2009-08-10, 15:43 | Link #1301 | |
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Suburban DC
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That's the high school, MTV view of society. Seriously, if nerds and eccentrics didin't procreate how is it that the number of people consuming such odd tastes has multiplied throughout the years. It's all how you put your mind to it (this is of course if you are genuine about what you said, if you were being sarcastic.....well NUTS TO YA). |
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2009-08-10, 15:46 | Link #1302 |
Honyaku no Hime
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Join Date: May 2008
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Not meant to give you hope, but state a blantant fact in face of your self imposed pessimism.
Since you feel sorry for yourself and only noted to relate the hobby of anime to dating based on I assume the lonely, social inept young male otaku stereotype, rather than read some of the previous threads here, to talk bout your own thoughts and experiences of dating (or failed dating) then there's nothing anyone can do, eh? Especially if you as you've so cheekily stated "Too long, didn't read." *shrugs and traipses off*
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2009-08-10, 16:00 | Link #1303 |
Imouto-Chan♥
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: England
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Imouto-chan is back!
Okay so this guy really wants me to be with him. But I really don't want too, he is forcing the question onto me whenever I see him. He is really annoying me but I hate to say no to him. We have been friends for ages but I have been his girlfriend before and he was all clingy and I dumped him. I just want to say no but I want to say it nicely, I am scared of hurting his feelings. Advice appreciated!
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2009-08-10, 16:05 | Link #1304 |
Love Yourself
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Northeast USA
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Depends on the guy and all, but for me, a clean cut is probably better than a soft let-down. Take me out of my misery early on and let me begin the process of healing and moving on with my life, instead of dancing around and giving me "maybe yes, maybe no" options.
You don't have to tell the guy that he's ugly/annoying or what ever the turn-off is, just tell him that you have no interest in dating him. Period. If he keeps pestering you, just keep telling him no, and start to be cautious about any dangerously obsessive behavior on his part. If you start to notice any, you may want to have a heart-to-heart talk with him (you know, something along the lines of "look, I really want to be friends with you, but your behavior is really creeping me out. I'm sorry that you're into me and I'm not into you, but that's just how it is"). If obsessive behavior persists, do what you can to sever your ties to him to protect yourself. Worst case scenario, alert authorities, get a restraining order instituted, etc.
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2009-08-10, 16:05 | Link #1305 | ||
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2009-08-10, 16:12 | Link #1306 | |
Imouto-Chan♥
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: England
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and thanks Dakota, when I see him i will tell him, I just find it hard telling people no..
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2009-08-10, 20:45 | Link #1307 | |
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Under the Moonlight
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I know how you feel about "Cute", so i second "I've always preferred cute to hot" I got nothing but agree with all those points you pointed out. The impact of cute girls is just like a bullet strike into your chest and it hurt the minute you got hit. After that you just have to confess and off you go. Another factor I know is that other than biological basis it can also be from the environment you grown up into with the people you know since childhood. What you guys think?
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2009-08-11, 00:21 | Link #1308 | ||
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Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Vancouver, Canada
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Anyway, I've actually used my anime hobby to connect with girls on a couple occasions. I tend to be more interested in eccentric girls anyway... so yeah. Quote:
In general, I'm a bit too reserved to ask a girl out the first time I meet her, but I do definitely get the "bullet" analogy. I've felt it on a few occasions. As to the last question, my dad has an old elementary school photo where he's one of only two white kids in the class. My mom is also white. Not sure if that provides you with any useful data or not. |
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2009-08-11, 00:42 | Link #1309 | |
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2009-08-11, 02:37 | Link #1311 |
World's Greatest
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: San Francisco
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All Asian people act differently depending on where they are from. Even if they are of the same ethnic background. For example, my girlfriend and her friends whom are all non-American Chinese act quite different in terms of persona than some of my Chinese friends who were raised here in America.
Just like "Black America" is very different from people that are actually from Africa.
