Dating

[Ricky Controversy]

Originally Posted by Animelover#1

Just a pointer to you guys, Is this even about dating anymore? :P

I'll resubmit this question if people missed it, to get the thread back on track:

How important do you think it is in a relationship that partners share their view of humanity? Should partners balance each other out? Agree with one another? Are certain views of humanity inherently helpful or harmful to relationships? Perhaps a complex set of questions, but one worth asking.

Meanwhile, to answer Zebra's question:

Has anyone of you ever been together with a polar opposite?

Up until my current relationship started, I only ever dated girls that were opposed to me in many ways. I've dated very gregarious girls despite being a solitary person myself. I've dated very cynical girls despite being incurably optimistic. I dated a girl who supported casual sex and orgies despite being completely committal and monogamous myself--though admittedly I found that part out after we'd been together for a while. The list goes on, and I've even dated someone who was very nearly my complete opposite in every regard.

Those drastic differences can be very enriching if you're open to learning from them, but depending on the personalities involved, they can create a lot of stress. There's no telling if it can work out or not until you try, but then that's true of all relationships.

[Kaijo]

Originally Posted by Mystique

In sort since I'm running late now.
There's "different" Kaijo and then there's 'pessimism', 'cynicism' and cold objectivity when in a thread like this 'dating, relationships, the human element', 'matters of the heart', it just serves to irk, grate and annoy after months and months of it.

Heh, I remember quite awhile ago, when you thought I was "well-grounded." Consider that what one person calls "cynicism" another one calls "realism." I tend to go with the latter, but I admit the former as a bit of a humorous concession to those who see it that way, heh. Any advice I give is more of a grounding in pragmatic realism, though not too far away, I was half-joking with the whole apple core comment.

But here's where I can be proven wrong! Do happy, fuzzy, bunny thoughts work? Are they the answer to everything? Can you change someone with them? The answer I have been presented with so far is: "nope." Sometimes, no matter how much you try, how much you wish, and how much you pray, people are gonna treat you like crap, relationships included. Prove me wrong by not becoming cynical and harsh, but work to change me with fuzzy bunny thoughts and responses.

But a human being is an animal, subject to animalistic responses, with chemicals in the brain, pheromones, psychological profiles, etc. It can be rationally analyzed, given enough information. And because I love XKCD, gonna toss up a short comic to illustrate:

http://xkcd.com/435/

Originally Posted by Ricky Controversy

I don't even know what to make of this statement. Could you clarify? It doesn't seem terribly pertinent, but maybe and is and I just don't get it.

Perhaps it's not; just showing that I did agree with you on something, heh.

Ah, but you do the same as well at times, do you not? We all do, and it's not anything to be ashamed of.

Wouldn't say ashamed of, no. I try to speak from a "generally speaking" standpoint, because that's how scientists speak. There's never a 100% absolute; even the laws of physics we have have shown sometimes to not be quite so absolute. "Generally speaking, the theory of evolution holds true." I know I get in trouble sometimes because I forget to add the "generally speaking" and someone things I"m talking about every case, heh.

I don't understand where this comes from, though. People like yourself are quite common, and it's not really surprising. It's easy to have a strong reaction to the feeling that many things in life don't seem reasonable, and most of us will go through a phase of accepting and learning to cope with it throughout our lives. But it doesn't make you any kind of outcast, so you don't need to worry about that. I accept you completely, but can you accept that I'm hard on you because I've been through what you're going through right now? I just want to see you come out the other side a little stronger, rather than being preoccupied with your sense of being 'different'.

Well, take a look around; there aren't too many other people we have a hoard of others coming down on, haha. Trust me when I say it took me a lot of introspection and meditation to figure out exactly why I always had problems with people. Why I never got along with the neighborhood kids, all the way up to today and this very thread. If I was normal like most, you wouldn't see the venom that you do in some of the posts, heh, that people have noticed wasn't deserved.

I find it's very difficult for someone to accept that. So, another thing someone is welcome to prove me wrong on.

I no longer think of myself as exile or anything like that. I just simply am who I am. Someone will accept that or not, and now that I know why, I am no longer bothered by it. I do have quite a few relationships with people who do understand, so I know it's not impossible; just not easy.

