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Old 2012-04-05, 13:35   Link #10281
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But you only need one successful relationship. The only way those end is death or if it turns into a failed relationship, thus no longer being the "one" successful one you need. And if it ends via death, then you have a 50% shot of no longer having to deal with that problem anyway.
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Old 2012-04-05, 16:12   Link #10282
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But you only need one successful relationship. The only way those end is death or if it turns into a failed relationship, thus no longer being the "one" successful one you need. And if it ends via death, then you have a 50% shot of no longer having to deal with that problem anyway.
That's not really how statistics work...it's like saying I can either win or not win the lottery, so I have a 50% chance of winning. Not quite.

And relationships, like anything else, get better with practice. Sure, you only need one successful relationship, but the lessons you have to learn to make a relationship successful often come from failed ones. Are there lucky people who found the love of their life on the first try? I'm sure there are. I'm also sure they're in the minority.
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Old 2012-04-05, 16:19   Link #10283
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And relationships, like anything else, get better with practice. Sure, you only need one successful relationship, but the lessons you have to learn to make a relationship successful often come from failed ones.
That is very true. I dont regard any of my failed relationships as lost time, no matter how horrible and destructive they were. If nothing else, I learned about what people are capable of and I also learned from my own mistakes.
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Old 2012-04-05, 17:56   Link #10284
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Well, to put my two cents in, I've been rejected by every guy I've ever asked out or told that I've liked him; rejection usually including insults. Although not always related, I've also had guys beat me up before. The last guy to reject me rejected me yesterday and I'm just about at the point now to where I'd rather just stop trying. Period. Considering that there are girls at my school that are DECENT HUMAN BEINGS that communicate with me WITHOUT INSULTING ME OR BULLYING ME and some of them happen to be lesbian or bi; and I'm somewhat bicurious, I may try and date a girl. Not sure. Then again, since I'll start taking college courses this summer, I may just wait until then to consider my next course of action; or just say screw it and forget it all.
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Old 2012-04-05, 17:59   Link #10285
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That's not really how statistics work...it's like saying I can either win or not win the lottery, so I have a 50% chance of winning. Not quite.
Except when you win the lottery, there's no reason not to keep playing. If you have a successful relationship, and you try to get another, then clearly the first one either isn't successful or they died and you finally got over it.
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Old 2012-04-06, 06:07   Link #10286
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Well, to put my two cents in, I've been rejected by every guy I've ever asked out or told that I've liked him; rejection usually including insults. Although not always related, I've also had guys beat me up before. The last guy to reject me rejected me yesterday and I'm just about at the point now to where I'd rather just stop trying. Period. Considering that there are girls at my school that are DECENT HUMAN BEINGS that communicate with me WITHOUT INSULTING ME OR BULLYING ME and some of them happen to be lesbian or bi; and I'm somewhat bicurious, I may try and date a girl. Not sure. Then again, since I'll start taking college courses this summer, I may just wait until then to consider my next course of action; or just say screw it and forget it all.
You can't switch your sexuality purely because boys are mean to you. If you are turned on by penis, even if all the available penises in the area are attached to assholes, this will not mean you will find a relationship to another girl very fulfilling.

I am a lesbian, and I can tell you with absolute certainty that even if all the women in my area were total douchenozzles who didn't want to date me, verbally abused me when I asked and/or attempted to physically assault me, it would still not make me like cock. Even if all the girls vanished and all that remained was a bunch of guys and me, I would remain sexually attracted to women.

So think about this for a minute. Are you actually attracted to girls? Do you find yourself checking other girls out on the street? Would you get off on a good yuri manga (the kind with actual yuri in it, not that overdramatic stuff)? And another question--one that was fairly pertinent to figuring out my own sexuality--does your own body turn you on a bit?

If you answer no to these questions, you are probably not sexually attracted to girls.

If there's no attraction, dating a bisexual girl or a lesbian will probably end in tragedy, or at least it just won't last very long. And you'll probably get really weirded out if you try to have sex.
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Old 2012-04-06, 11:29   Link #10287
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I notice that sometimes you have more luck, when you stop trying. Love usually comes suddenly out of the blue.
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Old 2012-04-06, 11:59   Link #10288
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I notice that sometimes you have more luck, when you stop trying. Love usually comes suddenly out of the blue.
I agree. My number one rule for dating is to appear less desperate, and to go with the flow. More importantly, be yourself. I tried to appear different to impress before, but looking back, I shouldn't have done that.
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Old 2012-04-06, 15:07   Link #10289
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You can't switch your sexuality purely because boys are mean to you. If you are turned on by penis, even if all the available penises in the area are attached to assholes, this will not mean you will find a relationship to another girl very fulfilling.

I am a lesbian, and I can tell you with absolute certainty that even if all the women in my area were total douchenozzles who didn't want to date me, verbally abused me when I asked and/or attempted to physically assault me, it would still not make me like cock. Even if all the girls vanished and all that remained was a bunch of guys and me, I would remain sexually attracted to women.

So think about this for a minute. Are you actually attracted to girls? Do you find yourself checking other girls out on the street? Would you get off on a good yuri manga (the kind with actual yuri in it, not that overdramatic stuff)? And another question--one that was fairly pertinent to figuring out my own sexuality--does your own body turn you on a bit?

If you answer no to these questions, you are probably not sexually attracted to girls.

