Dating

[Crashmaking Zoomatic]

@synaesthetic: I wish it were that easy with my parents, but I guess the problem here is that I do like them! That really doesn't sound pleasant at all, though. I think not associating with them was a goooood choice.~

@Prodigy: Well, studying abroad would just be for the summer, really. For now at least. I've mentioned studying abroad to my mother before, and she knows I would really like to do so. Definitely no doubts, though!

@Knightrunner: Yeeeaah, that ended up a lot longer than I intended it to. Thank you for the welcome, though! But my plan is to definitely get some scholarships to study abroad. They can't refuse when I'm practically getting paid to go out of the country and study...right? And from what I've been told, it's too distracting when it comes to my grades, and too much "emotional baggage" that I shouldn't have to deal with now. Studies are top focus, which I mean, won't be affected if I get to visit over breaks anyway! I'm still their baby girl, of course, so I don't think they like the thought of me being in an intimate relationship. Well, I'm positive. Most parents don't, I guess. Also, I don't know if they'd still let me right now regardless, but my dad strongly prefers I marry an Indian guy. Haaaah, probably not happening. Oh! And they -do- know how to use the internet, yeah.

Thanks again, you guys! I guess I just need a good way to ease them out of their mindset. After all, it'd be nice to get to visit England at some point without having to study abroad!

[Kotohono]

Originally Posted by Knightrunner

I have to agree with Prodigy. It does not matter what age you are if you don't follow your parents advise they can k*ll you. It happens in Asian societies too. In the US, people think your a real adult when you hit the magic age 18, but in reality how many can actually think reasonably.

You really think she should listen to her parents, when they're presenting hypocritical advice? Just cause they want to avoid her having kids early, which looks like to me that she is already looking to avoid herself, thus their "advice" is unnecessary limiting her freedom and rights .

[synaesthetic]

I'm a really bad source of advice when it comes to loving parents...

[Lost Cause]

My question is, is Theo as serious about this as you are?

[Crashmaking Zoomatic]

@Syn: It's alright! Any advice is helpful advice! <3

@Lost Cause: It probably sounds naive, but I'm 100% sure he is just as serious as I am. You don't find many guys shelling out all their money for a plane ticket to the U.S twice, after all!

[Knightrunner]

Originally Posted by Konakaga

You really think she should listen to her parents, when they're presenting hypocritical advice? Just cause they want to avoid her having kids early, which looks like to me that she is already looking to avoid herself, thus their "advice" is unnecessary limiting her freedom and rights .

Emotional baggage and worrying about grades are legit reasons. I think she should listen to what her parents say, but does not mean she should follow their advice. Early kids are always a worry even if she said nothing will happen.

I think she just needs to evaluate her reasons and make sure her bf is in the same page. Indian and Asian parents (from my experience) tend to give lots of advice even after age 18, 20, 25, or maybe even beyond. I do think the abroad idea is a good idea especially if she gets a scholarship.

[Sumeragi]

I'm back, after some very hard times (related to some accidents that made me stay in the hospital for over 2 months). I'll most likely be active starting from the second week of May.

Crashmaking Zoomatic: I'm sorry I cannot be of help at the current moment. Your case does make me concern, but I cannot spare time at the moment. Please excuse my lack of help.

[RadiantBeam]

Originally Posted by Crashmaking Zoomatic

@synaesthetic: I wish it were that easy with my parents, but I guess the problem here is that I do like them!

Curse parents that mean well, huh?

Kind of late to the party on this one and you seem to have an idea of what you want to do from here on out, but considering that your parents are on some level like mine, just thought I'd throw in my own two cents. Obviously, your folks are getting on your last nerve, but I'd say that it helps to gradually ease them into the situation and let them get used to it. Obviously sooner or later you will have to be honest with them and tell them that this is for real, but in spite of it all they seem to have good intentions at heart.

[Prodigy]

Originally Posted by Crashmaking Zoomatic

but my dad strongly prefers I marry an Indian guy. Haaaah, probably not happening.

Haha, my parents don't care who I date or fool around with right now as long as I marry an Indian girl. To piss them off I introduce them to different girls (not Indian) every now and then and tell them that shes the one.

Originally Posted by Knightrunner

It does not matter what age you are if you don't follow your parents advise they can k*ll you. It happens in Asian societies too.

That is so true. Couple of my close friends are Asian and their parents are crazy. Got so many stories. One time his dad beat him in front of a bunch of us becasue he found porn on his computer.

Originally Posted by Crashmaking Zoomatic

@Lost Cause: It probably sounds naive, but I'm 100% sure he is just as serious as I am. You don't find many guys shelling out all their money for a plane ticket to the U.S twice, after all!

