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Aimingan12 · 2009-12-01, 23:17

I know I should'nt but we were together for two years, and it's not easy to forget her so easily..

RadiantBeam · 2009-12-01, 23:35

I'm going to agree with Whitepearl here. If you really want to give her a chance then go ahead, but I'd be wary of her. Cheaters tend to follow a pattern. It could have been a mistake on her part, but you never know.

Aimingan12 · 2009-12-01, 23:47

Yeah I guess your both right. But I'm not sure if I should start over again with the new girl, I mean I don't want the same thing to happen again. Should I take the risk?

RadiantBeam · 2009-12-01, 23:53

With the new girl? I say go for it. You don't know if it'll happen again, but take the time to get to know her. It's hard, but you can't move on if you keep expecting to be hurt every time you take a chance.

Aimingan12 · 2009-12-02, 00:14

Yes your right about that. I guess I should give the new girl a chance, I can't keep hiding forever. I mean if it's meant to last it will, thanks all.

whitepearl · 2009-12-02, 00:18

It's hard to throw away a relationship like that, Aimingan12. All the emotional ups and downs, the happy moments, the tender moments--they're all hard to forget.

I dunno if the ex really did exercise a lapse in judgment and is willing to atone for that sin...I still think you should give the new girl a chance.

Maybe you'll make the ex jealous in the process.

Aimingan12 · 2009-12-02, 01:11

And my ex told me that the only reason she cheated was because I wasn't around much (I was on vacation). The sad thing is that she cheated because her so called "friend" dared he to. What a way to screw a perfectly fine relationship.

whitepearl · 2009-12-02, 01:27

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Originally Posted by Aimingan12

And my ex told me that the only reason she cheated was because I wasn't around much (I was on vacation). The sad thing is that she cheated because her so called "friend" dared he to. What a way to screw a perfectly fine relationship.

Really dumb move on her part. Guess it's easy to manipulate her.

You don't need someone like that.

Aimingan12 · 2009-12-02, 01:33

Yeah it was over a pretty stupid and dumb reason but who listens to a person that he/she befriended a month before our break up?! It really pissed me off but I'm through with her, you had your chance and you screwed up.

whitepearl · 2009-12-02, 01:40

It's very unbecoming to say the least.

I can only hope she has since smartened up since then. Still keep your distance from her, as a way of reminding her of the cost of her poor decision making.

Aimingan12 · 2009-12-02, 02:11

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Originally Posted by whitepearl

It's very unbecoming to say the least.

I can only hope she has since smartened up since then. Still keep your distance from her, as a way of reminding her of the cost of her poor decision making.

Yes, I'll be more than willing to, as for her being smarter, I highly doubt that she's changed much.

Edgewalker · 2009-12-02, 04:19

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And my ex told me that the only reason she cheated was because I wasn't around much (I was on vacation).

I wouldn't take her back either. That's a pathetic excuse to cheat, and displays a level of emotional immaturity that screams "I don't know how to be independent."

Aimingan12 · 2009-12-02, 09:36

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Originally Posted by Edgewalker

I wouldn't take her back either. That's a pathetic excuse to cheat, and displays a level of emotional immaturity that screams "I don't know how to be independent."

Yes your right about that.

Edaniel · 2009-12-02, 09:39

Thankfully I'm dating a really sweet guy who is AMAZING at crossdressing. :3c

Crusader · 2009-12-02, 09:43

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Originally Posted by Aimingan12

Yeah it was over a pretty stupid and dumb reason but who listens to a person that he/she befriended a month before our break up?! It really pissed me off but I'm through with her, you had your chance and you screwed up.

Sorry to hear that my friend, and really thats stupid on her end. That just means she didn't think too highly of you, and you can do so much better.

As for this new girl, don't hold her to the same bar as your ex, remember this is a new relationship. If the Ex is around for whatever reason, things could seem akward especially since you've got history. Distance in that regard would probably be the best thing for you, or old feelings could make things even harder.

