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Old 2007-11-30, 00:42   Link #241
Sakura_Kinomoto
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Well i got her reply back that is from jamie and i must say it wasnt what i expected....one of my closet friends told me she went off her head and swore and was going well if he thinks thats gonna change anything well hes wrong and yeah well i decided id stay away from her and not sit near her at school and the rest of the people we hang out with followed and sat with me, she didnt like that at all then she made a point of giving everyone a christmas card but me, i got real annoyed at that. i thought things would work out they didnt im kinda real upset so im not gonna write much more sorry ppl ill post some advice when i feel abit better in the mean time im just gonna watch some sad anime and play a midsummers day Resosnance and Narcissu again...thanks for trying guys ill still keep u updated in case of a chnage who know maybe at senior college i might meet a girl ^^
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Old 2007-11-30, 00:46   Link #242
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hehe Talking about candy is always a good sign ^^ and i like Fomes idea you should try casualy asking her out someplace even if it is just for a walk and spend some quality time with her. Talk about things you are both interested in. I say if you havent talked to her in a while ring her and just catch up with her a bit. Dont make it sound like you desperatley wanna see her just do it friend to friend, but thats just how i would do it u do what u think is best. PS you look so kawaii together ^^
Thanks! The weird part is, though, we don't have ANY common interests, as far as I know. She's not an anime fan, and I don't like rap.(her favorite music genre) I don't know how we do it, but we always have something to talk about when we see each other. ^^;; Ah well. I've been swamped with homework lately, so I haven't been able to contact her at all. Luckily, tomorrow is Friday.
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Old 2007-11-30, 03:17   Link #243
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I really like how our relationship is going, although.... (read the spoiler)

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What's your point of concern, the fact that she's grown to become more open-minded? I think most of us know this, but we're all constantly changing and growing throughout life. The changes are most dramatic in the teenage years and then slow as you get older, but you're constantly changing. If the two of you can grow together, it shows high compatibility and committment, and that bodes well for a long-lasting relationship. I'm in a relationship similar to yours, only I'm one year ahead of you. As long as you're both committed to each other and can talk about problems when they do arise (as infrequent as they may be, and as small as they may be), you're set.

My only fear is what happens if we would be separated physically for a very long period of time. If our experiences are very different, and if we're not "synchronizing" with each other as often (sharing experiences and thoughts - can be done via phone, but it's not as easy as when you're just walkiing together, for example), would we potentially grow apart? It depends on the individuals, and it's a very real possibility.
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Old 2007-11-30, 17:10   Link #244
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Well i got her reply back that is from jamie and i must say it wasnt what i expected....one of my closet friends told me she went off her head and swore and was going well if he thinks thats gonna change anything well hes wrong and yeah well i decided id stay away from her and not sit near her at school and the rest of the people we hang out with followed and sat with me, she didnt like that at all then she made a point of giving everyone a christmas card but me, i got real annoyed at that. i thought things would work out they didnt im kinda real upset so im not gonna write much more sorry ppl ill post some advice when i feel abit better in the mean time im just gonna watch some sad anime and play a midsummers day Resosnance and Narcissu again...thanks for trying guys ill still keep u updated in case of a chnage who know maybe at senior college i might meet a girl ^^
What a bitch. Reminds me of my first ex. She was sooo sweet when we were friends, she would invite a bunch of us over and pour us tea and we'd just watch anime and converse the night away. She grew to hate me the year after we dated, saying that I had a "skewed view of reality." Then I found out she was bipolar and stopped taking her meds. And like you, my first reaction was, "OMG I better apologize." Nope, now I know that's a step in the wrong direction.

