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Old 2011-01-26, 01:16   Link #7921
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Hmmmm.

I have a question. Has anyone here ever tried online dating? I mean like eHarmony and the like? If so, how'd that work out for you?
Avoid eHarmony like the black plague.

Unless you only want to date fundamentalist Christians.
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Old 2011-01-26, 02:41   Link #7922
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Old 2011-01-26, 02:46   Link #7923
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You say it?

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Pretty much down to that.

You can try to be sneaky, but more likely she'll end up being confused rather than picking up on it.
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Old 2011-01-26, 03:15   Link #7924
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Age 6-10: "Pinky promise when we grow up we'll get married!"
Age 11-18: Lots of hinting, sneaky way, because most guys are shy about it. If not, you can focus her and when she asks why you're always around, you can say you like her.
18+: "Nice dress...ima buy you a drrrink"
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Old 2011-01-26, 05:31   Link #7925
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Avoid eHarmony like the black plague.

Unless you only want to date fundamentalist Christians.
Yeeeeeeeeah, no worries there; eHarmony has already informed me I cannot be matched. Got to have a certain sick admiration for a website that tells me I'm kind, intelligent, conscientious, and unlovable.

Or from your description, maybe they're really telling me 'you're too nice to get along with our other members'? Yeah, I like that thought better.
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Old 2011-01-26, 13:13   Link #7926
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I have a question. Has anyone here ever tried online dating? I mean like eHarmony and the like? If so, how'd that work out for you?
Waste of money. You have to remember that dating sites like eHarmony make money on subscription fees, so it's in their best interest to keep someone paying. If they match you up and you have a successful relationship, you'll stop paying.

I did try eHarmony for awhile several years ago, somewhat out of morbid curiosity. They have you do a questionnaire, which is supposed to help them understand your personality or some such, and then match you up with people you are supposed to be a good match for. I tended to get like 5-10 matches a day for awhile, and I responded to many of them. Some of them would respond back with the form questions, some wouldn't. But only one actually progressed to a more free-form "note-passing" kind of thing. But even that ended shortly thereafter.

Matches tended to decrease over the couple of months I was there, but honestly speaking, I have no fucking clue how they matched me up with people int he first place. Most of them I didn't seem to have anything in common with, and was probably evidenced by the fact that few hardly responded.

There was a couple notable ones that seemed to come onto me, but I was suspicious, and found out later they were fakes. Not sure if eHarmony was behind them as a way to keep me interested, but I ultimately found the service lacking.

Some might have success stories there, but I'd bet anything it's incredibly low. This guy seems to hit a lot of the points that match up with my experiences. Consumer Affairs has quite a bit of complaints regarding them as well.

In short, avoid them like the plague. The best way to meet women is while doing things you like; thus you'll automatically have something in common and something to talk about. It's not fool-proof, but it's leagues better than anything else.

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Question: How do you tell someone you like her?
Pretty much go out and do it. You're scared right now, because of the possibility of rejection, which is incredibly painful; believe me, I know.

Well, that's not entirely it; straight out telling might not be the best way, unless you have a good relationship with her first (even if it's just friendship). I'd suggest taking her out some place fun, and nearer to the end of the night, let her know.

If it's someone online and you can't get to her physical location, then wait for a chance where you two are talking and laughing about something, and ease into it. Let her know you appreciate her, that you like talking to her, and that you enjoy her company.

But yeah, it's a risk. Still, you'll never know unless you try, so good luck to you!
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Old 2011-01-26, 13:14   Link #7927
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Age 6-10: "Pinky promise when we grow up we'll get married!"
Age 11-18: Lots of hinting, sneaky way, because most guys are shy about it. If not, you can focus her and when she asks why you're always around, you can say you like her.
18+: "Nice dress...ima buy you a drrrink"
When I was 7 a girl I was friends with asked me to marry her when she "matured" (it was so funny the way she said it in hindsight ) but I was mostly scared of girls and ran away and lost contact with her. I think she even tried to write to me and I hid. I still feel real bad for that reaction even though I was just a kid, I wish I had realised that she was just showing me how much she liked me. Getting a pang of guilt even now.

This is almost sound advice but I wouldn't suggest being drunk all the time when you're and adult trying to express interest.

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Yeeeeeeeeah, no worries there; eHarmony has already informed me I cannot be matched. Got to have a certain sick admiration for a website that tells me I'm kind, intelligent, conscientious, and unlovable.