In truth, all this actually makes for a good dating question. How important do you think it is in a relationship that partners share their view of humanity? Should partners balance each other out? Agree with one another? Are certain views of humanity inherently helpful or harmful to relationships? Perhaps a complex set of questions, but one worth asking.

Yes, we should get back to the subject, heh. Pretty much, it's more of a personal question, although in general guidelines a couple should share some interests and traits. How much, and how many differences they can tolerate, is up to each person. Personally, I'd want someone to argue and butt heads with; great way to sharpen the pencil, as it were.

I've noticed the dating process kinda relies on the initial feelings lasting long enough to where the major differences can be worked out. But many instead don't work on them and just enjoy the feeling, thus when it wears off, no real compromise has been made and the relationship ends. The phrase "finding out what they are really like" comes to mind, heh.

[Slick_rick]

Wow all the joy got sucked out of this thread. Kaijo is truly remarkable.

Relationships take work and compromise. I would suggest looking internally if certain problems keep repeating themselves. It almost certainly has to do more with your attitude towards a situation and inability or unwillingness to change yourself that is causing it. Everyone has different experiences but you shouldn't let those experiences completely taint future relationships. If you're too pessimistic then the relationship already has one foot in the grave.

Being positive I find helps. Back on the height thing I'm only 5'1 but I don't think it hurts me much on the relationship side. Though the fact I still look like a teenager is a bit an annoyance for me though. I haven't been one for quite a long time though most still assumes I am. If a girl turns you down there is always ten more around the corner who more than willing. That doesn't mean you should start fooling around. You should ask yourself what kind of relationship you want and figure out what kind of relationship the women wants. Once that happens thing move much smoother.

Experiences should help you grow not regress so keep the positive experience and try to work out the negatives so you can improve or change yourself.

[Haruka_Kitten]

Wow....I sleep for less than 7 hours and come back to pages and pages of new posts O.o

Unlike Mystique, though, I'm not one to write essays for responses to other posts. I'll try my best to keep it in line

Originally Posted by Mystique

And to tie it into relationships, should many years down the line, your partner experiences a major trauma in life (or an accident occured that disabled their body or whatnot) and they were 'no longer the same person', but sadly filled with remorse, hate, cynicism and so on, how long could you tolerate supporting them, trying to help them heal before you feel like you should step out or break away.
If the relationship just became emotionally abusive, would you stick with it simply cause you knew that they are a good person (save the 'incident')
Or would the bitterness just be too much, when a person cannot let go and you'd end the relationship?

In otherwords, I wonder (alike now with Kaijo) where everyone's tolerance and limits lie when it'd come to their loved ones.
It definitely is a 'when push comes to shove' moment, it's very difficult to specualte on, on theory alone but I guess one could self analyse how far their patience lasts.

This question intrigued me, and as to not give a "generic" answer, I will simply not answer it at all. It actually raised another semi-related question, albeit this one might get me a bit of emotional response. Say, the person wasn't emotionally damaged from said incident, more like physically (such as the loss of a limb or even paralysis from an accident), how would one cope with it?

Originally Posted by zebra

I'm sorry! v_v Bad zebra! D: Forgive me, Mystique-sama!
You just gave off these maternal vibes, is all xD

Sometimes they do, Zebra-san, sometimes they do. I had the same feeling about Mystique (sorry, I don't usually bother with honourifics (<---that is how it's spelt in British English, yes?)) aswell.

Originally Posted by zebra

Has anyone of you ever been together with a polar opposite?

Yes, my ex boyfriend. It wasn't just the way we looked either (he dyes his hair really blonde-white to match his white cat cosplay set, while I'm naturally black, and went black cat instead), it was how we sort of handled things. Whilist he had a sort of level head, I don't, and according to various personality tests I have undertaken, I have a pretty low need for socialising with people (neé, introvert) and pretty high intolerance for bad situations (In other words, high emotional instability), quite possibly the exact opposite with him. The way we dressed, the way we sort of talked....I think at that moment we sort of saw how different we were (because unlike him, I'd be more than happy to walk into school wearing the whole cat thing, on the privoso that for that whole time, he doesn't know me ).

So yes, you can say, I have dated a polar opposite.

