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View Poll Results: Boku wa Tomodachi ga Sukunai NEXT - Episode 11 Rating | |||
Perfect 10 | 25 | 34.25% | |
9 out of 10 : Excellent | 21 | 28.77% | |
8 out of 10 : Very Good | 21 | 28.77% | |
7 out of 10 : Good | 4 | 5.48% | |
6 out of 10 : Average | 1 | 1.37% | |
5 out of 10 : Below Average | 0 | 0% | |
4 out of 10 : Poor | 0 | 0% | |
3 out of 10 : Bad | 1 | 1.37% | |
2 out of 10 : Very Bad | 0 | 0% | |
1 out of 10 : Painful | 0 | 0% | |
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2013-03-24, 21:08 | Link #121 |
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There is no decision, that's the point. It's not that someone will get rejected, ALL of them would get rejected.
Kodaka just doesn't seem interested in a relationship at all, yet these girls keep pushing it on him. Sena was told straight up he only wants friends and doesn't care about having a girlfriend. She confesses to him anyway...Didn't even listen to his earlier opinion.
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2013-03-24, 22:36 | Link #123 | |
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2013-03-24, 23:02 | Link #124 | |
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2013-03-24, 23:15 | Link #125 | |
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2013-03-24, 23:18 | Link #126 |
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And apparently people who wants to maintain de facto instead of marriage have 'issues', too?
Get this, Kodaka is happy to enjoy the benefits of friendship, but do not want to officially admit the status because doing so gives some other girls an inch and they'll take a mile. The same with de facto, the added legal and expectational baggage that comes with a 'marriage' just don't do it for some people. He's perfectly entitled to do this, mind you. Maybe he's not as 'good' a person as initially portrayed to be (say addin some selfish streak), but there's aboslutely nothing wrong with not being the perfect harem lead. Nobody said he is supposed to be a saint, hell none of the other girls are, so why should he. In fact Kodaka's issue, as you tried to allude to, is not accepting friendships or having a deeper connnection, but it's to do with Forced Change by external forces. Basically next eposide will put that argument about him having issue connecting to people to rest. But he still need to face his fear of change. And keep telling yourself you are not shipping. Ironically just what Doctor Kodaka prescribed. |
2013-03-24, 23:27 | Link #127 |
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Marriage is a completely different issue from friendship and should not be likened to it. The former is a contractual agreement that carries implications and responsibilities that are legally binding, as well as a number of fairly established social norms, while the latter is simply a mutual relationship that is non-binding and often transient. As I see it, his refusal to accept the status of friendship is indeed an "issue" - that's what the whole story is about after all. If it weren't an issue, then there wouldn't even be a story to tell because he would just be a normal guy living a normal life.
And no, this isn't a shipping issue. If the confession had come from any other member of the club, we should individually still reach the same conclusion about whether or not his reaction was the right one. Bias does come into play of course, but the core issue itself is unrelated to shipping.
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2013-03-24, 23:32 | Link #128 | |
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2013-03-24, 23:43 | Link #129 |
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I repeat - his issue is not about acceptinig friendship. He had a good friend. He is about to get a good friend. In the previous occassion, the undoing of his old friendship was due to his fear of change and subsequent procastination. What he will do in this current situation is yet to be seen.
You are arguing about the 'severity' matters as if the hurdle is high enough, then a 'no' is justfied (lol wait, what a subjective argument). I simply stated it is OK to not go down a path by free choice. There's no such thing as unjustified choice. Afterall he's enjoying friendship NOW without admitting to it, just like de facto are enjoying their relationship. If not admitting was a problem for others, then he wouldn't even be enjoying this cake - but all the girls, Rika included are happy to continue the status quo. Until the bomb dropped. |
2013-03-24, 23:50 | Link #130 | |
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Compare that to his sister, she gets people trying to hang out with her, and she completely shuns them. Doesn't talk to them, barely makes eye contact, and would NEVER be seen in an afterschool group doing stuff together. Hell, she didn't even want to make the movie with her group and BAILED from them. Kodaka would literally LOVE to be in Kobato's shoes.
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2013-03-24, 23:51 | Link #131 |
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No, what I am doing is comparing his actions to a general societal standard about an issue, which is friendship. We are looking at a fictional character after all, and analysing his choices accordingly based on societal standards. If you're going to say that there's no such thing as unjustified choice, then that's akin to saying that the characters can't be analysed at all since every choice is justified.
Refusing to acknowledge friendship should not be likened to the decision to maintain a de facto relationship. As I've pointed out earlier, there are justifiable reasons for people to choose not to take the step of registering a marriage because of the legal and social implications of such a move. These reasons do not apply to friendship, however, because these reasons no longer hold. Imagine if someone were to go around telling others, "I don't want to be friends with you because I'm afraid of you falling in love with me." Surely many of us would think there's something wrong with that.
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2013-03-25, 00:03 | Link #132 | |
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Wait a sec, ain't you the one a few episodes ago wanted to set up some 'standards council' that is some artificial 'unbaised-subjective-person-view-because-none-of-the-in-show-personalities-are-reliable'? Way to construct a strawman. Why? 'I don't want to be friends with you because I'm afraid of you falling in love with me." Surely many of us would think there's something wrong with that.' There's nothing wrong with that, the social ineptness of such a statement aside - all the other party needs to do is say 'no problems we'll just keep it at friends level' Oh snap not going to work in this case... |
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2013-03-25, 00:11 | Link #133 | |
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This is consistent with what I'm saying here, that even if the characters themselves are ok with Kodaka's actions (which actually isn't true based on Rika's reaction), that doesn't mean we as the viewers should automatically accept it as justified. These guys are in the Neighbour's Club for a reason after all, and this very fact already shows that the way they go about approaching friendship is at odds with what the general social standards in Haganai are. If we go with your assertion that there's no such thing as an unjustified choice, then no analysis of their characters can be done at all since every choice is justified. Why then would the club exist at all in the first place?
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2013-03-25, 00:27 | Link #134 | |
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Basically, he dodges the question not by leaving the room, but by extending the deadline of his response in a somewhat acceptable way.
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2013-03-25, 00:34 | Link #135 | |
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2013-03-25, 00:39 | Link #136 | |
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Now if every girl could handle the situation like Rika has, Kodaka would have much better results no matter what he did. But quite frankly, these are some crazy ass females he's dealing with.
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2013-03-25, 00:49 | Link #137 |
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Yea, I don't really have an issue with how he handled the confession, only the whole friendship aspect.
I personally think there's no clear-cut answer here. There have been many good arguments in this thread for and against the way Kodaka handled the confession, and the arguments on both sides have merit.
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2013-03-25, 01:03 | Link #138 | |
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I'm hoping that the last episode isn't about what I think it's about.
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2013-03-25, 02:06 | Link #140 | |
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again runing never was the best soluction this only make the things worse, because now who sena made the confession the others girls gonna sense the same urge and if him just keep runing then their gonna keeping pressure him more and more until the point of or him end harmed or the girls ending harmed, is like the famous snow ball who you throw trought the snow, who fi you dont stop gonna keep rolling and become bigger and bigger until start to destroy everything in ihs way. |
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