I suggest trying to find hobbies aside from anime. You need to give people the impression that you aren't dependent, but just acting confident isn't enough. One needs to change his outlook, really try to find other things to occupy his life. There was this one other girl I used to like, but she totally despised me because she thought I was a stalker. So I got over it, starting playing guitar, got in a band, and played varsity sports, pretty much never seeing her again. After about 2 years, she actually started talking to me, which I thought was kind of odd, and by that time I didn't really care. The point is, you need to pry yourself from things that are going to drown you in romantic desperation. That means, stop watching so much sappy anime. Honestly, it's not good for people like us.
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Old 2007-12-03, 13:04   Link #245
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Don u wish to date like how they do in anime/dating-sim...How romantic...Well i don hav a date due to my laziness to find one
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Old 2007-12-03, 13:11   Link #246
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Well....I asked the girl I'm going out with out and she said no...then a few months later she asked me out xD
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Old 2007-12-03, 14:00   Link #247
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Well....I asked the girl I'm going out with out and she said no...then a few months later she asked me out xD
NICE! I bet you played it really smooth after she turned you down. Just to help out us guys here, you should tell us exactly how you acted.
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Old 2007-12-03, 19:20   Link #248
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NICE! I bet you played it really smooth after she turned you down. Just to help out us guys here, you should tell us exactly how you acted.
...Ok....I asked her out...she said no...We started talking at lunch..we became good friends.....About a year or so past, I became one of her best friends and vise versa...then she asked me out...Nothing really more to it....I acted like myself....
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Old 2007-12-03, 19:43   Link #249
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Right now i dun care even if im 22 or 42, if im gonna find a girl, i dont care, even if shes 14, im gonna get her, and ill do what ever hell i can to get her.

Well i used to become crazy for this girl when she was 14, i was 20 and i saw the age difference, so i didint persue her, but i saw that girl once and i cant get her out of my head. I went out with other girls and was just half hearted and i just gave up on them, i sware i dun care anymore after much thinking. If i see a girl like that again, im going after her like mad, even risking my own life. I sware id sell my soul to the devil to see her again and die for her.
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Old 2007-12-03, 21:22   Link #250
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...Ok....I asked her out...she said no...We started talking at lunch..we became good friends.....About a year or so past, I became one of her best friends and vise versa...then she asked me out...Nothing really more to it....I acted like myself....
Damn, I thought that friends rarely ever became couples. Well I'm glad to know it's not always the case.
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Old 2007-12-03, 23:06   Link #251
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Damn, I thought that friends rarely ever became couples. Well I'm glad to know it's not always the case.
hehe..Well I dunno about that...
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Old 2007-12-04, 05:51   Link #252
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Damn, I thought that friends rarely ever became couples. Well I'm glad to know it's not always the case.
Quite the opposite.


My girlfriend broke up with me a couple months ago, but we stayed friends. (friends for a year) Of course, I never lost my feelings for her, and I have a good chance of getting back together with her. Something tells me she may have some feelings for me, based on how she acts, and based on that she askes me out for the semi-formal dance (course I said yes).
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Old 2007-12-04, 10:04   Link #253
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Right now i dun care even if im 22 or 42, if im gonna find a girl, i dont care, even if shes 14, im gonna get her, and ill do what ever hell i can to get her.

Well i used to become crazy for this girl when she was 14, i was 20 and i saw the age difference, so i didint persue her, but i saw that girl once and i cant get her out of my head. I went out with other girls and was just half hearted and i just gave up on them, i sware i dun care anymore after much thinking. If i see a girl like that again, im going after her like mad, even risking my own life. I sware id sell my soul to the devil to see her again and die for her.
You're twenty and she's fourteen right? Don't you think that's kind of gross?
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Old 2007-12-04, 13:26   Link #254
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Right now i dun care even if im 22 or 42, if im gonna find a girl, i dont care, even if shes 14, im gonna get her, and ill do what ever hell i can to get her.

Well i used to become crazy for this girl when she was 14, i was 20 and i saw the age difference, so i didint persue her, but i saw that girl once and i cant get her out of my head. I went out with other girls and was just half hearted and i just gave up on them, i sware i dun care anymore after much thinking. If i see a girl like that again, im going after her like mad, even risking my own life. I sware id sell my soul to the devil to see her again and die for her.
Just a little warning to you...well, two things, actually.

First, at your age, even if you really like the younger girls, I'd say stick with 18 and above....that should keep you out of too many really sticky situations. Seriously, age differences aren't such a big deal, but at least make sure the girls you go after are legal adults.