Or from your description, maybe they're really telling me 'you're too nice to get along with our other members'? Yeah, I like that thought better.
No you're definately UNLOVABLE. eHarmony is the true judge and could never be wrong. (haven't you seen all the happy couples they've created in the adverts!?) You should accept that now.
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Old 2011-01-26, 13:42   Link #7928
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When I was 7 a girl I was friends with asked me to marry her when she "matured" (it was so funny the way she said it in hindsight ) but I was mostly scared of girls and ran away and lost contact with her. I think she even tried to write to me and I hid. I still feel real bad for that reaction even though I was just a kid, I wish I had realised that she was just showing me how much she liked me. Getting a pang of guilt even now.
Sounds like someone needs to find this girl, profess your guilt, and ask for a second chance.
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Old 2011-01-26, 14:00   Link #7929
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Sounds like someone needs to find this girl, profess your guilt, and ask for a second chance.
I second this motion.
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Old 2011-01-26, 14:17   Link #7930
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Hmmmm.

I have a question. Has anyone here ever tried online dating? I mean like eHarmony and the like? If so, how'd that work out for you?
Heheh, I trained a girl at my last job, who'd met her hubby through eHarmony...

They moved away after a few months here, and then shortly afterwards, he strangled her and put her body in a closet...

I uh... haven't recommended eharmony to anyone... o.O
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Old 2011-01-26, 14:17   Link #7931
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Sounds like someone needs to find this girl, profess your guilt, and ask for a second chance.
Come on guys, have you learned nothing from anime?

First there has to be a long drawn-out comedy of errors as they meet in unlikely circumstances but aren't sure about the other's identity. And at least one nose-bleed. Then they have to wait for it to snow before he can make his confession.

Let's try to have some standards here, people.
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Old 2011-01-26, 14:18   Link #7932
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Heheh, I trained a girl at my last job, who'd met her hubby through eHarmony...

They moved away after a few months here, and then shortly afterwards, he strangled her and put her body in a closet...

I uh... haven't recommended eharmony to anyone... o.O
Jeez! That's pretty damn freaky. You're not kidding, right?
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Old 2011-01-26, 14:20   Link #7933
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Heheh, I trained a girl at my last job, who'd met her hubby through eHarmony...

They moved away after a few months here, and then shortly afterwards, he strangled her and put her body in a closet...

I uh... haven't recommended eharmony to anyone... o.O
I'm beginning to get the feeling that the only "success stories" eHarmony produces are the ones they use to make their commercials in an attempt to draw in new users. o_O
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Old 2011-01-26, 14:28   Link #7934
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Heheh, I trained a girl at my last job, who'd met her hubby through eHarmony...

They moved away after a few months here, and then shortly afterwards, he strangled her and put her body in a closet...

I uh... haven't recommended eharmony to anyone... o.O
... I knew I should have clicked 'yes' on the 'kill your girlfriend' box! No wonder they couldn't match me.
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Old 2011-01-26, 14:29   Link #7935
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... I knew I should have clicked 'yes' on the 'kill your girlfriend' box! No wonder they couldn't match me.
It isn't true love until you move her away from all of her family and friends, then murder her and hide the body.

Yes, I know I'm a horrible person. I'm so sorry.
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Old 2011-01-26, 14:33   Link #7936
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Hmmmm.

I have a question. Has anyone here ever tried online dating? I mean like eHarmony and the like? If so, how'd that work out for you?
Never tried eHarmony, but it sounds like it's a good thing I didn't.

Match.com feels like such a long time ago. Although there was no responses directly, the random mixers at least gave an opportunity to meet the person directly. Fun for awhile but they either met beforehand, or were already occupied with someone else.
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Old 2011-01-26, 14:38   Link #7937
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I'm beginning to get the feeling that the only "success stories" eHarmony produces are the ones they use to make their commercials in an attempt to draw in new users. o_O
eHarmony is secretly a program for pairing up all the crazies and getting them to wipe each other out.
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Old 2011-01-26, 14:43   Link #7938
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Heheh, I trained a girl at my last job, who'd met her hubby through eHarmony...

They moved away after a few months here, and then shortly afterwards, he strangled her and put her body in a closet...

I uh... haven't recommended eharmony to anyone... o.O
To be fair, she was married to the one she loved until the day she died. And really, isn't that all any of us are asking for?
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Old 2011-01-26, 15:01   Link #7939
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It isn't true love until you move her away from all of her family and friends, then murder her and hide the body.

Yes, I know I'm a horrible person. I'm so sorry.
Hiding the body is how you show you really respect her.

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Never tried eHarmony, but it sounds like it's a good thing I didn't.

Match.com feels like such a long time ago. Although there was no responses directly, the random mixers at least gave an opportunity to meet the person directly. Fun for awhile but they either met beforehand, or were already occupied with someone else.
Actually trying match.com next. Figure it can't hurt, and at least they haven't arbitrarily declared me undateable. Yet.
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Old 2011-01-26, 15:19   Link #7940
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To be fair, she was married to the one she loved until the day she died. And really, isn't that all any of us are asking for?
"The only successful marriage ends with one of you standing over the grave of the other."

I forget which comedian said this, but it seems to apply here.
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