2009-11-08, 22:50 | Link #2161 | |
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Also, she sort of found out I liked her last year (in my defense, I was drunk when I said this ) although we never talked about it (some friends managed to get it out of me and I'm 95% sure she ended up finding out). I thought she was into me earlier this year but then I noticed she acts the same way towards most of her male friends so that's just how she is (meaning she spends alone time with them quite a bit if they're close friends). Every time I see her I want to go for it, but the thought of losing her as both a friend and more makes me hold back. |
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2009-11-08, 23:03 | Link #2162 |
Chicken or Beef?
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If it makes you feel any better, the likelihood of anyone you are friends with now will continue to be your friends once you're "grown-up", people tend to drift apart its only natural. Your grown-up friends are gonna be co-workers and neighbors, if you're lucky.
Also, its a lot harder to meet someone when you're not in school anymore. School is a naturally social environment. But if you're out in the real world its different.
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2009-11-08, 23:34 | Link #2163 | |
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This way, if she accepts you, great. If she rejects you, at least both of you are clear on where you two stand with each other, and both of you can get back to the friendship without having to waste time second-guessing each other about your respective motivations. Confessing to her will wreck the friendship? I think not, as long as you play it right and smooth. |
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2009-11-08, 23:37 | Link #2164 |
Chicken or Beef?
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Don't end up like my friend Andrew, he was really close to a girl but was slow at confessing to her, despite my pushing him to do it before its too late. A year went by and he still didn't move forward and she ended up another guy.
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2009-11-08, 23:42 | Link #2165 | |
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She's already been with 4 other guys since then (yes, she was whoring it up a bit but she's stopped doing that now, realized it wasn't really her and was just caught up in what her female friends were doing). Then again, she's also the one I've talked to about this issue so uh yea, that would be REALLY awkward. |
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2009-11-09, 00:29 | Link #2166 | |
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No offense, but, if you really like this girl and really want to go out with her, then it's your own fault for missing an opportunity. She knows you like her, and I'm under the assumption that after that happened neither of you really talked about it again. Now, granted, she seems to view you as just a friend, but how do you know that for sure? Maybe she's waiting for you to make the next move since you confessed. Girls have similar fears when it comes to guys: we don't want to lose our friendships with them, but sometimes we miss out on something so much better. At the very least, let her know you still feel that way so you can definitely be sure of her feelings. The worst she can do is say she just sees you as a friend. If things change after that, then they change.
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2009-11-09, 00:30 | Link #2167 | ||
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Sorry to be blunt again, but true friends would not care if some morons think it's funny to make fun of you for something like that. Actually, if they are not completely stupid, they would not follow the morons in that kind of situation. It should be time for them to grow up a bit. They are not in middle school anymore. That sounds ... well you know what I will say |
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2009-11-09, 00:31 | Link #2168 | |
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2009-11-09, 00:33 | Link #2170 | |
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People said things would be better socially in hs, then college, and now they say in the real world. Highschool really never does end in the US from what I've seen, it's all the same stupid cliques you have to conform to if you really want to have any friends. Right now I am in with one of those cliques and unless I want to spend my friday/saturday nights alone in my dorm room, I need to be careful about what I reveal about myself. And I have met people who have the same interests as me but dear god, their personalities were SCREWED UP. Could not stand them. |
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2009-11-09, 00:35 | Link #2171 | |
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But from what I saw around me, men are not good in hiding their feelings. So if you think she has doubts, maybe you should say it and make things clear. |
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2009-11-09, 00:41 | Link #2172 | ||
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Of course you would not have a lot, and it could take quite some time to make even a few, but that would be people you can count on. Most people think they have friends, but most are mere acquaintances that will leave them at the first signs of trouble. Aka, the term "Friend" itself is messed up. Quote:
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2009-11-09, 01:48 | Link #2176 |
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I guess I could always try revealing my feelings to her tomorrow then be back her to either thank you guys or ask how I fix the mess I just created. :ugh:
would it be better to just outright confess or to just ask her out on a date? I'm thinking the former might be better since suggesting a typical date might not work since we kind of do that stuff as friends anyway . |
2009-11-09, 02:23 | Link #2177 |
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[QUOTE=Timdog;2757541would it be better to just outright confess or to just ask her out on a date? I'm thinking the former might be better since suggesting a typical date might not work since we kind of do that stuff as friends anyway .[/QUOTE]
I suggest outright confessing at this point, myself. Best to get your feelings out in the open right away.
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2009-11-09, 04:53 | Link #2178 |
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Join Date: Mar 2004
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Gotta love this. It's one of those seemingly obvious truths that many people don't seem to get. Constantly needing to be with someone is a bad thing.
Learning how to enjoy being single is great, because then you will know when someone is really worth your time. You wont be blinded by ZOMGINEEDASPECIALPERSONINMYLIFE Goggles. |
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