Mr.Raw · 2009-12-02, 09:58

I don't think we all should put the blame on the girl for her stupidy

...
I know, what she did was very wrong her and I am not saying I disagree with you guys. I am just saying that it takes ''2'' persons to cheat. So I think you also have the right to be mad at the boy(bastard) who she was cheating with. Her reason was wayy too lame for cheating (seriously, I can't think of any reason to cheat

), But maybe she was a little bit right on her side. Next time, put some more time on your new girlfriend. Before she would have the same problem as your ex had

Greetings,
Godlike1889

Aimingan12 · 2009-12-02, 09:59

@Crusader

Yeah I tend to keep my distance and start fresh. The reason was stupid, it was more like follow the leader when she decided to stick with her friend.

Mr.Raw · 2009-12-02, 10:06

Please keep in mind you can multi quote and edit your post

Before the mods delete your posts for ''double posting''

Crusader · 2009-12-02, 10:15

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Originally Posted by Aimingan12

Hey Godlike

I would blame the "guy" she was cheating with if he wasn't a darn two timing, cheating bartender! The guy was already a cheater from the very beginning and I never thought "she" would stoop so low!

Godlike does have a point though, Maybe you weren't giving her the attention she needed before your vacation. Sometimes we can get too busy, and not realize the situation. So be sure you make time for this new girl.

Mr.Raw · 2009-12-02, 11:04

Ah! it seems someone understands my opinion

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Aimingan12 Chibi's Bishie Author Join Date: May 2008 Location: In Fire Age: 34	I know I should'nt but we were together for two years, and it's not easy to forget her so easily.. __________________ "All is lost."

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Aimingan12 Chibi's Bishie Author Join Date: May 2008 Location: In Fire Age: 34	Yeah I guess your both right. But I'm not sure if I should start over again with the new girl, I mean I don't want the same thing to happen again. Should I take the risk? __________________ "All is lost."

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Aimingan12 Chibi's Bishie Author Join Date: May 2008 Location: In Fire Age: 34	Yes your right about that. I guess I should give the new girl a chance, I can't keep hiding forever. I mean if it's meant to last it will, thanks all. __________________ "All is lost."

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whitepearl Dietrich fan #681675 Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: New York	It's hard to throw away a relationship like that, Aimingan12. All the emotional ups and downs, the happy moments, the tender moments--they're all hard to forget. I dunno if the ex really did exercise a lapse in judgment and is willing to atone for that sin...I still think you should give the new girl a chance. Maybe you'll make the ex jealous in the process. __________________ Go Yankees. Twitter

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Aimingan12 Chibi's Bishie Author Join Date: May 2008 Location: In Fire Age: 34	And my ex told me that the only reason she cheated was because I wasn't around much (I was on vacation). The sad thing is that she cheated because her so called "friend" dared he to. What a way to screw a perfectly fine relationship. __________________ "All is lost."

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Aimingan12 Chibi's Bishie Author Join Date: May 2008 Location: In Fire Age: 34	Yeah it was over a pretty stupid and dumb reason but who listens to a person that he/she befriended a month before our break up?! It really pissed me off but I'm through with her, you had your chance and you screwed up. __________________ "All is lost."

2009-12-02, 01:40	Link #2310
whitepearl Dietrich fan #681675 Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: New York	It's very unbecoming to say the least. I can only hope she has since smartened up since then. Still keep your distance from her, as a way of reminding her of the cost of her poor decision making. __________________ Go Yankees. Twitter

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Edaniel I fought the law Join Date: Nov 2009 Age: 32	Thankfully I'm dating a really sweet guy who is AMAZING at crossdressing. :3c

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Aimingan12 Chibi's Bishie Author Join Date: May 2008 Location: In Fire Age: 34	@Crusader Yeah I tend to keep my distance and start fresh. The reason was stupid, it was more like follow the leader when she decided to stick with her friend. __________________ "All is lost."