Most guys wouldn't spend that much money and travel that far for a girl they met online. Theo sounds like a keeper.

[Last Sinner]

Heads up that I have continued The Secret Life of Syn. I'll be continuing it in the thread in Fan Creation sub-forums that is linked in my sig. Hope people continue to like it. And keep comments/posts related to that in its thread itself. I don't want to take attention away from what this thread was created for.

And on parents - yes, they can be rather overbearing when it comes to who they think their offspring should be with. Know when to kick you heels and when they are trying to look out for you. And if they're not looking out for at all - stick it to them.

[Crashmaking Zoomatic]

Originally Posted by Knightrunner

I think she just needs to evaluate her reasons and make sure her bf is in the same page. Indian and Asian parents (from my experience) tend to give lots of advice even after age 18, 20, 25, or maybe even beyond. I do think the abroad idea is a good idea especially if she gets a scholarship.

Eh? Evaluate our reasons? I'm not hundred percent sure what exactly you mean, but thank you. I'm hoping the abroad idea will work out well enough.

Originally Posted by Sumeragi

Crashmaking Zoomatic: I'm sorry I cannot be of help at the current moment. Your case does make me concern, but I cannot spare time at the moment. Please excuse my lack of help.

No need to apologize! I wish you the best of luck in sorting out your problems, really! Life can be crazy sometimes.

Originally Posted by RadiantBeam

Curse parents that mean well, huh?

Obviously, your folks are getting on your last nerve, but I'd say that it helps to gradually ease them into the situation and let them get used to it. Obviously sooner or later you will have to be honest with them and tell them that this is for real, but in spite of it all they seem to have good intentions at heart.

Curse them indeed! But nah, I love them, really. They just can be frustrating, as you've said. My plan is to slowly chip away their resistance, so hopefully that'll get me somewhere soon enough! They really do just want the best for me, and I'm sure trusting a strange British man currently attending university in Wales is a bit hard for them.

Originally Posted by Prodigy

Most guys wouldn't spend that much money and travel that far for a girl they met online. Theo sounds like a keeper.

Gotta' love Indian parents, eh? It makes me laugh how adamant they can be about marrying a fellow Indian!~ But aaww, that made me grin. Haha, thank you! I think the same way!

Originally Posted by Last Sinner

And on parents - yes, they can be rather overbearing when it comes to who they think their offspring should be with. Know when to kick you heels and when they are trying to look out for you. And if they're not looking out for at all - stick it to them.

Haha, will do my best with that. I've never gone against them before, so it's a little difficult. Hopefully I'll be able to convince them otherwise in due time.

Thanks again, everyone!

[Yuutsu]

Anyone else ever experience 'moteki'? It's apparently some phenomenon that the Japanese believe happens to a person 3 times in his or her life. Each time it happens, the person suddenly becomes very popular for an amount of time (not sure how long).

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[Samari]

Originally Posted by Yuutsu

Anyone else ever experience 'moteki'? It's apparently some phenomenon that the Japanese believe happens to a person 3 times in his or her life. Each time it happens, the person suddenly becomes very popular for an amount of time (not sure how long).

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Never heard of it. I don't really believe in those sort of things.

[zebra]

Originally Posted by Yuutsu

Anyone else ever experience 'moteki'? It's apparently some phenomenon that the Japanese believe happens to a person 3 times in his or her life. Each time it happens, the person suddenly becomes very popular for an amount of time (not sure how long).

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For women it's every spring. Skirts are magic.

[Last Sinner]

Originally Posted by zebra

For women it's every spring. Skirts are magic.

Every summer it's the bikini and t-shirt.

Every autumn it's the boots and belt.

Every winter it's the scarf and sweater.

[DonQuigleone]

Yeah, it's amazing, when that snow melts women's attractiveness increases to over 9000!

Man, if only it was a bit warmer here in Ireland. Girls always have to wear leggings with their skirts .

Does this make me sound pervy .

[Flinch]

I guess that's one of the trade-offs for living in the desert; nobody wants to where much of anything. Yet, the heat really does get to me.

[Miko Miko]

Originally Posted by DonQuigleone

Does this make me sound pervy .

Just a bit.

[synaesthetic]

Originally Posted by zebra

For women it's every spring. Skirts are magic.

Indeed, I am also skilled in this form of magic.

[DonQuigleone]

Heh, can't beat a beard.

Beards rock . It's like I suddenly seem 10 times wiser. How can a man live without it?

Greek quote: There are only two types of people that do not wear beards, Boys and Women, and I am neither.

Beards are the ultimate in manliness.