2011-01-19, 17:39 | Link #7721 |
PolyPerson!
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Northern VA
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OK folks, if you have to battle someone one on one (or at all, IMO), please take it to PMs, lest the topic get too far derailed...
There's no reason things can't be debated civilly, without insults and th elike being hurled about... (Sorry, I just have to watch (and moderate) forum battles all day at work, seeing it here is meh)
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2011-01-19, 18:50 | Link #7722 | |
Frandle & Nightbag
Join Date: Oct 2009
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1. You could visit the MFA, if either of you are much into the arts. 2. You could try an independent restaurant you haven't before, in which case I have a few recommendations. 3. Head to the Prudential shopping center and look through the stores before seeing a movie nearby. 4. Take a walk through Newbury Street and the surrounding area, perhaps down to the Commons, where, if it's your thing, you can go ice-skating this time of year. 5. See a concert, perhaps at the House of Blues (formerly Avalon) near Fenway Park. That's just a small sampling of options.
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2011-01-19, 18:54 | Link #7723 |
Frandle & Nightbag
Join Date: Oct 2009
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Might I also add that Harvard Square, Porter Square, Davis Square and Kendall Square are all hoppin' places to spend an evening and are readily accessible by the Red Line? Central Square can be lively, but it can also get a bit sketchy at night time, so I'd advise against it. I spend a fair bit of time just hanging out in the city, so I can always give more specific recommendations.
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2011-01-19, 19:01 | Link #7724 |
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Join Date: Mar 2003
Age: 44
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As you might notice I've removed a bunch of posts. Some might have been collateral damage, so sorry to anyone who lost a post because a couple of people couldn't stay civil and on-topic.
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2011-01-19, 20:48 | Link #7725 |
Dictadere~!
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: On the front lines, fighting for inderpendence.
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Sorry.
Okay, so I realize before I've posted about my refrain from getting into a relationship, and how education is my priority. Well I'm in a predicament now. There's a girl named Crystal on my swim team, and we've been talking together for quite awhile now. I've had a hunch over her feelings, and they've slowly been becoming more and more apparent. I like her too, and though I've said before the a girlfriend at this age is pointless, I can't help but still feel. As I realize we're growing closer and closer, and the fact that I've never been in a relationship (or even close to one for that matter), I have no idea how it eventually turns out? Do I ask her to go out with me if it eventually gets to that point? How do I know when that point is here? Do I ask her to be my girlfriend? When? I realize that this isn't necessarily the way it will turn out, as we may just be becoming better and better friends, but just in case.
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2011-01-19, 20:58 | Link #7726 | |
Frandle & Nightbag
Join Date: Oct 2009
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As for how you know whether you're at 'that point' or not...that's something only you can judge, because 'that point' is different for everyone. Some people will ask others out simply if they like the way that person looks. Others have to fall head-over-heels to even consider it. I will say that if you find yourself seriously reconsidering your 'no relationships at this age' statement for this girl, then you are probably at 'that point'.
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2011-01-19, 21:38 | Link #7727 | |
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Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: United States--- California
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2011-01-19, 23:12 | Link #7728 | |
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So yeah, just ask her out some place. Ask her if there's a place she'd like to go, or a movie she'd like to see... some place you two can just go and hang out. Ultimately, that's what dating is; two people doing stuff together to have fun. Think about where you'd go with a normal friend to have fun, and take her there. But I usually advocate asking, if you don't know where she'd like to go. |
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2011-01-20, 07:41 | Link #7729 | |
I don't give a damn, dude
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: In Despair
Age: 37
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Baaaah, what a bunch of wimps. Be a man and try this instead. |
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2011-01-20, 08:36 | Link #7730 | |
そんなやさしくしないで。。。
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: NSW, Australia
Age: 29
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Also, this is my form of asking someone out like a ninja. And then my idea of following it up. |
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2011-01-20, 09:48 | Link #7731 | |
NYAAAAHAAANNNNN~
Join Date: Nov 2007
Age: 35
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2011-01-20, 18:14 | Link #7732 |
Circus Clown
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: on the streets
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I know what you mean Sin, but it can't be helped. No risk, no fun. That's the way it is. Some people decide not to take the risk, but that means forbidding oneself to fall in love - and of course that means you won't be loved.
It's stupid, but a lot of people get hurt deeply. One part is always more in love than the other and one breaks up while the other breaks apart afterwards. Love is only that good because it gets so deep. There is no true superficial love. Love means taking risks. Nevertheless, you can do something to protect yourself from getting hurt. Love yourself. Nobody can love you when you don't love yourself. It will always be problematic when you don't come to loving yourself first. Once you love yourself, even the most surprising separation won't be as hard as what you've experienced by now. Love yourself 100%, give 50% to your partner and let him or her give you 50% of the love she/he has for herself. That's a healthy symbiosis. You can never fill the gap in a person's heart or make a person fill yours.
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2011-01-20, 20:31 | Link #7734 | |
Deadpan Snarker
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: The Neverlands
Age: 46
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I fail to see how that would help, I would imagine if you wish to love yourself you would grant yourself happiness, not heartache I do not think there are any "preventing measures" you can take In general I thing rationalising does help -afterwards-, since looking at things objectively already creates an emotional distance In reality, dealing with heartache is the same as dealing with a death of a close one the more it happens - the more desensitized you become - the easier it is to deal with
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2011-01-20, 22:34 | Link #7740 | |
Frandle & Nightbag
Join Date: Oct 2009
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Just kidding: glad it went smoothly. But seriously, get your s*** in order, SIR.
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