[Fuyu no Sora]

Originally Posted by Mystique

Eh?
Looks like another 'Asuki dating thread world' vs Kaijo' battle going on and this time, he didn't toss in anything too crazy to set people off.
So what's the general deal here? *looks at syn, RB, Ricky and Fuyu*

It just so happens that my last post was the first one I have ever made in this thread. I stuck strictly to the anime - the Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha section to be precise- before and it's the first time I've been in a General section of any forum. XD

The deal is that the way he portrays things and makes small, snide comments here and there are not only quite tiring, but they also tie to an important personal event. Else I really wouldn't have even come back online. I was taking a hiatus due to other things in my life being priority, but well, we can't always have our way, right? :3

Originally Posted by Mystique

Understandably we can't get on with everyone on this board or in the world, but despite past run ins with each other, shouldn't we sometimes check ourselves to see if we have this subconscious 'dislike' towards a person that comes through our posts to that person without realising it?
(Ie, in your tones and the way you direct your posts to the person in qestion rather to the topic at hand)

The tone in my post was meant to convey my irritation. I'm sorry if it offended anyone, but I was more than just a bit fed up.

Originally Posted by Mystique

And to tie it into relationships, should many years down the line, your partner experiences a major trauma in life (or an accident occured that disabled their body or whatnot) and they were 'no longer the same person', but sadly filled with remorse, hate, cynicism and so on, how long could you tolerate supporting them, trying to help them heal before you feel like you should step out or break away.
If the relationship just became emotionally abusive, would you stick with it simply cause you knew that they are a good person (save the 'incident')
Or would the bitterness just be too much, when a person cannot let go and you'd end the relationship?

If it's been a relationship that has been ongoing for many years and the mutual feelings of love are still there, I'd say fight until the end. This may be just a bit idealistic of me, but I'm the type to stick around until I'm told to vanish; even then, I will ask for confirmation that that is truly what the other person wants.

Kinda offtopic, but to explain a bit more of my behavior in the paragraph before, it's all due to my best friend. We've known each other for a long time now, and we've had some rather awful almost-fights (the worst of which lasted three hours back and forth with me trying to pry something out of her while she dug her heels and refused to give in.); we've been mad at each other, we've had serious differences in many things, yet we still have an amazingly strong and stable friendship. Personally I think it's more because of her than me, since she's had to put up with much more than I think anyone would have ever stood, but there. She's the one that taught me the true meaning of 'friendship' with her ultra-seized heart and I'll try my best to live up to that and do the same. :3

Originally Posted by Mystique

In otherwords, I wonder (alike now with Kaijo) where everyone's tolerance and limits lie when it'd come to their loved ones.
It definitely is a 'when push comes to shove' moment, it's very difficult to specualte on, on theory alone but I guess one could self analyse how far their patience lasts.

If it were for someone like my best friend, I'd go to hell and back; because she's given me so much of herself and asked for so little (and even then, I had to kind of blackmail her into asking ) that it's the least I could do.

Originally Posted by synaesthetic

I do not need to check myself and it has nothing to do with a subconscious dislike. It has to do with a very conscious need to call people on their bullshit.

When people start miring themselves in self-pity, enabling them is not the answer.

Well, we're all allowed to wallow in self-pity once in a while () but it's when we stay there and go emo that things become problematic.

Originally Posted by Ricky Controversy

Now, I give the benefit of the doubt that this is not his intent, but it is nevertheless the way he presents himself, and I believe people are growing tired of said pretension.

I had something much more intelligent with which to reply, but I kind of forgot it by ranting about my friend, so I'll just say "Quoted for truth" and leave it at that.

Originally Posted by Mystique

No one really enbaled him or is supporting it, but from the numerous debates and posts that Kaijo has written he has given background and reason for it to the point where you can take a pinch of salt or ignore it.

It all depends. If you're someone unrelated to the entire conversation, yet the repetitive comments and remarks annoy you, it's clear that there is a problem there somewhere.

Originally Posted by Ricky Controversy

In truth, all this actually makes for a good dating question. How important do you think it is in a relationship that partners share their view of humanity? Should partners balance each other out? Agree with one another? Are certain views of humanity inherently helpful or harmful to relationships? Perhaps a complex set of questions, but one worth asking.

I believe that, so long as you don't start a debate that has something to do with which worldview is better or which one is "right", people's view on humanity won't really affect a relationship. Unless one of them is a complete jerkass with the other's friends and family because they dislike humanity; then it's a big problem.

