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View Poll Results: Do you think physical attractiveness greatly impact a person's life? | |||
Yes. | 82 | 68.91% | |
No. | 5 | 4.20% | |
Maybe. | 23 | 19.33% | |
We choose our on destiny, we can do whatever we want no matter what! | 9 | 7.56% | |
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2009-06-06, 20:23 | Link #101 |
The Quiet One
Join Date: May 2009
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Well I really don't care to judge people on outer looks but I've learned that people I know and care about do sadly. I don't think its right to judge people on looks or even anything! I sadly do have problems with my own personal self esteem due to the fact I'm judged for being pale,etc.No I'm not a perfect barbie doll!
When you think about it the situation is like racial segregation when they wouldn't hire a person depending on their color of skin. Its a never ending case of pure Discrimination, whether it be race or looks or even sexual preference. And just so you know where I am coming from no I'm not a hardcore political party, No I'm not pushing my beliefs on you all, and no I'm not some hippie (even though my parents were XD) I'm just a normal everyday person upset with people still being judged to this day
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2009-06-07, 02:14 | Link #102 | |
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-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I guess we're all stereotyped when we're first seen by others and we tend to stereotype others too. It's natural I guess. Last 2 years ago, I remember getting stereotyped as a flirt, and then it transformed in "she goes around sleeping with guys". I heard they were started by a few biatchy girls from the upper years. Another friend of mine who's very pretty got the same thing. Some of our friends said the girls are just plain biatches, some friends said they just wish they looked like us. The whole thing doesn't matter although my friend cried when she found out about the rumors which all started because of unreasonable stereotyping. Not to mention those girls hang out with perverts. Ugh!! People hear stuff about you and say stuff about you but it shouldn't change who you are, but if you think that there's room for improvement, go ahead. But then silly stereotyping such as above and other shallow loser useless remarks aren't even worth your time to entertain. Everyone is special. If you think you're getting stereotyped as something negative or by something that you think insults you, just brush it off. You're always bound to meet people who are also stereotyped as the same thing you are. You're not alone
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2009-06-07, 03:05 | Link #103 |
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Join Date: Jun 2004
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Reality is a harsh mistress, heck even fantasies are filled with such discrimination.
But back on topic, in my view, being attractive or not changes how others interact with you. It's up to a person whether they wish to exploit it or not (personally, i exploit it quite often outside of my friend and family circle). It's definitely not fair or nice but that's how our society is. Either you adapt to the fact or deny it.
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2009-06-07, 05:43 | Link #104 |
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I was always able to connect to everyone, no matter the gender, looks or age. I don't know if that's what got me the job in the bank back then, but i'm open minded. After all, it's about HOW you react when confronted with someone who might not look too great. Yes, we established now that we have some kind of instincts that let us judge people within the first seconds. And that beeing attractive can have positive effects for your carreer and social status. BUT, the important thing is, HOW you react after that first impression. Are you willing to look behind that first impression or does it determine already wheater you talk and respect a relativley unattractive person or not? And i am willing to do that. The problem often is, that people who tend to be not so attractive have some kind of prejudice themselves. Like: Yeah i know i don't look so good, go fuck yourself, you're not serios about me anyway, which is unfair too. So in the end it can result in a circle, where those who're relatively unattractive get less and less self esteem and trust, thus, limiting themselves and taking opportunities away.
Take Susan Boyle for example. When she walked up the stage, people began to laugh. Like: OMG what is SHE doing up there? They automatically assumed, that a person like her could not be able to sing, without even waiting for her to try. When she started, everyone was stunned. Sadly, her sucess is not a result of her beeing the best singer ever, but merely because no one expected her to be good. I mean she is not really bad, but also not the best singer in the universe. If she would have looked gorgeous and sing in the same way, people probably would have said: Yeah whatever, some Britney clone. Bleh. Boring. |
2009-06-07, 06:16 | Link #105 | |
is this so?
