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Old 2009-11-30, 18:37   Link #2301
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Well then you should concentrate on other things that will remove him from your thoughts. Enjoy yourself with your friends and family and before you know it, you'll probably forget about him.
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Old 2009-11-30, 22:29   Link #2302
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Do I still have feelings for him? No, those died a long time ago. I can barely even stand being around him as just a friend right now. I just want to get away from him and get him out of my life as soon as possible.
See thats the problem with life, you will probably keep having similar situations, because you obviously have some unresolved businss there, even if it is love or animosity. The best thing for you to do is allow a confrontation so you can tell him off, that way you will have it off your back, to save face, let him speak his peace, then politely let him know that he had his chance with you if that is indeed what he wants.

That way you get it off your back and maybe that will give you the closure you seek.
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Old 2009-11-30, 22:35   Link #2303
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See thats the problem with life, you will probably keep having similar situations, because you obviously have some unresolved businss there, even if it is love or animosity. The best thing for you to do is allow a confrontation so you can tell him off, that way you will have it off your back, to save face, let him speak his peace, then politely let him know that he had his chance with you if that is indeed what he wants.

That way you get it off your back and maybe that will give you the closure you seek.
Would it be cowardly to admit that I'm scared to talk to him? I know I have to make a clean break away from him, or at least make him understand that he missed his chance with me, but I still remember how he was my best friend for so many years before things went bad.
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Old 2009-11-30, 23:06   Link #2304
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Cowardly, not at all. I can actually sympathize with you on this matter. You may hope for him to disappear, but that's not likely. I bet you think about it from time to time. I hope you're not thinking about what could have been, cause that would make it hard for you. At the same time you don't want to carry it around either, which is why i said you should confront it. From what i gather he aint going nowhere, and you don't have nothing to lose, but a piece of mind to gain. Of course it's up to you.
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Old 2009-12-01, 07:42   Link #2305
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Cowardly, not at all. I can actually sympathize with you on this matter. You may hope for him to disappear, but that's not likely. I bet you think about it from time to time. I hope you're not thinking about what could have been, cause that would make it hard for you. At the same time you don't want to carry it around either, which is why i said you should confront it. From what i gather he aint going nowhere, and you don't have nothing to lose, but a piece of mind to gain. Of course it's up to you.
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Couldn't have said it any better, you have your advice and answer here.
"Nothing to fear but fear itself."

Even if you stumble and trip over your words, at least once its done and dusted, you can move on with your lives and focus your energies elsewhere
Continue forward, not backward.
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Old 2009-12-01, 09:57   Link #2306
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Cowardly, not at all. I can actually sympathize with you on this matter. You may hope for him to disappear, but that's not likely. I bet you think about it from time to time. I hope you're not thinking about what could have been, cause that would make it hard for you. At the same time you don't want to carry it around either, which is why i said you should confront it. From what i gather he aint going nowhere, and you don't have nothing to lose, but a piece of mind to gain. Of course it's up to you.
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Couldn't have said it any better, you have your advice and answer here.
"Nothing to fear but fear itself."

Even if you stumble and trip over your words, at least once its done and dusted, you can move on with your lives and focus your energies elsewhere
Continue forward, not backward.
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Old 2009-12-01, 14:17   Link #2307
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Heh.... yeah, I figured as much. Thank you for all the advice. I'll have to call him up and arrange something over winter break so I can finally settle things between him and I. I probably won't like it, but in the long run it'll help me, definitely. So thank you again. ^^
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Old 2009-12-01, 14:45   Link #2308
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Old 2009-12-01, 21:58   Link #2309
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Heh.... yeah, I figured as much. Thank you for all the advice. I'll have to call him up and arrange something over winter break so I can finally settle things between him and I. I probably won't like it, but in the long run it'll help me, definitely. So thank you again. ^^
Radiant it will be fine, if there was no discomfort, life would be surreal. Since this is so big then prepare yourself mentally for it. With that said good look.
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Old 2009-12-01, 23:04   Link #2310
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If anyone can give me advice (I really needed). I broke with my gf three months ago after I found that she had been cheating on me and decided to quit dating for awhile and then I meet another girl who happens to be new in one of my classes and decide to ask her out. But the problem is my ex wants a 2nd chance and I don't know what to do. I like both of them but I can't decide who to choose...their both nice and sweet but I don't want to take the risk of being hurt again.
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Old 2009-12-01, 23:07   Link #2311
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If you subscribe to the "once a cheater, always a cheater" philosophy, don't give the ex a second chance.
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Old 2009-12-01, 23:17   Link #2312
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I know I should'nt but we were together for two years, and it's not easy to forget her so easily..
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I'm going to agree with Whitepearl here. If you really want to give her a chance then go ahead, but I'd be wary of her. Cheaters tend to follow a pattern. It could have been a mistake on her part, but you never know.
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Old 2009-12-01, 23:47   Link #2314
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Yeah I guess your both right. But I'm not sure if I should start over again with the new girl, I mean I don't want the same thing to happen again. Should I take the risk?
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Old 2009-12-01, 23:53   Link #2315
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With the new girl? I say go for it. You don't know if it'll happen again, but take the time to get to know her. It's hard, but you can't move on if you keep expecting to be hurt every time you take a chance.
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Yes your right about that. I guess I should give the new girl a chance, I can't keep hiding forever. I mean if it's meant to last it will, thanks all.
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Old 2009-12-02, 00:18   Link #2317
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It's hard to throw away a relationship like that, Aimingan12. All the emotional ups and downs, the happy moments, the tender moments--they're all hard to forget.

I dunno if the ex really did exercise a lapse in judgment and is willing to atone for that sin...I still think you should give the new girl a chance.

Maybe you'll make the ex jealous in the process.
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Old 2009-12-02, 01:11   Link #2318
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And my ex told me that the only reason she cheated was because I wasn't around much (I was on vacation). The sad thing is that she cheated because her so called "friend" dared he to. What a way to screw a perfectly fine relationship.
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And my ex told me that the only reason she cheated was because I wasn't around much (I was on vacation). The sad thing is that she cheated because her so called "friend" dared he to. What a way to screw a perfectly fine relationship.
Really dumb move on her part. Guess it's easy to manipulate her.

You don't need someone like that.
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Old 2009-12-02, 01:33   Link #2320
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Yeah it was over a pretty stupid and dumb reason but who listens to a person that he/she befriended a month before our break up?! It really pissed me off but I'm through with her, you had your chance and you screwed up.
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