Originally Posted by Kaijo

But a human being is an animal, subject to animalistic responses, with chemicals in the brain, pheromones, psychological profiles, etc. It can be rationally analyzed, given enough information.

Ironically enough, it is also the human being that is the only animal stupid enough to make the same mistake twice. Also the only animal that allows himself/herself to be either overridden by pride and/or stubbornness, which prevents that individual to have full access to the adaptability that is essential and inherent in other animals that actually live peacefully in a group.

We are all, in essence, somewhat damaged, after all.

[Last Sinner]

Originally Posted by synaesthetic

I accept anyone who doesn't piss me off, and a lot of people who do piss me off. I'm pretty tolerant, all things considered.

I get told I'm very tolerant myself. My mum bred me that way. She would make me rue the day I was born if I wasn't.

Originally Posted by Slick_rick

Wow all the joy got sucked out of this thread. Kaijo is truly remarkable.

It has synaesthetic. 1 sharp sentence from synaesthetic > 200 solemn faces from Kaijo.

Relationships take work and compromise.

Experiences should help you grow not regress so keep the positive experience and try to work out the negatives so you can improve or change yourself.

My thoughts exactly. My hat off to you.


There is one upside to winter....women look so cute in the sweaters/long-sleeved tops they wear. However, those that still wear short or really light dresses when it's near zero outside...they kinda irk me. What the hell is the point of freezing just to show a little skin? There's being a little daring and then there's abandoning common sense.

I will freely admit I'm a jeans fan. They highlight a nice amount of curve and shape on either gender without having to show it. There's a woman at work who is in the same section I am that looks utterly stunning in them and a cosy winter top and light vest. I do take a 1-2 second look some of the times she walks past. But never more than 2 seconds. That's a rule I enforce on myself. Any longer and you're just being rude. People generally do like being looked at positively but not constant staring/gawking. There has to be a fair degree of tactfulness with it.

And I really like faces. They convey so much and can really put a person at ease or utterly captivate one. I've also noticed that people approach me randomly on the street asking me for directions or when a bus is coming. My mum, who's a psychologist, says I have a face that looks more trustworthy than the norm. I guess that is the case. It's something I have going for me - I'll take it.

[Kaijo]

Originally Posted by Fuyu no Sora

The deal is that the way he portrays things and makes small, snide comments here and there are not only quite tiring, but they also tie to an important personal event. Else I really wouldn't have even come back online. I was taking a hiatus due to other things in my life being priority, but well, we can't always have our way, right? :3

Indeed. But as much as people might like to believe, my comments are rarely, if ever, directed at anyone specific. So if someone feels something because of it, then it's more in their head, regardless of how cold that may seem. I've long learned that no matter what I say, someone will upset about it, so I just stopped caring; it's their problem, not mine. When they care about my problems, I will care about theirs.

We are all, in essence, somewhat damaged, after all.

Yup. So the real test is whether someone can accept another for their damaged parts, or whether it takes something incredible or tragic before that can happen.

At any rate, I'll stop "sucking the fun out" for awhile at least, if that's what people choose to view it as. :P

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by Ricky Controversy

How important do you think it is in a relationship that partners share their view of humanity? Should partners balance each other out? Agree with one another? Are certain views of humanity inherently helpful or harmful to relationships? Perhaps a complex set of questions, but one worth asking.

Always with the hard questions from you, why do I bother? [/joke]

To try and answer said question to the best of my abilities, I think it helps a great deal to have someone who, if not completely sharing your views on humanity, is at least able to agree with your view on humanity and accept it for what it is. People who are too different in this aspect may be able to still have a relationship, but it certainly makes things a little harder for both parties.

(Of course, the irony of this question isn't lost on me... as my best friend is incredibly cynical. But she respects my veiws on things, and I respect hers, so we've managed to work that out very well. :3 Plus, honestly, I don't think she's half as black-hearted as she likes to claim she is.)

Originally Posted by Fuyu no Sora

We are all, in essence, somewhat damaged, after all.

All I have to say is, amen, sister. Amen.

[yoropa]

*ignores fighting*

Originally Posted by RadiantBeam

EDIT: To keep this thread on track, just a general question for all: What was the funniest moment you ever had a date, with anyone?

Not really so much a date, since I don't think I've ever been on a date. I've hung out with women before yes, but it's hard for me to pinpoint a "funniest moment" I've had with any of them...