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As I've said on a previous post on this thread, I treat the rest of my patients "regularly", meaning they are not being mistreated or maltreated in any way. Here in my country we have the Professional Regulation Commission or PRC for short, the PRC has the power to suspend the license of doctors that mistreat their patients. Obviously, I don't want my license suspended. In saying earlier that I tend to be more helpful towards someone good looking, because those people brighten up my day... What I simply mean is I give them "added" attention. It does not mean that others who aren't good looking get their health compromised, they still get what they paid for.
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2009-06-07, 06:23 | Link #106 | ||
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And well... when you think it can go as far as seeing women sleeping with men to get better jobs and such.... (whether they hit on men on purpose, or when the men make indecent proposals to them) |
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2009-06-07, 06:53 | Link #107 | |
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2009-06-07, 09:52 | Link #108 | |
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I might have phrased it poorly, but the following was regarding the less extreme cases, where you just go for the guy with the better income / for the girl with the bigger rack without the intend of using them ^^ |
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2009-06-07, 12:09 | Link #109 | |
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Not that I honestly care what anyone thinks of me, but I don't generally go out of the house without a light dusting of powder (sorry the shiney forehead thing? no, thanks), and a thin line of black eyeliner at my upper lashes. I've done the same thing for the last... uhm.. 15+ years (my husband and I have discussed just getting it tattooed on there for crying out loud lol), and mascara. Why? Because all through middle school and much of high school, I was made fun of for having my teeth a bit out of alignment. I can't build any dams with them, but kids are cruel, so I learned to bring out my overly-awesome eyes to detract from my mouth. I WILL NOT go out of my house without doing this. Again, I don't care what someone says anymore, but it's a habit, a carryover, if you will. I also have past waist long, very thick hair, which requires a LOT of work. I like my hair long.... All this may LOOK like it takes a long while but honestly? my makeup takes a whopping 5-7 minutes depending on if I bother to do bottom eyeliner, etc. Does that seriously make me superficial, or implied to be a dumb prettygirl? I sure as hells hope not, because nothing's further than the truth... I can't honestly say I make those kinds of assumptions.. people are who they are... I *DO* admit to being mildly prejudiced against voluntary obese people. I do not like them receiving handicapped car tags, etc etc. They CHOSE this lifestyle, and I do not support them being given special rights such as disability pay, special parking, etc. Those with no control such as medication related, diabetes (though ofttimes this can be avoided in the first place), and thyroid issues, etc, hey, not their fault, and almost every such case I have ever met doesn't WANT special treatment. So, hey, I don't like obese people, I'm horrible, meh... whatever... Back on topic, though, (IMO) whether we want to take the high road or not (or claim to), the fact of the matter is, instinctively, we will generally accept an attractive person into our "space" than we will unattractive. Why? Quite simply put, humans are animals. Animals drive out the weak, etc. That means the "mutant" white tiger would be exiled, die early, etc, because it's not the norm in their "society". Most humans, being of a "higher intelligence" can overcome this initial reaction (revulsion?) and look past someone's appearance. There's too many studies out there to prove otherwise; looks *DO* matter. Are they the end all be all? Certainly not; we've evolved past that, for the most part, I should think. People are cruel to those they see as different, not pretty, etc. If you think about it, that reaction early on could very likely shape someone for the rest of their life. If you grow up being called names, etc you are most likely going to have self esteem/confidence issues. So when you go and interview for that job, and the person before you with the same experience/skillset who's "pretty" or "normal looking", or whatever, it's probably going to affect you. THEY grew up confident, treated normally, etc. YOU grew up having to hunch down to avoid being seen lest the bullies come after you again. Chances are, you'll lack the confidence the person before you (or after you) had, and that will reflect on your ability to get the job. It's not entirely looks, I think. People who're picked out as "ugly" or whatever DO suffer emotional abuse in many (most?) cases. Please don't start me on how people literally CRINGE from someone who's mentally handicapped (down's syndrome etc); it breaks my heart to see people literally shy away from them because they look different or whatever. Maybe people like Susan Boyle will help "change the world"... I doubt it, because I think it's all but hard-wired into humanity, due to our animalistic nature.
