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Old 2011-12-19, 18:38   Link #9901
DonQuigleone
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You guys that talk about a girl being "out of your league" need to get some self respect. It would take her to be a supermodel with a nobel's prize in physics for her to be really out of your league.

You guys are all smart, and you're probably not that bad looking. If there is a deficit in the looks department it's most likely entirely solved by:

a) losing weight.
b) taking a shower.
c) Wearing some slightly snazzier clothes. Rather then that stupid faded meme referencing t-shirt, you could just wear a regular button up shirt. Now you've become thoroughly elite, for about the cost of $15. It's really that easy.

I'll admit a) can be hard, if you have weight problems, but I find plenty of perfectly thin guys still go around with the whole "out of my league talk". Jeez, these guys need to learn to be a bit more, I don't know, arrogant. Aside from that super-model nobel laureate I already mentioned, most women aren't any better then you. A lot of them will be worse then you. And you know what, if you look at yourself in the mirror, with the right thought, you'll look pretty damn studly. You'd be surprised how many people agree with you. Heck, if a girl's consented to go out with you, she probably thinks you're pretty studly too. Remember that and take pride.

And if people do call you arrogant for being full of yourself, well I have the perfect reply for you "It's not arrogance when it's true". They'll either realise that in fact, you are just as amazing as you claim you are, or laugh themselves silly at your gumption. Either way, you win.
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Old 2011-12-19, 19:56   Link #9902
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Arrogant is not quite the word, but it's getting there. Once again, the Don is the Man of the Hour with award winning advice.

Take me, I'm a quirky, booky, calm type of guy by nature, and I damn sure ain't your sterotypical hip "brotha". But at this point in time in my life I'm not taking ANY SHIT from anyone about it. I am who I am dammit and if you don't like that, STUFF IT. Chicks run with that mantra all the time. You have to take it with that approach it's like Kaoru from Welcome to the NHK anime if anyone saw it...

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If you're not just worried about booty calls, than you have to realize on average most women want a guy who's nice capable compassionate and can take care of them (whatever that means in this day and age, the gals call the shots on that one).

Oh sure, they'd LIKE a Brad Pitt (or cultural equivalent) who had all those same qualities, but if you take care of yourself, have pride in yourself and treat her with respect then you can get "the cute ones" (dependent on you two being individually compatible with each other). Being modest is good, but while you don't need to be the Fonz, pulling a full on Charlie Brown isn't gonna get you any closer to that Lil' Red Haired Girl you so desire.

You're one of a multitude of guys on the market, if you don't believe what you're selling, she won't either. Know and highlight what good points, keep your self presentable, stay confident and something will turn up.

(ATTENTION: Still you shouldn't just go after beauty queens just to go after em, don't be afraid of going after or talking to a hot chick but remember what you're looking for BEHIND the window dressing, otherwise you'll likely run in circles and run the risk of having great sex but not much else, and even the sex isn't guaranteed unfortunately.
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Old 2011-12-19, 21:14   Link #9903
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You guys that talk about a girl being "out of your league" need to get some self respect.
FWIW, when I was talking about knowing the "out of one's league" feel from personal experience, I was considering myself to be out of the other person's league.

No difficulty with arrogance here.
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Old 2011-12-20, 06:07   Link #9904
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Yeah, the whole 'out of my league' thing is bullshit. We're all in the major leagues, and we're all just primates that take ourselves a little too seriously anyways.
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Old 2011-12-20, 10:13   Link #9905
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(ATTENTION: Still you shouldn't just go after beauty queens just to go after em, don't be afraid of going after or talking to a hot chick but remember what you're looking for BEHIND the window dressing, otherwise you'll likely run in circles and run the risk of having great sex but not much else, and even the sex isn't guaranteed unfortunately.
Pretty sure hot girls aren't good at sex because they don't have to be. There's more to it than how the other person looks, after all.
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Old 2011-12-20, 10:24   Link #9906
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Pretty sure hot girls aren't good at sex because they don't have to be. There's more to it than how the other person looks, after all.


"An illusion was shattered somewhere..."
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Old 2011-12-20, 23:51   Link #9907
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NOOOOOOO!!!!!! My sophomoric dream SHATTERED!! HOLLYWOOD LIED TO ME!!!!

Anyway, anyone doing or did the online dating thingy before? I made fun of it before but I gave into temptation and joined OK Cupid, e-flirting as we speak. It's kinda fun actually!
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Old 2011-12-20, 23:57   Link #9908
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NOOOOOOO!!!!!! My sophomoric dream SHATTERED!! HOLLYWOOD LIED TO ME!!!!

Anyway, anyone doing or did the online dating thingy before? I made fun of it before but I gave into temptation and joined OK Cupid, e-flirting as we speak. It's kinda fun actually!
Believe it or not, Mrs. E.S. and I found each other on Yahoo Personals. Before her, though, there was mIRC.

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Old 2011-12-21, 00:30   Link #9909
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Really, cause orignally I was like "there was no way this could ever work, 1 in 5 MY ASS!"