*thinks for a while*

This wasn't a date at all, but I was with a French girl at work returning from a business meeting. Wandering through the streets of the city, we came across some interesting monuments. She asks me, accent and all, "What is all of this?" and I reply "I have never seen as many statues of naked men in one place as I have here!" to which her eyes widened as she said slowly "Ohhhhh..."

I did talk previously in this thread about a wonderful time I had with the Japanese girl at the mall, but now it all feels bleak, knowing that it was done simply to lie to me to make me comfortable with her before prom, where I was treated like filth by her and her friends.

Other than that the only girl I've ever had one-on-one time with was the Chinese girl, but she also ended up treating me negatively. None of these were dates though. I wasn't dating any of them, I wasn't in relationships with any of them.

[Ricky Controversy]

Originally Posted by RadiantBeam

Always with the hard questions from you, why do I bother? [/joke]

Because you know where you get your lovin' from? *Bricked*

Originally Posted by Last Sinner

And I really like faces. They convey so much and can really put a person at ease or utterly captivate one.

An expressive face is incredibly attractive. It's the best when you can look at someone you love and read all these feelings in the subtleties of their face. My girlfriend's face speaks volumes, especially right after a kiss.

[ChainLegacy]

Originally Posted by Fuyu no Sora

Okay, seriously? It's getting more than just annoying to see you always bitch about how you were abandoned, how women don't know what they have and value your fiendship, boo-hoo, poor, poor you. It's more than a drag, and frankly it's boring as hell. Why don't you find a new topic to talk about?

Your "new toy" theory is also not only dumb, but is based far too much on your own jaded view of things. Stop making indirect jabs at people, and if you have something to say, then say it to that person's face instead of only making comments here and there while trying to "help" or "give advice" to other people. You'll poison them.

Okay, maybe I'm just a weirdo, but if you're really getting all worked up over Kaijo's posts on an internet anime forum, I think you've got problems you need to address first before telling him what to do.

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by Arbitres

*hides other brick behind back* :< EGADS! What just happened?!

It was Tres, in the courtyard, with the brick!

I never really had an amusing or funniest moment on a date - first one was a joke.

Like, someone playing a joke by taking you on a date, or the date itself was a joke in general?

[0utf0xZer0]

Originally Posted by RadiantBeam

EDIT: To keep this thread on track, just a general question for all: What was the funniest moment you ever had a date, with anyone?

For me, I think mine would be when I went to see The Last Airbender with my boyfriend and spent the whole movie nerd-raging into his ear and making him laugh at how huffy and annoyed I was.

You just jogged my memory regarding one of mine... I took my girlfriend to see Avatar (went so-so since she's not much of an action fan), and one of the trailers was the one for Percy Jackson and the Lightning Thief where the one girl says "I have strong feelings for you, I just can't tell if they're positive or not". When that line came up, I turned to my girlfriend and said "tsundere". At which point we both kind of silently cracked up.

Other contenders... there was one case where she was telling me that she felt really hurt when some kid she knew that was taking a Japanese class refused to call her "onee-sama" (big sister), at which point I said I could kind of see his point because that would be like getting her to call me "onii-chan". At which point she tried to call me that without giggling four times and succeeded at it once. For a while afterwards we'd crack up if the words "onii-chan" came up in an anime we were watching.

(Actually, considering the subcultural context required to "get" both stories, I really feel like a nerd right now...)

[Haruka_Kitten]

Originally Posted by 0utf0xZer0

(Actually, considering the subcultural context required to "get" both stories, I really feel like a nerd right now...)

I think you fail to read the title of this forum

As for funny moments, fair and few for me, not that I can't remember them, but I doubt you'd want to hear of any "funny" moments I have had with past partners.

[Ricky Controversy]

Originally Posted by 0utf0xZer0

Other contenders... there was one case where she was telling me that she felt really hurt when some kid she knew that was taking a Japanese class refused to call her "onee-sama" (big sister), at which point I said I could kind of see his point because that would be like getting her to call me "onii-chan". At which point she tried to call me that without giggling four times and succeeded at it once. For a while afterwards we'd crack up if the words "onii-chan" came up in an anime we were watching.

(Actually, considering the subcultural context required to "get" both stories, I really feel like a nerd right now...)

Hahah, oh, if only you knew...*glances at Radiant* Isn't that right, Imouto-chan?