If there's no attraction, dating a bisexual girl or a lesbian will probably end in tragedy, or at least it just won't last very long. And you'll probably get really weirded out if you try to have sex.
I do check out girls at school, and I do like yuri manga, and my own body does actually turn me on a bit, so maybe I would be okay with a girl. I mean I'm not saying that I am definitely bisexual, and I know for a fact I'm not lesbian because I'm still attracted to men; I am definitely more attracted to men, but I am also attracted to woman, to a lesser extent. Really I think I'm just going to give up on all this crap and just stick to anime guys/girls. Less abuse and rejection from "people" that don't exist. I really do get your point though.
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Old 2012-04-06, 15:53   Link #10290
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I notice that sometimes you have more luck, when you stop trying. Love usually comes suddenly out of the blue.
There is more truth to this statement than many others.

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I do check out girls at school, and I do like yuri manga, and my own body does actually turn me on a bit, so maybe I would be okay with a girl. I mean I'm not saying that I am definitely bisexual, and I know for a fact I'm not lesbian because I'm still attracted to men; I am definitely more attracted to men, but I am also attracted to woman, to a lesser extent. Really I think I'm just going to give up on all this crap and just stick to anime guys/girls. Less abuse and rejection from "people" that don't exist. I really do get your point though.
If you think you'd like to try it, go ahead and give it a shot. I'm not going to try and convince someone they aren't bi if they are.
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Old 2012-04-09, 06:49   Link #10291
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I just met a cute girl at work today.

She's worldly, small sized, social and adorable by current standards. She talks to me! And she knows anime and manga!

Until she said that her favourite characters are from Kuroshitshuji and Prince of Tennis; and her favourite pairings are between male characters.

She's a dirty little fujoshi.

FML.
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Old 2012-04-09, 06:56   Link #10292
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I just met a cute girl at work today.

She's worldly, small sized, social and adorable by current standards. She talks to me! And she knows anime and manga!

Until she said that her favourite characters are from Kuroshitshuji and Prince of Tennis; and her favourite pairings are between male characters.

She's a dirty little fujoshi.

FML.
In short, she is perfect for you.

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Old 2012-04-09, 07:05   Link #10293
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In short, she is perfect for you.

Stop ruining my life.

I will NEVER date fujoshis. She's the rare type girl! But why does she have to indulge in those disgusting illegal activities?
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Old 2012-04-09, 07:07   Link #10294
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I just met a cute girl at work today.

She's worldly, small sized, social and adorable by current standards. She talks to me! And she knows anime and manga!

Until she said that her favourite characters are from Kuroshitshuji and Prince of Tennis; and her favourite pairings are between male characters.

She's a dirty little fujoshi.

FML.
Did uhh, did Sumeragi know the Transformation jutsu? I swear if not for the appearance...

But do not lose heart! This is a perfect opportunity for you to convert another fujoshi to the glorious light!

Just channel your inner Keima.
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Old 2012-04-09, 07:10   Link #10295
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Stop ruining my life.

I will NEVER date fujoshis. She's the rare type girl! But why does she have to indulge in those disgusting illegal activities?
Hey, nobody's perfect. And as a guy yourself, you of all people should know what has to be done to wean her away from the YFG lifestyle; show her the pleasures of a heterosexual lifestyle.

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Old 2012-04-09, 07:11   Link #10296
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Did uhh, did Sumeragi know the Transformation jutsu? I swear if not for the appearance...

But do not lose heart! This is a perfect opportunity for you to convert another fujoshi to the glorious light!

Just channel your inner Keima.
You do know that once girls fall to the dark side and abuse their imagination, there is no turning back. They become a monster like Sumeragi is : between 2 male friends, there must always be a seme and uke.

What is worse, she likes the single seme and multiple tsundere uke types.

I haven't played Doom in Nightmare mode for close to 7 years. So this is what it feels like in real life.
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Old 2012-04-09, 08:09   Link #10297
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Stop ruining my life.

I will NEVER date fujoshis. She's the rare type girl! But why does she have to indulge in those disgusting illegal activities?
You could save her, yet you cast her away? How despicable of you.
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Old 2012-04-09, 11:26   Link #10298
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So what.......Is she just into yaoi or does she totally drive on the other side of the road?
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Old 2012-04-09, 18:06   Link #10299
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Hey, nobody's perfect. And as a guy yourself, you of all people should know what has to be done to wean her away from the YFG lifestyle; show her the pleasures of a heterosexual lifestyle.

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You could save her, yet you cast her away? How despicable of you.
You can't. And the problem is, fujoshis tend to be more impressionable than normal girls because they are more open-minded. It is a good thing to spread open-mindedness, however I certainly DO NOT WANT my other female friends to open themselves up to that kind of stuff!

And she likes yuri too. That makes her probably as big a monster as Sume-nee Sumeragi.

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So what.......Is she just into yaoi or does she totally drive on the other side of the road?
Her concept of anime is shonen-ai......which she likes to enjoy imagining as yaoi. Mine is MMM, music/mecha/magic, so we don't exactly click when it comes to talking about anime.

She has an interest in One Piece, though I certainly hope that she doesn't imagine Luffy's "rubber hands" THAT WAY. *shudders*
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Old 2012-04-09, 20:20   Link #10300
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You can't. And the problem is, fujoshis tend to be more impressionable than normal girls because they are more open-minded. It is a good thing to spread open-mindedness, however I certainly DO NOT WANT my other female friends to open themselves up to that kind of stuff!
If she's open-minded, then all you need to do is interest her in something freakier than yaoi, which you yourself can accept too.

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And she likes yuri too. That makes her probably as big a monster as Sume-nee Sumeragi.
For example, you can do a Mariya, dress up in gothic loli, and start something alike to a yuri relationship with her.



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She has an interest in One Piece, though I certainly hope that she doesn't imagine Luffy's "rubber hands" THAT WAY. *shudders*
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I will never watch One Piece quite the same way again.
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