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Old 2009-08-06, 01:30   Link #1301
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^ You my sir is what we call a rice chaser.
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Old 2009-08-06, 02:17   Link #1302
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And finally, I also remember reading an article a while back that suggested that the whole "opposites attract" thing might have a biological basis in that partners with quite different genetic code tend to have offspring with stronger immune systems - and while I'm not geneticist, it strike me that I probably have less genes in common with an asian girl than a European one.
My biology class was shown a video on this, where girls were told to smell boxes. They didn't know what was in the boxes, but they had to say what appealed to them the most. Inside the boxes were worn shirts of men of different races. They found that the majority of the women said that they liked the smell of shirts of other races better than one of their own race.
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Old 2009-08-06, 02:58   Link #1303
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^ You my sir is what we call a rice chaser.
Or just a guy with a preference for asians who happens to be way too self analytical.

(No seriously, the amount of time I spend thinking about why I like stuff I do is just ridiculous.)

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My biology class was shown a video on this, where girls were told to smell boxes. They didn't know what was in the boxes, but they had to say what appealed to them the most. Inside the boxes were worn shirts of men of different races. They found that the majority of the women said that they liked the smell of shirts of other races better than one of their own race.
Interesting... kind of supports one of the researchers quote in the article I read, who thought it might be a pheromone thing.

Of course, then you have freaks like me for whom a good cosplay is more powerful than any pheromone.
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Old 2009-08-06, 04:34   Link #1304
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A lot of the Asian girls here in San Francisco (highest percentage of Asians within a concentrated area in the U.S. I believe) dress very skimpy sometimes. Seriously, it will be like 50 degrees and windy outside and I'll see a girl in a miniskirt or extremely short shorts. This skinny Korean girl's ass was practically hanging out when I saw her on the bus one time.
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Old 2009-08-06, 04:43   Link #1305
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To be honest thats more of a global thing, british girls and european girls dress exactly the same, its only north american girls that dress more conservatively.
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Old 2009-08-06, 11:47   Link #1306
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Asian girls are very different these days.

I don't really want to generalize but they've made a couple documentaries about how asian societies have evolved sexually. I've seen the Hong Kong one and the Japanese one, the women in those documentaries are ABSOLUTELY different from what I'd imagine to be an asian women.

It's sad...
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Old 2009-08-06, 18:39   Link #1307
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It's unnatural and surprising how many(is it?) relationship-hungry individuals originates from super self-consciousness. Its also suspicious in some manner. Is this trait human? Is society to be blame for? or is this the really the average reason of their behaviors? or is this really even fact?
What makes you say that it's unnatural? Also, it's hard to say whether it's a society thing. After all, we're approaching this from the vantage point of western society. In other societies where the thinking is quite different, I wouldn't be surprised to find that there's a difference.
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Old 2009-08-10, 10:51   Link #1308
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^ You my sir is what we call a rice chaser.
LAWL. That's awesome
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Old 2009-08-10, 10:58   Link #1309
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We are all on an Anime forum talking about dating.

If you're reading this, accept the fact that there is little hope for dating (and everything beyond that) as I did.
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Old 2009-08-10, 15:34   Link #1310
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We are all on an Anime forum talking about dating.

If you're reading this, accept the fact that there is little hope for dating (and everything beyond that) as I did.
We're also on an anime forum discussing politics, hobbies, films, relationships, health problems, language studies (wanna dig deeper into the GC thread?)
Accept the fact that there are a variety of people, both married and single, both young and older, both well adjusted and crazy, from all races, all cultures around the world participating here as I have

Anime takes a backstep somewhat in the 'general chat' hence the nae of the section, so if you really wanna seek advice or discuss some aspects of your life that you feel unhappy with in regards to dating, feel free, otherwise there's no point for the post to be honest.
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Old 2009-08-10, 15:41   Link #1311
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tl;dr
did not give me hope
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Old 2009-08-10, 15:43   Link #1312
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We are all on an Anime forum talking about dating.

If you're reading this, accept the fact that there is little hope for dating (and everything beyond that) as I did.

That's the high school, MTV view of society. Seriously, if nerds and eccentrics didin't procreate how is it that the number of people consuming such odd tastes has multiplied throughout the years.