Which leads me to another question: how do you folks feel about romantic nicknames and the like? I know some people like them a lot, but there are others who find them condescending or annoying for one reason or another. As an expansion to that, what are the best and worst nicknames a partner has ever given you?

The best for me is easily "Onii-chan" (faux incest is fun!), while the worst is..."Shmoops". I mean, seriously. What the hell? It sounds like a euphemistic name for some kind of rectal disease. "I have a bad case of the shmoops."

[LMF]

Nicknames, eh...

I would like to LMFy or Spikey or just plain and simple - bum.

[Khu]

Originally Posted by Ricky Controversy

Hahah, oh, if only you knew...*glances at Radiant* Isn't that right, Imouto-chan?

Which leads me to another question: how do you folks feel about romantic nicknames and the like? I know some people like them a lot, but there are others who find them condescending or annoying for one reason or another. As an expansion to that, what are the best and worst nicknames a partner has ever given you?

The best for me is easily "Onii-chan" (faux incest is fun!), while the worst is..."Shmoops". I mean, seriously. What the hell? It sounds like a euphemistic name for some kind of rectal disease. "I have a bad case of the shmoops."

...

my whole grade calls me Kennifer.

See, that's BAD.

And 4 of those 130 odd people call me "onii-chan" because we all decided to have a little family where we'd all be siblings.

See, that's CUTE.

There's a fine line, my man. Fine line.

Though my sister calls me...*shudder* "boobie." Even though I'm 15 years old now. =.="""""""""""""

THAT'S CONDESCENDING, RIGHT THERE. ^^^^^^^^^^^

[Haruka_Kitten]

Originally Posted by Ricky Controversy

Which leads me to another question: how do you folks feel about romantic nicknames and the like? I know some people like them a lot, but there are others who find them condescending or annoying for one reason or another. As an expansion to that, what are the best and worst nicknames a partner has ever given you?

The best for me is easily "Onii-chan" (faux incest is fun!), while the worst is..."Shmoops". I mean, seriously. What the hell? It sounds like a euphemistic name for some kind of rectal disease. "I have a bad case of the shmoops."

My ex's nickname was Kitten, for obvious reasons

I get called a lot of nicknames, some good, some bad....some derogatory (like I give a stuff). I think one that sticks, thanks to Arbitres and Gin, is Haru-chan ^^

(No, Hatsuharu is NOT my real name. It's just something that came from one of those Name gen sites based off my real name)

[xSam]

Originally Posted by Ricky Controversy

Which leads me to another question: how do you folks feel about romantic nicknames and the like?

Romantic nicknames??

Normal ones: Babe, sweetie, honey, love, sweetheart, bubzy

Abnormal: Bubble bums, piggy, oinky (I love food.. )

Worst: Honey bun sugar cakes sweetie bear with cherries on top ...
YES that is the actual nickname.. we were goofing around giving each other funny names and he came up with that, and as time went on when he could remember it he'd be like "Hello my lil sunshine - oh i mean honey bun sugar cakes sweetie bear with cherries on top"

[zebra]

@harufox, naaah I didn't imply that mystique-nee-san is a mother yet for sure, she just often takes a parental role in this thread. maternal vibes =/= mother

Originally Posted by Ricky Controversy

Which leads me to another question: how do you folks feel about romantic nicknames and the like? I know some people like them a lot, but there are others who find them condescending or annoying for one reason or another. As an expansion to that, what are the best and worst nicknames a partner has ever given you?

It takes a bit until I call my beloved names, but they either consist of a trait or are the general ones like honey etc.

Guess the following will be a bit lost in translation, but bear with me.

There always came the time when past boyfriends would call me "Kleine" (=little one) or "Engelchen" (=Angel-chan). My current boyfriend only calls me things like darling, dear or honey, bless him.
Most used word would be "Schatz" (=treasure).
Never hated any truly, even so I always had my problems with "Kleine" ... please don't remind me how small I am, I know! D:. Specially, when you pick me up and grin at me evily D:

An ex really hated it when I called him "Putzi" (just a word for something cute I guess), which I only did because he hated it so much. That guy actually loved to imitate Golumn (yes LotR) and go all creepy "My treasure!" when he hugged me tight. Amused me.

The most horrible nick name I have, is actually what my best friends call me. But I won't reveal that, it's off topic anyway