2012-12-11, 11:00 | Link #181 | |
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Oh Ok. then try to be nice to other people. there has to be nice person somewhere in your area
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2012-12-11, 11:14 | Link #182 | |
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I guess that day he got sick of my moaning and wallowing in self-pity that he bashed me up. I had to admit it - I asked for the bullying because I didn't fight back. There is no such thing to "keep away" or "ignore" bullies, if you are a weak victim, they will seek you out no matter where you are. And remember the basic three tenets : 1. Teachers have their own rice bowl to protect so they cannot help you. 2. Counsellors are there for the rice in their bowls - they wouldn't be counselling kids like you if they are not retired or have better grades in their degrees. 3. The heat generated from the bullying will melt the principals' iron rice bowl. And they would rather expel/suspend you than to help you because they have a personal image to maintain, like most useless CEOs in major business organisations. It is either the bully or the principal. It doesn't matter really if you are unlike me and have absolutely no friends - sometimes school administrators need that particular havoc to remind them that an iron rice bowl is heavy. And if you do feel that you have nothing to lose, why not? The recipes for disasters are always readily available in chemistry textbooks.
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2012-12-11, 11:17 | Link #183 | |
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i am always nice ok if not nice at least i am neutral and not hostile to others, it's not like i don't have any friends , what i said earlier was about 'most' of the people, i do find one or two friend somewhere somehow
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2012-12-11, 11:22 | Link #184 | |
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obviously they not every where at any time. to solve that, my school have group of senior student that watch over the small one (I am one of them) well that is not really enough I think. best way is just ignore them until they got tired
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2012-12-11, 11:35 | Link #185 | |
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now of course i am not the only one who has such problems, many people have such problems, compared to it my problems might be small by a neutral perspective,i just turn a blind eye to these things and try not to think much over it, but then there are always problems with everyone which just can't be ignored such as work, studies, love-life etc. etc.
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2012-12-11, 11:42 | Link #186 | |
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but yeah this case is kinda difficult one to solve. best one is to wait for something bad happens to them or you make one! of course you plan it so they don't strike back. well as long is not crossing the line
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2012-12-11, 11:48 | Link #188 | ||
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thought best way is to report to teacher/senior/elder.
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2012-12-11, 12:00 | Link #189 | ||
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I have my own heroes, and that includes : 1. David Stirling - founder of the British SAS 2. Mizuki Nana - read her biography 3. Bruce Lee - zen-master of martial arts They each have their own personalised method of fighting, using creativity, emotions and perserverance as base drivers. And they are all fighting to make a difference for themselves. Don't be afraid of others laughing at you - there is something called "appeal to ridicule". People only laugh at others because they needed a face to show to maintain their personal image. And it is only an image - not a persona which is a mask that comes from the heart. And one last thing - if you believed in "reality" you need to read more. It is a cliche based on perception; if it doesn't work for you, why perceive and believe it as that way, just simply because someone told you so? Perception is just a way of explaining things. Don't be lazy and use someone else's crappy answer - think up of your own. Quote:
1. Do you bother to understand these people? 2. Do you have a solution to help them? 3. If not, it is obviously that you are too stupid to possess problem solving skills. Either that or you suck at time management when you said that you have got no time for them. I like to insult "optimists" and "counsellors" who give this kind of BS. Not only it is a gratifying hobby to knock these "positively-charged people" off their unicorns, it also makes them reconsider ditching their comfort blanket and coming out to face what they have considered "impossible". A prison counsellor whom I am working with in my second job taught me this - "impossible" is a consideration when you have run out of ideas, or you have reached a ethics barrier despite following your moral compass. And you have to suck really hard at thinking if you run out of ideas.
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2012-12-11, 12:00 | Link #190 |
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well there isn't exactly a higher authority to whom you can report to but still, doing so will only make me a ..........(okay what is it called).......the one who can't even take a joke and ....reports to the authority, because it is fun for everyone except me, and after doing it, even the normal or neutral ones will give me a cold shoulder.