Second, never ever EVER say stuff like that to a girl. That's creepy-talk, potential-stalker-talk, and will get you dropped faster than a.... I dunno, thing you drop really fast? And if you make the mistake of saying something like that and ger dumped, put it down as a learning experience and DO NOT pursue the girl further. At all. Don't even call her. Especially not more than once a day. And don't, like, buy her presents to win her back or anything. No matter how nice, attractive, whatever, the creepy guy does NOT get the girl.

Ugh.
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Old 2007-12-04, 18:11   Link #255
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I disagree that there's no matter about age differences in a relationship. It's possible that a relationship could work around it - anything's possible. But simply put, how would you relate to each other? In the given example of a 20 year old and a 14 year old, how on Earth would you relate to each other? A 20 year old is thinking about the future; maybe finishing or thinking about university, thinking about jobs, and so on. A 14 year old is what - in high school? The concerns are completely different.

You can still love each other, but I don't think it'd be nearly the same as someone who is more at your level. If I saw the hottest girl ever and she turned out to be 14, you can bet I'd keep that to myself, nor would I pursue it. It's not because she's underage, but because she's 14 - she isn't fully developed as a person, and my apologies for probably sounding like an elitest ass for saying this, but it's very unlikely that she can match me in intellect or activity. It's just natural. I also don't believe that relations should be based on physical attraction alone, although the value of physical attraction should not be discounted. Physical attraction draws you into a relationship, but personal compatibility is what keeps it going, and keeps it enjoyable. A 14 year old may be capable of the former, but the chances are so slim that someone of that age could match someone 20+ years old that it's not even worth bothering with.
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Old 2007-12-04, 18:18   Link #256
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Right now i dun care even if im 22 or 42, if im gonna find a girl, i dont care, even if shes 14, im gonna get her, and ill do what ever hell i can to get her.

Well i used to become crazy for this girl when she was 14, i was 20 and i saw the age difference, so i didint persue her, but i saw that girl once and i cant get her out of my head. I went out with other girls and was just half hearted and i just gave up on them, i sware i dun care anymore after much thinking. If i see a girl like that again, im going after her like mad, even risking my own life. I sware id sell my soul to the devil to see her again and die for her.
I hope you're trolling, because it's highly, highly creepy to envision a 42-year-old lusting for some 14-year-old. The best you can do with a 14-year-old with a wide age gap is to make friends and wait a few years before attempting to even go on a date.
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Old 2007-12-04, 20:58   Link #257
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I hope you're trolling, because it's highly, highly creepy to envision a 42-year-old lusting for some 14-year-old. The best you can do with a 14-year-old with a wide age gap is to make friends and wait a few years before attempting to even go on a date.
Even 20 and 14 is creepy. GAH!

And since <insert genderless pronoun>'s account is more than one year old, trolling seems less likely.
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Old 2007-12-05, 11:43   Link #258
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Even 20 and 14 is creepy. GAH!

And since <insert genderless pronoun>'s account is more than one year old, trolling seems less likely.
Well, my aunt and uncle have been married for about 25 years, and my aunt is like 10 years older then my uncle...Altghouh I think he was like 25 when they got married......I would say that things change over the years....I think that when she's 18, he wont really like her like that anymore and will probably be married himself...but who knows....
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Old 2007-12-05, 16:34   Link #259
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Lol, funny [romance] story here.

I like my ex-gf. My ex-gf likes me. Shes asks me out to the semi-formal, so I say yes. A friend of ours is tagging along. Then, my ex-gf says another girl can come along, who happens to like me (but I don't like her). So now, I'm taking my ex to the semi as a date, and 2 girls as friends. And here I was hoping for a few dances alone with her
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Old 2007-12-05, 21:15   Link #260
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^I don't know what you complaining about man. Do you want to swap places or something? I guess spend time with the 'ex-girl' (you'll already do this) and for the girl who likes you but you don't like her let her down easy. This can be done by completely ignoring her feelings or just stay away from the situation.
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