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2009-06-07, 12:32 | Link #110 |
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Athens (GMT+2)
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Hmm...I believe that looks only matter as far as women are concerned. I'm not saying this because I'm a man, but I've noticed many women's behaviour and the patterns with which they judge their partners: how old they are, if they have a rough personality, what job they do etc.
Men also don't care about their appearance as much as women (they just tend to their hair and beard, 5 mins a day) while women do...well,iunno what they do but it certainly takes a lot more time. Their choice of clothes is also larger and more important (to women) and they talk more about appearances than men do (at least my friends did). As for whether appearance has a GREAT impact on your life, I'd say no. I can look at myself at the mirror without breaking it, I've made it clear that I don't give a dime about fashion or appearance and so the people around me have learned to judge me from my actions instead. I can't tell if the woman I like is pretty or not (since I'm biased) but I doubt appearance plays a role in love. Looks do matter in jobs though, I suppose looking good means being able to take care of yourself, shows that you're sticking to certain rules and behaviour, thus being a better candidate for a chance job. |
2009-06-07, 16:38 | Link #111 | ||
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Join Date: May 2008
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I can break that stereotype 10 times over, I was raised by one. xD I dunno if this can fall into groups of race but I'll say this much from what I see in my town and places around me. There are a lot of well groomed black looking guys out there, plenty take the vanity aspect as far as their cars and jewellery (as zebra mentioned, status of wealth) as well as their clothes right down to their hair. (There's a reason for those afro combs standing out in afro hair, you know, lol) Sadly there are women there who fall for simply that kinda thing, I tend to shun guys who call me from their cars. (Prejudiced? Yes, it cuts both ways) But it doesn’t men care any less, methinks simply the number of those who don’t far outnumber those who do on the surface, you just have to pay close attention to see who does. (Or perhaps since I’m a woman, it’s something I’m more prone to notice in and around London and if a man smells good like while queuing at the shops or serving a customer at work… he’s gonna get my attention, lol.) Women seemingly have to make more of an effort with themselves probably cause the fashion and beauty industry in it’s billions of pounds or dollars target women as the main gender for sales. However with this approach of ‘metrosexual male’ and the push to educate men on basic grooming and that good, clean hygiene, combed hair, some aftershave and a pressed shirt doesn’t hurt idea has been increasing (least in the UK) Women are attracted by a man who looks after himself well as much as men are attracted by the women who wear make-up or clothes well. (Men obviously being more vocal and obvious with their appreciations, thus making our eyes roll at times, lol) But works and is appreciated on both fronts Quote:
This is the thing. It becomes a case of two extremes now. To say ‘I don’t care about fashion or appearance’ to someone who doesn’t know you brings out a negative image, esp on the latter note’ “I don’t care about myself and I don’t care that you have to interact with me either.” Is what it can be seen as. You don’t have to follow the latest brands, grab the newest Gucci, or even follow the latest fashion ‘fad’ just to try to be popular, but the extra 5-15mins a man can spend to make sure that they are clean, groomed, looking and smelling good is as valuable as brushing your teeth or wearing clean, fresh washed clothes often. Like I said, our bodies and appearances are our CV to each other in life. You may not actively care what others think, but as long as you interact with new people or strangers, their reactions will influence and add to your general social history of getting on with others and that will influence how you perceive people. A little bit of care goes a long way; it also serves to feed your own self confidence and makes a general pleasant social environment to those you encounter. As many beauty and health experts chant out as a mantra. “Eat well, look good, feel great.”