And about your advice, well i wouldn't waste my time on them but i do hope something bad happens to them
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2012-12-11, 12:04 | Link #191 | |
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what kind of bully we talking here? physical? mental? or "joke" bullying?
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2012-12-11, 12:12 | Link #192 | |
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Relax, i am not collapsing or anything, and these are just of my minor problems, i was just mentioning about these things
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2012-12-11, 15:07 | Link #193 | |
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And there are people that simply don't give a rat's ass. There are people that are simply annoyed by weakness and they don't try to understand it. Do you really think that's stupidity? More like arrogance I'd say. As to optimists, I dunno what to say. I never met such a hardcore optimist as the ones you talk about. The optimists I know are people that hope for the best (while trying to achieve it) and are aware of what "impossible" means. |
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2012-12-11, 19:55 | Link #197 | |
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2012-12-11, 22:01 | Link #198 | ||
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When it comes to talking about thoughts of suicide, I'd be very worried about how I should treat such comments. Is it just a passing thought that can be dispelled with pep talk? Or is it really a sign of something more serious that I should pay attention to? The absolute last thing I would want to do is laugh away something that is eating away the affected person; he or she may be too caught up with his or her troubles to talk openly about them in a public forum. I have experienced two cases where friends, relatives and I panicked over disturbing posts we saw online. The first case was triggered by an online friend from MMORPG Final Fantasy XI. We were close enough that we knew each other's real names and had communicated by voice. My guild mates and I knew for a while that she was going through a hard patch, and so we were badly alarmed when she suddenly said things that implied she was going to take her own life. We frantically tried to get in touch with her, and I went to the extent of calling her university's liaison officer. The second case involved my own brother, who is known for his sudden temper and mood swings. A cousin called me one day to alert me about a Facebook post he made: "I'm so tired of it all. Goodbye everyone." Yup, another series of frantic phone calls ensued. Both cases turned out to be false alarms, but I echo Hasumi's point: as outsiders, we won't know what's really going on unless we know you and talk to you in person. A few stray words in a text forum can mean virtually anything. That being the case, I'd much rather err on the side of caution than to regret later that I did nothing when I could have. |
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2012-12-12, 04:00 | Link #199 |
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I've seen bullying brought up a couple times here.
Personally I think I got lucky, not because I wasn't bullied (I was), but because I took it better than some people. I've had a number of bullies in my early days, some of them I can't even remember. I was bullied in many ways, big and small. But since I was so young I guess big or small didn't matter. Right now I don't blame any of them anymore, I understand why they did that and it would be pointless to hold a grudge all these years. Back then I bullied other kids smaller than me as a result of being bullied. That's why I understand it and I don't blame them. I can't take back anything I did back then, and it's the same for them so it's better to just leave it at that. We all learned something from it anyway.
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I've been thinking a bit, and I have to say that modern western media does a very poor job of representing what mental illness is really like. Either the mentally ill person is a raving murdering lunatic, or is a melodramatic teenager cutting themselves and threatening their parents with suicide. The same goes for Movies, TV and video games. For example, I've never seen a mainstream game where characters spend a substantial amount of time a realistic depiction of depression.
However, I find Anime and Manga to have much more nuanced depictions of mental illness (along with a fair number of crazed lunatics). For instance, going on with the video game example, the video games Persona 3 and 4 has many fairly grounded realistic depictions of mental illness and depression (and also crazed lunatics ). Furthermore, I think western culture isn't very accepting of mental illness, while Otaku culture is a bit more tolerant and empathetic of psychological "deviancy". I find Anime, Manga and certain Japanese video games have helped me when I've been feeling low in a way that western stuff never does, as I feel a certain sense of empathy there "I'm not the only person who's depressed, these people also get depressed, maybe I'm not so weird! And look this guy is able to deal with and help save the world!" Thoughts anyone? |
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