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Old 2010-04-15, 14:12   Link #4281
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In my case, my girl didn't know I was into the "otaku" stuff until recently, but she didn't mind much; mostly because she's already in love with what she's seen of me, and I suspect she doesn't really have a grasp on the seedier aspects of this hobby as yet.
I'm curious as to whether "the reveal" was nerve wracking for you. I never had to deal with that... since I knew from the start that my girlfriend cosplayed, I've been pretty open about my hobbies. Hell, I've even leant her a English translated visual novel or two.
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Old 2010-04-15, 14:46   Link #4282
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Is the older sister dating someone? Did you get a number?
She was, but not anymore. And since she's in Paris now, it's pointless to get a number for her, but I do have her on Facebook now at least
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Old 2010-04-15, 14:49   Link #4283
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She was, but not anymore. And since she's in Paris now, it's pointless to get a number for her, but I do have her on Facebook now at least
Should have got her e-mail at least! You can at least talk online, via AIM, MSN, or Skype; all three allow free video chats as well as standard IMs. It helps to keep in touch and talk about things; never know when opportunity will come again!
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Old 2010-04-15, 16:10   Link #4284
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She was, but not anymore. And since she's in Paris now, it's pointless to get a number for her, but I do have her on Facebook now at least
Facebook's a good starting point. ^^ Build it from there and see what happens, you never know.
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Old 2010-04-15, 16:26   Link #4285
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I'm curious as to whether "the reveal" was nerve wracking for you. I never had to deal with that... since I knew from the start that my girlfriend cosplayed, I've been pretty open about my hobbies. Hell, I've even leant her a English translated visual novel or two.
Not really, to be honest. She just found RIUVA through my facebook, found out my anime habits from there, asked me about it, and....that's it, basically. I just told her straight out, and she just took it at face value.

Frankly, I'm a lot less tense around her than I would be with most other women. She's not without her prejudices, but it appears anime isn't one of them, thank goodness.
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Old 2010-04-15, 21:59   Link #4286
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I'm a bit worried. Not about the girl I like, we've been getting along great. But more about this one girl who keeps trying to get my attention. Like every time she sees me in passing she always makes sure to say "Hey [my first name]" and I notice this as being odd since very few people actually refer to me by my first name (the nickname "you!" is more common). Now at first I just wrote this off as her just saying hi to me in passing, then it became more frequent and now I'm thinking maybe she's trying to say more than just hello. This did start happening after she broke up with her old boyfriend as well.

I don't know if I'm over-analyzing this, or if I'm simply not reacting as I should. Regardless, my interests don't lie in her, so I'm not paying it much heed. I don't want to be the one she looks to for this type of stuff though. Not a big problem, really.
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Old 2010-04-16, 01:40   Link #4287
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I'm a bit worried. Not about the girl I like, we've been getting along great. But more about this one girl who keeps trying to get my attention. Like every time she sees me in passing she always makes sure to say "Hey [my first name]" and I notice this as being odd since very few people actually refer to me by my first name (the nickname "you!" is more common). Now at first I just wrote this off as her just saying hi to me in passing, then it became more frequent and now I'm thinking maybe she's trying to say more than just hello. This did start happening after she broke up with her old boyfriend as well.

I don't know if I'm over-analyzing this, or if I'm simply not reacting as I should. Regardless, my interests don't lie in her, so I'm not paying it much heed. I don't want to be the one she looks to for this type of stuff though. Not a big problem, really.
Not a big deal. Plain and simple. If this girl has an interest in you and you aren't feeling the same vibe, so what. Who cares. If she keeps saying hi to you every so often, just reply casually. If she starts to make advances to you or keep dropping hints to the point where it's obvious she has some interest in you beyond friendship, you can inquire as to what her intentions are, but be kind. But really, only do this if you absolutely have to. If it doesn't get to that point, just proceed everyday like you normally do. Just say hi back. The end.
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Old 2010-04-16, 02:17   Link #4288
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Not really, to be honest. She just found RIUVA through my facebook, found out my anime habits from there, asked me about it, and....that's it, basically. I just told her straight out, and she just took it at face value.

