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2009-08-22, 08:25 | Link #22 | |
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Thanks for recommending something. But i won't take that offer. @toru310: How can you be a hikikomori if you are still a college student? |
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2009-08-22, 08:37 | Link #23 | |
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As far as the topic of reproduction goes, I have never felt any desire or need to reproduce or to engage in any activity that may result in reproduction. That doesn't mean that what I have never considered is not handled instinctively by another individual. I would say that in general, it would have to be instinctual, because if you look at it logically, there are millions of people who should not be reproducing (people with high risk of genetic deformation, etc) and yet they still do. I would say that it has to be handled by a very powerful instinctive drive, because otherwise the people in question would realize the potential damage their reproduction could cause to the gene pool. It is not an inherently social activity, though. Last edited by Neat Hedgehog; 2009-08-22 at 09:07. Reason: dopey spelling error |
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It has always seemed like true "socializing" requires some sort of emotional tie-in, one which, for me, seems to be broken in some way or another. Without it, interaction with other people becomes a matter of when it is necessary, or when you're bored and it's readily convenient to converse with the person next to you so you don't fall asleep, not something that you just seek out because you want to. Quote:
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2009-08-22, 12:53 | Link #27 | |
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As to the main question, humans have largely evolved as sophisticated herd animals. There are animals that only encounter or seek out other members of their species rarely (such as animals that mate at one time point per year), but humans are not like that. It isn't something that can fully be attributed to genetics, but the overall chemistry of our body likely does contribute. People in isolation (true isolation - completely cut off from contact with others in all possible ways) tend to become suicidal and develop symptoms of mental illness, if I remember correctly. Something interesting to consider.
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2009-08-22, 17:31 | Link #28 |
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I've only skim read so I'm not sure if its been pointed out already but from a purely self centred perspective having a strong social network will help you find employment.
Most jobs arent advertised at all, so the only way you'll hear about them is through connections and those connections (assuming you've got a good reputation) will recomend you for jobs. Having contacts is a hell of alot easier than trying to impress people with your resume, covering letter and depending on your career portfolio. |
2009-08-23, 10:07 | Link #30 | |
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I socialise because I can!
If i dont talk to anyone it bugs me. Although like a lot of people I enjoy my own company. Quote:
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2009-08-24, 07:57 | Link #33 |
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I don't think there are other reasons beyond survival, entertainment, and communication, since pretty much everything can be boiled down to these three. Some people have the basic need to talk, but that's survival. To reach your goals, you have to communicate. And most of the stuff here is for entertainment Not everyone have the need, though. |
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2009-08-24, 10:24 | Link #35 | |
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If you're not socializing but you do leave your home occasionally, you're not a hikikomori, you're asocial. What is actually a psychologically normal behavior for a specific personality type. 45% of the population is part of that personality type, yet it's still considered to be strange. Weird people. Of course asocial people socialize, too. Just rarely or on the net. |
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2009-08-25, 01:31 | Link #36 |
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Humans socialize because we are made in the image of God.
We are bound to live the life of inter-relationships and that is what we seek for, even unconsciously. It's human nature. Human beings can only find the fulfillment here in Earth through relationships, especially loving ones -> hetero-sexual relationships.
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2009-08-25, 01:43 | Link #37 | |
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2009-08-25, 02:54 | Link #38 | |
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"It's human nature" is also useless as an explanation. "Why is the sky blue?" "Because that is the way it is supposed to be." -- is evasive. And at the end you imply that only heterosexual relationships can be loving ones. Sorry but there is no basis at all for that assertion (not even religious, no scripture says that). Take a few moments and read the two pages before your post - some of the posts might provide some insight. Socializing has specific measurable health and mental benefits.
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