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Old 2011-01-24, 23:32   Link #7861
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Anyway, long distance relationships suck, work hard blah blah.
what i forgot to say is, don't call, don't chat on IRC or skype. because all that will make u miss him even MORE. no, the daily chat over ICQ does not suffice. u will want sex, and u cant have it and that will frustrate u both and well...its all sad from there.
Oh and thank u the 4 ppl that gave me good OR bad reputation on that 1 post. thats a record for me. i hope more of u join in the process of shitting me down. anyway hope is not yet lost, there are still good ppl on animesuki. kaijo, take it from here...
...and of course the anonymous person who evened out literally my rep - thanks pal!
(i dunno why i just said that...)
Um, not to be rude, but... no. A chat on Skype? Can suffice very nicely. You'd be surprised. I speak from experience as someone who was in a long distance relationship. Sure, it's not the same thing as being in the same room as the person you're dating and touching them, being able to see them and feel them, but why does it have to be about sex? Sometimes talking is enough, whether it be long distance or in the same room.
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Old 2011-01-24, 23:39   Link #7862
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Or you could watch A LOT of anime.
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Old 2011-01-25, 00:05   Link #7863
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Um, not to be rude, but... no. A chat on Skype? Can suffice very nicely. You'd be surprised. I speak from experience as someone who was in a long distance relationship. Sure, it's not the same thing as being in the same room as the person you're dating and touching them, being able to see them and feel them, but why does it have to be about sex? Sometimes talking is enough, whether it be long distance or in the same room.
u are one patient person. how long, if i may ask?
sex is what seperates friendship from love. think deep. and i would not even want a long distance relationship with a friend...
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Old 2011-01-25, 00:10   Link #7864
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sex is what seperates friendship from love. think deep
I have to take issue with this. As an asexual, am I incapable of experiencing love just because I don't proactively want to have sex with anyone? If so, why is there a very clear difference between what I've felt for the girls I've dated and what I feel towards even my dearest friends?
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Old 2011-01-25, 00:12   Link #7865
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u are one patient person. how long, if i may ask?
Seven months. We were good friends before we started dating, and we were friends again after we broke up.
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Old 2011-01-25, 00:20   Link #7866
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I have to take issue with this. As an asexual, am I incapable of experiencing love just because I don't proactively want to have sex with anyone? If so, why is there a very clear difference between what I've felt for the girls I've dated and what I feel towards even my dearest friends?
no there is no difference in your weird honest case. i respect that, cause i'm afraid of women. the honesty won me over.
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wow, long...tell me u didn't want a body beside you.
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Old 2011-01-25, 00:26   Link #7867
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wow, long...tell me u didn't want a body beside you.
Not a body, no. I have a preference for living people, not dead ones.
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Old 2011-01-25, 00:28   Link #7868
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Not a body, no. I have a preference for living people, not dead ones.
you know what i meant...living, breathing ppl. and after watching comedies with masturbation over phone, this just wants me to want a girrfiend even less...(why did i just say that?....shit...)
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Old 2011-01-25, 00:32   Link #7869
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you know what i meant...living, breathing ppl. and after watching comedies with masturbation over phone, this just wants me to want a girrfiend even less...
Okay, fine. In all honesty? No, right now I don't want a body beside me. I'm in no rush to have sex or strike up a relationship again. I'm quite happy as I am now, and while I was dating Ricky, I was happy with him even with the distance.
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Old 2011-01-25, 00:36   Link #7870
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Okay, fine. In all honesty? No, right now I don't want a body beside me. I'm in no rush to have sex or strike up a relationship again. I'm quite happy as I am now, and while I was dating Ricky, I was happy with him even with the distance.
wait, ricky controversy? cause thats funny. i had a grin on like for 5 min.if you are female then it
s no surprise you are in no rush to have sex. ...and i can respect that, mind you. actually, i'm jealous. if i cared for sex once a year, god heaven!
not so much shinji, who had to jerk off to a girl in a coma..,.
no idea whyi wrote that...
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Old 2011-01-25, 00:53   Link #7871
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no reminders of what u could have had right this moment if not for the damn army
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And people are surprised they get cheated on...seriously just wtf are you smoking when you're posting?
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don't chat on IRC or skype. because all that will make u miss him even MORE.
Friend of mine ditched his girl, because she didn't give a damn about him when he was in the army. In his words, "I'm not your personal toy to play around with while I'm here". Keeping the relationship as alive as possible is a #1 priority.
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Old 2011-01-25, 00:58   Link #7872
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And people are surprised they get cheated on...seriously just wtf are you smoking when you're posting?

Friend of mine ditched his girl, because she didn't give a damn about him when he was in the army. In his words, "I'm not your personal toy to play around with while I'm here". Keeping the relationship as alive as possible is a #1 priority.
how do the first 2 quotes relate? i'm not smoking, i'm drinking beer. oh, and i'm surprised ppl are surprised. i thought it always went down that way...
the number of priority depends on what u want. and that can vary greatly.
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Old 2011-01-25, 01:00   Link #7873
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it doesn't take a genius to tell they don't work at all. long distance relationships are not healthy and stable by default. communication is not all there is to it. sadly u have to touch and see each other for it to work.
there is no suicide. there is only the cutting of losses. no contact- no reminders of what u could have had right this moment if not for the damn army. no grief therefore...and when he comes - he comes, and all will be good again))
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first rule of idiffer - break the rules. ppl don't expect that and that is awesome.
"being connected by all this instant technology doesn't mean we really know how to communicate any more..."
QFT. we do not, we do NOT know.

