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Old 2010-02-14, 18:25   Link #3121
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Agreed, not everyone has a decent family. I myself being the centre of critisism for my 'jap love'.

But thats besides the point.

I find dating quite nonsense, well.. until you reach 20+, by then you should make your own choices, with regards to the consequences. If not, then janitorian is always a good job. Because if you can't make rational choices over age 20, then you will be cleaning up alot of messes. All the while making more.

-sigh- Dating is sorta depressing, love is usually so one-sighted, us men being egotistical, selfish, and sexist. We tend to be paranoid and jealous for our person of affection, and when we finally 'get them', we aren't happy.

Men + World = Trash. I respect the true creators, the only real ones: Women.

Thats my ideology on dating. So troublesome... I'll wait for someone to truly love me, someone I can relate to, but also understand and realize with. Someone who isn't a me done over, with opposing opinions and methods. Like that, as life itself would be pointless if your partner -- your equal, was you done over in personality.
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Old 2010-02-14, 18:47   Link #3122
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I find dating quite nonsense, well.. until you reach 20+, by then you should make your own choices, with regards to the consequences. If not, then janitorian is always a good job. Because if you can't make rational choices over age 20, then you will be cleaning up alot of messes. All the while making more.

-sigh- Dating is sorta depressing, love is usually so one-sighted, us men being egotistical, selfish, and sexist. We tend to be paranoid and jealous for our person of affection, and when we finally 'get them', we aren't happy.

Men + World = Trash. I respect the true creators, the only real ones: Women.

Thats my ideology on dating. So troublesome... I'll wait for someone to truly love me, someone I can relate to, but also understand and realize with. Someone who isn't a me done over, with opposing opinions and methods. Like that, as life itself would be pointless if your partner -- your equal, was you done over in personality.
Gonna have to disagree a bit. Dating is a process, and best started early, because you have to make mistakes and go through harsh lessons to learn what you really want in a partner, and learn how to woo the person you eventually want. The sooner it's done, the sooner you get experienced, and the more ready you are for the love of your life.

And both Men and Women can be trash or be artists. Everyone is different, heh.

But yeah, I do want an equal for my partner, not someone who worships the ground I walk on, nor just tolerates me because I do stuff. I'm content with who I am, not actively looking, but I am open to the possibility if I find someone liking me. Whether it happens or not, I'm fine with it. I think that's the real key that shows you're ready for a relationship; not desperate to find someone, nor totally closed off.
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Old 2010-02-14, 22:19   Link #3123
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My boyfriend proposed today. I am engaged.
What an unimaginative day to choose to propose....

I'm kidding, I'm kidding! Don't kill m- *schlurke* X_X

Jokes aside, congratulation Shiemi! May you two have a fruitful life together.

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It was funny because even though I removed the jewelry box first from the package, it looked like a necklace box so I got more excited about the huge box of Godiva chocolates that was under and placed the jewelry box aside. He asked awkwardly if I was going to open the smaller box and so I did. I started crying silly. So that was more or less how it happened, in case anyone wonders.
That....was actually quite amusing. For some reason, I can totally see why he loves you.
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Old 2010-02-15, 08:05   Link #3124
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That is creative. An awfully big gamble though, hoping you don't open it. I wonder if he recorded it all.
I hope he didn't. ^^;;

Mystique, didn't see you online last night, but yeah, we can talk soon.

Ascaloth, lol. Thanks.

And again, thanks to everyone else.

Just yesterday, even though I was enjoying the day, I learned that a friend of mine had recently broken up her long distance relationship with her boyfriend. In their case, the main issue was lack of money on both sides for traveling to see the other. It did not happen yesterday, but a while ago, as my friend described it. To those in LDRs, it's hard not to give up. I also have to admit it has been hard for me and my bf (though I must confess money has not been a main issue) and so, we decided to get married this summer as I should graduate by June and we are going to end the LDR once and for all. So... to those doing long distance, try your best.
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Old 2010-02-15, 12:07   Link #3125
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I want to get married ^_^
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Old 2010-02-15, 12:33   Link #3126
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I want to get married ^_^
That could take a long time for some. But if you find your one and only, it shouldn't be too difficult. While I have that goal in mind myself, I must make sure of other important goals first. Financial stability is a start, both for myself and whoever I meet.

(I sound like a broken record) Doesn't hurt to have big goals, but try not to worry about marriage so early. At least give it a few years before considering it.
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Old 2010-02-15, 13:39   Link #3127
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if i find the one then marriage is imminent.

I'm planning on moving to japan, and learning the language - so immediate job potential would be english teacher or translator ^^ so yeah
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Old 2010-02-15, 13:52   Link #3128
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Old 2010-02-15, 15:16   Link #3129
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if i find the one then marriage is imminent.