BTW que es mIRC? My young whippersnapper ass don't know nothin bout that.
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Old 2011-12-21, 01:07   Link #9910
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mIRC was, and still is, mainly a chat program. Some subbers still use it today for file sharing, but back in the mid and late 90s it was mainly used for socializing. You could join channels with hundreds of people, or do individual chats. Met a lot of people this way.
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Old 2011-12-21, 07:35   Link #9911
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Really, cause orignally I was like "there was no way this could ever work, 1 in 5 MY ASS!"
I know! But from so many of my married friends says it does work if you have enough common sense (okay, that's already not existent for 1 in 5 here).

But, once you avoid the scammers, bots and one-night-standers, I hear there are some really decent people that is very hard to notice if you met them irl first.
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How was your scavenging? I never tried but I can somewhat imagine I'd be a nervous wreck than if it was face-to-face conversations.
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Old 2011-12-21, 19:09   Link #9912
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Scavenging, HARUMPH! I'm on a QUEST my dear boy. A quest for L'AMOOURRREEEEE

Anyway's I stayed up chatting one woman last night and am on another right now. I don't know if it's due to my deficencies or due to their over-cautiousness but it seems like I'm doing a lot of the work in the convo's.
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Old 2011-12-21, 19:23   Link #9913
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I don't know if it's due to my deficencies or due to their over-cautiousness but it seems like I'm doing a lot of the work in the convo's.
I've noticed that with online dating too. I usually just write them off if they don't even attempt to keep up their end of the conversation, and only respond specifically to what I say without saying any more or less.
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Old 2011-12-21, 19:49   Link #9914
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Hmm, yea I was leaning toward that.
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Old 2011-12-22, 21:33   Link #9915
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I gotta say, getting a "yes" from someone out of you league is cool, but also finding someone who understands your love for anime is also important too.(
I know this one is from the last page, but I just had to reply. One thing to consider is that you may not always be as into anime as you are now.

I used to be a hard-core anime fan back in high school and college. I never got into figurines, but I literally wallpapered my part of my dorm room with anime posters. Every room I occupied had at least one poster or wall scroll. I had anime shirts, followed nearly every fansub, became a fansubber... but that just scratches the aesthetic aspect of the hobby. Anime meant a lot more to me than that - a whole lot more. I figured that things would never change; maybe as an adult I'd have less time to keep up with the number of series that I was, but I figured that my house would be decorated with wall scrolls and posters all the same. My "soul mate" was going to either have to be tolerant or a fellow fan.

Near the end of college - around the time I met the woman who would become my wife - my anime activity was already waning. My wife was up for watching some series with me, and we enjoyed them together, but we gradually transitioned into J-dramas (I don't know why - it wasn't anything that she did). Post-college, during graduate school, my anime activity virtually dropped off. I was averaging about one series per year, and even then it was more due to nostalgia than real interest.

Now here I am, about four years out of college, and I'm living a life I never would have envisioned. My walls are decorated with pictures, but there's no trace of anime on them. I have more computer screens than ever, yet not a single one of them has an anime wallpaper. I think I still have anime shirts somewhere, but they haven't been worn in years. I've been getting back into watching anime recently, but I don't think I'll ever return to being as much of a fan as I was 8-10 years ago.

It's actually pretty fascinating to consider, how much we change with time and experiences.

Now, maybe you'll be one of those people who remains a devoted fan throughout your entire life. There's nothing wrong with that, and in that scenario it'd certainly help to have someone who understands your fandom (especially if you're a die-hard fan for the reasons that I was). I wouldn't put aside an otherwise perfect relationship just because of that, though! You never know what's in store for you in life

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BTW que es mIRC? My young whippersnapper ass don't know nothin bout that.
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mIRC was, and still is, mainly a chat program. Some subbers still use it today for file sharing, but back in the mid and late 90s it was mainly used for socializing. You could join channels with hundreds of people, or do individual chats. Met a lot of people this way.
This exchange made me sad. IRC was never really mainstream (well, maybe briefly for fansubs), but has it really been relegated so far back that it's an unknown and doesn't receive much use?
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Old 2011-12-23, 07:57   Link #9916
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I still use it from time to time, but only for small-talk...then again, I'm going out a lot more these days than I used to, so things like msn, mIRC and FB are at the bottom of my list.
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Old 2011-12-23, 11:12   Link #9917
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@Ledgem, I'm similiar. Though I don't think I'll ever give up on Anime entirely, I'm not as easily entertained by it. I notice the patterns too much.
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Old 2011-12-23, 12:08   Link #9918
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I still use it from time to time, but only for small-talk...then again, I'm going out a lot more these days than I used to, so things like msn, mIRC and FB are at the bottom of my list.
Shouldn't those things be at the bottom of anybody's list?
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Old 2011-12-23, 12:55   Link #9919
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Shouldn't those things be at the bottom of anybody's list?
Yes, they should be, yet, I know quite a few people who are absolutely fixated on bookface.
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Old 2011-12-23, 13:01   Link #9920
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Yes, they should be, yet, I know quite a few people who are absolutely fixated on bookface.
Must be the people I jave been mixing with......they don't use FB like me, and they are considered social outcasts too.

Yet, time is in short supply as for me as those people who use FB. Maybe I need to apend less time in the library.
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