Frankly, I'm a lot less tense around her than I would be with most other women. She's not without her prejudices, but it appears anime isn't one of them, thank goodness.
Sounds like things went pretty smoothly for you... in my case, I always thought that the moment of truth would be the inviting the girl over and performing the "Eruruu Test", but since my girlfriend of course already knew about my hobbies it ended up being pretty anticlimactic.
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Old 2010-04-16, 02:25   Link #4289
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@ Yoropa: Friend Zone doesn't exist just for guys, you can put her there. Now wasn't that easy?
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Old 2010-04-16, 06:11   Link #4290
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I'm curious as to whether "the reveal" was nerve wracking for you. I never had to deal with that... since I knew from the start that my girlfriend cosplayed, I've been pretty open about my hobbies. Hell, I've even leant her a English translated visual novel or two.
Like the Snow Sakura and Yume Miru Kusuri?

Honestly speaking, those are two really interesting VNs I found beneath the pile of porn-inclined products. I wouldn't mind lending them to any girl I know.

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Not really, to be honest. She just found RIUVA through my facebook, found out my anime habits from there, asked me about it, and....that's it, basically. I just told her straight out, and she just took it at face value.
Wow. That tsundere, and a number of my female friends had to be convinced by her sister when she found out that the piano pieces I have been playing randomly from time to time are anisongs. At least the younger one know that otaku =/= extremist closet perverts.

On another note, today in a lecture I was randomly putting notes together trying to figure out "GO! GO! MANIAC!" tune. A classmate asked me what I was doing, and it just went out of hand there because he kept asking questions, and the line of girls in front of us took interest in the conversation. I hope they don't have enough time to google the name of the song.

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Frankly, I'm a lot less tense around her than I would be with most other women. She's not without her prejudices, but it appears anime isn't one of them, thank goodness.
Wait, you didn't tell her about the risque aspects of anime/manga worship, didn't you? i.e - yuri & yaoi

Try asking this question : "Do you know what is a dakimakura?"
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Old 2010-04-16, 07:56   Link #4291
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Wait, you didn't tell her about the risque aspects of anime/manga worship, didn't you? i.e - yuri & yaoi
Nope. Need-to-know basis.

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Try asking this question : "Do you know what is a dakimakura?"
No need for that.

Besides, much of the reason she doesn't know much about my anime hobby is because I am rather casual about the hobby myself, actually. I don't have many anime paraphernalia like figurines, and I don't display them at all. Much less dakimakura; I never played with those, and now I have....no reason to start.
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Old 2010-04-16, 08:56   Link #4292
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I'm a bit worried. Not about the girl I like, we've been getting along great. But more about this one girl who keeps trying to get my attention. Like every time she sees me in passing she always makes sure to say "Hey [my first name]" and I notice this as being odd since very few people actually refer to me by my first name (the nickname "you!" is more common). Now at first I just wrote this off as her just saying hi to me in passing, then it became more frequent and now I'm thinking maybe she's trying to say more than just hello. This did start happening after she broke up with her old boyfriend as well.

I don't know if I'm over-analyzing this, or if I'm simply not reacting as I should. Regardless, my interests don't lie in her, so I'm not paying it much heed. I don't want to be the one she looks to for this type of stuff though. Not a big problem, really.
She's hardly a problem or somethin to be worried over. Continue to be friendly to her, say hi when she addresses you, and continue on with your day. If she doesn't get the hint and starts taking more steps in your direction, then you need to stop her and tell her that you don't see her that way. Granted, be kind about it, but from how you described the situation I doubt it'll come to that. More than anything, she seems to be looking for a rebound after breaking up with her boyfriend.
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Old 2010-04-19, 05:05   Link #4293
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Okay, I have been thinking about this "situation" over and over, and I need some advice from you guys, b/c when it comes to this I am an idiot (i don't know how guys think.... )

The Situation:
Okay, i started my new job like 3 weeks ago and i started liking this guy from the first time i met him. and over time people started guessing that am interested in him b/c of the way i look at him and talk to him(which i didn't realized my self that i show it) so he suspected aswell and when i asked his friends they told me that he knows.....

and another thing is i found out from his friends that he just split out with his girlfriend 1 month ago, hes been with her for 3 years.

I kind of tried to back away for a little bit, but he was so nice to me and he was flirting with me a litill bit aswell.
so i couldn't help it responding to all that and i just couldn't back away.

so what worries me now is that....the other day i talked with him about relationships and he told me he recently split up with his girlfriend.
And then he asked me if i have a boyfriend, and what kind of relationships I've been in.
So i told him i have a bad luck when it comes to guys... i usely fall for the guys that have girlfriends not knowing about them at first or i like someone but am not sure if they are interested in me.
So he asked me who that is am interested in.....at that moment i just didn't know what to say...b/c he knows i like him so why that question? and you know, you don't think properly at moments like this, all the emotions took over me and i told him its him....

well, his answer was that he finds me very attractive and that he would love to ask me out now, but b/c he jut split with his girlfriend he still needs a little bit more time.

then i asked him i f i should keep my hopes up or give up cuz i would prefer to be disappointed now then later.

he said that he want me to wait and to keep liking him...and when he straights things out he will definitely ask me out.

the thing am worried about and what i regret.... is that i told him i like him too soon b/c i knew about his split up and that its still fresh.... but he kind of made me say it...

and do you think b/c of that i fuc*** up my chances?