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2009-08-11, 03:00 | Link #1312 | |
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But one thing I noticed about most Asian girls and why they act different is mainly in my opnion because of the Drama shows they watch. Either it be CDrama KDrama JDrama and so forth. It really gives off a high expectation and makes most girls think that relationships are suppose to be that way. So in my opinion most aren't really down to earth but high in the air. |
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2009-08-11, 05:59 | Link #1313 | ||
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Try dating the girls that comes from big cities like HK, Singapore or Taiwan, you ll find them as competitive and outspoken as any other girls.
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2009-08-11, 06:13 | Link #1314 | |
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Under the Moonlight
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@0utf0xZer0 That does and I didn't mention cause mix culture friend isn't rare now days so really being attracted to or attracted by is really doesn't matter just means how much you love that person over culture/religion. So its a free love now days only parents from the other era cares about such thing, really nothing to be shy about!!
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WARNING LONG POST I'm from Hong Kong. Hong Kong by itself is divided into several social groups (like all countries, duh), but the one I'm referring to specifically is the local group of Hong Kong women (mostly non english speakers). Hong Kong is moving towards a more sexually equal society, where women are taking jobs far more well paid than men. It has always been integrated in the Hong Kong society that men are basically as useful as how much money they get. You might flirt and have sex with a sexy guy, but if he's not rich you're not going to marry him and have kids. With this in mind, women in Hong Kong are a lot more cautious about a man's family background, career and wealth than what actually counts. What actually counts? Personality! Cheesy, I know, but truth. There are actually many documentaries about this. The way some women behave in interviews are absolutely outrageous. In fact I'll type one out just to show you how insane some of them are. Woman: I had a long term boyfriend that I really loved, I asked if one day when we're married we don't need a joint account. Instead he can transfer all his income into my account. My boyfriend got really angry. I thought to myself how pathetic this man is and dumped him. My current husband on the other hand would transfer all his money to me, then every month I would give him a little for allowance. Husband: It's not that bad actually, I don't have to buy her any valentines day presents because it's basically using her money. (this man is a loser) Word for word translated from Chinese into English. The translation might not be 1 to 1 but I guarantee you it's accurate, and I'm not lying. I'm not a money-cautious kinda guy, but the fact that someone would say that to me would seriously have my eyes blow out. I mean money is the more embarrassing side of a relationship, but it is crucial, and THAT is not the way to handle it. Women who behave that way have been coined as Kong Girls in Hong Kong. It might sound like a derogatory term but seriously if you ask some girls on the streets if they're Kong Girls, some of them would just say "no shit, duh" as if nothing's wrong with it. This is unfortunately not a recent fad, evidence of "Kong Girl" in the making can be spotted even in my mother's generation. Women have grown to be more and more materialistic in the Hong Kong society. Not all women in Hong Kong are like this, it's not like you'll be doomed with a Kong Girl if you live in Hong Kong, but the majority of the female population thinks this way. Quote:
Here's a piece of advice not to asian women, but to everyone in the world. That you need to explore and experience different social perspectives and understand them. Or else you might behave like a Kong Girl and fail to see why you might seem like an annoying bitch to someone else. I felt like I just offended a lot of people... |
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2009-08-11, 12:13 | Link #1317 | |
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Join Date: Apr 2004
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You don't have to get a Twilight tatoo for her, or watch the movies with her. She can do her Twilight thing in solitary. Besides it's obviously a phase, once the movies are over it'll die out. |
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2009-08-11, 20:41 | Link #1319 |
King of Nothing
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Hell
Age: 32
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wow ^_^ when I first saw this thread it was on page 11! T_T damn I really havent been on here in a long time huh. anyways I havent been in a relationship in a while, my EX shattered my heart so I kinda just roll with it now.
Im going on a date with a Deaf boy tommorow sooo if anybody ever has dated somebody with a hearing disablity I would really appreciate a hint or some advice. |
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