It's all how you put your mind to it (this is of course if you are genuine about what you said, if you were being sarcastic.....well NUTS TO YA).
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Old 2009-08-10, 15:46   Link #1313
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did not give me hope
Not meant to give you hope, but state a blantant fact in face of your self imposed pessimism.
Since you feel sorry for yourself and only noted to relate the hobby of anime to dating based on I assume the lonely, social inept young male otaku stereotype, rather than read some of the previous threads here, to talk bout your own thoughts and experiences of dating (or failed dating) then there's nothing anyone can do, eh?
Especially if you as you've so cheekily stated
"Too long, didn't read."
*shrugs and traipses off*
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Old 2009-08-10, 16:00   Link #1314
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Okay so this guy really wants me to be with him. But I really don't want too, he is forcing the question onto me whenever I see him. He is really annoying me but I hate to say no to him. We have been friends for ages but I have been his girlfriend before and he was all clingy and I dumped him. I just want to say no but I want to say it nicely, I am scared of hurting his feelings.

Advice appreciated!
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Old 2009-08-10, 16:05   Link #1315
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Depends on the guy and all, but for me, a clean cut is probably better than a soft let-down. Take me out of my misery early on and let me begin the process of healing and moving on with my life, instead of dancing around and giving me "maybe yes, maybe no" options.

You don't have to tell the guy that he's ugly/annoying or what ever the turn-off is, just tell him that you have no interest in dating him. Period. If he keeps pestering you, just keep telling him no, and start to be cautious about any dangerously obsessive behavior on his part. If you start to notice any, you may want to have a heart-to-heart talk with him (you know, something along the lines of "look, I really want to be friends with you, but your behavior is really creeping me out. I'm sorry that you're into me and I'm not into you, but that's just how it is"). If obsessive behavior persists, do what you can to sever your ties to him to protect yourself. Worst case scenario, alert authorities, get a restraining order instituted, etc.
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Old 2009-08-10, 16:05   Link #1316
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Imouto-chan is back!

Okay so this guy really wants me to be with him. But I really don't want too, he is forcing the question onto me whenever I see him. He is really annoying me but I hate to say no to him. We have been friends for ages but I have been his girlfriend before and he was all clingy and I dumped him. I just want to say no but I want to say it nicely, I am scared of hurting his feelings.

Advice appreciated!
You tell him no, obviously. If you keep wishywashy and avoiding contact, it'll only hurt him worse. Do him a favor and tell him in person. It's the only way to go.


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Not meant to give you hope, but state a blantant fact in face of your self imposed pessimism.
Since you feel sorry for yourself and only noted to relate the hobby of anime to dating based on I assume the lonely, social inept young male otaku stereotype, rather than read some of the previous threads here, so talk bout your own thoughts and experiences of dating (or failed dating) then there's nothing anyone can do, eh?
Especially if you as you've so cheekily stated
"Too long, didn't read."
*shrugs and traipses off*
Yeah, you're 90% correct. Cool story, bro.
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Old 2009-08-10, 16:12   Link #1317
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Depends on the guy and all, but for me, a clean cut is probably better than a soft let-down. Take me out of my misery early on and let me begin the process of healing and moving on with my life, instead of dancing around and giving me "maybe yes, maybe no" options.

You don't have to tell the guy that he's ugly/annoying or what ever the turn-off is, just tell him that you have no interest in dating him. Period. If he keeps pestering you, just keep telling him no, and start to be cautious about any dangerously obsessive behavior on his part. If you start to notice any, you may want to have a heart-to-heart talk with him (you know, something along the lines of "look, I really want to be friends with you, but your behavior is really creeping me out. I'm sorry that you're into me and I'm not into you, but that's just how it is"). If obsessive behavior persists, do what you can to sever your ties to him to protect yourself. Worst case scenario, alert authorities, get a restraining order instituted, etc.
Thanks a lot this really helped


and thanks Dakota, when I see him i will tell him, I just find it hard telling people no..
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Old 2009-08-10, 20:45   Link #1318
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While I wouldn't consider myself to have a "fetish" for asian girls like one of my friends does, I do find many asian girls quite attractive, so I feel that I should maybe give my thoughts on this.

First, I can't really comment on the docile/tamed/obediant thing, because I never really assimilated that stereotype. This is probably because I grew up in Vancouver - a city that has a huge Canadianized Asian population whose kids were born and raised here. From a personality standpoint, I never really noticed a big different between these Canadian born asians and Canadians of other races. Maybe a little more academically inclined in general, but believe it or not I knew some asians who weren't considered good students in school too.