(and am really sorry about my English, its not my first language so i hope you can understand something....little bit of my situation....)
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Old 2010-04-19, 06:14   Link #4294
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Everything sounds natural, just wait for him to recover...especially since he particularly said he will ask you out when he's ready, there's no need for you to go out of your way and ask him again. If the guy wasn't interested in you, I think he'd outright say that he's not looking for a relationship atm because of his recent breakup, so don't worry about it too much.
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Old 2010-04-19, 06:29   Link #4295
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Agreed with Kafriel; you're actually doing pretty good here, since the guy did actually say he'll ask you out once he's sorted things out. In fact, he's doing you a favour by asking you to hold on for the moment; he's being a decent guy by trying to make sure you don't end up as his rebound. It's something you should thank him for.

Just take a chill pill and wait for the good stuff to come.
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Kafriel and Ascaloth beat me to it, but seriously, don't be so worried about it. You've done a very good job, and obviously the guy is interested in you since he wants to ask you out once he's gotten over his ex-girlfriend and figured himself out. He sounds like a sweet guy, and it's nice to know he isn't going to just jump into another relationship when he knows he still isn't over his last one. Less pain for you.
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Old 2010-04-19, 09:53   Link #4297
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Pretty much what other people here have already said. I think you did the right thing in being honest with him, and I'm sure that if he's also honest with you (because I don't know him personally), he really appreciated it. The fact that he said to wait for him to get through his break up before going out is definitely a good thing. The only advice I could give you is to try to get to know him better as a person before actually going out. That is all.
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Old 2010-04-19, 10:14   Link #4298
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Something interesting :

Top 10 Things You’d Look for in a Schoolgirl Girlfriend

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1. She’s cute

2. She has a cute smile

3. She’s casually kind

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She doesn’t stand out but on closer inspection has a nice face

5. Her voice is cute

6. She’s stylish

7. She’s meek but will strike up a conversation

8. Her hair is silky

9. Her uniform is always well turned out

10. She exudes a mysterious aura
Reminds me that I had this foreign classmate in my lecture, she looks cute! But she appears to be a loli - short, small, with a childish hairstyle, but cute.

I can't resist cuteness. Maybe that is what people define by "dominant protector personality" (or from a pessimistic view, "manipulative bully personality" ).
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Old 2010-04-19, 11:48   Link #4299
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No "smells like coconut" or "is shorter than me" in your criteria? I'm astonished
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Old 2010-04-19, 12:36   Link #4300
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Everything sounds natural, just wait for him to recover...especially since he particularly said he will ask you out when he's ready, there's no need for you to go out of your way and ask him again. If the guy wasn't interested in you, I think he'd outright say that he's not looking for a relationship atm because of his recent breakup, so don't worry about it too much.
yeah, i think i will just act natural and just wait for his move now

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Agreed with Kafriel; you're actually doing pretty good here, since the guy did actually say he'll ask you out once he's sorted things out. In fact, he's doing you a favour by asking you to hold on for the moment; he's being a decent guy by trying to make sure you don't end up as his rebound. It's something you should thank him for.
i know he's a really nice guy

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Just take a chill pill and wait for the good stuff to come.
heheh yeah i will try my best in waiting

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Kafriel and Ascaloth beat me to it, but seriously, don't be so worried about it. You've done a very good job, and obviously the guy is interested in you since he wants to ask you out once he's gotten over his ex-girlfriend and figured himself out. He sounds like a sweet guy, and it's nice to know he isn't going to just jump into another relationship when he knows he still isn't over his last one. Less pain for you.
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Pretty much what other people here have already said. I think you did the right thing in being honest with him, and I'm sure that if he's also honest with you (because I don't know him personally), he really appreciated it. The fact that he said to wait for him to get through his break up before going out is definitely a good thing. The only advice I could give you is to try to get to know him better as a person before actually going out. That is all.
Thank You very much all of You i appreciate all Your replays i feel better now knowing that what i did was ok and it doesn't ruin anything. i guess i will try my best to be patient now and wait for his move.
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