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Old 2011-12-24, 01:56   Link #9921
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Shouldn't those things be at the bottom of anybody's list?
Well, I only ever made an acount because girls had stopped asking me mobile number and wanted my FB name, it was too freakin' awkward after a few months...but all I ended up with was 100 "friends", most of whom I just ignored. In the end it's always better to ask for a girl's home address instead of an e-mail or account name
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Old 2011-12-24, 02:05   Link #9922
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Only thing Facebook is good for relationship-wise is seeing people being listed in a relationship, saying how much they're in love as a status update, and proceed to be listed as single within a few hours.
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Old 2011-12-24, 06:44   Link #9923
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Che, internet. Only thing it's good for is seeing if your boyfriend is sleeping around. Friggin My Space. What? I'm not supposed to look at the comments? They're on the first page!
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Old 2011-12-26, 00:13   Link #9924
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I feel uncomfortable asking in real life so I'm asking here o.o
Ladies, do you think you have the right to know who your boyfriend hangs out with?
Do you feel rightly offended if he chooses to tell other people about his friends but not you?
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Old 2011-12-26, 01:56   Link #9925
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NOOOOOOO!!!!!! My sophomoric dream SHATTERED!! HOLLYWOOD LIED TO ME!!!!

Anyway, anyone doing or did the online dating thingy before? I made fun of it before but I gave into temptation and joined OK Cupid, e-flirting as we speak. It's kinda fun actually!
lol I probably still make fun of it today (but I don't judge people on their decisions to do it lol)


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I feel uncomfortable asking in real life so I'm asking here o.o
Ladies, do you think you have the right to know who your boyfriend hangs out with?
Do you feel rightly offended if he chooses to tell other people about his friends but not you?
First question: honestly I think I would like to know who my boyfriend hangs out with, but it may differ the reasons from other girls, for one I would like to be friends with his friends.

Second Question: yes I would feel offended because I feel like he'd be ashamed of being with me or something like that. when people are joyful they talk about the things or people they like, and tend to keep what they are embarrassed of secret. That would be my reason for my reason lol (hope that makes sense)
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Old 2011-12-26, 19:11   Link #9926
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First question: honestly I think I would like to know who my boyfriend hangs out with, but it may differ the reasons from other girls, for one I would like to be friends with his friends.

Second Question: yes I would feel offended because I feel like he'd be ashamed of being with me or something like that. when people are joyful they talk about the things or people they like, and tend to keep what they are embarrassed of secret. That would be my reason for my reason lol (hope that makes sense)
Ahhh I agree with this. Thanks
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Old 2011-12-26, 19:58   Link #9927
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I feel uncomfortable asking in real life so I'm asking here o.o
Ladies, do you think you have the right to know who your boyfriend hangs out with?
Do you feel rightly offended if he chooses to tell other people about his friends but not you?
As a guy, I know this question isn't directed towards me, but I feel like there should be a level of trust between the couple; the guy isn't entirely obligated to tell the girl everything, but she should at least know the basic circle of friends her boyfriend/date is associated with.

I would definitely tell my girlfriend or the girl I'm dating what I'm doing frequently, but if she pries in too much, it gets annoying. It would remind me of my parents. That being said, I have never really tried to find out about whatever girl I'm dating at the moment (her friends/acquaintances); that stuff just happens naturally on its own.

As for the second part, I can understand if the girl gets offended, but there are some people I know who I would rather not introduce her to or talk about to, being that they would make her feel extremely awkward. Like the video game club at my school.
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Old 2011-12-27, 02:04   Link #9928
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^ What's so "bad" about a video game club?
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Old 2011-12-27, 02:06   Link #9929
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^ Yeah, a better question would be if those even exist.
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Old 2011-12-27, 02:16   Link #9930
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^ What's so "bad" about a video game club?
My friend actually called the police on several members cause they were creeping on her. It's not really the idea of the video game club that's bad, it's the members, though I should have specified.
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Old 2011-12-27, 02:20   Link #9931
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^ And why are you hanging out with those 'bad people'? I'm not your gf, so may you tell me?

Do the majority of members behave like that?
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Old 2011-12-27, 03:07   Link #9932
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^ And why are you hanging out with those 'bad people'? I'm not your gf, so may you tell me?