I'll admit that watching anime did make me start paying more attention to asian girls - many of the best cosplayers at my local con are asian. But I think it's easy to overestimate the influence of this factor: while the girls I liked in high school were not asian, they tended to be small in stature and sometimes build as well. So it makes sense to me that I'd gravitate towards asians to some extent as well.

Cute is definately a big factor. I've always preferred cute to hot.

Other factors:

-Asian girls tend to have faces that look young, yet you can still clearly tell they're adults. I find that quite attractive. (I'm hoping nobody considers me a creep for saying that. When people say that a 20 year old asian girl looks fourteen, I typically find myself thinking "I would have guessed eighteen myself" and then "she's really cute". In fact, I often have trouble wrapping my head around the idea that people think these sort of girls look fourteen. And BTW, if you put aside loli, I think that moe aesthetics can be considered an idealization of this sort of "sexually mature but youthful" look. Perhaps unsurprisingly, I don't consider being attracted to either youthful looking asian or non-loli moe characters to have any relation to pedophilia.)

-In my experience, they're less likely than other races to be overweight, which I also find attractive.

-Socio-economic status: There's the stereotype of asians as wealthy, which to me comes across as at least somewhat true in Vancouver. This is a double edged sword though: I do prefer girls who have some money of their own, but I also tend to be a saver and find people who flaunt their money very unattractive.

-Sheer exoticness: Even with having grown up with some asians around, I still find that they often look very striking. Although redheads sometimes come across as even more so. I think that for guys who live in cities without large asian populations, this probably plays a huge impact.

And finally, I also remember reading an article a while back that suggested that the whole "opposites attract" thing might have a biological basis in that partners with quite different genetic code tend to have offspring with stronger immune systems - and while I'm not geneticist, it strike me that I probably have less genes in common with an asian girl than a European one.

I know how you feel about "Cute", so i second "I've always preferred cute to hot"

I got nothing but agree with all those points you pointed out.

The impact of cute girls is just like a bullet strike into your chest and it hurt the minute you got hit. After that you just have to confess and off you go.

Another factor I know is that other than biological basis it can also be from the environment you grown up into with the people you know since childhood.

What you guys think?
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Old 2009-08-11, 00:21   Link #1319
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That's the high school, MTV view of society. Seriously, if nerds and eccentrics didin't procreate how is it that the number of people consuming such odd tastes has multiplied throughout the years.

It's all how you put your mind to it (this is of course if you are genuine about what you said, if you were being sarcastic.....well NUTS TO YA).
My university anime club probably won't be thrilled I'm going to mention this, but I remember that one year one of our weekly screenings fell on Valentine's Day. We actually got a much higher than average turn out compared to other screenings that semester, which to me indicates that not many people had other plans... and yet I'm not aware of any couples within the club. It's not even like most of these people are your "stereotypical ugly geek" or anything. It was just... strange.

Anyway, I've actually used my anime hobby to connect with girls on a couple occasions. I tend to be more interested in eccentric girls anyway... so yeah.

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I know how you feel about "Cute", so i second "I've always preferred cute to hot"

I got nothing but agree with all those points you pointed out.

The impact of cute girls is just like a bullet strike into your chest and it hurt the minute you got hit. After that you just have to confess and off you go.

Another factor I know is that other than biological basis it can also be from the environment you grown up into with the people you know since childhood.

What you guys think?
It seems I've struck a cord with some people... I'm not sure how I feel about that given that in some ways it's a bit of an embarrassing post and it's getting more attention than I expected.

In general, I'm a bit too reserved to ask a girl out the first time I meet her, but I do definitely get the "bullet" analogy. I've felt it on a few occasions.

As to the last question, my dad has an old elementary school photo where he's one of only two white kids in the class. My mom is also white. Not sure if that provides you with any useful data or not.
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Old 2009-08-11, 00:42   Link #1320
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Asian girls are very different these days.

I don't really want to generalize but they've made a couple documentaries about how asian societies have evolved sexually. I've seen the Hong Kong one and the Japanese one, the women in those documentaries are ABSOLUTELY different from what I'd imagine to be an asian women.

It's sad...
Just curious, what were your image of an Asian women? Subdued, docile and demure? Cause that's been out of fashion for awhile now. Of course on the surface they are all prim and proper but once you get to the bed room, they shed those image faster than i can take my clothes off
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