I note with some amount of amusement that you didn't answer my question, but mayhaps that speaks for itself.
Long distance relationships can work, but I do concede that it's much more work, and rarer besides, than a long term "local" one.
I know several people, myself included, who have had successful long term, stable and healthy relationships, long distance and/or with little available interaction, besides chatting online, whether it be due to illness, work, schooling, or what have you. Hell, my hubby and I were separated for around 3 months long ago, when we were first married, due to life going cooky, and we did just fine talking on the phone/computer (this was nearly 15 years ago mind you) and seeing one another (maybe, if we were lucky) once every few weeks. We survived, and so have many other couples...

(I was writing this while working, pardon if I've missed like 5 posts in between lol)

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sex is what seperates friendship from love. .
Again, I have to wonder what experiences you're drawing from..

My gf and I have been seriously dating for well over a year now, and you want to know how many times we've had sex in that year?


0


Yup, you saw that, ZERO. Do we love one another less? Hells, no! We merely built our relationship with our hearts first, without letting the genitals butt in to muck it up, as they sometimes do.
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Old 2011-01-25, 01:07   Link #7874
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I note with some amount of amusement that you didn't answer my question, but mayhaps that speaks for itself.
Long distance relationships can work, but I do concede that it's much more work, and rarer besides, than a long term "local" one.
I know several people, myself included, who have had successful long term, stable and healthy relationships, long distance and/or with little available interaction, besides chatting online, whether it be due to illness, work, schooling, or what have you. Hell, my hubby and I were separated for around 3 months long ago, when we were first married, due to life going cooky, and we did just fine talking on the phone/computer (this was nearly 15 years ago mind you) and seeing one another (maybe, if we were lucky) once every few weeks. We survived, and so have many other couples...

(I was writing this while working, pardon if I've missed like 5 posts in between lol)
answer - none. i'm ashamed. but doesn't change the fact that i know things.
and...
you are one patient person.
maybe you are friends then? cause talking to a person isn't love in my book.
and i'm drawing that from the power of my brain. not from exp, yes, i suck. my friends tell things and some things are more then obvious.
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Old 2011-01-25, 01:16   Link #7875
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answer - none. i'm ashamed. but doesn't change the fact that i know things.
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you are one patient person.
Patience has little to do with it; I'm a mature adult, who knows there's more than sex to a stable, healthy relationship. Yes, sex can be a PART of one, but it's not the end all be all, as we've proven.
And, though it'll negrep me (tbh I do not give a flying fig about my rep, why do people obsess over it ffs), as you admit to not having been in a relationship (I'm assuming, I may have totally misread what you replied), then I'm not entirely sure you've got a leg to stand on, here. I mean, you're entitled to your opinion, however abrasive it is, and no one will deny that. But I find it a little, well, tbh, a little off putting for you to insist that those who choose to have long distance relationships are somehow in the wrong (Your comment of "tell me u didn't want a body beside you." was rather insensitive, and to be blunt, cruder than necessary).

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answer - none. i'm ashamed. but doesn't change the fact that i know things.
and...
you are one patient person.
maybe you are friends then? cause talking to a person isn't love in my book.
and i'm drawing that from the power of my brain. not from exp, yes, i suck. my friends tell things and some things are more then obvious.
o.O I can assure you, I do not go out on dates, snuggle in bed with, kiss and hold hands with my friends....

Mayhaps your brain needs to open itself up a little bit, so it can learn from the great wealth of knowledge this thread has provided?
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Old 2011-01-25, 01:23   Link #7876
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no, u're right. most times. a friend said that a virgin may have a better perspective of things. well, that held up till now...
insensitive...i repeat, "see substance, not form".
and u can't beat me at being bad rep'ed. you are awefully polite for that.
about wealth of knowlegem, life gives more than this thread by far.
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Old 2011-01-25, 01:38   Link #7877
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how do the first 2 quotes relate?
They both encourage people to kill their relationship.
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maybe you are friends then? cause talking to a person isn't love in my book.
and i'm drawing that from the power of my brain.
Here's some experience then, that even you must have had at some point in life:
1) I'm talking to my lecturer about an awesome energy project.
2) I'm talking to a girl I really like a lot about anything.
While I'm enjoying both conversations, can you see the difference?
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They both encourage people to kill their relationship.

Here's some experience then, that even you must have had at some point in life:
1) I'm talking to my lecturer about an awesome energy project.
2) I'm talking to a girl I really like a lot about anything.
While I'm enjoying both conversations, can you see the difference?
while your 2nd hypothesis failed, i love u for the "relationships failed" part.
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Old 2011-01-25, 02:04   Link #7879
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What?

Talking to your loved one can be enough for interaction, espeically if you're going to be seperated for a while. Talking to a lover will help with not being able to see them otherwise. Are you saying that all lovers do are kiss and do other general lovey dovey things and never just talk a bit? Because to be honest there's a lot more to communicate than just your carnal desires...

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Old 2011-01-25, 03:30   Link #7880
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while your 2nd hypothesis failed, i love u for the "relationships failed" part.
Excuse me, but how exactly does the second hypothesis fail? I can't speak for everyone else here but I would absolutely love to have a gf with whom I can speak to about anything and confide in without worrying about the consequences. Love is not a means through which you express your carnal desires, but to have someone with whom you can share you life with, create a connection with by way of knowing each other (not by way of sex). To love someone is to love every aspect of them, not just simply to sleep with.
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