Do the majority of members behave like that?
Well, it's pretty much to go play games as the name implies lol. Not all the members are like that; many of them are actually decent human beings with manners and stuff. I know a few of the guys there; we go there to play Smash or other Wii/Gamecube games from time to time since most the people I know are PS3 or XBox fanboys. The 'bad people' just happen to occupy the same room a majority of the time.
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Old 2011-12-27, 14:49   Link #9933
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Sounds like my college game club except without the 'bad people'. They do have unusual personalities I usually enter the room during tournment times for Smash
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Old 2011-12-28, 02:48   Link #9934
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Old 2011-12-28, 19:17   Link #9935
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I feel uncomfortable asking in real life so I'm asking here o.o
Ladies, do you think you have the right to know who your boyfriend hangs out with?
Do you feel rightly offended if he chooses to tell other people about his friends but not you?
I think it is reasonable to know who your boyfriend is spending his time with, he shouldn't have anything to hide. I don't think you should pry though- he has a right to his privacy, but if he is telling lies about what he is doing, or clearly hiding things from you, then I can understand why you would want to know. Trust has to run both ways, you have to trust him to have good judgement about who he spends time with, and he has to trust you and be open about any issues there may be with his friends.
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Old 2011-12-29, 18:19   Link #9936
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OK, so now here's my problem Can some of you lend me your opinions?
I have a crush on a guy But we were only classmates in college. We never talked privately, just in class We met for a very short time. We graduated 2 years ago. Well, he probably forgot me now. We live in different states now, both pursuing professional education. But we're friends on FB. And I'm very shy Do you think it's better to talk to him on FB anytime I have the courage to or wait to meet him again in real life?

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Old 2011-12-29, 19:15   Link #9937
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OK, so now here's my problem Can some of you lend me your opinions?
I have a crush on a guy But we were only classmates in college. We never talked privately, just in class We met for a very short time. We graduated 2 years ago. Well, he probably forgot me now. We live in different states now, both pursuing professional education. But we're friends on FB. And I'm very shy Do you think it's better to talk to him on FB anytime I have the courage to or wait to meet him again in real life?
Do you have his phone number or have his screen name for instant messaging like MSN or Skype? Personally, I think that those are better than Facebook in the long run if you want to maintain conversations through long distance. However, I personally believe Facebook is best for the initial poke and prod, since you could just end up waiting on a call or a reply for a long time.

I can relate, since I'm in a similar situation where the girl I'm interested in transferred out because her parents made her (the new school being closer to her home and all) and I'm near graduation, so I maintain contact through Facebook/calls/text messaging. It's hard for me as well since I'm not really a confident guy either when it comes to pursuing girls and she's a very popular girl. Still, it gives me hope that she still maintains contact with me.

But that's enough about me, lol. Good luck on sniping him from afar.
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Old 2011-12-30, 02:18   Link #9938
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OK, so now here's my problem Can some of you lend me your opinions?
I have a crush on a guy But we were only classmates in college. We never talked privately, just in class We met for a very short time. We graduated 2 years ago. Well, he probably forgot me now. We live in different states now, both pursuing professional education. But we're friends on FB. And I'm very shy Do you think it's better to talk to him on FB anytime I have the courage to or wait to meet him again in real life?
If you really want to get in touch with him again, use the means available to you. FB's a good start but there's very little privacy there. As Dr. Who above me said, Skype and MSN are better, phone convos even more so. You can get all of those from him through FB. Don't be so sure that he's forgotten you either, he may well remember you after 2 years. It's not that long ago Just have courage and go for it!
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Old 2011-12-30, 03:28   Link #9939
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or wait to meet him again in real life?
Just FYI, my long-planned 5-year reunion with my high school buddies was supposed to be taking place yesterday...and guess who was all alone :P Don't wait for things to come to you, take initiative instead. I'll third Skype, it's far better than FB.
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Old 2011-12-30, 12:40   Link #9940
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OK, so now here's my problem Can some of you lend me your opinions?
I have a crush on a guy But we were only classmates in college. We never talked privately, just in class We met for a very short time. We graduated 2 years ago. Well, he probably forgot me now. We live in different states now, both pursuing professional education. But we're friends on FB. And I'm very shy Do you think it's better to talk to him on FB anytime I have the courage to or wait to meet him again in real life?
How long would you have to wait to see him in person again? Could be quite a while, I imagine- so make first contact with Facebook, either by posting on his wall or sending him a private message/ chat message. Do you know if he is single? Maybe if you are ever in the same town (eg visiting parents) then suggest meeting up for a drink. Good luck
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