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2009-06-07, 17:43 | Link #112 | |
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2009-06-07, 18:29 | Link #113 | |||
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I don't see any problems if a person spends a lot of time to take care of his/her body. My main point was that all those things are also a kind of *hobby* and can include many other hobbies (sports, cooking [to have a good health, you also have to eat properly] etc.) , and that I don't see a real link between that and being more judgemental than the other people. Whether the person is good looking or not, we have only one body. So we better take care of it. About make up, nail polish, and such things for women, I am quite fond of that, so no way that I will criticize you in any way My only grip IRL, is that many young girls seem to not know how to use make-up properly. It can give an ugly result. Quote:
If they have a rough personality: In which sense do you say that? I don't see any problem in wanting to be with a man who has a sweet personality. What job they do: You know I am part of the girls who want a family. I want childrens (a lot), so if the guy has a poor job, it can be a problem, because we would not be able to make a baby for years (till we get better jobs), and maybe not be able to educate them properly if we're stuck on crappy jobs. You may think those girls calculate on that, but when you want a long term relationship, you have to think about the future. And for those girls, it includes childrens. I admit that my personal opinion is a bit biased, because I would want to be able to take care of my babies/childrens at home, which would includes to quit my job because I want to devote myself to my childrens. And it would not be possible if my husband doesn't have a good job. Last edited by Narona; 2009-06-07 at 18:46. |
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2009-06-07, 19:28 | Link #114 | |||||||||
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1. Bra 2. Skirts (unless you are a Scottish Highlander or related armed forces / culture) 3. Or even, underwear (heard of going commando?) Thus I would say men need less of grooming products and "specialised clothing". In fact, dressing simple can be a pro for saving money, just T-shirt, jeans, track shoes / sneakers and short hair will do. No need for some flamboyant tube top that slips off the chest, or collared shirt that makes you look professional. I passed by a boutique once and saw this skimpy clothing worth $150. I spoke my mind out a little too loud and went, "How the **** can this piece of handkerchief cost so much?" But yeah, today it is all over the place. And we have girls complaining of rape and molestation but wear such clothing. Obviously they traded too much of their brains for looks. Quote:
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2009-06-07, 20:01 | Link #115 | ||
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2009-06-07, 20:13 | Link #116 | |
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Join Date: Dec 2007
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Beauty, eh? Those who don't have it wishes for it. Those who do...well, I'm not one of them. What do you of the Fair Folk think?
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Also, I find different styles of clothing to be fun. Not for me, I couldn't be bothered in the least. But it's amazing how attractive people can put on crazy different things together and look good. I mean, you like anime, right? Do you like anime girls dressing in different and fun outfits? It's not that different. That $150 tank top that offended you so costs a lot because of the luxurious brand. And, well, branding for status is a whole different issue from wearing "handkerchiefs." |
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2009-06-07, 21:45 | Link #117 | |
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Female = Male Bra = Vest Skirts = Shorts Underwear = Anyone going commando (male or female) is nasty, short of looking for someone to have sex with asap then it'd be useful. Or for guys, you're fine with using the toilet and just tucking back straight into your jeans without cleaning (eeeeeeew) Or are fine with having more likelihood of the zip of your jeans being caught up in your pubic hair. (Or worse...) More power to you then. - In terms of fashion, I already mentioned the beauty industry's main target audience and thus gave examples of other areas men generally keep note of when looking after their physical appearance. It doesn't just boil down to clothes only. Quote:
We're all gonna die but your outlook there is just damn well cynical, heh. Which if I'm to make a judgement based off the story you wrote about what you've suffered from people, your general attitude and somewhat cynical and harsh perception seems to stem from it, that just happens to be who you are. On the time note, I agree - an uplifting version of the same pragmatic approach would be: "Time is precious, live life well, have few regrets" But it doesn't invalidate the 'eat well, look good, feel great' mantra. I can read that and go: “that's kinda true, I'm gonna try to improve my lifestyle' and not spend a damn penny on any specialised product from the tons of private manufacturers out there but amend my current lifestyle to suit me and incorporate that message.” But that's me going tangent some now. My previous post was in response to 'men not needing to care as much' - men do, everyone does, just maybe there's "less" work involved for guys but doesn't mean they care less. Shaving is a chore I often hear my male friends complain about, then again, I try offering wax to them and they look at me like I'm crazy xD (and no, I'm not so masochistic as to inflict that kinda pain on myself, however i can see why it's useful for 10mins-1hr of pain = 3-4 weeks of peace)
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2009-06-08, 00:40 | Link #119 |
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Looks like there's a lot of guys against girls taking the effort in being pretty
It's superficial but personally, i enjoy looking at them. As for the girl being rape bait, i say guys should keep their dick to themselves in such case.
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There's also cases of women raping men, it's not a one-sided problem.
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