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Sure, an opinion can change over time because of the influence of another person, but for some people, there are important things that need to be discussed (that's kind of true in friendship too for example). Those who talk only about hobbies (like soccer or the OG), interests (the new album from artist X) etc. are just... not that interesting to talk to. At least not for long. (clue for boys: if a girl says a "oh good/great..." while looking away when you're talking about your fabulous hobbies and interests, you better have a change of tactict ) < it's true only in the case i describe. Of course there are girls who will see discussions about the latest animes and mangas as way more interesting and important for example (and there's no sarcasm, i just took that as an example) I am kind of the same on the opposite side though, and I can say it scared certain boys when I started to talk about my opinions on some things |
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2010-02-17, 11:32 | Link #3203 | |
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In all seriousness, that's actually the best thing. Like my grandmother always said, if you love only with your heart, your love is completely unconditional, but at the same time, you have no focus for anything else and will ultimately make mistakes that will damage the relationship more than strengthen it. That is why you also need to love with your head. In a relationship, you also have to realize you're a part of it too, it's not just about him/her. That's why you need to make compromises. Loving with your head also enables you to think about yourself as part of the relationship, but loving only with your head is considering only you, what you can gain and compromise, and relationships where you only think about yourself with the other never works for obvious reasons
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2010-02-17, 11:44 | Link #3204 | |
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Ask them about music : it'd be pop with hunks. Ask them about food : it is always those that are exquisite and in small portions, yet cost more than a bomb. Rarely would one or two come along and discuss cooking. Ask them about clothes : they won't stop talking about it. Ask them about school/studies : they would rant about how incompetent the teachers are, how boring lectures are, how bitchy the female Chemistry teacher looks, how good-looking the Maths teacher is, etc And most interestingly, they always seem to talk about how bad, ugly and lousy other people are (esp other girls), but they never take a look in the mirror at themselves and spot their own faults. If they have these traits but are kind hearted enough forgive others, or even respect their parents for raising them, I'd overlook. But apparently most of them do not. This is why I prefer 2D girls like the one in my current avatar. They aren't ugly like those abovementioned.
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2010-02-17, 11:47 | Link #3205 | |
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2010-02-17, 11:50 | Link #3206 |
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I do believe that is not applicable to all girls. But to MOST girls, at least.
You probably won't see Narona/Syn/Rad/Myst/<female forum member> behaving like this, except the clothes part. In addition - they are probably hiding collapsible spiked bats in their purses.
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2010-02-17, 11:52 | Link #3207 | |
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2010-02-17, 12:07 | Link #3209 | |
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2010-02-17, 12:08 | Link #3210 | |
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Otakus like me only step-up to interact with kemonomimis. Maybe. I am not sure if it counts as skepticism, but meh. *lies back* I shan't care!
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2010-02-17, 12:13 | Link #3211 | |
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Oh yeah, how many get turned on by a man who knows his politics? Not freakin many. They will just seem dull as hell. Later on in the relationship why not, but dating is supposed to be feeling eachother out and having fun. My point, though, was that he should be honest if that question specifically comes up. If he doesn't know, he doesn't know. He is who he is for now. Not that I've ever heard a girl ask a guy who they've just met 'who are you?' in a philosophical sense. They usually pick on what kind of person he is by the way he talks, his attitude etc. ^ vice versa with guys It's something to talk about, not necessarily something you have to talk about. But how else how do you propose two people get to know eachother? When I'm genuinely interested in a girl I'll really want to know these basic things. |
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Sure there are a lot of girls who will start dating a boy just because they like the same artists and the same types of clothes. But I just wanted to remember that its is not 100% true. I didn't say that your advice is bad, but that Kafriel could meet another type of woman who will actually dislike that. Quote:
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Many people aren't so well educated. What are you going to do? Discard a really great person because they, for instance, don't care about politics and chose not to educate themselves on the matter? I think two people should be able to enjoy eachothers company first ; if they can't then it's not really a functional relationship in the first place. In other words, that they like the other person for who they are (personality traits) rather than what they know. Quote:
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2010-02-17, 13:05 | Link #3217 | |
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And there is lingerie shopping. It is beyond me why girls would spend a two digit sum over a piece of undergarment that is never seen worn, or why they would actually want the guys to follow them into the store (can't we just wait outside with the rest of your shopping?). Most of all, shopping online is significantly cheaper than buying from store, yet it eludes me why girls would actually want to spend an hour walking around an entire mall just for a tank top that can be found in most blogshops. *facepalm* Thank goodness for the PSP. But one more thing, Hatsune Miku is a virtual character, why get jealous over her just because your boyfriend says she's cute? *facepalm* Finally : I find girls skip Physical Education lessons more often and berate us guys for tracking mud into the class after a game of soccer, but yet they are always complaining that they are fat and couldn't fit into the clothes they bought a long time ago. Interestingly, they actually remembered when they bought the clothes when we have never seen them wear it before.
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2010-02-17, 13:17 | Link #3218 |
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I'm honestly not a big fan of shopping myself, drive my mother insane, but for me part of the fun of walking through a mall with my family or a group of my friends is less about what I'm buying and more about the bonding time. It's not really about how one thing is cheaper than the other, it's about spending time with your friends, hanging out, and just in general reinforcing that bond, even over something as boring (to me) as shopping.
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But if I take my case for example. There are topics that are important to me and you don't need to be Einstein to have some opinions about it. Imo, a person who doesn't care about marriage, family etc. (i mean, "don't think much about it") at 20-25yo is not something related to a lack of education. It can be just that he's not interested or for other reasons. Now about the education. If he sees that many people talk about a topic that could actually be dangerous for the humans (take the golbal warming as an example), then yes, I would not like to see him not caring at all wheither he understands the concept or not. Quote:
Of course, one person can still think and hope that an opinion can change, but concerning something that can be seen as very important for somebody, I don't think that planning to work everyday to change a person is the easiest thing to do (that's the example of the girl who wants to change a bad boy in a romantic bill gates all over again), so some things, imo, need to be discussed (and set if possible) early. |
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Hmmm. I actually do know at least one girl who....
....is a self-trained classical pianist, so none of that. To my surprise, I did learn later on that she also has an interest in non-mainstream rock (Stratovarius' Forever, for one), and Chinese classical opera music. Huh. I'm the Chinese here, and she knows more about the latter than I do. Quote:
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