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Location: Massachusetts
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2011-05-12, 07:56 | Link #8764 | |
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Location: Dai Korai Teikoku
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Location: Athens (GMT+2)
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@ RB: Don't care. Not as in, -I- don't care, I'm addressing you not to care about him. Of course even though I say that, sometimes it's hard to look over certain things or people in life; should that be the case, you might want to find something to focus on, so as not to think of him. Quote:
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2011-05-12, 22:25 | Link #8766 | |
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Admittedly, part of the problem is I don't really feel settled on him, even now. I've avoided interacting with him for two years simply because I don't know how I'd be around him. I knew sooner or later I'd have to talk to him again, but I really wish I'd had more time, even if it's the coward's way out.
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2011-05-13, 00:03 | Link #8767 |
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For what it's worth, I don't think you are being a coward, You just feel conflicted, and that is fine. Feel free to ignore this, but here is my take on it:
If I were in your situation, I would treat him as a familar face that you haven't seen in a while. What I mean is, keep your interactions with him brief and superficial. And keep it civil. Admittedly, ignoring your own concerns isn't good, but this event isn't the time to rehash any drama that may still be there. After all, the guy and your mom are still on good terms, so he can't be a total ass, right? Then again I don't have a good relationship with any of my exes, so maybe you should just do the complete opposite... Last edited by blissfullyunaware; 2011-05-13 at 00:20. |
2011-05-13, 00:44 | Link #8768 | |
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that's basically it bro, just gotta hang in there 'till it's over alternatively, you could always just try to avoid him, then again i doubt that'd work
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2011-05-13, 04:19 | Link #8769 | |
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I agree with Da_Box with having a friend next to you as much as possible. It would deflect most of the possible negative feelings you might get, while keeping things polite and civil. |
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2011-05-13, 18:34 | Link #8770 | |
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One time, I was surprised by finding my first ex at my parents' house because he had been friends with my brothers. He suddenly gave me a bear hug when I entered the house meaning to talk to mum. I freaked out at first, but then we laughed it off and we talked for a while about how our lives had been in the last years. Another ex found me thanks to Facebook and asked if he could come for a visit. I let him and we managed to talk normally, like friends. There was a very awkward moment when he tried to put the moves on me and I told him I was steady with the man who is now my husband. He tried to impress me with salary, his ride, and even having his own house. That made it even more awkward. But in the end it was okay. Though he never visited again. Anyway, if you do have to somehow meet with the guy and it is unavoidable, try to be cool about it. Hope it won't be difficult for you. I'm sure you'll be fine and after the experience, you can share it here so we know how it went.
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2011-05-13, 22:55 | Link #8771 | |
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2011-05-16, 13:44 | Link #8772 | |
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A little story of little zebes: The first guy I really dated was just as stubborn and immature as me, so things ended very bad and awkwardly. He immediately hooked up with someone else (I have the suspicion they already saw each other when we were still together). Two years later they were married and a little family (she already had a child and they had another one together). I had no hard feelings when learning that, even so it was weird. I already knew he had a strong wish for children and family. I wished him the best and thought "Thank god, I'm fine with it." But then I ran into him. And he was together with the little girl. He looked just as shocked as me. We didn't talk, we just looked at each other like deers. I felt like running away and I just felt aweful. I was over him, but running into him unexpectedly brought so many things to the surface, how we parted in anger and never reall talked, didn't stay in touch. Uncertainity is what I hate the most and he was pretty much the embodiment of it, because there were so many things I didn't know. I regret that I never talked to him. Beams, you have one big advantage: You know that he'll be there. Make the best of it. Be nice, be friendly, be like you want to be - be comfortable with yourself. Avoid being entirely alone at first. But I'd try to talk to him and see how it is. It's a nice oppurtunity; you did get along after all. Nothing to loose really. Just keep in mind that his heart is already somewhere else. As much as it might bother you -- but knowing you, you'll be nobel about it anyway. (.. I was actually thinking about posting something that's bothering me a little, but enough for today XD) |
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2011-05-16, 20:09 | Link #8773 | |
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Yeah. I'll figure something out. My mom wants me to try and meet with him before the graduation party so that we get anything awkward out of the way and resolve it ourselves. I know he misses me, and honestly.... I sort of miss him, too. I miss the friendship I used to have with him and how it connected me to our little group. Maybe if it's not too hard, I can get back to that. I want to try.
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2011-05-16, 21:13 | Link #8774 | |
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2011-05-16, 22:22 | Link #8775 | |
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2011-05-17, 13:04 | Link #8777 |
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To a lot of dudes, Beamers, simply not being a horrible bitch to them can be taken as a sign of romantic or sexual interest. Not all guys, but quite a few guys still believe that it's impossible to have a friendship with a woman without six million tons of unresolved sexual tension.
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2011-05-17, 13:45 | Link #8778 | |
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2011-05-17, 22:24 | Link #8779 | |
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