗
Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: Massachusetts
Age: 34
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We cannot rule this out, but I think it is at least somewhat beneficial from a biological perspective for the males to sometimes have such promiscuous thoughts. In modern times, it isn't so important, but considering the harsher conditions our ancient ancestors had to put up with, mating often was probably a necessity, and, thus, we still have such inclinations.
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2009-06-21, 17:53 | Link #1191 |
Pretentious moe scholar
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Vancouver, Canada
Age: 37
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Well, she said she probably wouldn't be making the post convention meet, but I didn't outright get rejected either. I'm not sure if that's just her being polite or if she has other reasons for not making it and just didn't want to go into details. As I've used up my excuse for e-mailing her (the con photos), I'm thinking that my best chance of keeping things from going completely cold is to ask if she has MSN or the like. Although I do worry a bit I'm just delaying an inevitable confession here. |
2009-06-21, 18:00 | Link #1192 | |
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2009-06-26, 13:10 | Link #1193 |
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Zeon
Age: 33
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I Just got the "I just want to be friends" response first time of my life ever
I liked her a lot I actually consider her my high school crush where do i go wrong Had a feeling deep down in my gut that something would go wrong ...i really going to need to go party for a while
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2009-06-26, 14:42 | Link #1196 |
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Join Date: Feb 2008
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Maybe she really just sees you only as a friend. If that's the case, nothing went wrong, she just doesn't love you romantically from the start.
Maybe I am a bit blunt, sorry xD But maybe I'm wrong. You should try to talk to her about that if you want to be sure. |
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I know what I mean since it happened that i gave that answer, and in my case it was not "i fear for our friendship", it was just "i never felt anything romantic for you". |
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2009-06-26, 15:14 | Link #1199 | |
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We assume because women NEVER get to the point and throw all sorts of smokescreen answers at us.
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2009-06-26, 15:17 | Link #1200 | |
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Join Date: Feb 2008
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But many girls fear to be seen as mean, so they won't say "I don't love you romantically, we're just friends, so stop dreaming about things that don't exist between you and me" |
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