I'm planning on moving to japan, and learning the language - so immediate job potential would be english teacher or translator ^^ so yeah
Wait till you're my age (that won't be far off). Education is important, my child. Good job = good money, and then you'll be able to have houses in BOTH Japan and elsewhere.
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Old 2010-02-15, 15:37   Link #3130
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I'm still waiting for that moment. I won't rush time. I know it when i see it, or maybe it has already passed. At any rate, i will not let my feelings intervene. I will obediently follow the path fate has carved for me in the Kosmos.
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Old 2010-02-15, 15:42   Link #3131
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If the ages in your profiles are truthful, you guys don't have anything to worry about anytime soon.
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Old 2010-02-15, 15:44   Link #3132
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If the ages in your profiles are truthful, you guys don't have anything to worry about anytime soon.
I agree with you. I'm planning to live AT LEAST 14 more years and longer is possible. +14 years is a long time now that you think of it.
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Old 2010-02-15, 18:33   Link #3133
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Enjoy the youthful times first.
What are the youthful times, again?

But like everyone said, don't rush into marriage. It'll happen when you're ready, until then, just enjoy life with what you have and live it to the fullest.
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Old 2010-02-15, 18:50   Link #3134
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Technically speaking, youthful times are when you're not an adult. But in the context of dating and marriage, it sounds like you're saying they mean you're dating, fooling around, sowing wild oats, not too serious, etc.

Which can cause issues. It's all well and good to date and have in the context of getting to know someone, but messing around early on for purely selfish physical reasons tends to lead to problems down the road.

I offer the advice best given to me: go on group dates. A mix of guys and girls just going out to have fun and getting to know everyone, where no one is really seeing someone else(although they can be). Then when you get past 18-20, you can look more into one-on-one dates. Group dates remove a lot of the nervousness and expectations when you're just starting out, so you can focus on having fun and getting to know people.
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Old 2010-02-15, 22:51   Link #3135
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*shakes head* eye never put myself down in such a situation as that! love is something that can be found and lost in mysterious ways! so, saying that someone is out of your league is wrong! or am eye wrong? eye dk. ehehee...

anyways, my boyfriend and eye just broke up a few days before Valentine's Day. and the next day we break up, my friend tells me he's been begging to see her breasts for 20 minutes and it's annoying her. . eye always choose bad guys!!
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Old 2010-02-15, 23:20   Link #3136
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Sounds like your typical young guy, after the goods. You're better off without.
yeah! he was only a few months older than me, he's turning 15 soon. but, it's not his fault. *twirls* someday, eye'll find the best boyfriend! and be in a stable, loving relationship! *highfive* YEAH!
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Old 2010-02-15, 23:33   Link #3137
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Good to see that you're confident about the future, everyone's time for love comes eventually.
*nods* you should always look at the good side! because if you always expect bad things, bad things will come! ehehe.
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Old 2010-02-15, 23:38   Link #3138
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Too bad for me because bad things still come even when I expect good things.
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Old 2010-02-16, 01:46   Link #3139
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if i find the one then marriage is imminent.

I'm planning on moving to japan, and learning the language - so immediate job potential would be english teacher or translator ^^ so yeah
You should actually try researching more about Japan before just proclaiming you're going to go there. If you want a good idea about what teaching English is like in Japan, you ought to read Azrael's blog on gaijinsmash.net (though I think his host is dead so he's back to Outpost Nine now).

In any case, I also have a friend in SF; a good friend of hers is in the JET program and pretty much went crazy and had to come back to America. If you can hack it, I guess it's all right. But I've been to Japan twice and I'll tell you right now that I'd never want to live there. Visit, sure. But live there? No way in hell. God bless America.

Sorry for off-topicness.

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If the ages in your profiles are truthful, you guys don't have anything to worry about anytime soon.
In April I turn 26, and thus will officially be a Christmas Cake.

Except I'm not single, nor do I want Japanese men, nor do I want men at all... so I guess things are okay.

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Too bad for me because bad things still come even when I expect good things.
I hear that...
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Old 2010-02-16, 01:50   Link #3140
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yeah! he was only a few months older than me, he's turning 15 soon. but, it's not his fault. *twirls* someday, eye'll find the best boyfriend! and be in a stable, loving relationship! *highfive* YEAH!

*tries so hard not to remind posters about Otaku Emperor*

Okay, you're 14. Quite frankly when I was that age, girls were the last thing I ever thought about (even less so than what mum has to yell at me about this time or when foreclosure would become reality). If I were you I'd try to stay away from the whole dating thing for at least 12months.

Why is it that people are starting relationships at younger ages? What next? At 8 years?
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